My husband walked out on me and our 5 year old twins for another woman and her kid. What are the chances it will last? They say that most men don't leave their families for the other woman. Guess my husband isn't "most men". We had no problems.
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That is a very sad story. the last sentence just left me shaking my head. I think a husband walking out on his family does sound like a problem. Get yourself a lawyer right away to protect the rights of your children and yourself. You are going to need it, even if he should come back. I have to ask myself why you would want him after this, but that's not the point here.
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Time to play nasty rince sorry, but you/he DID have problems, you must have done or he would still be with you. You need to find out what they were, face them togeather and try to fix them. Not what you wanted to hear, but the only way. Good luck :-)
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By statistics, a first marriage has a 50/50 chance of survival, and diminishes with each marriage thereafter (if it so happens). The odds are even greater against them it the marriage is born from an affair (a man or woman leaving their partner and/or family for the one they're cheating with). Sometimes, it does work out, as much as the ones who've been left would like to see their ex partners fail and regret their decision to take off. As an example, my father left my mother after 15 years of marriage for someone younger, and she was his mistress for a number of years. They have a child together and are still married. See? Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. It's a crapshoot really. I am so sorry to hear about your situation, but at the same time, he must not be much of a man to walk out on you and your children without trying to make things work. I hope things get better for you : )
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Honestly, I can't look into a magic crystal and tell you how long this relationship will last, but I can tell you that chances are it won't last long and will end because of one of the cheating on the other. If you had no problems within the relationship then he wouldn't have strayed. I am NOT saying that it is your fault he cheated, far from it. It was completely his decision to stray rather then try to let you know what was up. But there were problems, you just didn't know they were there.
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Same thing happen to me about 2yrs ago. I went on with my life and totally ignored him and only talked to him when it concerned our son (it was very hard). About 3 months went by and he came back crawling and begging. I took him back after i made him beg for about a month and now we are just fine. But, i still think about it from time to time and it's going to be really hard to trust him again.
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We did not have any problems, the problem was he found another woman, just like he did to his first wife. He walked out on her when his oldest kids were 2 and 4. I am the second wife. We never argued, fought, name called, we were very intimate over Christmas, and he told me how I meant everything to him. So you tell me where the problem was?? Still even if we did have problems it does not give him the right to have an affair and walk out on me and the kids.
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Gingermix, I didnt know the truth about his first marriage until a week after he walked out on me. There is alot I didn't know or was lied to about.
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That's a louzy thing to do and i'm so sorry you and your little ones had to suffer for his irresponsible and inconsiderate behavior. I imagine he'll walk out on his next partner as soon as he fathers her children too. I know of a man who gets married or gets a new partner and leaves when their second child is just a couple of months old. Sick shit in my opinion. He has about 9 children now and in spite of managing a very well known franchise and earning a good income...he does not support any of them. Beats me how he manages to avoid paying child support, but he does. In any case, I wish you and your little ones all the best (((hugs)))
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Oh, you had problems all right. Starting with you got involved with a cheat who left his first wife and children and then lied about it. Guys who leave one wife will leave all the ones after. The second is that in all this time you never had a conflict. That's just not normal for couples not to fight at least once in awhile. That right there is a sign of a big problem. Add in his cheating and you had issues you never even knew about. All you can do now is get yourself a good lawyer and divource him as well as get counciling to deal with it all. I give the new relationship about six months. Going by his partern being a husband and a father sends him packing lickity split.
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