Whenever I am faced with something big I want to go and get drunk or when I am depressed and so on I never actually do it. my mom and dad were alcoholics is it normal for me to do this? to want to drink my problems away? I never do this but i feel like it
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ilikecandy
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Hang in there, I know exactly where you're coming from. My family has man alcoholics, and the desire to turn to the bottle feels like it's, I don't know, 'ingrained' into my psyche. Having made a conscious choice not to get like that, I abstain when I'm in a funk. You're normal, don't worry, just keep doing what you're doing. Going down that path is not pretty, and it's always best to keep a clear head.
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it is a sign that it runs in your family and if you start it the flood gates will never close. the thing is you must not start it and find something else to calm you.
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you should buy a bottle of jack and drink the night away. i am an alcoholic and it's not so bad. oj hpf mpe upi str sm s;vpjp;ov?
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i think u may be lacking self confidence,and when u have to deal with a situation,u get drunk which for a while gives u a bit of confidance,but then makes u depressed as u know drink is a depressant,and its a visious circle.if your parents were alcoholics,its usually learnt behavior,that drinking is normal, perhaps u need a bit of counseling to speak about your problems that sometimes happen. hope all goes well helen
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You are smart to recognize this happening in you. It's because that is how you were taught to deal with problems, so it feels "normal" to you... I can assure you it is not normal and is not the solution to problems. If your parents had been able to learn better coping skills you might have them right now too. But we all have our handicaps. Learn instead to go for a walk, take deep breaths, take a shower, or something else constructive to help you move on. Any of these things will help you solve the problem rather than make it bigger.
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I would stay away from the alcohol. It will eventually cause nothing but problems. If you need to get counceling do it and go to open AA meeting to see what the consequences of drinking is. I know you know from your parents, but the more reality you get the better. Better yet go to ALANON. Either way I truely wish you the best, it is a horrible way to live.
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I have been dry for almost six years now. All you can do is take one day at a time. I may be out drinking tomorrow. I hope not! All I know is I am NOT drinking today. There are numerous times I have wanted to drink. We all have urges. That is ok. What is not ok is to act upon such urges. If you think you may start drinking, I would contact your local AA support group. Good luck! +5
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It is because you grew up seeing people cope with their problems in that way...so you think its only normal to deal with your problems in that way. Its awesome that you arnt though. If you ever start, chances are that it would be a long road before you quit the bad habit. There are other ways, and its just you saying no to it each and everytime that is your biggest steps being taken in your life already. Never give up, and never give in. You think the problems are big now, if you drink it only expands them even bigger. Drinking never solves the problems, only gets rid of em for alittle while...then hits you 10 times harder. Maybe find a hobby...running, meditation, tai chi, or some kinda of kungfu class...you could go work out...or write poems. Pick up guitar, or learn the piano. There are many ways to "create art" in times of tribulation, and by doing it...you yourself is also solving the problem from the core...and creating SOLUTIONS, not DILUTIONS. Good luck. =)
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Yes it is normal for YOU to feel like this. All your life you were shown that is how you deal with tough situations, to get wasted. In the end its not how you feel that matters in this respect but what you do.
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