You LIVE together and he hasn't spoke to you for four days?? Wow that could be serious. How much have you tried to talk to him about it? Think back to when he asked you to marry him. How did he do it and did it seem like he was really enthused/nervous to ask? But the reasoning for not talking seems a lil trivial, especially for that long.

Your finace is being very immature. This childish behaviour will not get better once you are married. I suggest counseling for both of you to determine if your relationship is strong enough to withstand the strains of marriage. After all, you will both have to deal with bigger issues than fender benders in the years to come. What is he REALLY angry about? A third party can help sort out these issues.

i think you need to ask him why he is taking the accidents so much to heart - after all what is a car to a relationship that involves children?

My husband went a week without speaking to me when I found out I was pregnant for the 3rd time, like it was only my fault. I had just given birth to my second child 6 and a half weeks before I found out, He was just upset. I suspect your fiance is just upset as well, he'll cool off, and realize how he's been acting and he'll probably be embarrassed about it. Good luck.

I just have to say -- when people don't talk for days -- it's not to punish you -- it's because they're so upset they don't know what to say, or how to deal with it. These people are *immature* -- their communication skills were never developed -- however -- you picked them, and fell in love with them -- so I think you have to give them some rope, and help them process their feelings during trying times. Non-communication is *not* fair -- and that's the point you have to make -- you'd like to be involved with what they're going through, because you are their partner.

Was your daughter with you in the accident? A friend of mines husband done her that way because she had wrecked their new car 2 times in one month with the baby in the back, bad thing was he found out she was high at the time too. He was upset because she had placed their son in danger & was being very irresponsible by smoking pot, he was just a lil upset about the vehicle but it can be replaced the life of that child can not. Maybe you can remind him of that the car is materialistic & can be replaced(yes your insurance will go up but...) would he rather be single with that car other then be with you & your child? You 2 are more important then a car.

4 days isn't as long as it sounds when it's a work week. It's not like you're together 24 hours a day and he's ignoring you... he's at work 9 maybe 10 hours including the commute, and if you get 7 hours sleep, that only leaves 7 or 8 hours where you are in the same house if you aren't running errands and he isn't running errands. It is unusual, but does occur. He is probably more upset about the loss of value in the car. Probably wasn't enough damage to warrant getting it fixed by the insurance company... especially if you were at fault. I've been mad at my wife before for getting into accidents. Here's how I see it working. You call to say you were in an accident... he instantly worries about you. You say you are just fine (relief on his end) and that it was a minor accident... but that the car is a little dinged. Now that he knows you are alright and are not damaged, hurt or sufferring, he can now focus his attention on the car... whose fault was it... did you get a ticket... how much will the ticket affect your insurance rates (especially with a newer vehicle). Is the vehicle a lease? Will he get penalized for not getting it fixed when he turns it in? It's his fixation on the damage to the car and that its your fault (if in fact you got the ticket) that is leading him to continue to stew over it. You will probably have to talk to him first (after your daughter is in bed) and let him know that you already apologized for the damage, you feel really bad and his not talking to you is not teaching you a lesson, but only making it worse. If he continues to treat you that way, your regret will turn into hostility and you don't want that to happen. Let him know you are kicking yourself mentally every time you see the damage, and you don't need him kicking you mentally too everytime he sees it. As upsetting as it was, it is done and you cannot undo it, you can only move forward and learn from the lesson, be more conscious of things. Ask him how he would like you to treat him if he was in your shoes (and don't let him say he wouldn't have gotten into the accident) and if he feels it would be appropriate for you to treat him the way he's been treating you. The volume in your voice will do a lot to maintain the calmness of the conversation.

I was leaving work for lunch! No one was in the car. He claims it is because for once in his life he has something nice and i have totally destroyed it! It is nothing really, it is minor, nothing that a little touch up paint couldnt cover. Seriously! He is that mad! This morning I told him if it was the other way around, it would not be a big deal!I would never treat him like he has treated me for the past 4 days and he knows that.I have tried to talk to him but it gets nowhere! Just a bunch of accusations against me!

Well my husband hasn't spoken to me for over a month, including all over Christmas and New Year, and for the first time in 12 years didn't give me a Christmas card or say Merry Christmas...... he doesn't want sex and now I have given up trying to talk to him as he won't communicate at all. We stay in separate rooms day and night. any suggestions for me?

Why would he need an excuse? It looks like you are perfectly contented without protecting yourself or your child with marriage. He's getting all the pluses of marriage without any of the legal entanglements. He can bail at the drop of a hat and it could conceivably be years before any child support would be enforced. Why would he need an excuse?