Christians or Non: My girlfriend (who is also a christian and a virgin) is pressuring me to have sex with her. I've told her we should wait until we are engaged or married, but she doesn't want to wait that long. What should I do?

Don't let her force you to have sex with her. Biblically, sex isn't even allowed until after marriage anyway.

If she can't honor your choice, then I don't forsee your relationship lasting. You shouldn't ever break a vow or change your values, when it concerns that, to fulfill your partner's needs. I would say find someone else that actually feels the same about sex after marriage.

Don't compromise your values.

She sounds like a predator. I doubt she is a virgin. She just wants you to put a seed in her belly so you are forced to marry her. Don't fall for this kind of trickery.

If your girlfriend respects you she will wait. You need her to be understanding and respect you or what will it be like in marriage with not respect. It starts now and you have values and beliefs. I think that is so wonderful to see. Bless you for waiting that is what a real man of God is.

Sex before marriage is against God's Law in the Bible. Jesus Christ said so, that even looking at another to commit adultery is like already committing adultery in the heart. You cannot have it both ways. If you are a Christian, you must wait until after marriage. If you cannot do that, then don't call yourself Christian. That would be a lie. Going to church would be a waste of time. If your minister says sex before marriage is OK, he is against scriptures. His church should be taxed and closed down. People have been executed for being Christian. Abstaining from sex is less than death.

you should do what the bible says, and abstain from relations. first of all i wonder how old you are? in this country it is perfectly acceptable to start relationships prematurely. the bible teaches that the dating process is for individuals that are of marrying age. dating is not a pasttime, but a serious step towards marriage. when you are ready for that important step in your adult life, even then it is done under strict supervision. this is meant to protect you from committing immorality. just think, if more people applied this counsel in their lives would we have the rampant immorality we see worldwide? for more information go to www.watchtower,org.

You'll need to keep an eye on her. If she is willing to for go the will of the bible and wants to have sex she may find someone else behind your back to have sex with. So she'll be breaking the church and your trust.

The anonymous answer questions how far is too far. The scriptures are quite plain. Sexual intercourse outside of marriage is too far. Hugging, kissing, holding, are acceptable and not a sin. But each of these is a on a road to sexual relations. That is the way God intended. Sex is reserved for married people. Yes, we get forgiveness for sins, but the Bible says we must "not use the grace of God as an excuse for loose conduct." In otherwords, don't plan on sin with the idea of asking for forgiveness later. If we sin willfully, there is the danger of becoming calloused and at one point not asking for forgiveness. Then we are lost. If we go the opposite direction of serving God, we may never get off that path to destruction. Yes, we all sin daily. Unintentional sins based on imperfection. Serious, gross sins center on the laws set out in the 10 Commandments, which were fulfilled in Jesus. Those laws still stand and are very clear, no grey area. Murder, stealing, adultery, God's Law. There are no loopholes. God's laws are clear. Religious leaders today rarely discuss immorality, for fear they will condemn their congregations. No news is good news for them. Too bad for them. We must not water down the written Word of God. Yes, we can cease to be Christian. The Apostle Paul, who wrote much of the New Testament as letters to congregations, hoped that he himself would not somehow lose God's approval after all of his service and obedience to his heavenly Father. Who will be saved? Matthew 24:13 says "he that endures to the end is the one who will be saved." Meaning, those who do not endure will not be saved. Let's all wake up people, Christianity involves our very lives. We are in charge of our personal health. We are also in charge of our personal spirituality. Start reading and studying God's inspired Word, the Bible, instruction manual for planet Earth. How do you put a bicycle together?
Read the directions. How do you live on the planet
Earth? Read the directions.

If you are not ready, then you are not ready. Simple.

Do not sleep with this girl until you are absolutely ready and if ( or when) you do use contraception, lots of it.

Again, If you are not ready, then you are not ready. Simple.

Get some condoms and bang away. She might be a psycho, but hell, you got laid in the process. Christian girls are usually pretty wild once they open up.

Waiting is an old fashioned tradition which does'nt work in the modern world you should'nt marry someone you've never had sex with because you dont know if your sexually compatable.it's up to you but refuseing to have sex in my oppion is a very weird reason to brake up.it might be years before you get married and not having sex in a relationship for that long can couse a lot of tension to build.what differance will a piece of paper make,if your two adults in love whats the point in waiting?.good luck.