:( You have my sincerity, as one girl to another, I've BEEN there before. I want you to know, it pays to be the more mature person. Don't sink to his nasty levels, yea it will feel good for a while but you may regret it later. Do you really want to hurt him? Work out a little bit, get to the way **YOU** feel sexy and STRUT IT! He'll be kicking his own a$$ for treating you like that. I'm doing that myself now, and it feels good, just take a kickboxing class and picture his face on the bag. :) Best wishes to you, this will pass over.

People will treat you how you let them. If you were putting on weight why did you stay? Let it go, work on your self esteem and make sure it doesn't happen again. Focusing on you and the positive is much better.

my best advice is to write a letter to him, saying everything you ever wanted to say. Tell him how he makes you feel. Tell him how mad and upset you are and why you would be right to leave him. Don't hold back on how you feel. Then, once you are done. NEVER SEND IT. Keep it to yourself. If you feel like you are upset over him, you can re-read the letter. Trust me, it really does help. Especially when time has gone by, and you forget what they made you feel like. Just never send it. Sending it will only make you hurt more. When reading the letter doesn't bother you any more, then throw it away.

What's the point? Cruelty really doesn't solve anything. You say that the guy treated you badly. Did treating you badly really make him feel better about himself? I don't think so. It may have made him feel better for a short time, but in the end, he was just as miserable. Doing evil to another doesn't really bring satisfaction. It just brings more misery. So, my advice to you would be about the same as some others have given. Let it go. As another wrote, forgiveness is really not about make the other feel better. It is about you cleansing your soul of the anger and bitterness that get in the way of your own happiness. So, stop dwelling on what he did to you. Stop trying to think of ways to get revenge. Stop letting what he did to you govern the way that you look at yourself. Just let it go an move on with your life. I know that this is not always easy, especially when the hurt is still fresh. However, this course of action will bring you much greater joy in your life than a moment of vindictive cruelty will.

Man you have a small (cough) thing!

If you want to hurt a guy's feelings hurt his pride. And best why to hurt a guy's pride is to hit him in the 'pride'. (tell him he's got a small one)

I hate to burst your bubble, but you can say what you like, it won't make you lose the weight and wake up the next day a size zero. The reason you gained weight is not his fault at all - I assume there was no gun held to your head, nobody forced the food into your mouth with the words 'Eat it or I'll blast your brains out'. Your weight gain is all down to you and you alone are accountable - you put the food in your mouth, you chose what and when and how much to eat, nobody else. You are the one who is responsible for gaining weight and you are the one who is responsible for losing it (or not). You are not a 'victim' at all. You knew at the time of eating (day to day) that you were consuming too much, too often and what the result would be. This of course does not make his behaviour good or trivialise his poor treatment of you - it does not redeem him and he was wrong to treat you disrespectfully, without doubt. However, you are still accountable - you chose to over eat. End of. Forget him and channel your energy into losing the weight (if that's what you want) or whatever. You should know, however, that if you continue eating as you have been, you will get heavier and heavier and that won't be his fault or anybody else's either. It will be yours, as it always has been.

I've found that being angry and spiteful won't help. He'll probably just fire back something nastier once you've said your piece.

You can only hurt someone who cares for you. If he doesn't care there is not one thing you can do to hurt him in any way.

It won't not be any help for you to concentrate on him. Concentrate on you and how you get yourself alone out of this. Any further interaction with him would only harm you. And you will gain some self confidence and strength. That will be your best victory.

Well, I guess you could tell him the only reason you gained the weight was because his touching you, so replused you, you were willing to do anything to keep him away from you!

It's been said that living well is the best revenge, and to some extent I agree with that, but I also believe that revenge is a dish best served cold. Let some time pass, work on you and the weight thing. Try to think about other things than how badly he hurt you. Make some new friends who appreciate you for who you are and in time, word will get back to him of how wonderfully well you are doing without him. Like a previous poster pointed out, if he doesn't care for you anymore, nothing you can say (or do) is likely to have the effect you desire. The best thing you can do is just be the best person you can be and leave him to his own downfall.

life is too short to be returning evil for evil write him a note telling him how you feel and then tell him youve moved on and are finally having a wonderful life. that will do it

Dont blame your weight on the guy, unless he force fed you. You could definitely hurt him by telling him how much he sucks between the sheets, and make fun of his willy.

Two wrongs don't make a right, hun. Take the moral high road. Become a better person and watch him sweat when he feels bad for hurting you. No revenge required.

Don't increase the amount of hurt in the world. It wouldn't have any effect on him, but it'd get you more in the habit of feeling a hurtful thrill at imagining you're hurting him, which is bad for you. . If you want to, write him a letter calmly telling him what he did that hurt you. Then, I'd advise burning it and letting it go. . May I suggest that aside from the initial shock, nobody can hurt you unless you let them? Yes, he was cruel, hateful, or manipulative, but you had the choice to remove yourself from the situation. You may not have fully realized this at the time, but in the future you'll be able to recognize such people or actions and avoid them. . Learn to love yourself, find the value and great qualities in yourself, and you'll project this outwardly and attract good people. . Good luck, sweetie!

+5. The next time you see him when other people are around say this loudly to him. " Oh, I am glad I ran into you. I just saw your new lover and I have a message for you. HE said HE drank all the milk this morning and wants you to bring HIM a new gallon tonight." . That should do it

Spread the rumor you broke up because he wanted you to put things up his you know what, during sex. He'll want to kill you.

forget about him ,I just delt with the same bs,I really liked this guy and once he got what he wanted he treateed me like i was dirt,i HAVE A SON THAT I GAINED WEIGHT WITH WELL I LOST ALL THE WEIGHT,and now i have some strech marks and he starrted texting me saying iam ugly and my stretch marks look like a tiger ..blah blah blah ,i just cut all ties with him whats the poit u cant change how stupid someone is..in all he wont be happy till he makes someone feel lower than how he really is,we live and we learn hes just another tool,chalk it up not as a loss butt as a lesson learned i hope this helps!!