ANSWERS: 15
  • Its impossible to tell you when there are so many facts that aren't known, but from what you've said, your kids are more important. Let him go about his business and raise your kids.
  • I know it's easy to say but if he would abandon his family he sounds like a loser anyway
  • I don't know the whole story, but just from your question I would help him pack and hold the door for him.
  • Why would he leave because of your children? What have they done?
  • from the little info you have supplied and going on this alone ...kick his arse to the gutter!!!.... let us know if you need a hand , I'm sure you get plenty of volunteers ....kids come first...second...third
  • It is his loss to not see his own children grow up. My best friend is going through this but she is the child. Her dad was a player and just got her mom pregnant with her and while she was in her moms belly they got divorced. She has never seen him in her life and she is perfectly ok with it. She still sees her grandparents from her dad's side though. You should tell him you don't need anyway and help him pack!!!
  • ok, i dont know the whole story, or all the details. but married people are supposed to stay together and its not just some fairy tale ideal... but your first dedication is to your husband, if he cant handle that your kids are too much.. he should be allowed to leave, and if he loves you (really loves you), he will come back. you cant force him to do anything or even love you. but you need to understand that if your kids are the ones causing issues between you, you cant let them take the emotional/physical place of your husband. you are asking a question, because there is still a part of the relationship to stay together. take heart, many single parents find happiness later on, or mend thier broken ones. good luck i feel you.
  • Say to him "don't let the door hit you on your way out".
  • WHAT? He'll leave you but your children won't. BYE,BYE. I'm sorry for you & the children. what kind of man does this? My heart goes out to you, but you be strong for your kids.
  • Remind him that he is as much responsible for the kids as you because it took more than just your eggs. If he is that much of a deadbeat loser, make sure the judge sticks him with unbelievable child support orders.
  • You don't give enough details, but if I had to guess, I would say that one parent is too lenient and the other would like a bit of discipline? I have some friends who had a similar issue. One of the parents was very accepting of all sorts of behavior, the other parent wanted to teach the kids to have some values and discipline. The parent who wanted discipline gave up and left.. the kids were raised doing pretty much whatever they wanted to without consequences. Today, these adults still live off the parent who stayed, and have no jobs and no values. One has been up on drug charges and has a daughter he never bothers with, the other can't drive becuase of a DUI charge. Are their lives a mess because of their upbringing? I don't know but maybe a bit of discipline wouldn't have hurt. If this is what you are dealing with, try to get your husband to counseling with you.. for everyone's sake.. Good Luck
  • I'm so sorry. Your husband is a jackass.
  • You should give us more details about what happened. Why a man in his right sense of mind would leave you because of the kids??? What have the kids done to make him leave? Is he a quitter, a loser? Or are these your kids from another marriage and they didn't get along? Assuming that they are mutual kids, and they are fine socially, etc, he can not handle them, he is a loser big time. You don't need him. It's gonna be hard for awhile until you find another man who will love you and them.
  • Dont know the setting but I do know that in my setting,its family first every time.Myself and my wife are devoted to giving our children all the support we can,and every day thats what we do.I think thats the way its suppost to be.I will not trash your husband,but from a mans point of view I just cant understand how a man could fill this way.
  • Let him go, if he isn't man enough to take on the responsibility of your children then he isn't worth it.

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