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  • All of my kids had the same "symptoms" you have when they were 17. Don't over-analyze yourself.
  • You have basically answered you're own question. You need someone to talk to, a counselor or a therapist. You are full of anger and at best, it will make you a bitter person with a crappy life. Talk to someone, good luck!
  • Here I'm just adding more to the question, not answering it. I was wondering since serotonin is associated with Anger, Aggression, Mood, and all that jazz. Is it possible that I have poor serotonin levels? Also, I was wondering since they are all related through serotonin, is it possible that bottleing up all that anger has effected the useage or effdectivness of my serotonin, I mean would it be healthy at this point to start responsibly releasing that anger instead of doing literally nothing about it? So much for me to comtemplate. I'm just really stumped on this and wanted to some more unique insight from other individuals into my problem. Instead of just being limited to myself and the few around me. Answer 2, that was another thing I was thinking. Thats why I want some help from others, I'm very well-known by my peers to over-analyze things. But I honestly think its more serious than the average teenage stuff, it has affected my social-life and relationships my entire life. Thanks to all who help or even attempt to help. It is much appriciated.
  • Without knowing you in detail, I still feel safe saying Heck yeah! It has plenty to do with it! Please go to a therapist. Anger can ruin your life and get out of control before you realize what's happneing. Prisons are filled with good folks who blew it in a single moment in time.
  • Hormones get all out of balance during the teen years, even without the unexpressed anger added in. One method that is suggested to help work out the aggression is to eat a healthy diet, and to get more than the usual amount of exercise. If you have good insurance coverage, you might be able to have your medical provider pay for counseling. You can also find a lot of good tips by scrolling down to the bottom of this page, click on "How to Articles", then type "How to handle anger" and "Teenage changes" in the search box.
  • Again not knowing you, it is really hard for us to tell you what you need to do. A councilor could be helpful as other have pointed, but I have something else to add. First of all, understand that this answer is being written by someone who was also picked on a lot while growing up. To this day, I still feel that I was one of the ones that everybody else picked on from grade school all the way through high school. (This is one of the reasons why I have never really had much desire to go to any of my high school reunions.) So, I think that I know from where you are coming. That written, I have two bits of advice for you. First of all, instead of bottling up your anger, learn to forgive. I know how much being picked on can hurt. However, you have to learn to let go of that. Don't let the bullies get to you. Don't nurse the hurt and hold on to the anger. Learn to let those go. This is what I mean by learning to forgive. Forgiveness is not about allowing the person who wronged you to escape the just rewards of his bad behavior. Forgiveness is learning to let go of the anger and pain that bad behavior causes you. In this case, learning to forgive also involves learning to accept yourself for who you are. This involves coming to recognize your good qualities and not letting anyone feel ashamed of them. In the process of doing this, you don't want to be prideful (that just leads to other problems), but you don't want let people make you feel ashamed of who you are. (Note some shame over bad qualities is good because it can motivate us to improve. The problem in today's society is distinguishing the bad from the good.) So, learn to accept your self for who you are and learn to let go of the emotional pain, learning to forgive, can go a long way to helping you overcome adversity and be a much happier person. This is something that a good councilor may be helpful in learning to do. The next bit of advice will be rather hard to implement now. However, the time is coming when you will be able to. When I got out of high school, I decided that I would leave all of that baggage behind. When you graduate, you and your classmates will go of in very different directions, some to college, other to jobs, etc. Basically once you are past graduation, you and your classmates will scatter to the wind. If you live in a large enough town, then this means that you will probably not see most of them again. (I think that I can count the members of my graduating class that I have seen since graduation on the fingers of one hand.) This provides a great opportunity to start over. The bullies won't be there anymore to tear you down in front of new people that you meet. So, don't be defensive. Be open and friendly. It will probably surprise you how much of a difference being out of that environment will make on your ability to make friends. Again, being confident in who you are is important. If you don't show fear or shame about yourself, then you will inspire respect in most of those that you meet. This is not to say that you won't encounter new bullies (some people never grow out of that). However, most of the people that you will meet will get to know you and will be able to tell the difference between the image that the bully tries to paint an the real you. I won't say that any of this will necessarily be easy. There are certain aspects of my personality that I still have to deal with that I attribute to the lack of healthy socialization that I got as a kid. However, for the most part, I have made good friends wherever I have gone and had very little trouble with unkind people since I got out of high school. It all boils down to developing a healthy level of self worth learning to not let the cretins in this world get you down. We all face our own trials and adversities in life and it is up to each of us to decide how we will deal with them. This come down to the kind of attitude that we decide to have as we go through life. I decided that I was simply going to enjoy mine as I continued to strive to do what what I believe to be right. I hope that you can do the same.
  • Yes it has been clinically shown that repressed emotion can effect brain chemistry, especially in the area of serotonin reuptake. I agree with the person who suggested forgiveness in the sense of letting go of the anger. My mom always told me when I got picked on to "consider the source" and realize that people who treat others that way do it because they feel small. The question is how to release it. Talking to a counselor or therapist is a great start. You asked about a responsible way to take out the anger. I found that kickboxing was a great release for me. Not that I wanted to hurt my sparring partner, but the physical activity and the adrenaline and endorphine rush does wonders. And if I don't have a partner at the moment, just kicking the hell out of a heavy bag is good too.
  • You will need to learn how to deal with your anger properly. The first step is to realise that it is an emotional response and shouldn't be treated as a negative thing. Anger at appropriate times is actually beneficial, but unbridled emotion, of any kind, is dangerous. You'd be wise to seek proper counseling from a professional. Also, being seventeen and full of conflicting hormones doesn't help one little bit. Things are always clearer after 21.
  • Unfortunately its like a toxic gas building in your body waiting to explode, do some soul searching before it catches you up, mu hun went thru that when he was 17 he got locked up trying up the wrong thing, and when he was growing up he ended up in there again, so you need to turn it into something productive, anger can be a helper becoming courage to do things, becomes the force that moves you, cause you get stronger, manage it. conquer it don't let it conquer you, you already know where it comes from so you know what the problem is, handle it. here is a book for you "the 48 laws of power" if you're getting cold blooded this is good for you. take tips not personal. ;) good luck sweety , the best wishes. Be smart.
  • Easily. Stand up for yourself, being submissive isn't a good thing in America.
  • Could be. But from PAST anger? ONLY because you can't let it go and are still thinking about it. Most of your irritation and aggression you have NOW, would be from things that are happening now. Either they, themselves, piss you off, or they remind you of the past when you held it in. NOW, though, you really NEED to control it. You can get mad, but don't hit... You can complain, bitch, scream, whatever, but not to kids... If you need to, set up a punching bag in your garage, and when you feel you're ready to blow (and you should have had enough experience to know, by now), go out there, and wear yourself out. Then you can come back into the conversation in a more reasonable mood to discuss things, rather than hurt someone.

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