ANSWERS: 100
  • do you believe in stupidity?
  • No. Do me wrong once shame on you. Twice shame on me. Third time...no way.
  • It really depends. Something small, maybe. I won't trust them, but I'll still talk with them. Anything that's at all important, no.
  • NO WAY , I do not give second chances never mind third. When trust is broken it can never be repaired , In my opinion.
  • I'll have to agree with nurse7263. It would depend on what the offense was. Cheating??? HELLS NO!!! You might wind up catching some STD. That's a deal breaker!!
  • i believe that everybody deserves a second chance, but after that, i believe that one can be comfortable in believing that what has been revealed to them by this point, contains a fair amount of truth.
  • Yes I do, I give many many chances. What is the purpose of not giving another chance? We as individuals grow and change all the time.
  • It would depend entirely on the circumstances.
  • depends on what the offense was
  • I can understand giving a second chance in most lifes issues excluding CHEATING. A third chance on anything appears to be a waist of time. If someone can't get things right the first or maybe the second time....I'm sorry I don't believe in a third chance.
  • Depends. Family, yes if it is not really serious and you believe they are sincere. Guyfriend/girlfriend...third time is a charm...kick 'em to the curb.
  • 3 strikes and you're out.
  • I dont think so..Hello!that is too much already, move on and find another worthy person.
  • i have never given a third chance cause i think if they didnt change on the second chance u gave him he wont change on the third either but since i dont know your case i would just tell myself these questions:does he deserve this third chance, does he truely love me, will he change the way he is for me,and if he truely wants to get back with me he will do anything for me well hope this helps you and GOOD LUCK!!
  • I think Michael Scott said it best:
  • It totally depends what this is about. If this about cheating in a relationship - definitely no.
  • Possibly, it depends - I would like to be as compassionate and forgiving as possible - but in relationships where trust is broken - three is the limit - three strikes and you are out.
  • uhmmm well u should think about it first i think that if he or she deserves it then yes, but he or she must prove to you that he or she is really going to change well GOOD LUCK!!
  • I have a limit of one only.
  • i dont even believe in giving a SECOND chance, ummm duh you did break up for a REASON correct? did that reason suddenly just go away??
  • it depends on who that person is and what i feel for that person ,
  • I am going through the same thing that you are right now. I sat down and wrote out a list of the good and bad in that person. If your list for good came out with more than the bad, then consider giving them another chance. But dont rush into it. Tell them you are willing to give them another chance, but obviously there are things that need to be worked out. If you decide to give your relationship another chance, make sure that the other the person understands what you are feeling, and the two of you sit down and work on it together. Problems cant be fixed out over night, but with some honest effort, the two of you can become closer than you might have been in the past. Good Luck to You
  • If somebody blew their second chance... why would they need a third?
  • That would mean there was a SECOND chance...It would depend on the circumstances, but likely no.
  • it would depend on for what, if it is the same repeated offense, I would be skeptical.
  • it depends on the offense and how close together they happen. cheating is a one chance thing. forgetting to hang up your towel after a shower, a million chances, you just might not find clean towels one day.
  • I give children extra chances as they learn. Each level comes with different instruction. As adults if you even get a third chance punishment, fines, skepticism, and more comes as you continue down a path.
  • For small things yes..cheating doesn't even get a second chance.
  • i do believe in forgiveness. i also believe that one should respect themselves and construct boundaries. having said that, i would have to say yes i do believe in giving people all the chances they may need but would never sacrifice my own self-respect or boundaries in the process.
  • should you give another chance to a three time loser...hmmm....NO!
  • three is too many
  • 2 words: NO FRICKINWAY!
  • I'd say no. The person is going to think that he/she can just walk all over you and you'll keep putting up with it. You need to let people know that there is a limit to how much bullsh*t you will take. Otherwise they'll lose respect for you, and above all you'll lose respect for yourself.
  • I believe in the addage: "turn the other cheek" but I have only two.
  • If the somebody is yourself yes! I don't know about you but I think alot of people have the most trouble forgiving themselves.
  • If your playing baseball then yes, otherwise no...
  • I think we all make mistakes we are human beings so maybe if the offense is not that bad we can dig in our hearts and give it to them.
  • no! dun ever give a third chance. give it to yourself instead
  • I agree....1st time, shame on you, second time SHAME ON ME. NO WAY I will subject myself to further hurt...at that point, the pain becomes a choice.
  • yes i think that if you love the person enough and they relize what they've done was wrong. now if they cheat on you 3 times then yeah i think you need to dumpo the lamo. depends all on the circumstances.
  • i cheated on my ex 5 times and i didnt love him then and i took him for granted, but when i realized that i want to change who i was i told him everything and he was very very upset. what i am trying to say that if you want to change who you were and if you are completly and utterly sorry for what you did to the person that you love and want to be with, then tell your bf'gf that and hopefully they will help you. right now i am in a tough situation because my ex-boyfriend knows that i am a changed person and i am learning new things everyday and we are still very close, were just not together right now becasue he doesnt know if he can ever marry or be with a person that did what i did to him. but i am NOT the same person that did that to him, and i have to show that to him while we are not dating, and if he realizes that he cant be without me, he will take me back. just do everything you can to show the person that you love that you are changing and that you will do anything for them.
  • I would need to know the circumstances. If it was a situation like cheating, absolutely not, never be with a lie. But if it was little mistakes, that you were unhappy about, and you could see that the person was honestly sorry, than yes I could see myself forgiving them. Some people in life deserve chances, because people DO make mistakes, I'm sure you've made many, but it depends on what kind of person those mistakes have made them.
  • If you love them then you will give as many chances as it takes. If there is hope then dont give up. Personally id like to have the strength to walk away once the first chance has been broken but often circumstances permit otherwise. Some people really do change.
  • Never! No way, no how. Put it out of your mind. It's NOT going to happen. That's just me. You do what you think is best.
  • It would depend on what the problem is. If it is the same problem, I would say no because apparently he/she doesn't care enough to get it right and keep it right..cheating for example. Once someone betrays you, that's a dealbreaker. No second chances, let alone third chances. What is involved here is how much you like yourself and what you believe you deserve in life. If you believe you're worthless and need to settle for bad treatment...then you keep on in the same situation. If you believe you deserve better, then you get out of that situation.
  • If the first two failures were honest attempts. A third chance is justified.
  • In a relationship giving a third chance is just an effort of utter futility. The traits that bothered you in the past are still going to be there, the constant lateness, lack of respect, verbal/physical abuse all these are ingrained behaviors. The person can tell you they will change but its highly unlikely a waste of your time and energy. Don't do it!
  • I gave my cheating boyfriend a second chance and tried hard to forgive him. But as time went on i figured out that this type of forgiveness is dangerously hard. The trust has been broken. So no, i would not be giving a third chance.
  • No. I have learned the VERY hard and painful way that actions speak louder than words.
  • I believe in doing what makes you happy. If you think giving a third chance to somebody will make you happy and give that person a chance to redeem themselves than go on ahead and give a third chance.
  • I wouldn't do it.
  • No. I hardly believe in giving second chances, frankly.
  • Sure. How long was the break up though. If it was just a fight and then a reunion, why not. Everyone has conflict. EVERYONE!!!
  • I don't know. I give third and fourth and fifth and so on chances to my children, my siblings, my parents, my co-workers...it's part of life. But whether I would give a third chance to a boyfriend or spouse...I don't know. I think it would REALLY have to depend on what they did wrong the first 2 times. Cheated on me twice already? NOPE. No third chance here. Lied to me twice, maybe. Broke up with me for no apparent reason? I don't know. Probably not though. So, I guess, whether to give a third chance to someone would depend on what they did in the first place.
  • Depends on what they did!
  • 1st chances are rare... 2nd even more so... 3rd chances? Those are almost unheard of coming from me!
  • Maybe, but three strikes and you are out.
  • No I don't , there must be a good reason for the first two times , that caused the break-up -- I'm done if there needs to be a 3rd time
  • No two is my absolute limit in special circumstances but normally second chances aren't on me itinery :o)
  • Absolutely not. Over a period of 3 years I watched my daughter give her ex-boyfriend chance after chance to get things right. Each time he would beg her to take him back and swear that he would never again do the things that hurt her...lying, leaving her for his ex, etc. She loved him so much she was willing to believe him and put her faith in him over and over again. It got to the point where he lost all respect for her and just assumed she would take him back no matter what he did. She was becoming a total doormat. The day she finally told him she had enough and finally meant it he was hysterical. He cried and cried - he never thought she would actually end it for good. I guess he didn't think she had enough self-esteem. Big surprise for him.
  • Just happen to be in that situation right now with my ex. quick background- shes got 4 kids/4 different dads! None by me and i have taken responsibility for 1 because he was born when we first met, so i always considered him my own. She did not lie about it or try to make me take financial responsibility, it was something i wanted to do. We broke up the first time because of her infidelity and my depression/gambling problems. It was debilitating to me. i was crushed. She waited until the day we broke up to tell me she cheated, so she held it in for years without me knowing. Come to find out later, it was multiple times.And i still dont think i recovered fully from it. The second time was 4 years later, she had a kid inbetween(3rd) and we were together a year. it didnt feel the same, but the sex was phenomenal. I got sick of it quicker and left on my own. I gambled and knew it would kill it. It stung for quite a while, but i got back on track. Now we are attempting to possibly do it a 3rd time! Its 7 years later, she had another kid in between. I have been with current GF for 4 years. Everything is great except sexually. My ex works where i do on a different floor, but in the same building. She looks better than ever, has been with her man for 4 years and says she wants to do it again. I am crazy for her,always have been, but i dont know if i want to be there for 4 kids. I really love the independence of being kid free. Her attitude sucks and has resentments toward me as well that may not have healed. Because of the infidelity in the past, im jealous like crazy. Because she held it in for so long all those years ago, i dont really believe her like i should when she says things. We are both on an emotional roller coaster with our ex's still residing with us. Somehow though i/we feel like we were meant to be together. At this moment, as you can see by this lengthy post, i am going stir crazy in my mind. One side (the sex crazed side especially) wants to take her back and just take care of her and the kids. I want to make her happy. But the other side of me has red flags waving everywhere. I know it has a 15% chance of working. But we are both just going out of our minds. There is a lot at stake, especially for me because i have a great girl now, but just not in the bedroom. I would have to live with 5 more people! My current GF has no kids, and i love the privacy. Seems like a no brainer, Yet i cant stop thinking about my ex and feel like i would finally have the girl i always wanted. Problem is i know its a fantasy. And it hurts like hell right now to know i have to let her go. I am sobbing one minute and happy the next. it sucks. Really, really badly. Answer: Depends on your: 1) level of resentment you have towards the other persons past actions that hurt you. 2) Have actually SEEN improvements in the person over the time you were NOT together. (they went to counseling for issues, got a steady job ect..) 3) The relationship isnt mostly based in sex. 4) The length and severity of your disagreements. The reactions to conflict. 5) Quality of life since you moved on. 6) Ability to comfort the person when they need you. They don't quiet down or hide from you or rely on someone else. I believe you can make a 3rd chance work IF: 1) You have actually seen the person make positive changes in their life since the break up. 2) The person has addressed their issues that caused the break up(Jealousy, rage, finances ect.) without you being in their life to force them. 3) There is an ability to discuss issues calmly without having too much resentment bubbling inside. 4) You KNOW in your heart you can be happy without them, but you WANT them. Not NEED them. 5) You are extremely happy sexually with them. 6) Wont harbor any anger about what the person did in between your times together. 7) Promise each other you wont leave again because once you try a 4th time, well thats just plain ridiculous!!! lol... Sorry about the length, but i am going through hell here and had to vent.. But i wish you luck if you go for it!!!! The reason i am so sad is because, well, i guess i wont be...
  • It would depend entirely on the circumstances. I GAVE MA BABY 5 CHANCE
  • HONESTLY I BELIVE IN MOR ETHEN THREE CHANCE SIMPLY BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN GIVIN SEVERAL CHANCES FOR DIFFERENT SITUATIONS AND WHEN I DO FAIL I ALWAYS WANT ANOTHER CHANCE TO PROVE MYSELF BECUASE I KNOW I MESSED UP BUT I CAN D OIT RIGHT AND WHEN I AM GIVEN AN EXTRA CHANCE AND I DO IT RIGHT IM ALWAYS THANKFUL FOR THAT "ONE MORE LAST CHANCE" RATHER IT BE THE SECOND OR THIRD OR EVEN FOURTH CHANCE. I STRUGGLE WITH THE QUESTION OF HOW MANY CHANCES CAN I GIVE SOMEONE OR HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH, BUT THEN I ALWAYS TRY TO PUT MYSELF IN THE SITUATION AND ASK WELL WHAT IF I WANTED ANOTHER CHANCE!! ITS A HARD DESCION BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER TO PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES BUT AT THE SAME TIME YOU HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF AND MAKE SURE YOUR NOT GOING TO BE HURT IN THE MIDDLE OF ALL THESE CHANCES TO ATTEMP TO DO RIGHT.
  • It always depends on the specific situation. But the number of chances should depend on what kind of chance was given in the first place. Some questions people should ask themselves are: Did you just take them back without setting any specific guidelines? Did you work with them to help them change their behavior? Did they make any type of effort? How long did you stay around to see if they would change? Besides the negative actions, do they have the qualities you are looking for in a partner?
  • I never give third chances. Sometimes (but rarely), I will give second chances. But that is my limit.
  • second chances are ok, but depending on the situation there probably would not be a third from me.
  • Third? Chile bye! Sike, I think it depends on the realtionship the two people have. I have a ex who I gave two chances too and I can't say that I won't give him another because I understand him and he understands me. The world may not understand but as long as the two involved know what's up. You can do whatever you like.
  • i do but i wouldn't be very trusting when i did it id probly be ready for it to end badly again
  • It just all depends....thats it. Nothing more, nothing less.
  • After a second try maybe you should see the reg flags for what they are... Cut the ties and move on to a productive life... Anyone you have to give a third chance to is not going to change. If they were it would have happened the first time around.
  • it matters on how the situation for the reason of the second chance to break up about was.
  • yes if you really love them and they made a positive change in there lives
  • Question: when two people love each other, but they can't quite seem to get it together, how do you know when enough is enough? Answer: Never It's on a pretty lame movie, but it hit home to me when i was begging for my.............8th chance(needless to say 8 might be pushing it) Unless you're talking about cheating, then i think one is forgivable, more is ridiculous.
  • Not really.
  • There is an old saying ...something like..fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me..I am going to add..if I give you a shot at doing it for the third time..shoot me in the f#cking head because I am too stupid to live :)
  • No. I don't believe in giving anybody or anything even a second chance. They don't work, I know from experiance. If somebody screwed up the first time, he/she will screw up the 2nd, 3rd, 4th and so on time. If something didn't work out the first time it never will.
  • its not wrong but people do deserve chances but it really depends on what they did
  • I believe after the first chance but,, honestly easier said than done, I've given a third chance before and was a fool doing it.
  • Third, fourth, fifth, hundredth, if they are sincere and genuinely sorry and actually try to change or make up what they did or said
  • I don't really think that a third go is best. Do what you feel is right...but wait a month before you do anything to let your feelings settle.
  • UMMMMMM that is a big fat "No" they wouldn't of made it to the second or third, they would of been gone after the first time.
  • Not really, Depends why they needed the second, and why they need the third chance. If it was cheating, then hell no.
  • Sometimes....
  • no. though no answer can be that cut and dry. I have given my adult daughter (who isnt making good choices) plenty of chances. Depends on who it is.
  • No i mean after two tries why try to give it a third chance. You've given it all you have. There's nothing more left to safe except yourself. Stop making excuses and move on with your life
  • sometimes
  • 21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"22 Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy time seven." Matthew 18:21-22 Yes, I believe in giving them a 3rd chance and more.
  • well it really does depend.. if i really wanted to work things out and if i really loved him then maybe yes.
  • I don't think it would be a good idea, to be honest. Me and my ex got back together four times, after he kept messing up, I regret doing that. It was a waste of my time, and everytime I was just getting hurt.
  • Sometimes. It really depends on the situation. If you are learning something and you get it wrong two times, why not have a 3rd chance? If someone hits you, well you really shouldn't have given them a second chance, let alone a third!
  • probably not. second chance is ok. third chance is a no-no. there's a big chance s/he will do that again and again because s/he will think that you will give her/him the forth, fifth and so on chances. make up your mind.
  • i dont have an ego and i believe in love
  • i am in the same situation.. my ex broke up with me the first time because he said it wasnt working out I then went out with him a second time and again he broke up with me. But he didnt have a reason. it was totally out of the blue. He now wants to get back with me again, claiming he made a huge mistake and wont do it again.. What do i do???
  • There are couples that go on and off for a long time and I have seen some go through bad patches but eventually settle down and happily marry and have children. Then I have seen some couples who are just plain bad for each other and their relationship can cause lasting damage. It doesn't matter how many chances you give them, it's whether there is a REAL change after every brake up/fall out/argument. But if you feel you are the one getting walked over time and time again, I would be very careful that your self respect disappears. As long as your strong, independent and know what your doing and realize its a risk your taking. You could always just take a step back from a full on relationship, takes things slow and go on dates and see how things really are, but keep sex out of it for now. Maybe even go on dates with other people? It's good to forgive but remember to keep your feet on the ground and do whats best for you :)
  • In love I don't believe there is a set number of chances to give someone. However, the number of chances should be based on the scenario you are referring to and how you feel about it. Jo Chris http://www.answerstogetbacktogetherwithyourex.blogspot.com/
  • I suppose it would depend on the stakes.
  • i dont believe in third or second chance... as long as u can forgive u can give somebody a chance and anyway nobodys perfect!giving someone a chance is like forgiveness but sometimes it depends..
  • It depends, was the person abusive ? if so no way. If not why does it have to be so complicated ? Is that not telling you something?

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