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  My name is Fabian. So there is this girl i have a big crush on, (not dating) I'm not ready to ask her out yet. But her name is Alyssa . I met her in middle school and me and her still text ALOT, like everyday. We sometimes hang out and chill. me and her care and love eachother alot, she loves me because i always been there for her, and i always made her feel better, she said she wouldn't know what she do without me. She said i am like one of the realest people out there. she said me and her will rock together forever. but these past 7 days i feel like me and her were getting dry, like if our bond wasn't the same , like if something was wrong with her. I miss texting her more, laughing and having funny and enjoyable convos, where we texted more and she replied faster. I noticed she has been sleeping in all day until 5 or 6pm , and she goes to bed earlier then usual, it made no sense to me. She also hasn't been texting anybody that much and she hasn't been on social media that much, i asked her and she "said You're the first person to actually notice. but idk, I've been sleeping a lot and idk why . Then i asked her what is causing all that and she said " I just got out of a really toxic friendship and it's been taking a huge toll on my emotions lately ". Turns out it was her bestfriend (Jony) they were really close. She really cared and trusted him. I asked what happened and she said "A lot of manipulation and mental abuse". What do you think she meant by that and what do you think might of happened? She said "We still talk a lil bit,, I just needed some space" But to be honest i don't know how to really help her, i need to find the right words to have her move on and whatever they have wasn't real anymore. I don't want her to think i am trying to talk her out her feelings, i also don't want to make her sound guilty or anything like that, i don't want to sound like An Asshole either. I am that type of person that is always going to be real with people and she knows that. I want her to be strong. Alot of people hurt
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  So,im with my girlfriend for 16 months now,she staied friends with her ex that she broke up cuz she just didnt like him that way.They still txt now and then,he calls her for coffe she goes sometimes,even tho i said it makes me feel uncomfortable.We are in the bus now and shes listening to song that he wrote for her and reading the lyrics.Is this ok,should i do anything?
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  I was with my ex for 3 years, she was my first and I was her first. we've lived together for about 2 years and recently broke up in February. She dumped me because she had thought I was cheating on her but when she realized I wasn't wasn't things started slowly coming back together. Couple weeks later we got into a huge argument after our argument she started acting different and coming home late. It was unusual of her to come home late because she's a nurse and her schedule required her to work the 5-7 shift. I would stay up until she got home to talk about her why she's been coming home late, she would she grab whatever she needed and she would leave again and not come back home until about 2 or 3 am. One day she gets texted saying she needed her space and if I could stay at my parents, for the first week I disagreed to it but shortly after I changed my mind thinking it might be a good idea and that I should respect her space. Two days later I had found out she slept with her coworker by logging into her Snapchat. I asked her if she had done anything with anyone she kept telling me she had not done anything with anyone, so I pulled up her snapchat to show her that knew what had happen after I gave her space. We were officially done I grabbed my stuff and had completely moved out, couple weeks later she started texting me about how she had made a mistake so I went back to her. For about 5 months she was going back and forth between me and her coworker. Last week she broke down mentally and was calling and texting me non stop saying she wanted to hurt herself and she felt like a piece of shit for doing this to me, she wanted me to come over to help her out with her breakdown so I told her she needed to text her coworker and have him deal with it because I was really upset about the last few months. She continued to text me saying that he doesn't know how to deal with her when she's like this only I did so I agreed to help her out and comfort her, she asked me to be her boyfriend again but I refused because everyt
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  Well my girlfriend and I broke up after she decided to text/mess with a guy at her church. We got back together and she wants me to go to church with her. I don't know what to do because everytime I think of the guy I want to flip out, beat him, and just fall apart for the amount of pain he put me through. He pretended to be my friend and it totally betrayed my trust. I don't know what to do or how to handle the situation. Her family goes to the church but I don't know if I want to ever see that guy again. Can somebody please give me advice? Btw this happened 5 1/2 months ago and I still haven't gotten over it.
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  So I joined college a week ago and it's been great so far. Haven't made a lot of friends yet but it's fine. My roommate is some girl I've never met before till like 4 days ago and she and her friends seem pretty cool. I'm not a very talkative person (probably awkward af) and I try to be social but it just turns into a very awkward situation. The hostel I stay in usually offer meals and since I can't eat some foods (tummy issues) I decided to order takeout on my first day stay. My roommate and her friend were on the top bunk talking during dinner and they told me to go get some food and I declined saying I was full and all but then my takeout arrived and when I got to eating, she and her friend weren't there so there's no way I could offer it to them. So when they came back, the food was already cold and I felt bad offering them cold food (bc it seems like I'm giving them my leftovers; rude) so I just kept it there till the next morning when I threw it out. A few days later, I hear her talking to her friends telling them how selfish I am. It really hurts bc we don't know each other that well and she's already making judgements about me. We don't talk much but I feel like I've been nothing but good to her despite being quiet and all. God knows what nonsense she's been feeding her friends. What should I do? I really do like her friends
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  2 days ago I met Gril that her friend has a crush on me. I walked with her to that.girl and she didnt look any way sympatied about me she just facepalmed and get a bit shy when she saw me.Next day she asked me about my name I decided to tell it. When i came back from school I looked on facebook and they in fact invited me. Today I decided to ask for real whats going on she still says that her friend has crush on me stuff. But still the girl that she was talking about doesnt show any kind of feeling to me.They are propobly 1 year younger than me (Im 17) . So my question is are they just joking or theres something more that I dont noticing. Sorry for my english but its not my native laungage
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  I have a baby painted turtle named Avery, as of now I'm not sure of its gender. I have UVB lighting on her basking rock, and keep the temperature at 80 degrees. It has calcium supplements, and I'm doing the best I can with it, as I've never owned a turtle before. Avery is two weeks old, and its shell is slightly soft. I've checked for rotting and pyramiding, but there are no signs of either. My questions are; 1. Is the soft shell normal? I have its UVB light on all day, although I turn it off at night. 2. What is a proper diet for baby painted turtles, is it the same as adults? 3. Am I missing any of the needs for Avery? 4. Do I need to buy vitamin supplements? 5. I change the tank once every 2-3 days, do I change it sooner? Things that I have for Avery: 60 gallon tank Filter UVB light that also provides heat Water thermometer Basking area where it can completely get out of water Water at 78-80 degrees most of the time (it cools down to 72 during the night but heats back up again during the day) Calcium bone chews (it is using them) I do not have a tank heater, but I am not sure if it's necessary due to the tank staying relatively the same temperature, but I plan to get one once winter hits. If you can help me I will be so relieved, I love this turtle and I'm willing to do anything possible to keep it as healthy as I can!
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  So,im with my girlfriend for 16 months now.She staied friends with her ex.She didnt like him that way.They txt from time to time he calls her for coffe,she goes sometimes,even tho i told her it makes me feel uncomfortable.We are in the bus now she listens to the song he made for her and shes reading the lyrics.Is this ok,should i do anything?
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  How do I get my ex girlfriend back? Hi so I’m in a situation where I know my ex still loves me and is in love with me. However the reason for this breakup (48 hrs ago) was for us to work on ourselves, to get the ball rolling on our careers and after we do that she said she promised we’d try things out again. She said she has no time for me rn because her mom just went through a kidney transplant and she needs to focus on her plus she said she doesn’t feel like she loves herself enough and before putting all 100% into me she wants to do that for herself. We took a 2 week break and she told me she felt awful because she wanted to give me attention it’s just she needs to be strong for herself and show herself that she can be responsible. So she broke things off so she doesn’t feel like I’m waiting on the sidelines for her. She also wants time for herself to do yoga and make new friends. Our breakup wasn’t bad. We talked and talked and even had sex and took a last picture of us kissing before going our separate ways. She contacted me the next morning telling me she hopes work went good and we talked for a bit then the conversation ended and restarted again at night while we were both at work. She told me during the breakup that she felt uncomfortable in the relationship because when we argue or fight I’d be an a**hole and yell and cuss at her. I told her I wanna change for myself but also for us because I realized that it’s not cool of me to be yelling over dumb things. She said she doesn’t know if things will workout in the future between us but we will try again and as long we work on ourselves rn then only good things will come. Any advice would be helpful as this time for me is hard because we told each other we’d work through anything and that our relationship could go to hell and back and we’d still love each other. I know this is hell rn I just want things to workout again.
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  I am 14. For the past months I've been experiencing an anxiety like feeling. I usually worry about things that shouldn't be worried about it shouldn't be worried about that much. Then everyday it keeps happening I keep thinking and then I over think and it could be positive but if it's negative then it will get me scared or have me keep thinking about it. And everyday I fidget or walk around non stop back and forth and when I do I think. Good or bad. I think. Most of the times I overthink and I don't want that feeling. And I can't sleep well at night and I stay up late. Not like through until the middle of the night but my bed time is usually around 10:30 or suppose to be but I usually fall asleep between 12:30 to about 2 the most. Then when I wake up everyday I feel like I need to sleep in more because I'm tired and sleepy still. That's just one problem with my sleep. The other is that I'm afraid sleeping by myself in the dark. I just think if I try to sleep peacefully then I would hear whispers or I would feel something rub on me and open my eyes someone would be there. I believe in ghost but that experience never happend with me. Meaning I know it won't happen but my anxiety is taking over making me scared and rarely panic sometimes to where I have my mom sleep with me. Or I sleep with the lights on. And next one is my ear. I think I might either have the mineres disease or tinnitus or whatever because for years I've been hearing ringing in my ears or left ear mostly . but I figured it was normal but now since I gotten smarter and mature I decided to look up what it was. But I still hear it til today like this moment. Usually at night it gets loud. But on a daily basis I can hear it but it's no big deal. I just want to get it checked out just to be on the safe side. Rarely it goes to both of my ears or spreads but mainly it's been on my left ear. It might also be on my right ear but not as much but Idk. All I know is that I hear ringing like 24/7 and there has come times where I ignore it and forget it's the