Why do people talk bad about each other?

By knocking somebody else, we in turn make ourselves feel better about...ourselves.


"Becky is such a dork. Thank god I'm not as dorky as Becky."

It boosts your own self-confidence (somewhat artificially) by creating biased standards based on that person's behavior/appearance/whatever.

I think either jealousy, or ones own lack of self confidence. If you're feeling down, talking about how someone else is uglier than you will make you feel better, for about a second!

They want confirmation that the other person is as bad as they think that they are. To make the other person look bad. To make themselves feel better by comparison. To cause harm to the other person. To let off steam. To go along with someone else who is talking about someone. Boredom. Maliciousness. Habit. Revenge.

jealiousy! I think many make bad remarks about others truly out of fear that they are less then the one they are making fun of.

All types of reasons. We judge everyone. Often its an ego thing to reinforce your views if that person does not follow them or to dramatise things (not allways in a bad way). If not, in some cases, its the person who needs to bring others down in order to feel better about themself. Dont take this to heart because in practice people who bring others down to feel better about themselves are normally wrong.

Stupidity.

I would like to suggest the following reasons:

(1) people are born with a sinful nature

(2) people have skeletons in their closets

(3) people are more inclined to bad rather than good

Retaliation for being rubbed the wrong way

When someone talks about someone else behind their back, I don't join in the trashing and never openly agree with the statements being made...but I DO listen just to evaluate the person doing the talking. I may just say something like "Um, really? I never noticed that."

Mentally, I instantly say to myself that if this person talks badly about another person behind their back, he/she would eventually do exactly the same thing to me, especially if I happen to disagree with him/her on something/anything in the future. To me, that person is NEVER to be trusted.

As to never openly agreeing, even if I know the trash to be likely or true, the trasher is looking for allies against the person being trashed. If you agree with something like "Yes, I've noticed that, myself", the trasher will then go on to the next prospective ally and make the same hateful remark and tell the newbie the trash, adding "...and _______ agrees with me".

Take it from this wise old man: People who talk badly about other people, especially unfairly, are not the type you wanna make enemies of unless you're skilled enough to take them on and win...so, in most cases, just play it kewl..but you don't want to hang out with them, either...they are not well.

They are just mad because the dont have what you have. The have low self esteem. They will talk to you,then go behind your back and talk about you.Jealousy is the mane reason.They dont have anything better to do. They are haters (shake them haters off)
Be true to your self,never stoop down to there level.

Why not

Easy. They are holding a mirror to their own face as they talk.

Many reasons, jealousy is the mane reason. I'm in high school and there are some many things people say about me i don't get it really but i still don't want anyone to get hurt by what other people say. To make them self feel better is another reason. There are people that trust ofter people and tell them thing that they don't want ofter people to know but they tell them any way. When something someone does is stupid people exaggerate the stupid thing to make their self feel better about the stupid things they do.That is why i don't tell people things that i do.Revenge is anther reason. People think people said things about them because their friends say they did but most of the time they don't. Then the person that is tell the other person thing is talking about them and don't want people to think that they are a bad person. They blame it on a person that they don't like that they hope doesn't bit them in the butt. Well that is what i think ;-)

They have nothing better to do. Some people can only feel good about themselves by putting down others. Go figure............

to be frank, i juz simply don't give a damn to those who talks bad about me... its simply because one will start talk bad about another person if the person is in higher post, or in a place where the rest have to follow them. The problem never starts there, it starts when the one who was being blame instruct them to do something that they can't... so their mouth gives the signal that they do not really agree with it bcoz they are NOT capable of doing it... so take their words as a compliment... you are better than them. you can do something that they can't...

Because they have nothing else better to do.

i feel that my best fren(AYS)is over-doing..she say that her bf is her best fren..i was so excited when i heard that her bf is her bf..but i still in ok mood..but 4 my fren(KIM) she was so angry and she broke her fren-ship with her.....AYS..say 2 me and my other best fren(loga)that kim is jealous but 4 me and loga.... ays is lie to us we think that her bf is not her real bf.......she always say that her bf and she meet at friendship club at kl but 4 me that club is she created herself........kim told ays sorry but she dont act like dont care...why cant she forgive her and get to be a normal fren but not best fren it is ok....but she didnt do that so................now kim is very angry and hate her.wat should i do?

Envy......Socrates said that envy is the ulcer of the soul; it eats away your peace of mind and causes you numerous pains and ailments. Aristotle defined envy as the pain caused by the good fortune of others, while Kant defined it as a reluctance to see our own well-being overshadowed by another's because the standard we use to see how well off we are is not the intrinsic worth of our own well-being but how it compares with that of others – In plain English we miss seeing who we are because we are always comparing notes with others.

I think, without any good or bad reasons people don't talk bad about on each others. I know that there are some crazy people who doesn't have anything to do, finding something faulty stories or creating some stories themselves on others, that's the way they enjoying their life. Also when some people feel mad, sad or jealous on their loved ones or friends or somebody else or whom they got hurt, whom they got cheated, whom they believed did something bad, then only people talk like that way. Otherwise some people will mind their own business.

I talk bad about others to get them to fight me

Because they do not have a life...they are insecure, bored and by talking about others makes them feel better, in control and on top. I hate to say I have met some of these people. They are out there and all around us.

To make their self feel better.