What does it mean when your ex & u are still sleeping together, you want to get back together but he says no & dont confuse him. he says i love u in 1 breathe and the next breathe, but u need to know i will be sleeping with others. WHAT, doesnt make sense
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He "loves" the convenience of having sex with you without the committment. He "loves" the familiarity he has with you. He "loves" how easy you make it for him. It does not sound to me that he loves you nor respects you. You need to respect yourself enough to decide what you want: if having a relationship with open honesty and committment is more important to you than having sex with him, then respect yourself enough to move on. It doesn't sound like you are in a place, mentally or emotionally, where you can just have a sexual realtionship with him with tying up your heart.
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It means you made the wrong decision when you decided to have sex with your ex. Wasn't there a good reason that he is your "ex" and not your "current?" You are being used. Put a stop to it. People don't use the ones they love, but some jerks DO use people who make themselves convenient for sex.
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This is the perfect example of "having your cake and eating it too." He needs to get out of your house and go live with someone who is willing to put up with that crap, but that person shouldn't be YOU. He doesn't respect you, and is using you as a homebase while he hunts for something new. He tells you he loves you so you won't throw his worthless @$$ out in the street. WAKE UP, PLEASE.
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He's using you. When a man truly loves you and wants to be with you, there is no confusion and no "if, ands or buts" about it. As long as you keep having sex with him with no strings attached, believe me, he'll be happy. Why should he commit to you when he's already getting the sex? My advice is to find someone new and forget him, he's no good.
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It makes perfect sense. You are simply refusing to see it. He doesn't want a committed relationship with you. He will continue to sleep with you if you let him, but he wants to sleep around and doesn't care if you don't like it. Personally, I'd kick his stupid butt for him and go find someone worthwhile.
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he's using you. stop what your doing. all you're going to accomplish is growing more attached to a man that wants nothing from you but your body.
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Your words: He says "no and don't confuse him" (he's made his decision). He says: "I will be sleeping with others". (Ouch! That's gotta hurt!) That's enuf for me to realize he doesn't really love you. You are what they call a "fuk buddy". It makes sense but maybe you don't want to see it.
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It means intimately he still enjoys having the comfort of being with you however, when those 5 minutes are up he is looking with all the other things he is missing. There is something lacking in this relationship, he knows that but does not have the courage to find out what it is so he can completly move on. Men are sometimes like children, I guess so are we. They want to walk the thin line between moving on completely and still holding on.
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Yeah, it means he's hanging on to you because you are guaranteed sex. He isn't leaving you yet because he hasn't found a replacement. Sorry if that sounds cold, but that's what he's doing. You need to drop him, unless you are using him for the sex, too, and you are comfortable with that.
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Read this sentence carefully: YOU ARE BEING USED. Why would you be sleeping with your ex if you weren't already back together? Don't you think you deserve more respect than being a pit stop? What your boyfriend is saying is since he can be with you whenever he wants as well as being with others, don't complicate the issue with emotions or common sense. If that's okay with you, have at it. But it's a path toward trouble.
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Sure it makes sense. You are a push over for sex.
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i know how you feel and u feel so low im only 18 and im going through it right now all u want is for him to take you in his arms and tell u every thing is going to be fine and it is so hard to say this to u but he is using you but its your desition if you keep going back to him it will become harder trust me
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It makes perfect sense....he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Maybe he's not done sowing his oats. Maybe you are the girl he wants to marry one day but he's not done "testing the waters" just yet. By having sex with you he's making sure to keep you near and at the same time he has you to go to for a booty call if one of his "dates" is a no go. I don't know how old he is but sounds like he still has a lot of growing up to do. Good luck with this one!
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Sounds like he is wanting his cake and eat it too. I would be stepping away from that situation no matter how hard it may be. Sounds like he has some things he needs to be thinking about and/or growing up to do. I would keep some of my self respect and walk away. It sounds like a confusing situation and if he does care/love ya, he wouldn't be placing you in that situation
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What it means is that he is openly using you and you don't have the self-respect to dump him immediately. This situation says more about you than it does him. Turn the page and start cultivating a new you to go along with the new year. Stop settling for this passive abuse and start demanding more of yourself.
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He's just saying whatever he thinks you want to hear so you won't kick him out of your life. Sorry to say but he is just using you and he's just not worth wasting any more time on.
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run and dont look back
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your being used
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Sex feels good no matter who you do it with. Doing it with a friend is nice, b/c you can keep your separate lives and still have good sex with a trusted friend when you need it. All the advice you're getting, "HE'S USING YOU!!" doesn't help you decide what to do. He's not "using you" any more than you are using him. If you enjoy the sex, that's fine. If you don't enjoy it, then don't do it. Those are your options.
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