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  • It's no excuse. Just because she didn't live life they way she wanted to before... too bad. Everyone has regrets. I wish I did this, or I wish I did that. Now it's up to you whether you will forgive her or not. Talk to her. See if you are both going to continue this marriage. It can work. It will work, if you both want it too. Whatever you do, whatever your choice, whether it be counselling even, if you guys stay together do not hold this against her or bring it up as leverage everytime you guys have a fight. That wouldn't be fair.
  • I do want to make this work and she said she does as well. But she also said that she's unsure of what she wants and doesn't know if this would happen again. She was sick for over 2 years and final got her health back snd is looking really good. She's enjoying friends outside of the mother and wife thing.
  • Cheating is a negative word. Your wife, like thirty per cent of wives in America had an affair. She feels sorry for herself; life hasn't had the sparkle she had hoped; she juiced it up with an affair. Not a big deal. Now you have find a way to give life a little more sparkle. What is it that she needs. Can you give it to her?//
  • she wanted to hurt you and get it off her chest makes her feel thats its all right how did it make you feel did you care
  • you'd know better than anyone here. what kind of person is your wife? is the 'i've just been mother/wife' only an excuse? has she done it before? maybe you should have a good think about whether your wife is that one special person in the world who will love you for you, take care of you even when ill, support you in all you do and try to make things work when 'bored' cos they care about you and don't wanna see you hurt even if they do stop loving you. is this your wife? can you do better? if the answer is no or you simply can't be bothered finding out by starting again then you're gonna have to find a way to reconcile this in your head and forgive and move on.
  • First, there is NO excuse for cheating. It's disrespectful, dishonest, and cowardly. Her telling you she's been nothing but a mother and wife is an attempt to tell you she's had no excitement. If you do choose to stay with her, you need to evaluate what you can do to make her happy. SHE, however, has no excuse. Cheating was a pathetic cry for help. She is unhappy, she needs to tell you so, instead of cheating, and THEN telling you so. I'm sorry for you having to go through this. Good luck.
  • my wife cheated on me aND WILL NOT ADMIT REGREAT OR SHAME WE SPLIT UP FOR 8 DAYS AND SHE MOVED ON NOW SHE WANTS TO COME HOME BUT WILL NOT HELP ME TO BE MORE COMFERTABLE WITH THE IDEA OF WHAT HAPPENED AND SAYS SHE IS SORRY BUT WILL NOT CATER TO ME TO WORK IT OUT I JUST WANT HER TO STAY AWAY FROM THOSE INVOVLED AND MAKER ME FEEL MORE IMPORTANT THAN ANYONE ELSE IN OUR LIVES BUT SHE WILL NOT EVEN TRY WHAT SHOULD I DO?
  • she thinks you should go to the clinic and make sure you didn't catch any STD off her?
  • This may be painful to hear but maybe she is pushing you on purpose to the point of a divorce. Maybe she is tired of you.
  • The fact that she told you is insignificant other than the fact that she hurt you really badly. The important factor is......she's not certain what she wants and is not willing to do what it takes to get you past it. Divorce her and cut your losses.
  • she would do it because shes self centered and doesnt care about u. she would tell you to hurt your feelings and provoke you
  • She probably felt bad about it so she told you to get it off her back. And in terms of her not feeling appreciated, that is the number one cause of cheating among married couples.
  • oh no.... what a horrible life. I was nothing but a slave and a Mr Mom. my wife did nothing for the family, earned no money, did less than half the house work. didn't even take care of our son, he had to go to daycare so I could work. she slept with me maybe twice a week and had sex every other month. you can not control her feelings. if she feels like nothing but a wife and mother (which sounds good to me) then SHE is the one who needs to fix it. if she wants to be more she needs to fulfill those roles first then do extra. instead of being nothing but a wife and mother she isn;t even a good wife any more.
  • Because she felt bad about it? Isnt that obvious? She loves you and does not want to lose you over this. That is why she told you, so you would not find out and deal with it by yourself. If someone tells they have cheated they (normally) do not do that to hurt your feelings. They are honest because they want you to be honest too. They tell because they never want to do it again and make a new start. Cheating however is never good. She can never blame you for not trusting her. However, you should look at what you want from this relationship. Is it true that she is only there for you and for your kid/s? Doesnt she have free time or does she choose to stay home even when she can go out with friends? You are her husband and if you feel like confronting her about things she says you should. Now is the time to change it forever. Do you still want her, if yes what does she have to change, what can you change so she doesnt only feel like she feels right now. All these people yelling for divorce. It is ridiculous. Cheating is totally wrong but the world did not come to an end. Divorce is not the best option. First work it out. If you then realise you have grown apart then divorce. Not just based on this.
  • Experience speaking. Like most women, she didn't like you the way you were. She saw you as a project. She wanted to improve you. So she took upon herself extra duties to make you better. It didn't work the way she wanted, so she wants out. She resents the extra work that she herself imposed on herself and you are the one to blame. She told you about it thinking it would light a fire under you to improve. If you don't, she'll leave. But of course, you love(d) her the way she was, even as she evolved. And you were just being you. You're going to be happier, believe it or not, if you chalk this one up to experience.
  • Because she's tired of the stale arrangement her life with you has become and wants you to either up the ante or be amicable and part ways.
  • Whatever she's doing, she's telling to you everything. You should appreciate her, because she's honest with you and she's not cheating or lying to you. Ask her what made her to cheat? are you keeping her happy? In some families, I seen some married couples even they don't talk or see each others, for outside they live like a husband and wife, but inside the house, they live like a strange people, even they don't tell each other that where husband is going all day or where wife was all day. Your wife is better then them. take care.

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