It is all about not letting the negative behavior of other person effect you. But how do you achieve that.
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Its not an exact science, but some days it doesn't matter what anyone does - it won't phase me. During times like that I think: "This person is not harming me, why let it bother me?"... and it just doesn't. Its not a method as such, its a choice you make.
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It's really not about that. Other people's behavior DOES affect us, that's the whole point -- we're all interconnected. The desire to be so isolated from others that you're unaffected by their behavior is not healthy. There's a balance to be found between openness (allowing other people in, and sharing your life with them) and boundaries (keeping certain people out, to varying degrees). There's no absolute line here: we can't escape all negative people, and trying too hard to do that has nasty consequences -- isolation holds it's own suffering. However, the more you develop your own strengths, your own appreciation for your value, and your own integrity, the easier it is to see clearly when another person is being negative and destructive. And that "seeing clearly" is what allows you to not get deeply entangled in another person's malfunction.
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I think you start by recognizing that your self esteem and sense of what is right and wrong emanate from yourself. Other people can't determine who you are and what is important to you. They can't live your life for you or control your thoughts. That's just the seed. The next part is, you concede that YOU can't control others and aren't responsible for their actions or thoughts. You have to let them be who they are. I think all of us are works in progress. Recognize that when you are confronted with negative behavior and then it's easier not to take it personally.
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If I can, the first thing I try to do is determine if I am somehow responsible, if not, then I try to be at peace, it is some sort of problem the person has and that they will have the problem with others also.
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1. first i try to understand his point of view. 2. then again i would like to take a minute and try to analyze it my way. 3. and try to make out the difference. 4. and who are the persons going to effect by these ways/decisions. I hope it helped you! :)
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