ANSWERS: 49
  • I don't see anything wrong with that at all
  • If you really love her, and you feel that she'll accept the ring, then go for it.
  • I think a promise ring is a great idea.
  • I was never really into promise rings. I fealt that if I was meant to stay with a girl I dont need a promise ring. it is a very thoughtful thing to do though
  • Don't do it if you have no intention on keeping the promise.
  • I think that s a great idea. I wish you both the best. :)
  • That is a really, really nice idea. Go for it!
  • It's sometimes difficult to describe how much you really love someone, and you could suspect that the ring is a perfect way of expressing this. But challenge yourself to try showing your love in another way, because you are still too young to know what you want the rest of your life. Write her a handwritten letter about your favourite memories with her, or a list of her qualities as a person, finishing of with just saying "... and this is why I love you".
  • Because you are young, I would recommend a mizpah necklace...actually two necklaces that come apart. You wear half and she wears half.
  • What exactly are you promsing with a promise ring? Is this a new word for engagement ring? If you have the desire to buy her a nice piece of jewelry as a gift, that is very sweet. Just know that it is a gift and if you guys break up someday, the ring is hers to keep because you gave it to her. Believe it or not, I had a boyfriend buy me a gold charm holder and charms and he had the nerve to ask his grandmother to ask me for it back. Yeah, right. I still have it to this day because of principle.
  • i think its a great idea. im only 15 and i love my bf, and i no he loves me. but have you spoken to her about your futer together yet? if not i would do that first so you no if she wants to stay with you. all the best xx
  • She will be so overjoyed that you got her a ring (if you do). BUT...remember that you are only 17 and that she will interpret that ring to mean a very long term relationship. You have so many years ahead of you and this girl is most-likely not going to be the one you end up marrying.I sound like someone who is in their late 50's I know but trust me, take things slow and remember that you have many years ahead of you (and maybe many more relationships). And try to stay clear of sexual relations of any kind.I am 19, valued my virginity, gave it up, found someone else and now I can't stand to know I gave up something so precious to someone other than my future wife.Just to know that both her and I have been even touched by someone else makes us regretful.You're only 17 bro; just think about it.
  • No No NO! I am sure you love her and want to buy her something nice. How about a necklace or earrings, maybe a bracelet? Maybe you could buy tickets and take her somewhere special. You are both so young. You have so much to see and do before you even start to think in those terms.
  • well i was 21, and had been dating my girlfriend of 16 for a year (yes she was 15 when we met, but some things just pan out that way) i bought her a "promise ring" for her 16th birthday, i basically told her straight, that the ring shows how much i love her, and no matter how it turns out i always will. i think thats the idea of a promise ring, just to say that you will be true to her forever in all circumstances. we both knew that with her being so young and the 5 years difference in our age it may not end the way we hoped, but weve battled through a few differences and were now approaching our 4th year together and are happier than ever. and she still wears the ring to this day, and were now planning and designing our own house to be built this year. (no wedding or kids arranged yet as we want to see how the living together goes lol). so my advice is to get her the ring, and if you are in love you should be able to explain that it has nothing to do with marriage, its about how much you love her. and dont listen to anyone who dares to tell you that your too young this, too young that. because nobody knows what will happen, not even you. just stick at it, never lie, to yourself or anyone else. learn from your mistakes and above all, enjoy your time with her. peace out. matt.
  • I got my promise ring when I was 17. It has a pink center stone with a diamond on each side. It was from Foleys for under 20 dollars, it's the thought that counts.
  • I suspect most who answered are a bit older than 17... I have to remind myself that at 17 my world was a very small place, and it's easy now to be critical of any 17 year old. (you'll see). That said, I suggest going for something classic like Diamond studs or Pearl earrings that she will Always treasure even if later on you change directions. Wouldn't it make you happy knowing that 30 yrs from now she'll think of you everytime she puts them on? (especially if she's your wife).
  • i dont know how to answer this question of yours , i just wanted to say that if you do get the woman that you realy love a promiss ring is the sweetest thing any guy can do for a girl , and i think that its a great idea, if you have thoughts that your too young , id think again ,because not so long ago men and women got married at very young ages. younger then both of you , and back then it was standered, . good luck . no guy has ever given me a promiss anything.
  • this is your lucky day i deal with this all the time. it all depends no how long u have been together. u say that your both 17 right well i wouldn't rush in to it u have the rest of your life take it one day at a time. injoy the time u have with her becouse maybe one day u to wont be togrther and u wold have spent that mouny on nuthing but thats just one guys thouts the real desishon is up to u do u really wont o crass that line and dive in so soon?
  • Go to a pawn shop and explain your situation. make it a reputable pawn shop. someone there will help you with an affordable promise or going steady ring. it does not have to cost much. its the meaning behind the ring, that counts. Its refreshing to hear that love still blossoms and that you want to buy her a ring. Go for it and you two stay together. the world has enough divorced people. already.
  • I think it's ok to buy her a ring, but not neccassarily a promise ring. You might feel this way about her now, but she could change her mind and possibly you to. You both are still young. Do you plan on going to College? What kind of goals do you have in mind for your future? I would say, just be wise in your decisions. Be careful of the moves you make on her. A sex relationship alot of times leads to a short relationship. Don't rush things with her. Make sure you have a good relationship with her parents, and do things with them. If you attend church, bring her with you. Hope this is helpful.
  • I would wait. What's the hurry?
  • Judging by how you worded your question it seems like you are doubting already that you should even get her a promise ring. I was never a fan of promise rings since high school love doesn't usually last. It is a great thing for those that do, but high school sweethearts are few and far between. If you want to celebrate your love and that it has lasted a year, you can do it with jewelry, but maybe not necessary a promise ring. I've seen couples breakup because of what is considered the underlying pressure of a promise ring. Enjoy the relationship you have now. Don't put any unnecessary pressure on it. Just be happy in love!
  • my husband bought me a claddagh ring when i was 17 and he was 16 (we're 34 and 33 now). we're both part irish.
  • I wouldn't make any promise until I could financially back it up. 17 is a rather precarious age to be making commitments.
  • Why don't you finish your finals first.
  • I am going to agree with those that have counseled you to take it slow. At this age you still don't really know what you want out of life. Are you both going to college after high school? If so, are you both going to go to the same college? As you both mature and start facing the world after high school you may both find that your desires for your futures pull you in different directions. This is a natural part of growing up. As another answer stated, it is very rare for high school romances to last beyond high school. So, at this point in your lives, it is really a bit too early to be making in promises to each other. So, give it some more time. If you want to buy her some jewelry to celebrate your anniversary, go ahead. Just don't go attaching some promise to the gift that you may not be able to keep.
  • I got promise rings with my ex earlier this year. We were in a relationship last year and it was a mutual decision to break it off. We decided we are too young right now and need to continue to learn about ourselves and each other. At this time in our lives, we think it is better to be just friends to each other and support each other through our growth as people right now. But we both really do love each other and want to try to be together in the future, once we've gotten through our awkward teenager stage (is the young-adult or even adult stage any less awkward? heheh.). So the promise rings are a promise that we'll not date anyone else right now, we are just best friends, that we'll be there for each other, and that when we both feel the time is right, we'll try to really make things work.
  • My husband gave me a sterling silver and turquoise ring which had been his grandmothers, not as a promise ring, but as an "I love you, and I'm hoping to keep you" sort of a ring. It really meant a lot more than him going out and buying a pre-engagement ring.
  • if you really love her go for it! im seventeen and my partner is 21. we live together and have right from the start. we now have our own house and he supports me while i study. he means the world to me and his promise ring was a way to show how much he cares. my ring was 2 hearts with my birthstome in the middle, nothing flash but it is very pretty. and he promised love, not engagement so i wear it on my middle finger.
  • Ok you said your only seventeen twice that shows right in your questions maybe your not ready for that step... A promise ring means I promise to be with you forever and get married is that what you want? If you want to do that get her something in white gold I personally love white gold..
  • Ok you said your only seventeen twice that shows right in your questions maybe your not ready for that step... A promise ring means I promise to be with you forever and get married is that what you want? If you want to do that get her something in white gold I personally love white gold..
  • i think its really sweet!! i too have been thinking about this but i wanted to buy it for my boyfriend! but i decided not to because i didnt want him to get the wrong idea! he tells me he loves me all the time and i know i love him!! but im not sure if he truly means it! i wish so much that he does and ive been trying to prove it to him for over 3 years! Dakora Raz___
  • A promise ring is NOT an engagement ring, and shouldn't be thought of like that (in referring to several other comments). If by promise ring you mean and commitment to her and your relationship, and a promise to love her, I think its a wonderful idea. Just because you're young doesn't mean you can't know what love is. I think your views will change as you get older, and maybe you wont be together forever, but you'll always love her on some level. I don't think theres anything wrong with letting her know that.
  • Not to sound insensitive, but promise rings are overrated and overused so they lose their meaning very quickly. I think if you want to get her something nice get her a necklace or a bracelet.
  • A promise ring is a nice gift if that is what you want to buy. My sister in law insisted on a promise ring from her boyfriend. I believe it was an opal.
  • Thats great to buy her a promise ring,My sister Jennifer got a promise ring from her boyfriend gary and she is 17 and he is 18 and they are madly in love with eachother and i believe that they will get married some day,So my answer is yes and I am sure she will LOVE it
  • Yeah, its ok to do that. Just dont get commited too soon!
  • Yeah, its ok to do that. Just dont get commited too soon!
  • Yeah, its ok to do that. Just dont get commited too soon!
  • That's very sweet of you. I think it would be maybe awkward to get her a ring, but if you did, maybe if you put it on a chain she can wear around her neck with it hanging on it like a pendant, it may be even better. Like in the picture, but remember, it doesn't have to bee too fancy. Just make sure she knows it's from your heart and that you really care for her.
  • I can see what you are trying to say. I would buy her a ring. I was dating a guy for 3 1/2 years from 15 and we just broke up a year ago and i'm only 19. BUt i would never regret accepting the ring (just don't get one that looks like an engagement ring, mine was pink) and it wasn't expensive either. I think that if you guys love each other as much as you think you do, why not? I know that you might be worried that it might scare her off, but if she TRUELY loves you, she'll accept it.
  • Love is never what comes out in the end
  • First of all CONGRATS! but i think you should hold up with the promise ring bcuz that is something serious, unless you two are commited to keep the promise? try something new and different maybe take her out to a nice restaurant have dinner, go to the movies or even go to the theme park, try to dedicate a whole day just for her, im pretty sure and positive she will love that! and maybe you could give her sometype of jewerly it doesnt have to be expensive but somethin that will show how much you love her and care for her...be creative, it alwayz works! GOOD LUCK!
  • If you love one another and are committed to just each other and plan to get married some day then yeah buy her that ring. I was nineteen when my husband and I meet and we been married for 14yr and we love one another as much and more as the day we meet. Good luck I hope she likes the ring.
  • I think that is a very sweet gift and if you truly love each other, it is age appropriate. Don't let people tell you that you are too young to be in love because my ex-fiance' and I fell in love at thirteen years old and stayed together until we were twenty-one.
  • i think its too early to give her a promise ring. I dnt know how long you know each other and what are your plans for future !!!!!!! but try thinking to give her something else.
  • So, all important question...Are you still together?!
  • That's really sweet. Get her a teddy bear or something with flowers. Get a card and write how you feel about her on the inside. :-)
  • the two heart rings, did you ever see them they are adorable she will love it..

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