ANSWERS: 10
  • I am really sorry. If I were in that situation, I would send the packet...
  • I definitely believe you have every right to update his new boss on his employee's track record. However, it is a matter of class. Would you be better to do this, with momentary satisfaction, or let him live his life and let karma have him?
  • If I were in your shoes I'd contact his boss, but make sure you can back up what you tell him otherwise you could be landing yourself in a whole heap of trouble. Do what you think is right, but don't let your heart rule your head - tread carefully!
  • Let it go..you are only hurting yourself by persuing this..And..you can find yourself being the one defending your actions in court..He could and probably would take you to court and most likely win for harrasment and or defamation..etc..Life in general is not fair..sucks but its true..let it go for your own sake. :)
  • One side of me wants to say send it, but then I have to think you need to let it go for your own mental health. I know I would be tempted to send something, Maybe send an anonmous letter or newspaper clippings, then they have it in their head.
  • As much as I can understand what you want to do...I am not sure that it will give you any closure....I think you have to just let it go...as difficult as that is:(
  • Vengence never makes us feel as good as it ought to. But sometimes our heart says it's manditory. What does your heart tell you?
    • Victorine
      "Vengeance".
  • It's quite possible that the employer knows. Many jobs these days involve background checks, and there are other reasons the employer might be aware of this man's past. Even if he doesn't know, the fact that the man was not convicted (and the circumstances of the case, which you have not told us) might cause the employer to decide that the information is of no real concern to him. You also need to be prepared for the possibility of a lawsuit. Even if you won, it could cost you a great deal of money in terms of legal fees and cost you in terms of anxiety as well. I understand the impulse to do this, so I won't try to tell you not to. However, I don't believe in sending anonymous accusations -- they are cowardly and unjust -- so if you're going to send this information, you must put your name to it and be prepared to accept the consequences. By the way, if you are still plotting revenge 8 years after the fact, I hope you are in therapy.
  • Make sure the packet cannot be traced back to you
  • Would it bring your boyfriend back? You can't raise your own credibility by damaging someone else's.

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