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  • I am a Virgo female, and my ex hubby is also a Virgo. I could not make him do anything, he had a mind of his own. I do know that communcation is the key to keeping a Virgo's attention.
  • Every Virgo I know (including my son, my boss, my co-workers, and my friends) need time to themselves in order to replenish their energies. Then, they will return fully refreshed and ready to take on the world again. It is in their nature.
  • You don't. The one to whom the relationship means least dictates the rules of the relationship. It sounds like you give and he takes. That's the way he likes it, and he's not going to change, possibly because there's another female on the string with the same attitude.
  • I have had three relationships with a Virgo man and I am currently in a relationship with one now and from my experience if he was calling you everyday for 6 months and then all of a sudden he kind of strayed away, I would say that something was done or said to him that made him kind of back off of you. They are men that are very big on trust and if he feels as though he cannot trust you then he will surely lose interest. It takes a very patient, loyal and trustworthy woman to put up with a virgo man. Just try to find out if there was something you said that did not rub him the right way.
  • its not about his star sign its just the fact that he;s a typical self obsessed man, once u stopped feedin him the attention he wanted he strayed off, probaly to some other woman who gave him what he wanted, id advise that you find someone whos genuine and doesnt bore easy of you, the day you ask urself questions like this is the day you kno, its not worth it. ur a woman, be treated like one, dont treat them the way you wish to be treated.
  • Well girl on this one I don't even know what to tell you I am going through the same thing right now as I write this. Everything is on his terms now and it totally sucks. We had been in a relationship for almost four years, they don't change, they just need their space.
  • he is building up his trust with you again. He didn't know what you were doing while he was gone so he is taking the time to observe you. With Virgos you are always under the microscope. He wants to make sure you are that perfect being that he once viewed you as. I was married to a Virgo for 12 years, I am a taurus. I did something in our marriage to make him view me in an ill way, so we divorced, but since he is having a difficult time finding that perfect person he is slowly warming back up to me again. He now wants to "talk about what went wrong" after 2 years of divorce. I am up for it though because Virgos are great with Taurus, and we had a great marriage until he felt his security was tampered with.
  • I wish some one could give me the answer too my virgo called me every morning and we would text during the day...now nothing he won't even return my calls or my text messages I really thought he cared about me it was like a switch one day really concerned and the next nothing help what do I do? I am afraid to keep contacting him because I have no idea what I did
  • im a virgo. and he will never think about you again in my opinion, that is, until he has a random thought or feeling of you. then its a cointoss. he will either get into something stupid like beating a videogame for the day or he will spend the rest of the day thinking about you souly. if his brain impulses too much he will lighten the load by sending you texts. "remember..." "i miss..." all this he means in a good way even if it seems vindictive and selfish. he just has too much inside himself over you to dedicate the day to you(even though he wants to) he will either say he cannot live without you or he cannot live with you, to him it is the same feeling.
  • Virgo Males are quiet, and seem very secret. They are analytical thinkers and Logic is their God. However, if you suspect this Male may have a love from the past no matter how old if he is truly in love with her he will be loyal no matter what. Im a Libra Female a very bad match for a Male Virgo and when I didnt hear from the one I was involved with it was because he was going back to his ex. Even though I now carry his child he still finds it ncessary to stay with her out of loyalty and love for her. I found one of the best bets is to think like him. He is analytical so ask him what is going on. His logic should rationalize the truth for you. If not, he is not worthy of your affections. Good luck dealing with a Virgo Male, that was the worst match for me. By the way, the girl he went back to was a Scorpio, and though I hear that is not the best match for a Virgo they seem to make it work, so good luck to you.
  • I am also in the same boat. I have been talking to a virgo male since April about a date and as yet it hasn't happened. He starts really full on texting all day non stop then as soon as it's the day of the would be date he backs off, takes a few days to cool off and starts the process all over again. I thought it was me and then thought it's him with the problem and I only found out today he's a virgo and that it seems the norm for them. I have to work with the bloke to and that's just about stopped me from stringing him up - but now I understand this is just how he is and will have to like it or lump it!
  • Do you know if he is married? That might be why he will only talk to you on his terms
  • I had realtionship with Virgo man and ended in few month.Fisrt he showed all the intrested and intested love for me and there isn't any BUT and IF and will make thinks work,as I told him when we meet things doent look good we need to tell each other about our feeling.Being a Muslim he slept with me on the very fisrt night and said He loved me,but right after he lef kinda start ignoring me.Which got me aggreivated and My gulity feeling forced me to say that he needed to control himself and I am not sure if I can talk to him and would not like to meet him again.As he lives in Texas ad I am in Ohio.He didn't say anything,but pulled himself away,and starting ignoring me more.he stop telling me things and I start conforting him that he is lieing. Last conversation he was like If I am pregnant or not ? I said NO,right after that he total ignored me.next day I called him he never attended my call and when I call him from private no: he answered, I got so mad confronted him again and he HungUp on me. Since then he never called me AND I did all my best to get this relation going onebut no response from him side.I am in love with him so bad I cry all the time. I think I should let him drift away and hoping I can go on with me life,but I need him so bad at the same time :(
  • I would say Virgo man are the hardest to deal with, first of all they keep there options open, 2nd once you cross them with something they dont like they will fall back and take there time, 3rd everything is on there terms, 4th if they are keeping there distance no matter what they have other issues that they will not dicuss. so it either you can deal with it or eventually time will time and you'll move on and find someone who appriecate you, and trust if that virgo man really love you he will miss out something that was good, you know the motto you'll will never know what you have untill its gone......
  • Thanks Resha2m for your response. Well,its been 5 months and no call or show.. he is gone for sure :) I am trying to forget everthing,but my older sister is girlfreind of his younger bro... lol So,If I want or try to let him go...its so impossible for me but I am trying ..but its hurst so much when someone leaves one is darkness.. anyways..Thanks a lot...But he does talk to my sister all the time.
  • Oooh, Virgo men are tough nuts to crack. They're very sensitive people, but they're also quite stoic, not wanting to show their emotions. IME, they're very resistant to staying in touch. They will come to you when they want you, and aren't particularly friendly when you approach them. I know this might not be the answer you want to hear, but sometimes it's best to just leave someone like that alone. If you can't get him to talk to you as a friend, he won't make a reliable boyfriend if you ever reach the dating stage. If I were you, I'd avoid men with this sign and look for someone with a more fun-loving sign, such as a Leo or Gemini.
  • I hope i speak for all virgo dudes when i say this: When we fall in love or really like someone alot we actually avoid them because we actually fear of losing them. But sometmies we may avoid them for too long and end up losing them forever. Its hard being a virgo man because we mthink of all the possible negatives and nether think to ourselves to let you know how we feel r whats going on in our minds. SO best tips for you isto help us by saying if theres anything on your mind or worrying please tell me i want to know no matter how silly you think it may be you have to tell me - that works and you'll be happy and he's be happier :D
  • Wow, all of these stories sound SO similar to what i'm going through. I've been dating this virgo male for about a month...and the first week was great, he called me every day - took me out on dates, introduced me to his uncle...the works. We started getting very physical, but it was all about me...he just wanted to pleasure me. Week two, he texted me every day, but never asked me to hang out. By Friday, he called me twice and wanted to hang out the next night. So we spent valentines day together and it was amazing...we have this natural passion. It's really hard for me because I rarely fall for guys, i'm extremely picky and this guy is like the male version of me, it's crazy. After that night, he called/ texted me all week, but blew me off a few times. Asked me to hang out, told me to call...when i would, he wouldn't answer. All of this chasing makes me want him even more! Then he doesn't talk to me for a SOLID week...until my birthday comes around and i get a happy birthday text from him at like 9 am. I didn't respond, and he ended up contacting me 2 days later. He talked to me the last 3 days...but hasn't called me all weekend. I called tonight and he hasn't called back. My friends tell me to drop him but it sucks because i'm really falling for him, and i don't want it to stop. Is he into me at all?
  • In my situation, I too was dating a virgo. we started dating in sept,of 07. we just broke up a week before this valentines day, because he thinks I cheated on him with his friend just because I went over his friend house to watch a movie with him. I know I put myself in a bad position by doing that.I also know that he doesn't trust me because I've cheated before,but we broke up for that and got back together and I told him I would never hurt him again, since then I haven't done anything to hurt him, now were seperated and I miss him.what do you think I can do to get him back without getting hurt or embarrassing myself?
  • If he is only considering himself and not you, My dear I would say why bother.
  • start dating and just make him a part of your list. make him the first one to stand-up, they love the chase just like any other man once he catches you be sure to remain not to aloof but not to available. If that works for you and him you will have fun keeping him on his toes. If he isn't as interested as he pretends than you have already begun the process of seeing others. the key is mystery+other interest=either keeps those meant or makes it easier to move pass those who are not. I am a taurus female.
  • Hello all! I am a 29 year old Scorpio having a hard time with a Virgo man. I have been in love with him ever since I first met him when I was a kid. We grew up in the same neighborhood, went to the same school, everything. I was shy and didn't decide to approach him until I was 18 yrs old. When I did he asked me out on a date and he seemed interested in me then the phone tag started. He would tell me to call him but wouldn't answer, always busy, etc. Finally, I got tire of playing his games and left him a lone but a few months later I decided to give him a call out of the blue and he was happy to hear from me. After that we talked for almost a year and finally became initimate, things seemed cool but again he became harder to reach so I left him alone again. Only to find myself contacting him out of the blue again and he was happy to hear from me. At that time I moved and he started to come around unexpected, calling and paging me more then again we grew apart, he was incarcerated a year later. I became furious because I thought we were really getting somewhere and I wrote him a long letter telling him how in love with him I was and how I missed him, blah blah. Anyway now it's been 8 yrs and we came in contact again and even though now I have a child by someone else I still over the yrs find myself always thinking about him. No one has ever measured up to him and I wonder if we are really suppose to be together. I have never told him how I felt to his face so I don't know if this is my final chance to just spill my guts and let him know that it's either a serious relationship or nothing at all! Please help!!!
  • Sorry guys. I posted this the wrong way. This is my first time on Answerbag. But I really need help, and am looking for real, true, honest answers. Thanks!
  • Do the right and effective strategy.. NC - NO CONTACT see the wonders of it...
  • ok so im a virgo girl and i was dating a virgo man, and like 3 weeks ago he broke up with me, i miss him soo much. We still have contact as a matter of fact he still tell me that his feelings for me haven't changed,and when we are together he acts like we are still together, but man he is so confusing and dificult to figure out. I've been trying to give him a lot of space, cause i've notice when i do that he usually comes aroundhe says he likes me alot and he cares a lot for me, but at the same time he seems so distant i'm really having a hard time with the break up, and I really want him back but i'm not sure how to do that, i'm always there when he needs me, as a matter of fact we are like best friends. I really need some help here i want to know if I'm doing the right thing.
  • okay i have a crush on this guy and he's a virgo. he stares at me and at times avoids me. he told me before that he used to have a huge crush on me but i found out he had a girlfriend and stopped talking to him. one day he would act like im not there and make comments about girls to make me jealous but i dont show him any emotion(im a taurus) when i hear it and he stops. when he ask me for something, i dont know, i automatically turn on my charm without thinking and give him a little flirtacious smile and help him out and then i realize what i did and avoid him. ima flirt naturally tehehehe but yea he makes little comments to his friends about how attractive i am and stuff all the time, and i like him ALOT but i dont want to chase him off or get hurt....soooo with this virgo im kinda in a rut...i have a lot of other guys to talk to but he's sooo interesting to me and has an amazing sense of humor that makes me melt. at times i feel really irritated by him not making the move again but then i feel like i should probably initiate but im shy and used to guys coming to me! i feel like im just like you...i need advice,seriously!
  • this is my first relationshi[ with a virgo male although i am a virgo female...i was married for 22 years to an aquarius..it was great until he had a meltdown 20 years in...a year after being divorced and a weak attempt at accepting dates..i met my virgo while on vacation in costa rica...we had an instant attraction..our energy level was right on even though i am 15 years older...he was shocked,,but asked after meeting my 18 year old son....he is 34 and has a 4 year old son but never married..he is a great father and has his son every night....we got physical too early..thinking it was a fling...but me being a virgo doesn't do casual very well...i gave him my # and didn't want his...he called @ 5 days later..we talked and e-mailed..eventully 2 months later, i went back for another week with my son again and his friend...my virgo was a little distant..didn't want to disrespect me or my son ...but we did get physical again and began to discuss doing a business together..all seemed fine and the next thing..he gets ENGAGED!!! i was crushed...tried to call him and he didn't pick up...after 10 days, i felt that NO ONE was going to give me closure but ME,,,so i e-mailed him a very warm congrats and no regrets..just love and gratitude..hoped he felt the same..."best of luck with your new journey"* 2 weeks later...he e-mails...frantic...why he doesn't understand why he hasn't heard from me? Says he never was engaged...that it was a joke on facebook...so, i gave him the second chance..didn't make big of it...went back and this time..no physical...we stayed away from that for 3 more visits...eventually he and his son moved into my condo that i rented for the year..i thought it would be a win/win and it is...we are opening up a lodge together on his lot and my funding...both seem satisfied...the last time in, we made love before i left..i knocked on his door to show him a full rainbow that morning, when he came out, i kissed him..we couldn't stop there..so..he calls and wants me to know he respects me..seems to be an issue with him and i am planning on spending 3 weeks there over the holidays with both families blending..i think the key with this guy is patience.. and also i detached from the emotion of it all...who cares when he calls...as long as it is all ok...how much can we say over the phone anyway..alone we are non stop talkers..he knows that i trust him and respect him as well...i think he is truely special...warm and kind..just likes to be alone and not bothered...i am the same...it's all good...we could move mountains together..i am not looking to ever marry again...just like having him around...i think hew feels the same..we both love our freedom..sounds casual but it's not....no labels..but i am always reading up on virgo guys because knowledge is power...know what you are getting into...i think it's worht it for now...we'll see..
  • i think you should let him have his space and not do anything..be there when he needs you and let him know you are always willing to help..but dont smother him
  • Sorry honey he wants you to do everything on his terms. That means he owns and controls what you do. Don't you dare not on those terms. As the saying goes you need this guy like you need a another father. Why in the hell do you want this guy in your life? and don't tell me you love to be dominated. If you can't see the red flag you don't need answers you need a shrink.

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