I just broke up with my girlfriend after 8 years. I truly loved her. It fking hurts. What should I do?
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william82
ANSWERS: 17
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Well, why'd you break up with her. From there we can think of a solution
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Allow time to grieve 8 yrs. is a long time.
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Continue to talk, don't give up completely. I mean don't bug her or anything...right now you both need your time to think. You guys were together eight yrs. that's a long time you can't just quit that cold turkey. Ya know? You'll both just have to talk and see how you can improve your relationship. Never give up till your ready to.
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Just be patient and give her space. Nothing else to be done.
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I was in a relationship for almost 10 years. I was the one to leave so yes it's harder to be the one being left behind so to say. It took me about 5 months or so to start actually start dating again and let me tell you something ! It's scary at first but you will get the hang of things, and yes you will date and fall in love again :) It just takes a little time...
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I just happened to find this site, 8 years is a long time. Tonight, my girlfriend broke up with me after 5 years, she wants to get married but two issues. One she wanted me to convert to her religion which I didn't want too, I'm not religious and if she loved me then she wouldn't tell me to convert, obviously she loves her religion more. The other issue was she did not get along with my family, then again she didnt get along with her own family either. Another thing she was controlling too. At first I was depress about it, but now the more I think about it, it is a good thing we did break up. I hope she does find the right person to marry and live a happy life.. I guess everything happens for a reason, its weird in a way I'm happy and in some ways I feel depress about.. Well time to listen to some Depeche Mode and drink. :--) William, if after 8 years she doesn't know what she wants then I think you need to move on because it may take her another 8 years to figure out what she wants.
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Who cares? It might hurt but look on the bright sidde, you don't have manipulative hoe on your back now, YOUR FREE! Forget about her, and love(it's not even real) and all that stuff, go travel or something screw women! :)
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Breaking up can be a very traumatic experience .... You can involve yourself with work , things around the home and the yard , as well as friends 'n family ... The point is to keep yourself occupied without hitting the bottle or turning to drugs .... We break up for a REASON .... which usually turns out to be a good thing we left a certain person. One of these days you may feel like getting into the socail scene again ... if so ; go for it .... if not ; that is YOUR business ....
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Try to distract yourself with work, school, and let your friends take care of you... 8 years is a long time to lose, and it will be the most trying period of your life. But remember, people love you, and someday things will get better
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Look, I've been in that situation so many times I'm an expert. Listen to me. Put steel in your heart. Women like it, and you get to live longer and happier. What should you do? Drink it off. Or go crazy womanizing. Or whatever will temporarily distract you. And then never go so far down that road again. It isn't worth it.
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Sometimes that's just the way the cookie crumbles and my advice for you Is that 8 years Is a lot of time and I would find me another girlfriend If I where you that Is going to help me forget about that person that you truly loved. Good Luck!
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you cant fight the pain, it hurts to say goodbye. youre feeling it now its part of the process. what do you do? keep being you. when i broke up with my ex of 8 years this past summer i started volunteering, joined the gym, and spent more time with family and friends. its best not to dive in a new relationship but definitely fun to get back out there meeting new people. some days will be harder than others but remember all the other things in life that make you happy and surround yourself with positive people and you will get back to you again :) im always here if you need someone to talk to!
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Make sure that you dont make her hate you so that you can get her back later if you want
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You asked if crying helps? Sometimes crying does help. Crying now would be like your heart is watering your soul.
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Some good advice above I think. Take a class, get to know your family, renew old friendships, join a gym, take a class, volunteer, learn a new craft or hobby. Stay occupied and don't dwell on the relationship. I am not saying forget it either. I think that time and space might help you evaluate it in a more clear light though.
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Love hurts, but the big reason of the break-up, was it because she doesn’t love you and wants to move on. If that is the case, you have to get on with your life, we've all gone through what you're going through. Its part of life. Time tends to heal open wounds, the more time passes, the wound eventually closes. You're going to have a scar on your heart for a while, but you have to work it out. Get busy doing other things, keep your mind occupied. Get another job if you have to. It tends to heal quicker and gives you positive cash flow in the process. I feel for you my friend, but tuck it in, you do fine. Stay Strong.
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I have gone through the same feelings , but remeber all happens , happens for god , if she has gone let her go , it hurts ,the pain in unbearable but it happend and its past now . move on with your life and remeber , there would be someone much BETTER than her to take her place . Best of Luck mate :)
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