My biological father passed away not too long ago, I haven't had any contact with him since I was 2. Is it cold of me not to have any emotions about this?
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Cyndi Ninja
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Not really. My kid's "father" has ignored them..as a result, they couldn't care less about him. There were no opportunities (his choice)to form any emotional attachments..even though I tried to get him to spend time with them...I didn't even ask for child support. When a parent decides to treat his/her kids in this manner they cannot expect to be treated any other way except as someone their kids don't know.
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I think you hit it on the head, he was your *biological* father. That doesn't make him your active father. I don't think anyone can dictate how we should feel about something. It's your business to feel....or not to feel anything.
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I don't think so. I believe that since you did not have any sort of "real" connection with him there will be no emotional history to draw sadness from.
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No; you hadn't had any contact with him since you were 2. ***** In one sense, everyone should feel emotions about -anyone- passing away, but I don't suppose this is really what you meant, thus my above answer.
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Not cold at all, i was in a similar situation although i did see him 3 times since i was 10 (now 34)...only reason i got upset was because i he asked for me and i flew out to nurse him for the last couple of days, so don't feel bad, if he never made an effort with you then you'd be right to not feel much, but its early days, it might creep up on you or it might not....:)
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Cold? No. If you didn't have ANY contact with him from the age of 2, why would you think this? (You don't state your age, but at any age...) You should probably feel a bit sad that you will never have the chance to get to know him and why he didn't stay in contact with you, but COLD? No... Not IMO.
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No, it's not cold at all. If someone you don't know passes away, even if this person is related to you, you will not feel strong emotions. It's perfectly natural.
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I am sorry to hear about your father. But absolultley not. If you have not had any contact with him since you were 2, there would not be any emotional attachment to him. You are fine!
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Sorry to hear it. But it's perfectly natural not to have feelings for someone you never knew.
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Did he leave you any money?
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No. That's not cold at all. You haven't had any contact with him since you were two.
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Not at all - it's hard to have feelings for someone you don't even know.
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no not at all ...very hard to have emotions about a perfect stranger and thats exactly what he was
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It sounds like you have some emotional response by even questioning it, which is perfectly natural... but not getting upset is normal since you probably didn't know who he was. In my personal opinion, you should be proud that you are handling it so well.
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Anyone can procreate. It takes a lot more to be a father. It sounds as though you did not lose a father, you lost a sperm donor.
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Cyndi, this is very typical. I wouldn't stress about not feeling anything in losing a 'father' you never really knew. I had a very tough decision to make when my son was 2 years old and I found out his father was smoking crack. I gave him an ultimatum to stop smoking or not see his son. He was picking up his son high and driving him to his parents and then going out getting high. My son never saw his father again, he passed away about 6 years ago (I would have to look at the death cert to be sure, it's been so long). My husband now is planning on adopting my son and when he passed I know that will be just like losing a 'real' father. I like what littlebird said. I've read it different though. The quote I heard was: Anyone can be a father, it takes someone special to be a daddy. You have a daddy, your step-dad. That is who you will mourn when he passes away, rightly so.
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Nope, I haven't heard from mine since I was 3, I wouldn't care
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No it is not. From the way you phrase the question you sound like you feel guilty about the lack of emotions. It is understandable that you do not have any feelings about your father passing because he was not physically a part of your life. I think it would be unfair for anyone to expect you to have emotions for a man you have not been in contact with since you was 2. So do not worry so much, it is ok.
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no... he has not been a part of your life and that im sure was his choice.
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