Very bad idea. Remember the old expression never eat where you defecate.

Don't shit where you eat. However, it probably would be fun... Never mind, she's probably the psycho bitch from hell. You might end up with rabbits and such boiling on the stove.

Ruin your marriage and screw up your job and possibly have her accuse you of sexual harassment and sue the company. Go for it, you know she wants it.

You would have to be a complete idiot to even consider that in this day and age. Perhaps in the 1960's you could have gotten away with it but not now. No way. If you need some strange then hook up with someone on craigslist or some other adult personals site that you don't know, NSA (no strings attached), use a phony name, prepaid cell phone, anonymous yahoo address, etc. so there are no loose ends and tell her (or him) NOTHING about yourself. You can't be too careful these days. Or do the right thing and get a divorce first.

I married my boss (we divorced after 11 yrs)I also have to say that I was suprised that at home he was not the "go to person" or the "powerful" person that I was so attracted to at work. A boss is sexy for a number of reasons. You represent authority. Her flirting and forward thinking, is that a reason to possibly open up a big can of the UNKNOWN? What women say and do can be different. She doesn't know how she will feel when you don't leave your wife-would she be bold enough to call your house? Would or could she emotionally blackmail you both personally and professionally? Be a leader to her, yourself and your wife. Behave until you decide if and when to end your marriage.

you know what the right thing to do is, but you are going to do what you want. so why ask?

Read the very first sentence of your question.....there is your answer!

morality aside you have to weigh your pros and cons...what do you have to gain? some hot freaky circus sex. So what do you have to lose if she does decide to tell or blackmail you or you get caught or something? You might lose your job, you house, your wife and to me that seems like a steep price to pay for a fling...especially at 42 starting over again could be a tough run. If she knows you are married and such she is willing to lie and sneak...that's not someone I would necessarily trust to keep something secret. you've heard the motto "don't shit where you eat" it's true.

You already know the right thing to do when you're thinking with the top head. Don't let her seduction get in the way of your career, marriage and ethics. You could tell her that if it were a different time and place that you two would have met that you would never hesitate with a relationship with her. Tough decision, but I'm sure you'll manage to do the right thing once you've evaluated the situation more closely.

you should stay faithful to your vows and not destroy your family. Why is this even a question to you?????

Straight up! DON'T DO IT!!!

Morality aside, she'll have huge leverage over you in many ways if you go through with it. She will have you by the balls.

Wow. It sounds tempting im sure but you will regret this very much,,,,how do u know shes not hiding anything or has more motives then just sex. i would be care ful, and stay truthful to your poor wife.

Go ask your wife. She'll tell you what you can do with it, the situaltion i mean.

So you trust her when she says "nobody needs to know"? Remember Fatal Attraction? A secret is hard to keep if 2 people know it. If this is a bona fide question- you already know what to do--and what NOT to do.

I hate to answer a question with a question. But, how would you feel is this sitaution was reversed and your wife was in your place?

Its a great idea if u dont love your wife. How would you feel if your fling goes sour and your wife finds out. How would u feel if she did it to you? Sounds like you were better off single. I guess she made a bad choice to marry you. She needs a real man who will be there for her and i guess its not you. I hope she finds out the truth

Don't do it! Your already married to your wife and you both made commitments to each other. I say turn her down!!!

Enjoy the ego boost.

Turn and walk away, while you still can. Just my point of view tho.

Look the payoff NOW may be great, and if she's right, and no one needs to know, you might enjoy it. However you will have broken the promise upon which your marriage may be based. . If, on the other hand, your wife permissive to the concept, then might I recommend investigating the possible professional and legal complications that could arise should things go south. . What it comes down to is this: 1) Does the commitment that you have with your wife allow this affair, and if so do you value that commitment? 2) Do you know this sexy new girl well enough that you would be willing to place your marriage, your career, and your financial stability in her hands? If you do this thing, you will be giving a great deal of leverage and handing over a significant portion of control over your life to somone who wants to get you to do something inherently dishonest. Something a smart business manager might not want to do. . If your wife would not approve, then you would be violating the terms of your commitment to her. When you get married you stop being self-interested and start being interested in forwarding the marriage. Your interests merge. If you do something that is for the sole enefit of one of you, to the detriment of the other without that persons express consent then you have destroyed the pact that you made. If that doesn't bother you, then you need to let your wife know that things aren't working, and be prepared to suffer the consequences of your breach of contractual obligations (i.e. guilt and ALIMONY)...and hope in the end it was all worth it. Hell, maybe it will be. But I can tell you as someone who has cheated, and someone who has been cheated on (girlfriends, though, not spouses, but very serious relationships nonetheless) it hurts. It hurts to know you did it to someone who trusts you, and if it is done TO you, well, NOTHING can make you feel quite that completely useless and totally without value as a human being than that. When I experienced that feeling I vowed that I would never do anything to cause someone else to ever feel that way because I have never felt so terrible in my life. This is how your wife will likely feel. I can tell you though that flirting with another woman can invigorate things at home. Flirting is ok. FLirting is not cheating, and it helps you continue to feel sexy after the fire of a marriage has dimmed a little bit. That feeling might help satisfy you at home. Consider your moral obligations to other people before you consider your fleeting fancies. Good luck with this one.

I want you to turn off this computer this second and go boink your wife's brains out. Feel flattered "you still got it" but don't compromise your job or your marriage for a piece of ass. Most women who mess with married men will "never tell".....until it is to their advantage to do so or they feel jilted enough. Don't be a schmuck. Your wife is a big part of where you are now and i am sure she did not put up with you so that you can jump in the sack with the first office slut to throw herself at you.

I laready answered this...but then I looked through the OTHER answers. Only ONE out od TWEBTY-TWO responses said to do it...and it was a smart-assed reply, so really it was a "no" also. . Does that mean that Answerbag is the new moral majority?

Ignore her. Think of your wife, your family, your job FIRST. Lust is always exciting and pleasurable, but it is also very temporary and destructive. Don't see the "here and now" -----see the future-----and think about how "one night of pleasure" can ruin the rest of your life, and rob you a lifetime of better, potential pleasures in the future. It is not worth it, man.

Your wife could find out at some point in some way. Its probably not worth the risk. You could explain that to her.

You answered your own question with your first sentence. "I am a married man." That's all there is to it, the answer's no.

you obviously want to do it, seeing as you need our help to decide. But it's on you, my friend

Before you do anything,you'll need to get a signed permission slip from your wife.

ok heres the deal. Dont do it. NEVER get involved with anyone from work. If things go bad with this woman, she may start flapping her lips about intimate moments with you. If she has friends at work she will tell them. Trust me on this. Word will get around that you are sleeping with this woman and your credibility as a manager goes out the window. people lose respect for you. When word gets around (and it ALWAYS gets around) one of you will have to quit. You have to ask yourself, is this woman worth giving up everything for. Think about your wife man. Would you want her doing that to you? Would you want her bringing home some std and passing it on to you? How would that make you feel? Dont be an idiot. Smarten up. Talk to your wife. Communicate.

Marital infidelity is something that does not only destroy a marriage, but it also destroys the life of the spouse committing the infidelity. The whole thing would seem enticing, but that short-term enjoyment would have lasting consequences. Amongst the ten commandments we are asked NOT TO COMMIT ADULTERY. You can end all this by severing all your ties with this lady. The Bible says that, if you know that your hands would lead you to sin, cut it off, so cut of every link with this lady before she destroys your marriage. If you keep on being friends with her, she'll succeed in seducing you. STAY BLESSED!!

haha u aint gonna be the manager for much longer if you go down that route but who cares GO FOR GLORY

Be faithful to your wife. Would you want her to do the same thing? If no then be a loyal husband!

Go ahead, man, shag her while you have the chance. When your wife finds out and leaves you, you can always come back here crying and telling everybody how you screwed up and want her back and blah blah blah...It's nothing we don't hear at least 25 times a day and we're used to it by now

Husband wakes up with a huge hangover after attending his Company's Christmas Party. He didn't even remember how he got home from the party. As bad as he was feeling, he wondered if he did something wrong. He had to force himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he saw were a couple of aspirins next to a glass of water on the side table. And, next to them, a single red rose! He sits up and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed. He looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order, spotlessly clean. So is the rest of the house. He takes the aspirins, cringes when he sees a huge black eye staring back at him in the bathroom mirror. Then he notices a note hanging on the corner of the mirror written in red with little hearts on it and a kiss mark from his wife in lipstick: 'Honey, breakfast is on the stove, I left early to get groceries to make you your favorite dinner tonight. I love you, Darling! Love, love, love...’ He stumbles to the kitchen and sure enough, there is hot breakfast, steaming hot coffee and the morning newspaper. His son is also at the table, eating. Dad asks: 'Son... what happened last night?' 'Well, you came home after 3 AM drunk and out of your mind. You fell over the coffee table and broke it, and then you puked in the hallway, and got that black eye when you ran into the door.' 'Confused, he asked his son, 'So, why is everything in such perfect order and so clean? I have a rose, and breakfast is on the table waiting for me?' His son replies, 'Oh THAT!.. Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when she tried to take your pants off, you screamed, 'Leave me alone bitch, I'm married!' Broken Coffee Table $239.99 Hot Breakfast $ 4.20 Two Aspirin $ .38 Fidelity ABSOLUTELY PRICELESS!! Did I answer your question?

Wow! How many time have we heard that story "Nobody Needs to Know!" Leave it alone. This is nothing but TROUBLE.

Oh come on!! If you look up stupid thing to do in the dictinary that exact scenario is there. Be a man, grow up and forget about the silly girl and remember your WIFE!! (And when the co-worker says nobody needs to know, it means someone may ALREADY know... beware!)

Two things my father taught me... Don't dip your pen in the company ink. Don't shit in your own backyard.

keep your dignity - shes probably a bit of a 'slapper' you wont be the first or the last she propositions, dont make more problems in your life!

are you willing to risk losing everything you have? if the answer is YES then by all means go ahead. on the other hand if you really just want to and have to scratch an itch, there are other ways to do it at a lesser risk. is it really worth any risk?

I don't believe for a second that you are 42.

Are you attractive? If you so so it sound like a set up to me

My Son was born 2 days after Christmas. That month BELONGS to him.

I would say avoid it, it could bring a lot of problems.

Will you let your wife have sex with someone else? I hope the answer is Not "YES"

dont mix work with affairs it might ruin ur relationship and your job..

Is it really worth it? A minute of pleasure for what could be the rest of your life in agony?

Trust me most of her friends already know. Hooking up at work doesn't end very preety. Good Luck with that.

RUN, do not walk, to the nearest exit. You are headed for disaster!

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD (and bun cake mummmmm)DONT DO IT YOU WILL GET CAUGHT AND YOU WILL BE SCREWED.i have seen this 3 times in 12 years at my current company.it never works EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!

sounds like shes trying to have sex with you so she can use it against you later. dont do it.

if she's really hot and even hotter than your wife ITS WORTH IT! :)

if i were you i wouln't!!!! cheating is bad let alone on your own wife!!!! if you do you be digging yourself in a huge hole and it wouldn't be easy to get out of.

If you say you are married, you should look into your commitment in marriage. If you say you are a manager, you should look into how much you care for your reputation and your overall image. Most of all, you should look into who the kind of person you are. Most of the mistakes start with one (even one) wrong decision which most people would even think to be as fun. Remember, you are your decision.

But you will know...is it something you can lay your head on the pillow with every night? Are the potential consequences worth it if someone should find out? If you are her boss, she could be setting you up...this is not something you would want upper management to find out about...talk about professional suicide. If you are married, what would this do to your marriage? What kind of relationship do you have with your doctor...will you be embarassed if s/he has to treat you for an STD? I just can't see anything good coming from it.

You're asking because there's huge temptation there. If simply being married isn't reason enough to keep your pants zipped, then think about how long it took you to get to a 'manager' position and the pay check because that will all be gone as soon as you piss Miss 32 off! Oh! The marriage too!

DON'T!!!! ITS GONNA RUIN THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!

no your gonna get your a$$ sued

Get ready to loose everything

What do you suppose Monica said to Bill?

Knock yourself out. Just remember the s**t storm that's going to follow if you do decide to dable in the pus**y.

If you are a "manager" of a company, one would hope that you are professional enough to know that this is a bad idea! You should be setting an example for your employees, not acting like a teenager when a woman "flirts" with you. Remember, YOU will know what you did and have to live with yourself after this is over!

If you really didn't want to do it, I highly doubt that you would've posted this question. That being said, you need to make the decision to tell your spouse so that she can make the informed choice of whether or not she wants to stay married to you. It is more liberating to proceed without the 'guilt factor'.

It's more than a month later dude, I hope you dismissed this horrible suggestion from the 32 year old home-wrecker at your job. If you want sex, go home and have it with your loving wife.

It's a wonder that a question like this gathers so many points and hangs around so long. Guess its because of folks like me who want to get our 2 cents worth of opinion. How could a person of authority in a company even be considering such an idea? Thinking with his crotch rather than with his head, er, maybe I should say brain. Get ready to say goodbuy to your job, your wife, your family and your life as you know it.

Marylin Monroe once said, 'Men only having enough blood to run one head at a time?' ..well thats what this sounds like to me ...dont do it..people will just get hurt :O)

She's just using you to work her way up the ladder!

do it fool

I can't tell you what to do. It's up to you. I wouldn't do it. For one thing it's wrong. Marriage is to honor and respect. Plus it's adultry. But it's up to you.

If you value your marriage and your career I would suggest staying away from her.

I suppose you can always fire her. Because you know having an affair isn't even an option

Are you crazy? You already know what you should do and what you will do.

YOU ARE MARRIED!!! WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD DO? OR MAYBE YOU WANT TO GIVE YOUR WIFE AN STD!

Yeah sure!! no one will know..ha ha..famous last words. Everyone will know, your wife will also. Not to mention the legal position you would put yourself and your company into.

You opening your self up for a sexaul harrassment law suit and divorce. Use your judgement for the Love of God.

you're married. enough said!

So..."Eve" is offering up the "forbidden fruit" again--is she? Don't let history repeat itself!!!

I don't understand how you can be a Manager and not know the answer to this question and the consequences.

NO, stop doing the mind game,unless you want to feel the guilt that it WILL bring,,the woman just isn't worth it,,No way,don't do it!! *as this is an older question I wonder if this guy has resolved this yet.

What you should do is this: Put your hands on your desk. Right now. Ok, now look downward from your monitor. Now turn your head slightly to the left. See that shiny circular thing on your hand? It symbolizes vows that you made to your wife. One of those vows was probably to "forsake all others" until you die. As for the "nobody needs to know" part... well, YOU'LL know. And actually, your wife probably "needs to know" if you cheat on her.

its a scam. you will have sex and someone else will be taking pictures. you will have to pay big bucks for the digital negatives or lose your wife and your business. tell the girl to find another father figuire.

Lets see, your married, and your her co-worker, I will make this easy nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!! I think you already new the answer to that, and you were hoping for someone to just say yes, but you know the right thing to do. How do you think that would make your wife feel? I used to wonder why divorce rate was every one out of two people will get divorced. It is because people like you don't think of the consequences, they just think that cheating on your spouse is no big deal and just for fun. I think it is so selfish to cheat. You are getting your thrill not caring about the person you promised to be with for the rest of your life. It is just sad.

You should RUN not walk but RUN away from your "sexy flirting coworker". Things are NEVER what they seem. While it's all "fun" right now, there will be a price and someone (you, your wife, whoever) will likely pay it. I've seen TOO many "just fun" situations end up badly. I have NEVER seen an affair end up without someone hurt-period. The closest I have seen is where the person having the affair didn't tell his spouse and how that ends up is really yet to be seen. Don't fall for it-run the other way!

Jerk off it will be cheaper in the long run ...former CEO

Think of only two words: Sexual Harassment! And this is where it all begins. The ending will likely NOT be a happy or inexpensive one for you! Two other words also come to mind: Blue Dress!

She says nobody needs to know...so why not go for it?? Oh, make sure you don't forget to tell her around 783,000 or so AB members already know about this soiree, but don't worry, we won't tell.

Your mid life crisis will ruin your marrage and maybe make you loose your job. It is very flattering to have some young woman hit on you but you need to look at what you can loose for it. Think long and hard how important your wife and your job are to you before you leap.

You should be faithful to your wife and at age 42 you should know that everyone will find out.

Do not walk away ... RUN!

She wants your job. It's called sexual harassment. She also wants half of the divorce money you're gonna get.

Your first few lines said it,, you are a married man ,, how terrible to even think of being unfaithful to your wife how would you feel if your wife was unfaithful ,, live up to being a decent husband .

1. You can go have sex with her and watch not only how much you age over the next few months but your company will go down the tubes when she starts demamding more of you. 2. You can acknowledge that she wants to have sex with you and tell the home wrecker to more into the line of woman who just aint as great as my wife! . Your choice

Nobody will know about it UNLESS (for whatever reason) she gets mad at you and decides to teach you a lesson. Then EVERYBODY will know about it. Can you afford the risk?

2 things here.1)you married so its not cool,dont do it(fairs fair)2)having an affair at work turns bad most of the time,co-workers and you as a manager will loose the respect of staff and they do get to know believe me and its allways over your head.so all yopu should do is feel good about the interest shown but stand strong...like a man,all the best

Tell her your wife gives you a boner and sluts make it go very soft and to take a hike and spread the V.D. somewhere else. That's slut talk and they understand that in plain English.

<slapping forehead in disbelief of question>

Do you love your job, wife, family. You better think about it because you could lose it all. All you have to do is piss off the the lady and it could all be over...+