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  18 about to turn 19. I moved in the US about 3 years ago. My mom came to the US when I was 2. She's been here for 17 years now. I grew up with my aunt who is amazing and who raised me really well. My mom never came back to visit in my country for 17 years. And she had her papers she Just didn't want to come I think. She was the one paying for my school when I was back home and gave me what I needed but I still felt like I needed her more than money. It's hard to live with someone you didn't spend your life with. At first we would be fighting and she will stay days without talking to me. My aunt never did that I mean as a teen we did stupid things but she would be mad and then everything will go back to normal but she will never stay a day without talking to me. So when my mom started doing that I was like shocked but I got used to it. My mom is the kind of person who will be spending her money on shoes clothes makeup (you should see her closet) she'll find herself not having money because that's what she spend it on. Sometimes she would ask me to do something for her and I'll be doing homework and I'll tell her to wait a little and 5 minutes after I'll go to do what she asked me and I'll find her doing it. Then she'll be telling me that I dont do anything for. Sometimes she'll ask me for money and I'll give to her and she will be saying that I have it to her but deep inside that's not what I want and that I have a wicked black heart. I'm used to all that now. My stepdad(who is amazing) I'm really close to him. I've just known him for 3 years and I talk to him more than I talk To My mom because he is more open minded. He told me that my mom came to her before and told her she wanted to go back to school so he gave her money so that she can go back but she didn't. She kept the money and came making up stories to him. Recently she said she wanted to be a caregiver so my stepdad gave him money again to do that but she didn't do it. 3 weeks ago I was ready to go to school. I'm in college now and I don't drive yet so
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  Hi...hoping you can help me out in a sticky situatio....fast Both my husband and I are retired and my brother has hinted for years that he would love to come for an extended visit. I had always put him off because of my busy work schedule but since I am now recently retired he thinks we can accommodate him for a week and have fun doing things. He wants to also relive our childhood by visiting the place he and I grew up...We now live in NJ and grew up in NY (Queens & Brooklyn). I really don't have interest in this but would go for a day trip to be nice...However we are not comfortable for him to staying with us more than a couple of days as we really want our privacy. How do I tell him he is only welcomed a couple of days without hurting him? He lives in California so he is traveling a long way for this visit and wants to come soon Thanks
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  How do I get my ex girlfriend back? Hi so I’m in a situation where I know my ex still loves me and is in love with me. However the reason for this breakup (48 hrs ago) was for us to work on ourselves, to get the ball rolling on our careers and after we do that she said she promised we’d try things out again. She said she has no time for me rn because her mom just went through a kidney transplant and she needs to focus on her plus she said she doesn’t feel like she loves herself enough and before putting all 100% into me she wants to do that for herself. We took a 2 week break and she told me she felt awful because she wanted to give me attention it’s just she needs to be strong for herself and show herself that she can be responsible. So she broke things off so she doesn’t feel like I’m waiting on the sidelines for her. She also wants time for herself to do yoga and make new friends. Our breakup wasn’t bad. We talked and talked and even had sex and took a last picture of us kissing before going our separate ways. She contacted me the next morning telling me she hopes work went good and we talked for a bit then the conversation ended and restarted again at night while we were both at work. She told me during the breakup that she felt uncomfortable in the relationship because when we argue or fight I’d be an a**hole and yell and cuss at her. I told her I wanna change for myself but also for us because I realized that it’s not cool of me to be yelling over dumb things. She said she doesn’t know if things will workout in the future between us but we will try again and as long we work on ourselves rn then only good things will come. Any advice would be helpful as this time for me is hard because we told each other we’d work through anything and that our relationship could go to hell and back and we’d still love each other. I know this is hell rn I just want things to workout again.
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  So I'm 8 months pregnant and me and my boyfriend have been together for over a yr he recently moved into his own place with the help of mines I acted like the place was for me and my daughter and I let him put his gas and electric bill in my name he's been staying at this new place for about 4 months and he's been arguing with me about me helping him pay bills because he always wants me to sleep over and I do when we make plans together I pay my own bills also but the first month he stood there I paid his gas and electric bill he even asked me to put cable in my name which I did for him also but I told him that if he wants me to pay bills then we need to live together but he says that he's not ready for that considering he'll be with kids more often then when I get a baby sitter never mind he already has kids of his own and to top it off we're having one together so therefore I tell him no that I do not want to pay bills where I can't even live and pay my own bills and the complains I pay bills where I don't stay which is where all my things are and where my daughter stays when I have a sitter so my question is ! Is he wrong or right for telling me to help him pay his bills but saying that we can't live together but because i sleep over a lot i
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  I find this guy cute. We re in the same school but we don t have any classes together . We hung out with a group of friends a couple of times. we were once talking about being crushed on ( with a group ofc) and tells us how he told another girl he wasn t looking for anyone right now. I don t know whether or not to take him seriously. Plus even if I shouldn t worry about that, how would I know whether or not I should spend my time liking him. But he s a real catch tho T.T.
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  I find this guy cute. We re in the same school but we don t have any classes together . We hung out with a group of friends a couple of times. we were once talking about being crushed on ( with a group ofc) and tells us how he told another girl he wasn t looking for anyone right now. I don t know whether or not to take him seriously. Plus even if I shouldn t worry about that, how would I know whether or not I should spend my time liking him. But he s a real catch tho T.T.
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  I am 45 and my husband 42.We have been married for 15 years.We have two children.For the pas one year he stops having sex with me.He never hug or kiss me.He says he us tired from work and is getting old.I take care in my appearance and never let myself go.There us no signs that points him to porn or having affairs outside.He seldom talk to me and goes to bed early.Whenever I talk to him about our issue he gets irritated.He doesn't want to go for counselling and I feel lost and unhappy.What should I do?
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  Help please. My friend is in trouble and I don’t know how to help her, she’s going through so much and she’s only 11. She’s an internet friend, so I just don’t know how I can help her over text. Here are her words, sorry it’s really long “It's not fair. I feel like I'm being neglected by my mom but I don't know. It's just.. Ugh. We're 11 and 12 and we haven't learned how to do laundry yet. Our mom doesn't do our laundry either. Yeah our washer is broken but there's a laundry mat not far at all from our house. But she still doesn't wash our clothes and she actually knows how to-- But like, she just lets our 61 year old grandma who is really weak and has asthma and lives in a hotel do our laundry?? When she can literally just take it to the laundry mat and do it herself Okay second off We're not getting an education since November. She pulled us out because we were being bullied but we never started any other type of school.. We haven't seen a doctor or dentist in TWO YEARS. Wtf. Make us an appointment mom A lot of times I overdosed on albuterol because..suicidal thoughts. Sadly I never died but, she didn't even take me anywhere to get help any of the times I overdosed? And she knew I overdosed? Like this has been going on for months and months. I can only have 4 puffs of albuterol in 24 hours-- I keep taking around 20-50 puffs of it in less than 5-10 minutes. Why haven't I died already?! Albuterol overdose can be fatal. It can lead to cardiac arrest or even death which is my goal. Next time I should use my whole fucking inhaler. Whenever I overdose I start feeling all shaky and weak and dizzy..and my head starts throbbing..and it gets hard to breathe and it feels like my heart is beating way too fast.. And I can't form coherent sentences and my vision gets all blurry.. I need help. She doesn't understand. All the times I overdosed, cried for no reason, yelled over nothing, felt sad and fatigued for hours and hours. She hasn't taken a fucking hint. The other day I told her I was having suicidal thoughts and t
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  so this is a friend of mine who had a boyfriend and was caught, about 2 months have passed her parents wont allow her to go to school at first for a week and she isnt allowed on any trips functions etc.we have an upcoming function at our school and i want her to come but we are afraid her parents wont allow. is there something we can do?
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  My name is Fabian. So there is this girl i have a big crush on, (not dating) I'm not ready to ask her out yet. But her name is Alyssa . I met her in middle school and me and her still text ALOT, like everyday. We sometimes hang out and chill. me and her care and love eachother alot, she loves me because i always been there for her, and i always made her feel better, she said she wouldn't know what she do without me. She said i am like one of the realest people out there. she said me and her will rock together forever. but these past 7 days i feel like me and her were getting dry, like if our bond wasn't the same , like if something was wrong with her. I miss texting her more, laughing and having funny and enjoyable convos, where we texted more and she replied faster. I noticed she has been sleeping in all day until 5 or 6pm , and she goes to bed earlier then usual, it made no sense to me. She also hasn't been texting anybody that much and she hasn't been on social media that much, i asked her and she "said You're the first person to actually notice. but idk, I've been sleeping a lot and idk why . Then i asked her what is causing all that and she said " I just got out of a really toxic friendship and it's been taking a huge toll on my emotions lately ". Turns out it was her bestfriend (Jony) they were really close. She really cared and trusted him. I asked what happened and she said "A lot of manipulation and mental abuse". What do you think she meant by that and what do you think might of happened? She said "We still talk a lil bit,, I just needed some space" But to be honest i don't know how to really help her, i need to find the right words to have her move on and whatever they have wasn't real anymore. I don't want her to think i am trying to talk her out her feelings, i also don't want to make her sound guilty or anything like that, i don't want to sound like An Asshole either. I am that type of person that is always going to be real with people and she knows that. I want her to be strong. Alot of people hurt