ANSWERS: 32
  • Depends on the rule broken. One is sometimes better than the other. Sometimes both are necessary.
  • ground them i remember when i was younger my parents made me right lines :(
  • Time outs are good. The only time to spank kids is to make something dangerous aversive - like running in the street. The minute you can reason with them, cut out the spanking.
  • It has different levels depending on the level of disruption that the child acts out. It also depends if it was a standing rule or one that the child who did know something about has just been told not to do. My parents were very fair and a spanking needed a spanking we got but we knew the rules. mr Bill
  • I believe it all depends on the ages of the children, the amount of anger the one administering the spanking is feeling at the moment, and the "crime" committed.
  • I would rather ground them; I am against spanking because aggressiveness is not a solution to solve a problem.
  • Grounding , unless you wish to be arrested, spanking is illegal here.
  • depends on the kid, depends on the situation, depends on the age.
  • Spanking doesn't work for older kids, they might spank back. Grounding kids doesn't work on younger kids, they just stay home and play and annoy you. So, Spank the little one, ground the big ones.
  • Ground them.
  • I don't believe in spanking children. Depending upon the infraction and the child's age, I would either ground or take away privileges. :) Happy Friday! :)
  • woteva you believe to be suitable
  • I dont believe in spanking, I think it teaches them its ok to hit and it teaches them to be afraid of their parents, which is awful. I believe grounding or taking away favorite toys is more effective.
  • It really depends on the crime committed and the age. My children got a spanking for running out in the road, trying to put things in the electrical outlet, etc. ANything that is going to harm them warrants a spanking so they don't do it again and kill themselves. There is a huge difference between spanking to discipline and spanking to abuse.
  • Are you talking about for disciple or recreation?
  • to ground your children ala Fargo would be a lot worse than a whack to the butt. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qWFhDvURLg
  • I think it better to ground them, if you spank them it just makes them afaid of you. If you ground them and take away there things when they are going to do something they know it wrong they will think moms going to take away my things not moms going to spank me. Adults call it spanking them children call hurting them. Thats how children think all they think is if i do this mommy and daddy are going to hurt me. Do you really want you child to think of you that way?
  • Grounding shows and teaches more discipline. I am currently grounded from my xbox360. I have learned my lesson. Spanking is just cruel and makes your children dislike you and be afraid of you. I would want to be a nice, good father and not lay a hand on my child. Unless i am caring for him or her, carrying him or her like the fun parent or messing up their hair.
  • Itdepends on the situation and whether spanking is legal where you live or not. Not every situation needs a spank. I think it should be reserved for when a child does something to endanger its own safety or the safety of others. Grounding may be used occasionally, but personally, I think too many rules are suffocating for a child and could hamper their development. Just a couple of basic rules is enough with grounding used only for the most serious offense.
  • There should be a sanction, but sometimes a light sting on the bottom works and is the kindest thing because the whole issue is then over and done with. If a child bites himself, it hurts. If a child bites his sister and you give him one slap (immediately so that the connection is made between action and consequence), then from his perspective hurting his sister hurts him, and is to be avoided. Grounding and taking away priveliges both serve to make the child and the infraction itself the centre of attention, and whilst that has its place there is also room for that to be counterproductive. What damages a child is not the method of discipline but the attitude with which the parent exercises power.
  • Spanking will toughen them up and get it over with quickly. Grounding can be reserved for more severe things. Extra chores are not bad punishments.
  • Grounding them works better
  • Neither works. My parents made me do 'community service' when they realised that neither worked. Didn't work either.
  • It's not very ethical to put children in meat grinders you know... (On a serious note, I'd ground them, children seem to hate you a bit after getting their ass smacked a few times)
  • It depends on their offense and age. Spanking is over quickly and probably better for younger children whose attention span is very short. Grounding is a punishment that works well IF the parent is able to make the punishment stick. As it's a long and drawn out punishment, there is ample opportunity to remind the child exactly why he/she is being made to suffer the grounding. It can reinforce the issue.
  • I wouldn't hit my kid for hitting someone else. I don't think I would resort to spanking, even for any wrong action. Grounding/ taking away priveledges sounds like a better option. Spanking may work when you're young but eventually when they grow older, they become immune to it. Also, spanking gives th ewrong message, in my opinion.
  • I dont think spanking works. Grounding can work, but make sure you do something that effects them badly and stick to your guns. If they rely on the phone, take away the phone. If they have something important and fun coming up, take that away. They may hate you for a short period of time, but it will get the point across.
  • Depends on the offense. 99% of the time a grounding will suffice. But for that 1% it is nice to reserve that spanking that makes a clear and concise statement. For example; "You will not put cat poop in mom's coffee and watch her drink it"!
  • Each case, each child is different. Depends on what they did, what you have done in the past and what you told them you would do. Both are simply tools to use for discipline, but each can be useless if they aren't done well with the education of the child in mind. It's simply about teaching and acquiring both knowledge and consequences.
  • it depends on their age. little children can not be grounded, they don't understand the concept. once children understand the concept of consequences, spanking should be replaced with other forms of punishment.
  • Grounding is a loss of their freedom and enjoyment, as too is withdrawing other priviledges. Children don't need to be spanked. The threat of not having something they enjoy is enough of a deterrent or lesson learnt. For very small children the now infamous 'sit on stairs' technique works and for older children banning their priviledges and freedom works. No need for violence.
  • I agree with everyone on depends on the age and the crime...but when i was younger grounding me didnt work because my entertainment was my mind. Daydreaming was better than tv or games or bycicles. Of course i never really done anything to get a spanking for (ok i didnt get caught doing anything i needed a spanking for) Some kids are like me and dont respond to grounding and other kids just laugh when you spank them (like my 2 year old...hes so mean...lol. Only you can determine what punishment your child needs.

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