Sorry, I agree with your parents. I would have done the same thing. I just grounded my kids for not telling me they were leaving the house and going to a friends house!

Kid, you're lucky if a month's grounding is all you got. If I got caught doing that when I wasn't supposed to, I would have got an ass-whooping.

Nope. I'm a parent, and I think it's an appropriate punishment. You need to learn to respect your parents, their rules, and underage drinking laws. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's my answer. PS - If you're grounded from the computer, what are you doing here right now? ;-) You're gonna land your a$$ in more trouble if you don't learn to take responsibility for, and accept the consequences of your actions.

you should be happy you didn't choke on vomit while passed out and then died.... did the guys pass you around like a party favor and have fun with you? when you learn not to lie to your parents and put your life in jeopardy, then you can have your privileges back

I think we should hear your parents' side of the story before we second guess their judgment. On the face of it though, what you did was flat-out wrong. You lied about going out and getting drunk and you involved a friend in the lie. What do you think you your punishment should be, anyway?

I agree with Ender - I would have had my ass beaten AND at least a month grounded... You'll find no sympathy here. Not only did you disobey your parents, you lied about it, AND you broke the law. You're lucky you didn't get in MORE trouble... quite frankly, you're lucky you didn't get arrested, or in an accident and die. boo-hoo... no tv or phone... what will you do? Here's a thought - there's this ancient thing called a book - you can get them at the library.... try it. in the meantime, maybe you won't be so damned quick to run off and disobey.

If I were your parent, I'd ground you for a month for using the incorrect "too". On a serious note, I don't think that's too harsh. You lied, probably broke the law, and probably disobeyed your parents.

I don't get it... did you just say you were grounded from the computer? I don't think the punishment was harsh enough. Learn to listen to your parents, they care about you.

Not at all unfair! I would have had my butt kicked much harder than that.

How old are you? Depends on the age of the child really determines the kind of punishment? And the history of problems? i.e are you good in school, do you get caught in your lies alot, do you not help around the house.

No, I believe that your parents made the right decision.

I strongly disagree, getting drunk is stupid and dangerous, if you think being punished is harsh, try steamrolling that drinking habit into a lifestyle and see how harsh it can be. No, be quiet, take your punishment and learn from what could be a pivotal moment in your life. If it seems like everyone takes this TOO seriously, you're dead wrong, it is very serious. Listen for once now while it's not too late. Harsh is when you have no job, no home, no change of clothes, fire ants eating your flesh, you smell like death, and have a thirst all the liquor in Canada won't quench.

Parents usually know better than children what's appropriate punishment. This isn't the first time this has happened is it? Take your punishment and learn from it. It's time to spend some time with your parents so that they know who you really are. Who else would you spend time with when all your privileges have been taken away? Listen and learn from them.

You are only grounded for a month? I'd have done it for two and taken your computer away so you couldn't use it at all. You screwed up buddy. You knew the rules. And your folks are the bosses. That's the way it is. Plus. drinking is not a smart thing to do. You just proved to them that you aren't mature enough to make good decisions.

If you're grounded from the computer, then why are you on AB? You're gonna get yourself in even more trouble by being on here. Get some common sense.

No cause as a parent myself I would have done the same thing.

That's not even close to bad enough

HA. GOD no I don't agree. A month is nothing. Tough it out. It really is NOTHING. You wanna talk about unfucking fair punishment? basically the same EXACT thing happened to me, and my mom not only grounded me for a month, but banned me from spending the night anywhere. until i'm 18. My 18th birthday is not for 8 more months. ...and this incident happened in early October of last year. Do the math. It won't be too much longer before I'll officially have been on punishment for a year, and I'll still have months and months left to go until I'm 18. It's bullshit.

Not hardly. And if I were your parents, I would extend it longer for direct defiance.

The punishment isn't too harsh at all. Take it in stride and don't make such a bad choice next time

Life's not fair. "Fair" is a weather condition. And dude, that is hardly a punishment at ALL. I don't even know WHAT I would choose for a punishment for that kind of offense... but it would be a HECK of a lot more creative than "grounding" them, yet allowing them to retain internet priviledges.

The way I see it........you have it pretty good. I did'nt have cell phones or Computors at the time so dad made me go out and do some HARD WORK!! When you basically get to lay around and read all day.

You are off to a great start in life! And yes, what you did is bad and needs to be punished. You did something wrong, got caught, and are being punished. You are a prime example of why I am not having children.

I don't think it's unfair. Were you "fair" when you lied to your parents? Can you imagine how they felt when they learned what you'd done? No you can't because your not a parent. Obviously you don't want to accept responsibility for your actions and that shows a lack of maturity, so with that said, I'm certain you are not responsible enough to be drinking and from reading your question, I doubt you are even of age. GROW UP!

I agree but thats parents for you,next time you'll have to improve your cover story lol.(i bet the party was worth it though)

No, I think that this is reasonable. What you did was not only lie, but behave irresponsibly. I think you deserved your punishment. If I were a parent, I'd do worse, and if I did that, I'd not see the light of day again if my parents had anything to say about it.

It seems inappropriate to me for a person to be so ungrateful to the people who gave them not only TV, Phone, Computer, Food, Clothing, Shelter, Transportation, etc., but Love and Life, as to not only lie to them about what you are doing, but to not trust them enough to allow them to help you make good, safe choices for yourself, to not listen to their experience, and to disregard their feelings of love and care for you by doing something you know they are afraid could get you hurt. Do you really think that THEY owe YOU?!? Perhaps if you don't have the distractions of the TV, Phone, etc., you will take some time to put yourself in their position and see how you would feel if it were your child.

You got off easy. You should not be allowed to do anything for alot longer than a month. If you were my kid, it would be all summer. You should be luck your parents are slack on the punishment.

I think this is quite reasonable because ive had alot worse when i was younger My younger sister gets away with half the stuff that i would have gotten grounded for when i was younger and she only gets Grounded for a day! But no this is definately not that bad

If I were you, I would THANK my parents for being so concerned about your direction in life. So my teens make the mistakes that later in life come with greater consequences.By having parents that CARE about you (see WIKIPEDIA under "Care" LOL )and the choices you make in life,but also hold you accountable for those choices.They are TRUE FRIENDS indeed.That is part of GROWING UP and becoming an adult,which you my friend will learn to appreciate.And as you become one of US,parents,that is,you TOO will be uttering the same advise and lectures you so very much hate. Smile at your parents and give them hugs for at least BEING PARENTS.

Sorry, but my kids would be in worse trouble than that.

Will you do it again? Point made!

Disagree, this is a matter of trust. Let's put the shoe on "your foot". You find your boy friend cheating on you, with your best friend. How do you feel? You need to be able to trust the ones you love.

Not at all. I think it is very fitting, for you abused their trust and went somewhere else AND got drunk instead of somewhere they thought yu were supervised and safe. SO I think taking away all those privileges is very fitting. I might even keep some of those going until you demonstrate that you are trustworthy again. And if you aren't supposed to be on the computer, how the heck are you writing this? Again, you have violated your parents trust in you and gone right over their authority.

No, you lied to them, you deserve what you got.

2 months sorry, you lied, underage drinking. What next U should feel lucky you can even post on the Internet. My advice read a couple of good long books. P.S. I got into trouble for something similar. Except it was the Horse Track, not getting drunk.

This actually sounds like you're getting off easy, in my opinion.

nope not harsh at all. you shouldn't lie, most of all to your parents and especially coz you went out and got drunk underage. Anything could have happened, at least if they knew where you were and what you were doing they would have maybe asked you to check in at certain times to make sure you were ok. But you didn't and anything could have happened. YOu were lucky you didn't get your drink spiked and have someone take advantage of you. Maybe next time you won't make the same decision....

I absolutely agree in the answer below stating you're getting off easy... you are my mom would kick my butt to next week.

That would be my first breath in a punishment that would take longer to say then the punishment would last.

I don't agree. If I lied and got drunk, my dad would not only kill everyone at the party, but he would kill me!

No I disagree. You shouldn't lie to your parents. If you want to have fun, while living with them, you're going to have to start by telling them the truth. If you're underage, of course they'll be upset at you getting drunk. It's ILLEGAL, and you have NO idea what bad things you could do, or could be done to you, because of your impaired judgement. 1 month IS a long time, but hopefully it makes you think about where you went wrong, and you won't lie to your parents anymore.

NOPE. JUST BE GLAD THAT YOUR NOT MY KID I'D TAKE YOU TO SCHOOL SIT WITH YOU IN ALL YOUR CALSSES AND EVERYTING UNTIL I KNEW YOUR LEARND YOUR LESSON. IF YOU WANT TO LIE AND ACT LIKE A CHILD THEN YOU SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE A CHILD. A "CHILD" HAS TO ME MONITORED 24/7. AND IF THAT WOULD BE WHAT IT TAKES NOT TO DO IT AGAIN THEN I WOULD DO SO IF YU DECIDED TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN THEN IT WOULD BE WORSE NEXT TIME.

Kids think their parents are way too harsh, when in fact parents don't discipline their children enough. Your parents are being very lenient with you. If that had happened to me, my parents would've beat my butt black and blue in addition to being grounded. Thank your lucky stars your ONLY grounded for a month. And be even more thankful you didn't get raped, murdered, or killed by some idiots driving home.

I think you got off easy that time. I did that once, got caught, and was grounded for 4 months. Not only did they take away priveledges like tv and phone, they took the cords to the tv away and completely cut off the phone line so I couldn't sneak and watch tv or talk to people when they weren't home. They also changed the code to our alarm system so I couldn't get out of the house unless they knew about it. Just be lucky. Just curious...have you done it since?

And all you got was a month?

I think that it was about fair. I took my dads truck with out a licsense for a spin and only got a week. Thing is you were dumb enough to get caught. If your going to take the risk be smart enough to cover your ass, like if the cops show then bail.

No. You should have had the cops called on you and however provided the alcohal. They did this to my cousin and it really cleaned her act up. Nothing like a little fine she had to pay out of her own pocket and community service. You should feel lucky your parents care what you were doing, too many these days would have handed you the keys to their car too. You are lucky to have your parents and you are lucky you are not my kid.

disagree. I would have blistered your ass and THEN grounded you for the whole summer.

You only got grounded for a month? You're lucky you're not my kid, or my mom's kid. You see, my mom is a cop and an ultra-conservative, so when it comes to breaking the law in such a way, you're going to jail buddy. I would thank my parents for letting me off SO easy. My life would pretty much be over. I'd be grounded till I die, and I'm about to move out soon!

be glad your not my child, you would have body parts missing.

My husband keeps telling our son that if he ever came home drunk or high he would throw him out the window, the second story window.

I think you're lucky! If my daughter had done that, she'd be grounded for a year!

no i dont think it is too harsh. your parents are looking out for your safety, anything could have happened to you. you also broke thier trust by lying to them. i say to mine if they are not grown up enough to think safety first and be honest about where they are going. then they are not grown up enough to be out partying and drinking.

Definitely don't agree. I don't even really know a good way to argue the point, because you really did such a crappy thing... Bet you didn't know you were going to open such a can of worms, huh? :D

Nope. You lied to your parents, and did something you were not supposed to. In fact, if you are grounded from the computer, how are you on AB? I hope they catch you and add a couple weeks to your grounding just to get it into your head that rules exist for a reason. Better get used to it, they will exist for the rest of your life. You screwed up, deal with the consequences and don't do it again. If you were my kid you would not have gotten off so easily.

Grounding works both ways. What parent wants to have to play warden on their child for a month. While we are upset that you lied to us, we really want you to realize that kids, even you, can be put in harms way even though you think that it will never happen to you. Heh! All parents were your age once and we all experienced what you feel. So use this as learning time. Talk to your parents about it. Get the time knocked back with your honest behavior. We love our kids and want to make them safe no matter their age. Mandy

I'd say, not at all, if you are young enough for a grounding, you got off easy, because it is ILLEGAL to drink under the age, an arrestable offense. Thinkning if you still get grounded, you are NOT old enough to drink legally.

Ummm DISAGREE!!! How old are you?!? Unless you are over the age of 18 or 19 than you are under the legal age of drinking pretty much everywhere in Canada. If you are from the states and you are over the age of 19 than I agree harsh punishment. But im sorry, if your still in high school living under your parents roof and they disapprove of you illegally drinking than they have every right to disapprove and punish you however they feel is necessary...its only because they care. I know you may feel they are being harsh but your parents are only trying to protect you and teach you disipline and responsibilty...you'll thank them when your older...trust me.

No! I think you got off easy! Just be glad they love enough to care!!!! One day you'll thank them. God Bless!

As a parent, I would say "no"... It's NOT too harsh. 1) you lied to your parents. 2) you went to a party. 3) you got drunk (I assume illegally). And, it seems to me you have a computer, since you are on AB. It may not be YOURS, but you're using one. If I caught you, they would ALL be stripped from your room for TWO months.

this is a very old question, and tom is no longer on this site. how do we stop this question.

Well you obviously have already got around the no computer part. If you wish to prove to your parents you can be responsible and adult, then stop whining and accept your punishment for being an ass. Unfortunately, if you cant see that you are in the wrong here then you are just doomed to repeat your mistakes until you end up pregnant or with an STD or worse dead. EDIT: How old are you? In another question you mention your 12 year old daughter?

I agree in the respect that grounding probably doesn't really work. I mean, you were able to access the internet to ask this question. But, you know, the easiest thing to do is to just give up. Just follow their rules. If you have halfway decent parents they will then respect you and start to give you more and more leeway. If you have ahole parents, well, that's another story, but, it doesn't sound like you have ahole parents.

Do the crime. Do the time. Sending you to rehab is too harsh. Grounded for a month...that's nothing.

well if you are grounded and your parents said no computer yet you are on one right now then you obviously have it easy AND No, a month for drinking and lying is perfectly acceptable

Aw, diddums! I think you actually got off quite lightly and don't forget, your parents have your best interests in mind. They don't want to see you become an alcoholic, catch VD or get pregnant because something happened while you were drunk. So many bad things happen to young people who get caught up in the party culture. Even if it seems your parents are overprotective and too strict, they are only doing this because they care about you and don't want to see you wreck your life. It worries me that you don't seem to have learnt anything from this too.

When you walk through a certain door, you open up a new world of possibilities. You went to a party, got drunk and came home safely. You could have injured yourself, been involved in a drunk driving incident, hurt someone else, gotten into a fight, gotten alcohol poisoning, damaged someone's property, taken advantage of someone...the risks are endless. For lying and deceiving your parents, disrespecting them by not following their rules, a month is perfectly acceptable. You'll laugh about this with them when you're older.

No, this is a very serious matter and they don't want to see you wreck your life by becoming an alcoholic. Plus, it was very bad of you to lie to your parents.

I think it is fair because if you were my child and I have 2 you would be grounded till you were 18 and you would have gotten and ass whooping.

(smacks head...) Good way to stay out of trouble. Use your brain. And then youll realize your parents arent evil people that conspire against you just to be harsh. Apparently common sense isnt so common anymore. ~+~

As a teenager, I would say that punishment is very fair, and you shouldn't be complaining. It could have been a lot worse.

nope.. i'm only a teenager myself and i say its completely fair..

let me put it this way....i was just a teenager when i told my mother i was staying at a friends house and went to a party, my friend actually snuck out of her house that night to go. The sad thing was is that same night our parents got a call that we had been in the car with someone who was drunk and that we had crashed into someones home @ 2 am and almost killed someone in the house too. We both got hurt, and so did the driver. We were about 10 yard to hitting a 17 year old who was reading in her bed. Dont put you parents through hell like i did. You scare them, they love you, and on top of that, you know better than to lying, it doesnt get you anywhere!!

It may seem harsh to you, but look at it from their point of view: 1. You lied. 2. You got drunk. If you had been an underage drinker in my house, then "a month" would be nothing. It would be a month of grounding like that before we decided what your *real* punishment should be. 3. You put your parents as well as yourself and your friends and your friend's parents at great risk. As a minor, they are all liable for your actions. If anyone had been injured or killed as a result of your irresponsible behavior, *they* would have been on the hook, financially and emotionally. Not to mention if *you* were hurt or killed, the grief and guilt that they would feel, that they were "such bad parents" that could have allowed this to happen. (At least they know that that's how the rest of the world would view them.) 4. Worst of all, you have totally broken your parents' trust in you. When do you think -- even after you're not grounded any more -- they are going to trust you on your own again? A reputation is an awfully hard thing to build back again. You're going to start finding that out right now. This is going to be the biggest and longest-lasting effect of your stupidity. And yes, it was very stupid. You should spend a good part of the month thinking about this. And anyway, if you're grounded, with no use of the computer for a month ... what are you doing here? Cheating again? You'd better start learning, and quickly: Not all rules are made to be broken.

You're lucky that's all you got. If you were my kid you would bee spending almost that whole month unable to sit because my foot would have been right up your behind.

if you were my son u would of got a spanking

It's a lot easier to get away with that kind of stuff when your in college. When I'm a parent I am not going to do grounding. Go pick out your own switch. Oh, and pick a good one, cause if you don't, I'll use that one, and then make you go pick out a better one.

if your grounded how are you on here now? and learn to be smarter about how you lie... honesty is the best policy

nope, if you were mine you would be locked away in your room, only leavin to go to home school, no joke, you think thats harsh, wait til you get into the real world and lies like that cause you to lose your job, your family or worse

Disagree. I'm only 24 and I would have done the same thing if I were your parents. You lied, you participated in illegal activities, and unless your friend was in on it, you used your friend to get what you wanted. All while your parents had no idea what was going on - I can imagine getting a phone call at 3:00 a.m. from the police telling me that my kid has been arrested for underage drinking. I think you got what you deserve.

Nope, you should also have had your ass whipped until you couldn't see straight, you whining puppy.

Oh yes, you deserved that! Good! What are you doing on your computer anyway while having a months detention?? Naughty person! If I was your dad, I would confiscate your tv, iPod, music things, cellphone AND computer as well for a whole 6 MONTHS!! I think that is a perfect punishment for kids who really misbehave in a bad way. Lying to parents is not nice. Hey, everybody makes mistakes!

Lying is very disrespectful. While I am not opposed to underage drinking, it is illegal. Getting drunk is stupid and immature. I am not sure how old you are, but you could have ended up getting someone pregnant or getting into a fight just to name a few. Get someone pregnant and you can end up working a minimum wage job just to make ends meet and pay child support for the next 18 years. Get into a fight and die, end up in jail, end up in the hospital, or more. I hope your parents took the time to talk to you and you took the time to listen. Don't lie and don't get drunk!

another point Is that if you can't use the computer then how are you writing this now? Mabye you will get grounded again. Parents love their children... i don't think there out to hurt you... I didn't learn that lesson until I was an adult.

No, it's completely fair. I'm surprised they didn't lock you in your room with nothing but a glass of water. You should learn the rules and follow them because next time, you're gonna be looking at yourself in 5x3 mirror in a jail cell :)

Good for your parents. A month might be too short.

Nope. I think it's pretty reasonable.

depend on your age 14- 6 mos 15-5 mos 16-4 mos 17-2 mos 18-1 mos

Nope because you lied to your parents so they gave to the harshest punishment. They want to you to pay the consequences of your actions. Good punishment

No i do not agree.You lied to your parents,went out and got drunk.I assume you are under age.You should be happy that you have parents who love you enough to show you how ignorant that was.Why do all you kids thinks its ok to do whatever you want with no reguard for your parents?Maybe they should just throw you out so you can be the 'grown-up' you think you are.

No. You're very lucky to have parents that care enough about you to punish you. I know you're going to say this would never happen to you but...I'm a middle aged woman who goes to AA meetings. So many times I hear these kids - young adults say they wish their parents had cared enough about them to do something. Lying to your parents is just wrong...

what are u talking about theres such no thing as grounded u just open the door and walk away besides i got grounded for similair terms as you and i got grounded for 4 months

A little harsh maybe........but your on the computer now!!things go much better when you follow the rules!! good luck to ya steely

Why would you question your parents when you were the one that made a series of poor choices? Its not the punishment that you should be worried about. Its why they have done this. You told them you were going to be at a place that they believed was "safe". You chose to disrespect yourself and them by going somewhere else and getting "drunk"-you sure have proved alot of self control huh? You need to think about safety sometimes and how much it would hurt them if anything were ever to happen to you. I lost a friend when I was in high school. Debbie had told her parents that she was staying at my house. When news got out that she died in a drunk driving accident I was horrified. Her parents were upset with me and I had no idea what had happened. To lose my best friend because she wanted to have fun for one night-I don't think it was really worth it in the end. Every birthday i think of her and how much older i am getting. She will always be 16. Sad-I hope you learned something other than having to go without a few "essentials". Understand that they just love you.

Actually, I have to agree with the kid on this one. i personally think it's too harsh. A week...eh, maybe. A month? Too harsh! Kids will be kids.

I am grounded for exactly the same thing, more or less, but I wasn't at a party i was just outside all night. I then got brought home by the police, first week of the seven off. Sucks a$s but I see why. Try doing more things round the house and don't moan about it. :)

No, I don't agree at all. Furthermore, I wouldn't have agreed with you even when I was your age. 1. By your own admission, you lied. That's huge. 3. Also by your own admission, you got drunk. That's also huge. I'm assuming that you're underage, so that's not only a violation of a family rule, but a criminal act, as well. (You also put the host of the party at great risk for liability if anything had happened to you, or if you had caused an accident after drinking.) 3. You clearly went to the party without permission. That may not be so huge in itself, but I'm betting that you asked first if you could go, and were denied permission. In that case you would have specifically violated a restriction. This case is still pending. 4. You used a friend to cover for your bad act. It's not clear whether the friend was in on this or not, so that's also pending. You seem to have no idea how much you have broken trust with your parents. PS: I don't hold your parents completely blameless. When my kids were growing up and wanted to sleep over at a friend's house, we spoke to the kid's parents to confirm the arrangements, to ensure that there would be supervision -- and not another party -- and to arrange any details that needed to be worked out. But mainly, involved parents confirm that the story checks out. But since it's easy enough to dupe parents after a certain age, and practice of deceit, the primary fault for this bad act rests with YOU.

I'm only 21 and I totally agree with your parents. BTW, it doesn't seem that you have learned too much yet-- what are you doing on the computer?? You're headed in a bad direction...and I'm telling you from experience. Things are going to get worse and worse for you until you learn to accept responsibility for your actions.

Your parents love you thats why they correct you.You say it is over the top for them to treat you this way.Wise up,make a better choice.The worst thing that could happen to a person is to get what they want.