ANSWERS: 23
  • You're still in that relationship, for one. Abuse drags a person's self esteem down. My best advice is to get out now.
  • You are not mentally stable, and she has done more emotional and psychological damage than physical. If you take it like a man, she will likely stop doing it. She does it to control you, to manipulate you. I believe the violence, psychological and emotional, should end as it began because of you. Then again, she probably has issues too.
  • wing.walker's right. This "Girlfriend" of yours sounds like a real b*tch. You need to stop taking sh*t off her and break this thing up right now. Don't let her control your life.
  • This is often the feelings held by a battered spouse. You need to get out of that situation. It won't get better.
  • Probably because your letting it happen to you, you should leave her she is no good for you. you will find someone else who will appreciate you. Never feel hopeless you should feel strong because you didnt hit her back, but now is your chance to get away from it, you should leave her. She obvously doesnt care for you if she does that to you.There is nothing wrong with you, but there is something definatley wrong with your girlfriend. Hope this helped. :)
  • you feel that way b/c you love her and hurts when she does that you need to get out of the relationship not only is she hurting you physically she is hurting you mentally
  • Maybe cuz your in an abusive relationship. N she is no different beating you than all the men who beat their women, how do those women feel?....well, prolly sumpin like you. It causes self esteem to vanish, your pride is hurt badly, and your "man" lyness has been taken away. She doesnt respect you, think of you as a man...and you need to leave, its a super toxic relationship...that is going nowhere, but pain valley. Abuse isnt cool. Its one person who sticks around out of love, and 1 other person who thinks they can beat love outta the other one, restricting any kind of real love from sprouting...its a no go deal, just leave.
  • First off, you are delusioned if you really think she is your 'girlfriend'. There is no reason to feel ashamed or paralyzed when this happens, instead you should be infuriated that someone who claims to care about you could treat you this way. That's not someone you should want to be with. And if you think you can change her, WRONG! What is wrong, you seem to have little self esteem. Either did not have when you got with her, or she has made you feel this way. Making you feel no one else will ever care about you, etc. That is the biggest line of bull ever dealt out. What you need to do is break it off with her, get out while you can before the violence and abusiveness becomes more severe. No one should have to live like that. If you are afraid of telling her, then just leave, go somewhere she cannot find you. I was in an abusive relationship, left him during middle of night. Had people watching my back for me, making sure he was not around. After a while, he grew tired and moved on to his next victim. And that's what we are to these people. You deserve better, don't let anyone tell you different. Go before the Lord and pray, He will help you, give you strength and courage to move on and leave this piece of dribble and scum behind. It was only through God's strength that I was able to move on. Such a blessing. Will pray for you. Just remember, there's nothing wrong with you, you have just let some other person convince you there is.
  • My dear, unless you are a submissive and looking to be collared you are simply in an abusive relationship that you need to get out of. No one deserves, male or female, to be abused. There is nothing wrong with you, have you ever considered that something is wrong with her? She will continue to abuse her if you allow it, I am not saying that you need to fight back with fist but you do need to fight back with words and explain to her how you feel when she does these things to you. If all else fails, please get out before it is too late!
  • There's nothing WRONG with you! it's HER who has the problem! I don't think that ANYONE should be with an abuser while they are abusive(Which will probably be forever!).Please,take care of yourself!*
  • Get out of the relationship immediately. Be SURE she doesn't get pregnant if she isn't already. Swallow your pride and call your family. They should take you in if you have nowhere to go. There is no fix for your relationship. There is nothing you can do but suffer or leave. The suffering will last as long as you are with her. You probably feel her violence shouldn't be returned. You are right about that. You probably figure dealing with today and making it to tomorrow is doable. It IS but there are thousands of tomorrows to deal with waiting in the wings. Don't throw the rest of your life away because you feel obligated to a violent person. Believe me. You don't want that to happen.
  • I think that in this situation, you are most likely to be isolated and this in-turn creates an ongoing environment for the abuser to continue in their unacceptable behaviour. My advice is to call a helpline for practical and emotional advice and they can offer you support to help you leave. Confide in someone you trust. Take one step at a time, the first step for you is to leave, it is not acceptable and you should not be in this situation, you need to leave asap, it is dangerous for you to remain in this situation. With support and help you can move on from this situation, I wish you all the best and urge you to call someone today, don't think about it you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I am sending you my very best wishes, take care.
  • The relationship was over long ago. You just have to find the strength to leave. It's not hard: tell her its over (perhaps with friends who can witness your innocence and prevent her from beating on you - or you can just call her and tell her its over) and never return any calls. Block her email and access to Facebook, etc.
  • NOTHING WITH YOU. YOU NEED A NEW GIRLFRIEND.
  • Probably you have never needed to accept the fact that women can hit and that if they become abusive, they loose the right of not getting hit for being a girl. Kick the bitch to end of the curve and then trough the next street.
  • my dear, you cannot change an abuser, no matter how much you love her. You need to just get out of there. Move on with your life. NOBODY deserves what you are going through. The abuser thrives on the fear and forced submission of others. You cant chnage this, please get out and seek your own happiness.
  • you don't need someone like that. Leave her, and if she starts going on a rampage, get evidence of the abuse and get a restraining order on her. Don't get physical because the cops will favor the girl.
  • NO ONE has the right to ASSULT / ABUSE anyone ... Physically or Emotionally / Mentally ; PERIOD. YOU neeed to get out of this so called relationship and away from this horrible skank who assults you .... as we do NOT assult the ones that we LOVE ... Grow a pair and LEAVE as soon as possible ... In the long run; you'll be glad that you did !! +5
  • Most people don't understand that women can be abusers, too. Maybe she's more of a sadist... Maybe she's taking out all her frustrations with men on you. Whatever, it's still abuse. And what do we tell women in these situations? GET OUT. Same holds true for you. Read the following. While written for women, the same info holds true for men (except for calling the woman's shelter... Call the police and ask for a man's shelter, if necessary): Signs of abuse, even early on - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2872392 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3766947 (controllers) Signs of abuse, and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3384385 Would you stay with a guy that dont treat you right just becouse you love him? - (Mostly assuming abuse:) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5438372 Abusive Relationships - Recognizing you're in one and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2748410 Just to make you think about abuse: A poem © 1992 by Paulette Kelly I Got Flowers Today I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn’t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, and it wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today. ** And don't think that a woman cannot beat a man to death.
  • Part of your problem is that in Western cultures, males are trained not to hit females. This tends to leave men at somewhat of a disadvantage when confronted by a physically violent woman. Break off the relationship and stay away from her.There is no point in trying to get restraining orders, etc. as the authorities would either ignore or ridicule you. Defending yourself physically is equally futile, since you would probably be charged with assaulting her regardless of the facts. +5
  • Whether your a man or a woman you dont have the right to abuse others and be allowed to be abused. Tell her to her face that she needs to stop or else your done with her. Do you want to live with a woman that can do that to you? Think of how she'd treat your child if u have/had one... Yeah exactley my point.
  • Why would you stay with a women who abuses you. Tell her straight up to stop hitting you, that you do not appreciate being abused. And that if she doesn't stop you are leaving her.
  • Nothings wrong with you, its her. Leave her now before it gets worst!! If it continues get a restraining order. She does not deserve you!

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