ask yourself this question: what if the virgin mary had an abortion? All children are blessings and if God didn't want your daughter to concieve then she wouldn't have. Your grandson has an important role on Earth like we all do.

Why not consider adoption? Allow her to carry the child to term and then give the child up for adoption. Keeping the child and aborting the child are not the only options.

She is young, but you have to remember that in the end it is her child and she should be responsible for her own actions. Try not to pressure her into making a decision she may not want, she should make that on her own. Just be supportive of her.

In addition to the hypothetical abortion of the Messiah via Mary, if your mother had an abortion when you were in her womb, could you make this decision? Also, by killing the baby, you are doing a SEVERE injustice to the child, for it is not that baby's problem that he/she was conceived in sin. Give it up to ADOPTION, and let the baby live at least a semi normal life. Your daughter was immoral, but she doesn't have to compound the problem by adding murder to the list.

Being sixteen, I cant even imagine the pain that you daughter is going through. Besides the fact that she is pregnant, her mom is pushing her to make a decision that she doesnt want. Let her know your thoughts on what you think she should do, but let her make the decision. Be there to support her. Thats what she needs.

My cousin had a child at the age of 14, she kept him and now he is 6 years old, and she's happy. It hasn't ruined her life at all. I'm 18 and I know for a fact that if I fell pregnant now I'd keep that child, abortion wouldn't be an option, not because of religious beliefs or anything I just don't agree with it. Don't push her into having an abortion, you have to remember she'll be the one living with that decision for the rest of her life, you won't to the same degree. Having a child at that age isn't the end of the world. With a child your daughter will grow up fast and you'll most likly see a massive difference in her. Support her whatever her decision is.

its understandable that you care about what will happen to her and her life after having a baby so young, but in all fairness, asking someone other than yourself to go through an abortion isnt right. she could resent you for years and hurt inside because she wanted the baby. let her make the decision for herself. she made the decision to have unprotected sex and got pregnant. she should be deciding for herself on this as well. discuss the whole thing with her, all the responsibility, not being able to do things she once did b/c the baby comes first etc. but dont sway her decision. its hers to make, and if after thinking it over she wants the baby then she is taking responisbility and she'll probably be a good mother.

I have two beautiful granddaughters and another one on the way. I cannot imagine the horror of murdering (aborting) an innocent baby. It grieves me to think you would suggest the murder of your own grandchild. As commented before, why not allow some barren women the joy of adopting your grandchild. I also think you should watch an actual abortion. You might change your mind.

why would you want ot kill you own grandchild? yes it will he hard on her. but, if she is a big enough it make a adult desion then she is old enough to take on the responcibialty of being an adult.

this is your grandchild! How can you want to murder it? Your daughter should consider adoption, but, if she wants to keep it, then so be it. THis sounds more like YOU don't want the child. Sorry to say.

I think she is smart to keep the baby. Abortion is murder! She wouldn't have to keep it, she could put him/her in a foster home or something like that until she is ready, or she could just have someone adopt it and visit her a lot.

You actually didn't mention what your question was. Your daughter is 16 and has got pregnant and wishes to keep it, ask her if she is capable of supporting a baby? Is she aware of the hardships at her age that she will have to go through? At 16 I would let her decide what she wishes to do but then you must decide what you wish to do. Often when a teenager has a baby its 'mum' who steps in and helps out and maybe you are not prepared to do that.

If you encourage an abortion and she does it, then regrets it-who will she fire back on the rest of her life? Most likely you. Something to think about. I haven't met too many people who have had abortions who did not regret it.

Good for you. You are the parent and she is the child. What you say goes. I know the holier than thou's will get all pissy about this but.......

I have been on both sides of the issue, being in her shoes. She needs you right now, more than anything. You should give her all options and believe that u raised her well enough to make the best choice for HER. Isn't that what every mom wants? I had an abortion, and I got pregnant at 16 again and had my child at 17. He is 9, my mom supported both choices but never made them for me, and I raised him, and with her guidance I bacame a great mom, and a lovely young lady. He is 8 years old now.Good luck!!

I think if she makes a decision based on what she thinks you want, and than she regrets it she will resent you for the rest of her life. IMO if she was old enough to lay down and make this baby, than she needs to face her options and make this decision with your support, not your opinions. Whether it be abortion, adoption, or keeping the baby. She needs to feel that you support ANY decsion she makes. Good luck. And by the way I had my son at 16, it did not ruin my life I am half way through college, I have a great job, and a beautiful home my son is now 6 years old and I wouldnt trade him for the world. It may have taken me longer than a childless person with school but I am making it. I am blessed to have a mother that supported me, my choice and my baby!

I was barely sixteen when I had my first son, he has graduated college and he is a wonderful son!!! I would listen to your daughter....because no one could have talked me into an abortion! I guess it all depends on a persons maturity level and determination. I wish you both the best...

You told her it was wise to commit murder on an unborn baby. You are the dumbest person on the face of the earth. HOW DARE YOU PUSH YOUR CHILD TO KILL HER BABY? HOW DARE YOU! YOU ARE NO DIFFERENT THAN A MURDERER YOURSELF! HOW COULD YOU? I HOPE YOU ROT IN HELL! SCUM LIKE YOU SHOULD NOT INHABIT THE PLANET AND TAKE UP PRECIOUS AIR AND SPACE. PERHAPS YOUR MOTHER SHOULD HAVE ABORTED YOU. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU THINK ANYMORE. WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT, YOUR DAUGHTER IS HAVING A BABY. JUST BECAUSE YOU DON'T LIKE IT, IT DOESN'T GIVE YOU A RIGHT TO TELL HER TO MURDER THE CHILD. YES I REALIZE MY CAPS LOCK IS ON. I DON'T GIVE A DAMN. IT'S ON DELIBERATELY SO I CAN FURTHER EMPHASIZE HOW STUPID YOU ARE FOR EXPECTING YOUR DAUGHTER TO DESTROY A PART OF HER. THAT CHILD IS PART OF HER AND HOW DARE YOU ASK HER TO DELIBERATELY DESTROY A PART OF HERSELF JUST TO PLEASE AN UNFIT PARENT WHO DOESN'T BELIEVE IN HER. YES I REALIZE I SAID YOU'RE UNFIT. ALSO A DELIBERATE THING. ONLY SOMEONE UNFIT TO BE A MOTHER OR FATHER THEMSELF WOULD PUSH THEIR CHILD TO DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT. YOU CHOSE TO SPREAD YOUR LEGS. AND WHEN YOU CHOSE IT YOU CHOSE WHATEVER CONSEQUENCES CAME WITH IT. AND IF THAT EVENTUALLY INCLUDES A TEENAGE DAUGHTER WHO GOT PREGNANT, YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES AND YOU DON'T HAVE A RIGHT TO TELL HER SHE HAS TO MURDER THAT CHILD. IT'S NOT UP TO YOU.

your daughter should be allowed to make up her own mind with no pressure from you. She will be the one who will live with her decision. If she has an abortion due to your insistance and later regrets it, she may very well come to resent you for your part in it. There is always the option of adoption. She should be aware of ALL options, not just the one that may be convenient for you.

And to the authoritarian pond scum wack job who said that this person is the parent and what they say goes, GO KILL YOURSELF. PERHAPS YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABORTED.

I think if your daughter wants to keep her baby, it's not wise to suggest an abortion. If she has one and then regrets it (which she probably will), she will resent you for the rest of her life. Do you really want that to happen? My sister had a baby at sixteen and managed okay with the help of her family. Your daughter really needs you to be there for her and to not feel that her baby is unwanted. When you see your own little grandchild, I'm sure you'll be glad she wanted to keep him or her. I might be a little biased because my older daughter is due to give birth any day now.

As long as you genuinely gave advice, but left the actual choice to her, that is fine. You are entitled, indeed required as a parent, to have an opinion, and to let her know what it is. But if "giving her advice" means telling her forcefully what to do (and I am not saying that you have done so, just warning), you would be wrong. She should get loving advice from all quarters - but in the end must make u her own mind. If the decision she makes turns out, years later to have been the right one, all is well however she reached it. But if she later regrets it, if she was pressured into it it will traumatise her life and your relationship, whereas if was her mistake you can support her through that realisation.

Abortion to me is Murder. I personnely do not believe in it. My daughter was 16 when she got pregnant also and it was her decision to keep the baby. I told her the responablies that go with caring for a baby and that I would help her but she had to finish school. She did and graduated. Her son is now married and has two sons and another on the way. She did a good job in raising him. You say you feel she is to young, this is Your feelings not hers. Try guilding her and helping her not discourageing her. This makes her feel bad and will damage her later on in years. Stand by her and help her through this.

it is a tough situation to say the least. an abortion would be good for the daughter and not so good for the child. the daughter might just go and get pregnant again. so you need to consider why she is pregnant in the first place. its natural for her to want to keep the baby. she could give it up for adoption and then resume her life. that would be good for the baby and somewhat good for the daughter. the daughter could have the baby, probably via cesarian sp? because she is still a child. still thousands if not millions of sixteen yearold girls have given birth to children and survived. the parents would be grandparents and they inturn would have to help raise the child.

Abortion is not the answer. I've started a blog www.teenbabyboom.com. I would like to hear stories from Mothers of pregnant teens. My teenage daughter is pregnant and although I've been very supportive, it's been very difficult to cope with.

An abortion is a very hard decision and can haunt your daughter forever. If you are against her raising the child herself, I would offer you suggesting adoption rather than abortion. With an "open" adoption, she could still be a part of her child's life.

How about adoption? Let her watch the Baby Borrowers, maybe she'll change her mind.

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My mother in law will take the baby. She is 69 years old and loves little babies. I will give you the address where you can ship the newborn, it's in upstate NY.

Hello! It's "wise" to kill a baby??? Did I miss something here...???

You both need to consider all options including adoption (several options there also). I agree 16 is very young to be raising a child by yourself. You need both need to visit a counseling services which can look at the total situation in a non judgemental way and help make a good decision. I'm sure your telephone book or a computer website can help you look for a service. If not, local clergy, local social services, etc. can be contacted. Do not make any hasty non thought out decisions.

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that is murder.....give him/her up for adoption.if shes old enough to play shes old enough to pay

I really cant have a clear opinion when this subject comes up. It may be a crime and a sin at the same time to kill an unborned man who can even become the next president of the US, but having a kid at 16 will really change your smooth flow of life ( lets hope not ruin it ). If i was a father i would say to her to keep the baby. Moreover... our grandparents had children at 16 and they managed to raise them pretty good.

Your daughter needs to decide what to do herself. If you push her into any choice she will most likely hate you for it. Let her make the decision and just sit in the background. She will let you know when she needs your help.

By democratic process, the baby stays :)) Seriously, anonymous. Please don't encourage your daughter to kill the baby, dear. You will feel completely, instantly different once you have that little bundle in your arms. I swear, it's true. It doesn't deserve to be killed. What it deserves is love.

16 means she is old enogth to have consentual sex and that comes with pregnancy. She is at the age when she can act effectivly as a parant

That's where you step in grandmom ;)

You should never make anyone get an abortion. If it is not the choice she wanted she will regret it, and blame you, she will hate you. She made the choice to have sex, so she needs to be responsible for what happended. She can give it up for adoption, or you can be a grandma, and love the kid, because you will.

I would rather you consider adoption, not abortion. It should really be up to the daughter tho. Its her body and her decision. Forcing or pressuring her into an abortion could scare her for life. I don't recommend it.

I've just become a grandma for the first time. My daughter is 22 but I would have supported a younger daughter had she fallen pregnant. I'm rather sad that I can't see my granddaughter more because she is lovely. I can't understand why anybody would want their grandchild killed off.

your sick

Well in support of you, i agree with you, she should have an abortion, if it were my daughter then i wold do the same, it may not ruin her life to keep it, but i cant do any good either. who would be looking after it while she carries on with education, when working, then feeling sorry for her because her friends are going out, so you mind the child then. Sorry, but no thanks, brought my own kids up by then, still too young to want to enjoy the grankids, never mind having them virtually full time, and feeling like i am bringing a second family up, all over agin. Good luck to you, and i hope you get your way

I was 16 when I got pregnant, and My mother pushed me to have an abortion. I regret that decision everyday since it wasn't what I wanted. Trust me, your daughter will regret it as well!

Adoption is an option.

Abortion would only be an option if she was raped. Atleast for me it would be. I would probably suggest adoption. The baby will go to a loving family who cannot have children themselves and will be well taken care of. If she does not agree, then keep the child. Make sure the bf or the guy gets involved in the childs life and helps ya'll out with the kid. If not, there is always child support.

Don't. Trying to push someone into having or not having an abortion will be more harmful to them. Your teenage daughter is young, and will need your help. Offer her that instead, and let her do what she feels comfortable with.

Really the choice is hers..... All you can do is offer your advice and be there to support her no matter what descision she makes..... because if you try to force an opinion that she doesn't share, she will be likely to resent you for it. Explain to her all the options, good and bad. Do not give your opinion unless she asks for it. Good luck.

Your daughter should be allowed to make her own choices, and her own mistakes. She will have to live with the consequences of an abortion as well. Just because you feel she's making a mistake, that doesn't mean you actually know what's right. There are positives and negatives to having a child at such a young age. There is no perfect answer, no choice that won't come with hardship. Let her make up her own mind. If you can't be supportive of her, then get out of her way.

the mistake was already made, this is one you can't correct with a pen stroke and charge card swipe. 16 year olds who are old enough to engage in unsafe sex are old enough to face the consequences, as ugly as they are. It's a brutal lesson, but it's wrong to try to pretend there's an "easy" solution. Have you watched the movie Juno? If not, please do. I think she should have the baby, give it up for adoption, mourn for 2 months, and get on with her life.

No one can predict what life is going to through at us and time and time again human tenacity seems to bring about some beautiful stories and your daughter just might have that if you fill the situation with love and support. If you have a poor input it will have a harder time working than if you threw your support behind her. Let life prevail.

It's her body and her choice. If you and your family aren't going to support her through it, let her know that you are not going to be a live-in babysitter and she will be responsible for taking care of the baby 24/7. The decision is ultimately hers. I hope whatever she decides you'll support her decision.