ANSWERS: 3
  • You can tell her your concerns and then leave the subject alone unless she brings it up again. Your job is to support her (that doesn't always mean supporting her choices, though) -- and if she tells you this is none of your business, you have to respect that and let her make her own mistakes. Unfortunately we tend to learn from personal experience rather than from what others tell us; just like when you tell a toddler not to touch a hot baking tray, you can pretty much guarantee when your back is turned they will. They have to learn for themselves.
  • I have a friend in the same situation (so much so that she has infact seen the guy cheat IN FRONT of her - screwing someone and various makeouts), yet she still stays. As Carmella said, you can only voice your concerns for her. In the end, it's her call. And it completely sucks because i'm sure you care a ton about her and feel she deserves A LOT more respect than she's getting. I'm torn because i'm not sure what to do either but the only thing I can do is sit back, be a shoulder to cry on, and let her continue with her agony or finally learn to deal with it. Situations like this frustrate me a lot too, because the person treating someone like crap will NEVER learn when their significant other always puts up with it. To stay with someone doing that just says you're 'okay' with it or deems it 'acceptable', when in my opinion it really is not.
  • unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. Love is blind. Sure it sucks seeing your best friend hurt by someone. But she needs to make the decision herself to cut ties. Nothing you do or say is going to change anything.

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