I am a real girly girl who loves wearing dresses and skirts. Why do so many tomboys and other less feminine girls find it necessary to make comments about my appearance?
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weak girl loves pink skirts
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Like what?
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Probably because you are used as an example to show them how others feel THEY should be. It is annoying to be told, why can't you be more like her?
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jealousy. they know they cant look as good as u
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It is very possible that they are jealous of you.
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Maybe they would feel ridiculous dressed like that so they assume you feel ridiculous but are just trying to show off or put on airs. I dressed the way you do now when I was younger. and I got teased a lot because I liked to play sports. The other girls who were less girly didn't understand why I dressed the way I did. It's really a matter of them not understanding that you feel differently than they do. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you're happy, that's what matters.
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It could be because they are jealous of you or because they feel you're too much of a stereotypical girly girl for their tastes. Whatever their reason, just be happy that they have to make these comments. For whatever the reason, it doesn't matter. You're getting noticed! Just be you. Don't change because of what people say. People always say things. You can't please everyone and not everyone will be excited about your style. I went through that all through school--even into college! But I love my style and I won't change. Just be who you are!
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I'm the same way. Maybe they're jealous of you. What kind of comments do they make?
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Hey do not worry what they say or do... BE YOURSELF... Never conform. What would the world be like if you did not a little of every type of person in it. I think it would be BORING... Hey you should think about going to the University of Va. Girls get dress up to go to Football games and sit on the hill in the stadium... Alot of guys wear shirt and ties... just an old prepy tradition.
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i'm the same way, i like having my hair and make up done and dressing nice, and other girls will make stupid comments about how "dressed up" i got. i think theyre just jealous that we always look nice! just ignore it
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Are you somehow, maybe provoking people into saying things about you? Last month you asked about making up with your friend after she knocked you down in the mud. I've always dressed the way I want to, and people don't make comments about me, or knock me down in the mud. Feminine dressing should go hand in hand with lady like behavior. Maybe you are having an issue with that, or maybe it's time you find different people to hang out with.
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Maybe cutting others down makes them feel better about themselves. People are weird. Just ignore it and be happy :D Don't take it personal.
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Because we tend to not respect each others differences. It's the same reason "girly girls" often talk about the less feminine girls. It's not right, but if we are secure with who we are, and happy - that's all that matters.
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I am the same way. I love being a girl. I feel very sorry for the girls who find it nesesary to make rude comments.
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Honey it's because they are jealous or have bad legs and only wish they could wear skirts!!I am a jeans and t-shirt type girl, not really a tomboy, but not too girly either so I just think it's all because they envy you.
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I admire you for being the person you want to be. Don't let them change a thing.
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they are jealous... don't listen to them... just wear anything you want... i have the same situation... i go to work dressing up and hear some comment... and guess what the next day i see some girls dressing just like mt ...huh
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cause truly inside, they're jealous ;)
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That's unfortunate. It's odd that you would catch more grief for wearing a dress than I do for wearing short skirts, pantyhose, and high heels.
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Why do you find it necessary to make comments about other girls femininity? Its human nature. Just ignore any degrading comments and you will be better than them :)
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They wanna be you..I get that all the time.
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I say just be yourself, & let them be themselfs. Its your life and your body, not theirs. Wear what makes you feel good. And don't try to please everyone else by living to their standards of dressing. I myself have nothing against ether side in how they dress. And fell it should be left up to them, for it is their body not mine. So just don't let their comments get to you.
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Oh please. Like you don't judge other women who AREN'T "girlie girls" and who DON'T like wearing dresses and skirts. You JUST said "less feminine girls" and "tomboys". Why is a woman less of a woman because she prefers wearing pants or jeans? That might be something solely to do with comfort, work requirements - you have no idea why people dress the way they do. Stop being a hypocrite and complaining about people not letting you live and let live when you're just as judgmental as the rest of the world.
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jealous
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I am a tomboy in attitude, but I love wearing dresses and skirts. Most women ACT more feminine than I do, but why are they so reluctant to wear feminine clothing? Maybe it's inconvenience. But, I think skirts are comfortable. Ever felt comfy wearing jeans, on a hot summer day? I don't think so. As for other girls making comments about your appearance, I can attest that many girls like to gossip and spread horrible lies about others. I don't know why, considering that I've never been one of them. Maybe they're not good people and this is the way they react to feelings of low self-esteem or (in contrast) self-assuredness.
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I suspect jealousy has a hand in it yo...
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I would imagine that they are jealous or do not understand. It is their problem, not yours. Indulge in your girliness and live, laugh, love!
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its not always the appearance, its what they believe u do. if ur always wearing skirts and dresses, they're gonna think ur after guys and r a partier wit no brain. its really stereotypical and i hate it. im pretty close to a tomboy and i think ur cool to fight this u go girl! :)
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that's weird, i'm not sure why. I would think it would be the other way around like the tomboys are getting picked on by the girly-girls
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I understand what you're saying. Just be true to yourself. Don't even bother about them. :)
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cos they would like to dress like you but don't have the confidence.
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Well, I don't mind girly girls in the least! Hell, I get along with a few of them. :) It just upsets us if "girly girls" start to degrade themselves by dressing too slutty or showing too much. I believe it to be disrespectful to people as a society who have to look at it, lol.
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Girls who don't like skirts, blouses and dresses shall not wear it, if they don't have a work that require them to do so. Like many nanny girls/maid girls/hotel girls/secretary girls/office girls/cleaner girls/kitchen girls/restaurant girls and waitress girls have to wear clothes likes skirts and blouses, even if they hate it. But if you like such clothes they shall let you wear such clothes if you want it.
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I am someone who feels better in jeans, but dont let the others get you down! I think a girl should wear what she assumes to be herself, my daughter is also a girly girl, she wears wonderful skirts, I am proud of her, because she is who she is! (not too short though), take care of who you are and not what others say.
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maybe they are jealous
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probably because youre hot
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i dont comment on a girly girls outfit if she doesnt comment on mine.=]
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Yea, jealousy.. I can be a tomboy but I appreciate girly girls - if anything they teach me a thing or two about how to spruce up on occasion and they add color to the world.. Dont worry about it.
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Maybe they are jealous, don’t listen to them listen what men have to say.
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What do they say to you? Do they walk up to you and insult you? Or are you reading things that tomboys say about the mode of dress they prefer? If you are a girly girl, that's fine with me. I don't care one way or the other. It doesn't make me better or you better..how one chooses to present oneself to the world in terms of fashion is irrelevant to me. Some people are very fashion conscious and some are not. Simple as that. Different strokes for different folks! Happy Friday! :)
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I am a tomboy and take offensive at being called less feminine. I could careless what you choose to wear and would never comment on it.
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they're just jealous
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I am a girly girl myself and I will tell you it's probably jealously. When I look good I don't really get dirty looks from other attractive girls. It's always the dumpy, chunky masculine looking ones. The hell with them! Stay fabulous hun and congrats on graduating with honors. You'll look back one day for these b*tches on Facebook and they will either a.) not be there because they are in hiding due to being so hideous or b.) on there still looking fugly.
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Its not jealousy. I am intensely feminine and sensual and have no problem with wearing a variety of clothing, I simply find girls that constantly wear skirts and heels to be very confusing because they seem more than others to judge people by what they wear and to feel valued according to how they dress. They also seem to put so much effort into attracting men, as if that was a career move or some sort of points scoring competition. Some of them seem to go out of their way to undo feminism and volunteer to be helpless eyelash-batting waifs, but try suggesting they face up to their penchant for submissiveness and just go straight for the collar or the hankie and - wow- handbags at dawn. Its just a bit shallow and restricted, self-involved and, well, weird. That's not to say I know you and its certainly not to say you deserve that, you may have some real class and balls, but the simpering kind of girly girls are a pain in the butt. I guess some people must imagine you are all the same?
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You keep on keepin' on miss. Their consciences are being picqued when they see someone like yourself. Disregard whatever mean things they have to say. It is possible that they themselves are searching for the loving male role model that may not have been in their life so there is a bit of compensation within them. If they're mean, be kind! :)
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Jealousy. Tomboy types are generally too lazy to dress nice. For us boys it's great to hear that some girls still like wearing dresses. I for one love them.
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To hell with those people, if you are comfortable and happy with the way you look that is all you need.
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because they are insecure with there own
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Most of those girls are probably dressing as they are for trendy reasons. Kudos to you for wearing dresses, I love seeing women being feminine. Dresses > Jeans and Long hair > Short hair I say! Ignore their remarks and acknowledge that you're confident enough to rouse other girls jealousy. Don't fold under the pressure of other people's insecurities. Be you and be proud of who you are. Good luck darlin'.
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They have misconceptions about what message you're trying to convey. Usually, girls who dress as how you described it tend to do it for the wrong reasons. These other "less feminine" girls see it more as a provocative/sex statement rather than style.
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Why do all "girly girl" women think the whole world revolves around them? Is that what maybe is happening to you? Saying they all say you are overdressed and constantly talk about you when in reality they don't even know who you are?
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look im not a total tomboy but i am kinda. its because of three reasons #1 we hate it that guys go after u and not us.#2we think ur acting like someone your not#3 we know u dont like it (any of these could be u depending)
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well im a tomboy and i dont judge by the way people dress but it think some tomboys are just jealous that they probly wont look as good in a dress
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Well, for one I am as girly girl as you get and I hate wearing dresses. It reminds me of being made dress up to go to church when young. I feel confined and not as comfy. Give me some hot Italian jeans, low cut sexy top and heels and I am good to go! Either way, do what best fits you. If you are wearing a dress because you like it, then who cares what they say?
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They are haters. Be yourself and don't care about what other people think because you will never please everyone.
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Because they are noy like us girly girls and probably feel threatened....not all of them of course. Some girls just are more tomboyish
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Because they feel that they are more down-to-earth and honest than some other girl all dressed up. But, it's not something you should taake personally, or even really care about. They are being jealous. When you wear anything flashy, fancy, or "loud", expect comments.
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weak girl - I agree I love being a girl.
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Well usually they are jealous, usually they cant afford those things or have enough money for it. OR they are just not into that style, so they chose to say their thoughts outloud, which in my opinion, isnt very necessary.
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They shouldn't.Your expression of who you are is every bit as valid as theirs. +4
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I am a tomboy and girlie girls usually make fun of me...I guess it's just some people make fun of those who aren't like them (in any way). Don't pay attention. If skirts and dresses are your thing than go for it... PS. But I do believe my jeans are feminine as well...it's all in the walk :)
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They don't get it, so they tease.
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I'm a tom-boy and I don't make fun of girly girls. However, I get the feeling that they are some what superficial and have no clue understanding the opposite sex.
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Many people feel uncomfortable around those who are different from them. Just let them know that you're happy and smile at them. It's good for you to be that way. I think a real manly man would prefer a really feminine woman. Opposites attract.
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becase they are inscure about them selves and jelous .
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