Tell them to fuck off. If they're sooo concerned about you, have them buy you contacts, buy the dye to change your hair color, and buy you more expensive clothes. If they don't bother, well, then there you to.

You shouldnt need your friends "feedback" in order to feel good about yourself. There will always be someone who doesnt like something about you--its their problem, not yours

tell them "hey! you don't wanna hear what i have in mind for yah, ayt?, surely! you won't like it so shut your god damn mouth!!" :p well seriously.. they are not a friend so why keep on hanging with them when you can find better ones :)yeah friends tells you what they need to say to improve you but not in that way so screw them up! and start improving yourself not for them but for your own :) and make them see that its not worth is to loose a friend like them coz you can find and have much better peers :)

Sometimes they may come from a home where thier parents don't show them any love, and what they really want is your approval that they matter in your eyes.

I think you need NEW FRIENDS....these people aren't being friendly...they are CAUSTIC! Friends are honest, but not hateful, supportive but not of things that are harmful. Friends want to see each other become successful at positive goals...not bring you down! I look forward to seeing and spending time with my friends....I don't worry or wonder what nasty thing they will do or say next that is hurtful or counterproductive to the friendship!

First off, I would revamp what you mean by "friends." Friends do not say things like that. Period. And secondly...most people like that often say things like that to bring any attention away from themselves or faults that they might have. Directing the insults and the comments like that your way then forces people to not see their inferiority. So, ask yourself this....who REALLY is 'Inferior" in this situation? Stand up for things that people say that hurt you. TELL them that you honestly don't apprieciate how they talk about you. Yes, they may talk about you because of that, but the more you stand up to that slander against you, the more they will (believe it or not) learn that you aren't one that lets that get to you. Don't worry. Clothes, glasses, etc., do not make a person. YOU make who you are.

This question broke my heart. Being a teenager can be both the best time of your life AND the worst. I like Redhawks answer alot, and so I will just tack my answer on from there. A friend may make a suggestion to you that may help or benefit you in some way. But it does not sound like these people are your friends. It is hard to just ignore them and either go it alone or get new friends (easier said than done). Ask yourself WHY they are saying these things to you. Are they really your friends? (We often criticize in others what we fear most about ourselves). If you LIKE the way you look - good for you! If you don't, and it is within your power to change it, then go for it! If you want help, ask one of your friends whose look you admire to have a make-over party or to go shopping with you. You can also get free advice from professionals. A Mary Kay consultant will give you a free make-over and can advise you on other things as well. Ultimatley, just remember, being a teenager is not forever and life WILL get better. It is not all about looks :o) Find friends who like you because they admire your mind or your sense of humor or your spirit.

tell them you feel just fine with your glasses, your hair, and your cloths. if they don't like it then they can go find a new friend.

I cannot express strongly enough the value of having friends that love you, and not merely "like" you, just as you are. As to how these “friends” can be dealt with, consider this; When the mail man delivers a package, he depends on certain signs on the package to know how to handle it during delivery. If a box has no sign on it he may just toss it in the truck, and think nothing of it. However, if someone has stamped the package with FRAGILE: HANDLE WITH CARE, he is less likely to thrashing about with it. Often the people closest to us do hurtful things because they do not realize how fragile we are. Much of this, of course (not all, but most), is our own fault. We like to be viewed as strong, and independent. So, like Mr. Mail Man, they tend to toss us about. Let them know that what they are doing makes you feel “low and inferior”. If they are truly your friends, they will care about you enough to watch how they deal with you in the future. If not, they are not your friends. Stop hanging around with them, and move on.

Tell them when they say things that offend you. Say it nicely, and say it at the time, and then move on and forgive them. Some people think it's funny to say these kind of things, and they may genuinely not know they are causing offence. If you tell them and they still keep doing it, then I'd say they're not your friends any more and you should look for new ones.

True friends don't treat people that way - They themseleves are insecure,get away from people who don't bring out the best in you

those arnt friends those are jerks. i would say find some real friends no offence intended

UM, yeah these friends are not friends. They just use you to feel better about themselves

sweetie you need to find a new group of friends who like you for who u are. spoiled kids who get all they want from mom and dad.Are just that spoiled. you dont need friends like that that bring you down. you need friends u can enjoy and have fun with. blow there minds tell them you are better then they are by far and find your slef a new group of friends. good luck and remember you are buitiful the way you are.

or you could do this say if i sat and found faults in you guys well i could go on for hours so why dont we just be friends and be happy we have each other and lets have fun and stop finding faults in each other friends dont do that and besides if we were all alike this would be a real dull place

Boy, with friends like these! I would definitely find some new people to hang around. I mean, you want some honesty from your friends, but they should use constructive criticism, not tear you down. It may seem hard right now, but you can find other friends. There are nice people out there who will treat you better. Good luck

you need a makeover.oops another rude comment sorry.well maybe your friends notice you letting yourself go.

3 words, they aren't friends!

your friends sound like assholes...if they really care about u then they wuldnt bring u down...my friends def dont....u need some new friends!!

DITCH THEM! If they're treating you that bad, they aren't your friends! If they really care about you, they won't do that, or they'll apologize... If you don't think you can give them up, tell them how it makes you feel. The thing is, you are the only one with the power to say how you feel. If what they're saying you makes you so miserable, tell them or leave them. Good Luck and Stay Strong!

Just say to them when they make a comentlike your clothes look cheap. Say so what you are saying is I should get better clothes than you have on. Be creative. They will soon stop saing negative stuff. of corse they may not say anything but there is allways some one who will fill the spot on a posative side.

Your friends are a bunch of losers. Any real friends of your would not criticize in such a way. There is a way to let someone know that something doesn't suit them without being downright cruel and mean to them as your friends obviously were. It sounds to me as if your friends are just jealous. Ignore them and if I were you I would find me some friends who were capable of pointing things they didn't like about me out in a kind way not mean and cruel like them. Don't let their problem with how you look or dress become your problem. If you see nothing wrong with it just ignore them.

Get new friend pronto!!!!!

They are not your friends. A real friend sees you for who you are in your mind and heart. A true friend will uplift you not bring you down or belittle you.

1. Ditch the friends of yours that say all that. 2. Do everything you can to look as good as possible. 3. When your ditched friends want to be friends again - laugh in their face.

They are just jealous of you because you look good no matter what you have on & they don't look good no matter how expensive their stuff is & they know that it don't matter what you wear or how you look they will never look half as good as you! And if they say that about your clothes tell them the cheap look is in & for them to get with the program!!!! Then turn your nose up & walk away proudly!

You should love yourself better than to allow yourself to be continually demeaned. Find new friends.

Get new friends?

Try to get rid of them... Also, if you want, do things like stare at them and say, "you might want to try a different size next time," or, "that color makes you look green in the face".... etc.

when i was at school me and my "mates" would constantly diss each other. it became a habat to diss people. wasnt kewl. friends should lift you up and bring the best out of you. try talk to your friends about how you feel. or find someone who encourages you. id even try encouraging you friends you have now. you may influence them to encourage.

ignore them..they only say it because they know it bothers you..don't give them the satisfaction

A freind will tell you when your roots are showing and that maybe that outfit isn't quite right, but what these jerks are doing is not out of friendship. It's out of cruelty. It's time to find some real friends.

Ask them why they are saying such things. Tell them: "If you go through life saying stuff like that, nobody's going to like you, and then where are you going to be? Don't you realize it pushes people away from you?"

Wow, and you said they're your friends. with friends like them who needs enemies

Let me answer your question with a question! Why do you think that you deserve friends like these? Why would you ever allow anyone to put you down this way? Why would you not tell each of them to Sc@#w Off? I feel sorry for you, I see that your self esteem is so low that you have surrounded yourself with losers that can only feel good about them selve by putting you down. Please, look in the mirror and tell your self that you are none of the things that your friends say you are. every morning say something possitive. I feel that there are a 1,000 angels that surround you that try to make everything true that comes out of your mouth.

Well...it could be that you have very bad friends who don't want you in their circle or very good ones who are being very honest. I'll say that "constructive criticism" is very much practiced between me and my OWN friends, I am not sure about you and YOUR friends' ways. There are different ways of interacting between friends, depending on how deep/shallow you all see friendship etc etc. Do they do it to each other, too? Without knowing any further if I am to be honest, I can only help after seeying a few photos of you.

That is not friend behaviour. that is not even human behaviour. When they pick out a fault, you pick one back. If they say to not do that, then they're not friends. If they back off, you've just completed the first step towards taming them. they're using you as a doormat, and that's not your job, so tell them to get stuffed. Or, when they say "Glasses don't suit everyone," tell her "Good thing they don't look awful on ME!!" or "Yeah, I"m really glad you don't have them. You'd look so ugly, no offense." She should back off then.

You should not pick out something about them to "get them back". That is playing their silly, childish game. Just say, "thanks,...friend", and walk away. They are not your friend. You can do without them.

These are definitely not your friends based on the information you've given us thus far. I know that it's hard to find a new group of friends, but you should really consider it. If I went to your school, I'd offer you to come hang out with the people I hang out with and me. However, since I don't, I can't do this. :( I hope everything goes well! If they really hate your glasses and clothes so much, then they should buy you new ones -- otherwise, they don't hate them enough. They are most likely insecure and have nothing better to do. You're not the only one. Even I, myself, have been told things like "You need a makeover", "You need to wear makeup", "You need new clothes", "You need to dye your hair. Your hair looks too boring", and various comments like that. What did I do? I let these shallow people live their own life and slowly began to find the people who are not shallow, and now I am where I am today. I advise you to do the same. You'll be much happier that way!

Friends? Sounds more like a pack of wolves.

Speak to these people individually. Tell them that you know they are kidding around, but you don't find demeaning anyone funny (including you). Ask them to please keep this in-mind. Tell them you were going to get a coffee and if they would like one. You've said what's on your mind in a nice way and have shown you still value their friendship. :-)

Some positive criticism is ok....but in this case I would either a)tell them to F..k off b)Get some new friends.....and you feel the way you want to feel...don't let anyone put you down

don't listen to them. If you fell good about your glasses etc. then you obviously look alright. people are concious of what they look like and therefore are more harsh on themself.

Friends? i think you need to find real friends that love you for who you are and not make fun of you. but if you dont wanna drop them just tell them they're jelous. lol. =]

STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!!! When your so called "friends" say stuff like that to you tell them how it makes you feel / tell them where to go!!

People who are not kind to others have bigger internal problems.

well...redhawk thinks you need new friends....i just think you need new clothes....

These arent friends. Get new ones and leave them behind

okay first...they may be mean but are they tellin u the truth, maybe they are just lettin u know all this so that other people wont pick on u for the same things. maybe their tellin u to just redye ur hair so that people don't make fun of u, or they are doin it to be really mean n then u just need knew friends!

to tell you the truth a person that calls you their friends but bad mouths you on and in everything you do or the way you truthfully isnt a friend at all just pray for spirit of discernment in who your friends should really be. and God will direct your path for me i would say stop hanging with those ppl cause ppl that do that are truly deeply inside are insecure about theirselves

Um..your friends are saying this!!! Honey they do not sound much like friends. I may detest something that my friend may wear but hell it's not like I'm gonna blurt it out! Be yourself love...ya never no...they could be jealous of your trendy style and are trying to bring you down....girls can be like that...trust me I've been there.

i am going thru the same thing. he is one of my good friends and whenever we mess around its always about making fun of me. i think that if you dont respond and maybe just agree or ..just say anything back and they should drop it. or just pretend like you didn't hear them say it. just dont give them a reaction. hope that helped. good luck

Friends should encourage you. Not bring you down. Sounds like you need nice friends. Life is tough and kids can be mean. Sorry people can be so ugly. ;o)

should tell them I no your jelous but dont cry or thats your opinion sadly your opinion is wrong

Those are not friends. Friends respect you, support you, have fun WITH you not AT your expense.

these people are not ur friends darling, u sound lie me when i was young, but at the end of the day just remember everyone is differnt not everyone in the world likes everyone else, to the world ur just 1 person but 2 someone u are there world dont ever put ur self down, keep ur chin ur and keep smiling :-)

well i know that you may not want to hear this but they are not your real friends.real friends but may fun of you..

They aint really ur friends then tell tehm to fuck off maybe break a nose here and there:)

you realy cant do enything but you can probly pretend its a joke or find different friend

I have 2 words for ya "WHAT FRIENDS"????????????

Get new friends. REAL friends could care less unless they are asked - They accept you for who you are. If they are constantly criticizing you, they aren't friends at all.

Um. From the sounds of it, these arent your friends! get new ones, mingle a bit! and just remember that they are no better than you! but dont rise to their level...just ignore it, or talk to them about it if you do it back, you are just as big a bully as they are

Real friends don't say things to be mean. So....if they are hurting you on purpose, they are not your real friends. On the other hand,real friends tell the truth. If the glasses comment was meant to tell you that you could use some assistance next time you pick out new frames, say "Will you come with me and let's try on different frames so I can see which ones suit me best?" I'd say her comment could be interpreted as a constructive ctiticism. The hair comment..."OK...come with me to pick out a new colour" I'd say this could also be a constructive criticism. The clothes comment....if she said "your clothes look cheap"...I think that is just plain mean. If she meant your clothes may need ironing, or mending, or washing...OK, if it is the truth. Perhaps she was just clumsy in how she said it. When in doubt about the motive here's something to say..."Ouch...that hurt my feelings a bit...did you mean to?" You'll then get clarification - and they will get a lesson in manners or approach. Good luck!!

sounds like your friends suck. sorry hun but you shouldn't have to deal with rude remarks like that. and honestly if they treat only you like that, they might be in a sick twisted catty way trying to get you to leave. that's awful and i'm sorry, but you don't deserve to be made like you're inferior to anybody

These people are not your friends if they're dissing you like that. Get new ones. Ones that wont care what you look like or what brand clothes you wear. Those kind of people are lame and dont deserve friends. You need people that want to chill with you because they like your company!!! =]

The next time your "friends" say something like that, tell them at least you are pretty and while you might have a bad hair day, that can be fixed with a simple shower, no amount of scrubbing will ever wash away the ugly from them. Get your self new friends, I know that is a harsh thing to say, but some people only hang out with others so they can pick on someone and feel like a bigger stronger person. Friends aren't supposed to make you feel low and inferior, they are supposed to make you feel happy and equal. Find someone new, it won't ruin your life. Be happy, that is the most important thing.

i think you just skrewed upwards when you picked your freinds. i do that alot. Try finding a way to make them realize how important you are to them, so they wont want to jeapordize the freindship. that doesnt work for everyone, but it did me. one of my freinds wouldnt stop baraging me with insults. Besides you shouldnt be so concerned with what other people think. Its what you think about yourself that is the important thing, and you shouldnt base your judgements about yourself on other peoples judgements about you. know what im sayin?

trying to make themselves feel better

I realy dowt they are perfect eather. If we was all perfect in each others eyes than this world would not be as it is. The question should be do you think you a re ok being your self? If so than who cares what they think. You could coment to them when they speak of your close. Say that is a nice out fit you are wairing. I saw one just like it at the thift store did you buy it there.

ditch the bitch

dont let them get you down live life to the full remember every 60 seconds you spend upset is one minute of your life u will never get back. remember lifes to the short.

Perhaps they should use a little more tact.. But it seems as though they're just trying to give you advice so that you don't look stupid. Granted tehy're going about it the wrong way, but they may have good intentions.

Tell them on their face that some people dont worth looking at some thing thats Unique.

well first you need to get rid of that friend all she is doing is bringing you down and who cares if you have glasses i no alot of ppl that look so beautiful wearing seeing classes.she is probably jst jelious of you so she tries to get you to think or ugly and stuff and im sure your relly not so word of advice get rid of that friend cuz friends dont say mean stuff like that to freinds..

First off bo those girls arent yoiur friends f the constantly ragging on you they keep you around to push you around to make them feel better if i was you i would stand up for myself and find a way better crowd to hang out with its all about your back bone and how much stregth you have to and up for whats right unless you cant telll right from wrong

if i were you i would find new people to hang out with, immediately. these 'friends' sound awful. i know a girl who used to be in this situation, its not worth dealing with their comments just to hang out with them.

you think thier your friends...?

Well, you know you are worth far more than the petty things they say. You could turn the tables on them and like when one mentions your hair like that, kind of fling it back or fluff it and say "oh really?" and just smile,smile, smile. Will drive them nutz.

they aren't ur true friends then and (if ur a girl) they are normally jealous of u when they keep putting u down like that

have u ever told them that those words hurt u? do they do it to there other friends to? If you told them how it makes you feel but they still keep doing it DROP THEM!!! there not good friends if they do that..start talking to people u dont talk to on a normal day to day basis or depending on were you live and how populated it is try meeting new people and making new friends but dont put up with that kinda bull there not good friends if they beat u down like that

Tell them to shove it! That if they were your real friends they wouldnt put you down like that becuase some people actually care enough about there friends to respect their feelings.

Just be yourself, it doesn’t matter what they think. If they are your true friends then they wouldn't be saying mean stuff to you.

Its interetsing you call them "friends".

wtf, don't let them walk all over you. next time they say something like that say: "if you have a problem with the way i dress, or the way i look, maybe we just shouldn't be friends anymore." if they are your real friends then they would aplogize and come back to you. if they don't come back, it'll be hard i know. but meet new people. (:

Find some actual friends.

All i can say to that is get new friends don't be there personal insult bag.

there is only one reason why theyre saying this. they feel bad about themselves so when they say bad stuff about you it means they feel better. next time they say it just laugh it of, thats what they dont want

u need new friends, ones that will treat u kindly and make u feel better about urself instead of worse.

Friends?

i don't think that they're really your friends at all. real friends tell you the truth, but they tell you nicely, not harshly. I bet that you don't look as bad as they make you think you do. find some new friends who look at you and tell you the truth and not just something to make you feel bad. keep your chin up, you're no lower and inferiorer than you let yourself be. :)

I THOUGHT YOU SAID FRIENDS. I SUGGEST YOU FIND GOOD NEW FRIENDS AND DROP THESE. THEY SOUND MORE LIKE PEOPLE THAT ARE ONLY STUCK ON EACH OTHER AND DONT WANT ANY INTERFERANCE BY OTHERS, SO THEY TALK MEAN TO OTHERS LIKE YOU, SO GET OTHER FRIENDLIER FRIENDS TO SATISFY YOUR HAPPYNESS WHILE GROWING UP. HAVE A NICE DAY. MIKE

Just ignore them, find new friends, a true friend is someone that makes you feel good, we're all made equal, nobody's perfect

to be honest, never let what someone else thinks of you bother you, or you will just be running your life based around the thoughts of others and never be happy within yourself. people say things that are hurtful and stick in the mind like a bullet to the head, i get that, but it only hurts and sticks if you let it. a life run on the basis of someone else's approval will leave you burnt out an unhappy because you will constantly think ' what will such and such think about this and that ' pfft when ever my friends thought they would make a comment about my looks or clothes i would say ' who was asking? cause i sure as hell wasnt, and do you know why i didnt ask?' then they would say ' no why?' then i would say' because i dont give a rats ass what you think about me, you should be worrying about your own appearance'

Tell them to piss off

honestly these people are NOT your friends. if they were they wouldnt care what you wear on a daily basis or how you look. i think you should start stepping outside of your box and try a new club and make new friends. =]]

you kn ow what look you shoudnt care what ppl say i mean it you your life i mean i feel you i gone thru that so yea maybe their jealus about you i think i raher find new freiends who will love you and respect you

honey those people are not your friends, friends should makeyou feel good, not horrible no good roten,type of thing. I found that even though they're not popular, the best of friends are the people who have no friends. Go to school and while youre sitting down at lunch you'll see what i mean, introduce yourself to someone sitting alone. You'll find that in no time you have the friends that you have been wishing for all along. Keep that head up.

1. And some peoples eyes betray what they see. 2. I know it does..... I love it. 3. Thats because I am not a pretentious fucking asshole who thinks that clothes define who I am.... Now you can go make new friends.

I don't call those people your REAL friends! You ever think about finding new ones?!!!!!

I'm 13 and even I know that they are not your real friends. They only keep you around to make fun of. Do yourself a favor and get yourself some friends that will treat you wonderfully. =)