Hello im 33 weeks pregnant with my first baby and im so confused my babys daddy who hasnt been with me since i got pregnant wants the baby to have his last name and if he doesnt he said that if i lost hope in us being together now to defenite
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Stop kidding yourself. This guy's a loser. If you have any sense, you'd not want him near any child of yours. And do yourself and the baby a huge favour and please go back to school.
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so he helped you get pregnant, has not been around for almost the whole pregnancy, and now he wants to take credit by taking his last name? does he have any redeeming qualities that would make him a good dad? if he is making a threat now do you think it will work out any better in the long run? you've been strong enough this whole time by yourself. ny cousin raised 2 kids on her own and is doing a great job, much like you would im sure. If he is making the threat that the kid has to be named after him or its over he doesn't probably care much about you as a person and may even think of you as an incubator
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Boy does HE sound like a winner! You (and the baby) will be better off without him. Dump the punk!
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:( That sounds like a terrible situation. I think that he is not worth your love, and you shouldn't give in and the baby his last name when he's hardly been there for you during the pregnancy. Save all the love you have for the baby. You owe him nothing. In fact, he ought to owe you -- child support!
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I know that it may seem to you that the ideal situation is for a child to have both mother and father in their immediate life. However I think this is completley untrue. To me both parents have to be happy for it to have any good impact on a childs upbringing. It is clear to me that this guy is very selfish and does not want to be with you as a family unit only to have someone to carry his name. Your obviously confused and emaotional at such an important time but do yourself a favour and keep this person out of your life. He could do no good and has already proved that he is not willing to love and support you unconditionally. Stay strong and once your baby is in your arms you will know you and your child are the only thing that matters. There is no love greater than that a mother feels for her children you don't need someone that doesn't care. Good luck!
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GIRL PLEASE...HE IS CLEARLY A LIL BOY...AND THINKS IF THE BABY HAS HIS LAST NAME HE WILL FEEL LIKE A MAN...JUST TO GO AROUND AND SAY THAT'S MY CHILD...IF HE WASN'T THERE FROM THE BEGINNING THEN HE'S NOT GOING TO CHANGE..AND THEN HE THREATENS YOU!!!!TELL HIM TO GO FIND SOMEONE TO PLAY WITH!!!!BECAUSE YOU DON'T PLAY WITH KIDS...BESIDES IF YOU WANTED TO,YOU COULD PLAY WITH YOUR OWN!!!!
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Tell the so called baby daddy to stick it where the sun don't shine. He is nothing more than irresponsible self centered egotistic sperm donor that does not deserve anything but a court order for child support. Why if not physically damage the baby but add to its problems by naming it after an A#$&*^e. Who would want to be togather with a punk loser whose brains are evidently in his genatalia and not too much there either. mr Bill
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Well I can tell you than when I was pregnant with my son I was going give him his fathers name no matter what... to me it is part of who that baby is!!! And if the father had nothing more to do with that child than a last name the thats fine!!! But you need to think about what you want!!! Dont do it because of what the father is saying to you.... you do it because it is what you want!!!!
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i agree with most on here that he's a loser and you should not give your child his last name, but my opinion is a legal one. if you do decide to give your child it's father's last name, and if things don't work out for you two, you cannot just get the child's lst name changed, first of all it is not free and takes time. and then he can refuse the name change. it is not easy. from experience, give your hcild your last name and if for some reason you marry this guy your child will get his last name. if not then at least you and your child will share the same last name and you won't have to deal with may legal complications.
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Yeah, If you are 33 weeks, and he has not been around since you got pregnant, then he is not planning on be with you anyway. He knows, or at least thinks that you want to be with him, so he is dangling that as bait to get you to do what he wants. I can guarantee you that if you cave in and give the baby his name, he still won't be with you. He is just manipulating you in an attempt to get what he wants. Sounds like a little boy game, and you are better off without a guy who would leave you alone knowing that you are carrying his child. That's no kind of man. If he was going to be with you at all he would be there supporting you now. A baby isn't a right, it's a priviledge and a blessing that he doesn't deserve. (Just wait till you try to get child support and see how pissed he gets about it!)
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well im 33 wks pregnant me and my baby daddy havent been together since i got pregnant. I feel like i been without him that long i really dont need him bcuz i made it through 33wks. Im not saying that he cant be a father to his baby bcuz yes he can. Regaurdless of what I got through without him you will never find this beautiful black womam slacking on anything. So to every single mother for the first that including me never give up bcuz theres always hope love ya all.
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