Well, yes, loving someone isn't usually something you can control. However, if one (or both) of these men isn't okay with polygamy then you'll probably have to make a choice. I doubt the love will go away any time soon, though.

Is it okay = no. I have been in same predicament but with opposite sex. It will lead to a lot of hardship if you do not come to grips with this and choose one to share your love with.

Although I don't believe you can really control who you love, if you're married and you are thinking of acting on those feelings, then no it is not okay. If you're dating and fall in love with both of them, you will still need to choose. Having a relationship with two people at the same time isn't fair to any of you.

i dont think its ok because if you really did love someone you wouldnt love 2 people at the same time. this is just my opinion im sure many people would think other wise.

It is ok to love two men at the same time,no one man is the same so, I'm pretty sure it is something different about each man that gives you something different.Hell sometimes it takes two men to add up to one.

If both men know you love the other and are OK with it, I say it's fine.

I think eventually you need to make a decision as to which one you want to be with however. You may like them both but you need to make a decision.

i think it depends on the actions you take ultimately. you cant make yourself start or stop loving someone. i am currently in this situation. i love each man for completely different reasons. both offer something different. i am aware that i am very infactuated with the thought of "what if?". it's learning to accept where you are and what is right for you at that time...then taking those actions.

It's okay to love two or mon men at the same time...The problem is if you want to marry them, that's illegal almost everywhere...

love yes, but to committ to both no. you can only truely be committed to one.

If you can't find everything you need in one person, its time to keep looking, settling for two people who are "almost" what you want is not what its about!

I think it's okay, just neither is true love.

It is OK... however you must not let that harm your relationship.

I Dont Know Im Not Gay!

I dont think its even possible. Neither of them would be real love. Unless youre talking about a family/friends type love relationship. then its definitely possible

Two's company and three's a crowd. It will not work. ever. Jealousy will enter into this triangle, sooner or later. it always has and always will. I feel that nothing came come of this situation, except someone's broken heart. It has been known that the two men team against the woman and leave. Carma is not good.

If one of them is your father.

I think It is o.k to love two people at the same time. but I think you will have to make a concious choice when the time comes because acting and telling them both that you love them without the others knowledge is not o.k in my oppinion. I think it is two compleetly different things when it is in your head and when you accually act on it.

To me (meaning personally) it's a completley foreign thing. only because I've never loved 2 men at the same time. BUT. I know a few people who have and they were very good people. They couldn't help their feelings even if it tore them apart. You're human, and if you love two men... you love two men :D In one case though, it just turned out to be lust for one and love for the other. Just remeber that. that definatley isn't to say that you don't love both, but it's always something to think about.

No not right. But yes, understandable. Marriage can become routine. After time, people change. Needs change. But it's never right or understandable to deceive one or the other partner. In the end, a choice must be made.

yes you can love two men but that doesnt mean you'll go both with them, you need to choose wether you like it or not. if you still can't catch up ask it back to yourself, "would it be ok for me if my man love another woman aside from me?"

When LOVE is present how could it be a bad thing no matter what the reason. As long as hurt does not follow.

the position is totaly possible. lol seriously though you should tell them both let them decide not us answerbaggers.

I hope so, cause I'm going through this right now too...

I believe that love is a feeling you cannot control but i dont think you can love to man at the same time. Love Is not shared, Loving is being with one person and giving your all to him...devoting your life to make him happy, sharing all your dreams with him...i dont think you can break yourself up to share your life with both these man. my advise is, dont get siriously involved with these man yet, date them, get to know them better, see who you connect with the most...spend a couple of days with each of them...this can help you organize your feelings. i also advise for you to let these man know that you just want to get to know them to see where everything is heading. or just tell them the truth. Good Luck!!!!

You can love many men, but your romantic intentions must ultimately be directed toward one man.That requires emotional maturity and cognitive decision making. If it is hard to decide between two, don't worry. it just means that you are not ready for a lifetime commitment.

i think u can be in love with two men and i dont believe it is ok however i think the real question is how do u chose between the two men u love

I think sometimes it just happens. What if you have been happily married and your husband messes up and cheats.. then is very very sorry. That marriage contract is now broken. The heart ache is there. So then you reach out to some freinds and within that time you meet up with a former boyfriend you hadn't seen in years. (since college). the timing couldn't be better as he is in the midst of a divorce and someone to talk to. Its safe for him and now after years of marriage and never cheating on your own huband you now feel its OK to talk and meet up with form boyfriend you hadn’t seen in over 27 yrs. Then, over a period of several months that friendship turns to love but you are still married. Now, what do you do? So here is the dilema, husband cheated, but says it was only once. ( do I believe that, maybe not.but doesnt' matter).. he is very sorry, but now I feel the marraige is broken.. of course I am making it work and smiling for the family and kids and neigbors and friends but I am hurt. who wouldn't be.. am I going to end our 25yr. marriage? certainly not and if I did wouldn't be for several years till the kids are gone. So loving this other person that shared so much of my life years ago and now back in is not so easy to just say NO. I will not give up this new reunion with my friend. I sometimes feel very guilty but other times no way.. I wasn’ the one to break our marital agreement. I wasn’t the one to cheat. Do I still love my husband, of course.. I must be very forgiving. But now this incident has opened a new relation for me. So.. loving 2 men sometimes is ok.

I am in love with two very good men.One is my husband and one is my best friend.My husband did nothing wrong and is like pure gold. My best friend did everything right and is like pure gold. The sexual relationship I reserve only for my husband.My heart burns for both of them. I don't think you can choose who you love but you can control what you allow within the relationships.Even if I never saw my best friend again I would love him forever in my heart.This is never an easy situation but should be handled with as much honor and respect as possible.

It is normal human tendency.I am not sure if its OK.Try to put yourself in the position of your loved ones and then decide.

it is never not ok to love. it just isn't ok to abuse it. choose the one who's the best for you, who you would want to be with you when you are on your death bed. give it time. it will be hard not to physically act on your other love but if you can harness your impulses you will be doing the right thing. if you are lucky you can stay friends after some time has passed. I am in this situation right now. It's bittersweet because It tears you in two, but as long as you do the right thing it's not terrible. I'm just so glad I have two people that I could love this much in my life. I wouldn't ever encourage this situation, but I certainly feel alive.

if only we lived in a world where we were all truly honest about human nature and people wouldn't feel hurt or belittled if they were'nt the only one in someones life.

My own personal opinion, no. I'm a one woman man when it comes to loving someone. I expect the the woman I love to be a one man woman as well.

Sure My Husband, My Grandfather, My Brothers and My grown son (when he is a man)

Torn between two lovers, one of my all time favorite songs! Why would you ever want to do that? Are you a glutton for punishment or something?

I think its possible but we all know that you can only commit yourself to one.

Definately.

Yes you can but its difficult to choose which one to stay with!!!!!Dont get like this it makes life unbareable! If you are deeply attached to more than one person, the real question is: Can you be happy just knowing your heart swells with so much love, or do you need to get involved with both individuals — a situation that is likely to prove explosive, even destructive? Your heart is powerful, but your mind can triumph. Once you understand your emotions, it's up to you to decide what to do about them.

I have been many times.

Yep, because love can only be measured by the person giving or receiving it, and if you feel you are in love, then you are. Good luck, I have been there myself..no easy ending.

My ex would would say that it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time. To him, he feels each person provides the thing the other lacks and that the two of them together would make up the perfect woman.... If I were to answer this question for myself. I would say no... I believe you may be able to love a few different people for different reasons but I do not believe you can be IN LOVE with more than one at a time..... Okay - let me restate my belief... I AM NOT ABLE TO BE IN LOVE WITH MORE THAN ONE PERSON> I just can't do it because I give my all and how could I possibly build a foundation and give my all to two people at the same time? For the past six years I have been in a relationship where he loved two of us...It was extremely difficult for me - always wanting to have his love once again for myself...But after all the lies he told trying to keep the peace...After NINE years it is finally over and I am finding peace with it for once....

A lot of people claim to be able to commit to more than one person. It's called polyamory. I know that if you try to love more than one person at a time and aren't completely honest with everyone involved, it is doomed to failure. But if all three (or more) of you are happy, and can avoid jealousy, why not?

It is not okey.You can't love two men at the same time.Think about consequences.

It is not okey.You can't love two men at the same time.Think about consequences.

Your heart just can't be divided like that for your health. Something or someone will tear you apart, or tear your heart apart. And it isn't fair to them, giving them only half of you.

Yes! I mean, No one can say (not even ME) that they only love/are attracted to one person. Is just... Well for me anyway, impossible.

My husband made me sign a prenuptial agreement before we married. I basically took care of myself, bought my own food, bought all of my personal needs. I lived like that for 9 years. The last 3 years, we stopped sleeping together. He was demanding that I find work and I couldn't at the time so I moved out of town in with my sons and found work. My employer and I fell in love very fast. My husband was so cold and complaining toward me that I didn't miss him at all. I lived with my boyfriend for 4 months and I was happier than I ever had been in my life. My husband told me that he would tear up the prenuptial and buy me a much better vehicle if I came back. He did these things but I have never been able to forget my boyfriend. We both still miss and love each other very much. I have very little feelings for my husband even though I have been back for 2 1/2 years. He watches my every move and neither one of us trust the other one. I only went back with my husband b/c I wanted to do what is right. My boyfriend has a very sweet calm personality and my husband is very unpleasant to be around most of the time. I found out that he has been taping my phone conversations and using a key logger on my computer. I moved out after finding that out. I am REALLY confused.

only if they are not in love with each other

I am a married woman. I have loved a man before i met my hubby.He is also married. we still loved each too deeply until now. I know because we are still in contact without our spouses knowledge. Of course we both feel guilty to our partners. we try to maintain it as just good friends though in our hearts we know it's different. On the surface we treat each other like a friend and it is never sexual. we promise not to hurt anyone else as much as we can. Long before we were married, we could not be together due to unavoidable circumstances. We hope to remain good friends by respecting the love we have for each other, inside, at the same time, we both love and respect our spouse/ families. Difficult but it happens.

Magic 8-Ball says "Don't Count On It".

Is it ok to love two men? No. Is it natural? Yes, for some of us. I started a relationship with a co-worker 4 mos after my boyfriend left me. Three months into my new relationship, my ex pleaded for me to give him another shot. We had not had ANY contact in the last 8 months, and I really thought I was over him and ready to move on. I have recently discovered that the feelings remain. Meanwhile my new flame who is finalizing his divorce in the next month or so, is expecting a commitment at that point. I have never thought it possible to share affections for two people. My feeling is that if you are asking if its ok, you know its not. Someone is going to be hurt by your decision or lack thereof, and you cannot be 100% committed if your affections are divided.

yes.i am in love with 2 men.one i have a family with and the other pleases me sexually and commucates with me very well he knows about the other guy they know about eachother i dont lie or hide anything from them.and i love both of them deeply.and no im not married im not ready for a husband i just wanted to say that as long as your not married or lieing to them its ok for a limited time meaning u will soon grow up and realize whats important because right now i will admit that i am confused in my situation but im not unhappy and neither are my guys are unhappy with this.im 24 my babys father is 27 and the other guy is 45.so there a big age difference there but yes i beleive you can love 2 people at once.

I know you can love two men at the same time, I just want to know how to let one go :(

I dont think its ok. You have to make up your mind.

Yes it is possible but not sure its ok. I dont believe we are meant to have just one partner for a whole lifetime but to commit to two at the same time is destructive. Im in love with a much younger man while i love my husband of 15years. Its all about control and hoping in a way that things will just work out. I figure the younger man will move on before long. We have shared many moments together that couples would but have never stepped over the line although we have wanted to. I can feel it changing lately. It has been 2 years so i cant be greedy. Just be grateful i suppose for knowing that passion still exists.

You may have a big heart to love two but it is really difficult to balance the two together. One would surely tilt the balance.We are biased human beings.It is also not possible to love two women by a man equally!