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  • Wow. This sounds exactly like my current situation. I'm assuming you don't have the financial means to move out. Honestly, the other members of your family sound like they suck. Don't listen to them. They probably a) don't have the coping abilities to realize how abusive your Mom is or b) have an abusive mindset toward you themselves. And it sounds like you've tried to get consistent help from them, so honestly they're a lost cause (you can't make people believe what they don't want to believe). Seek advice from friends instead. Here's some thing I have done/do to cope: 1) I read "Living Successfully with Screw-up People". It was surprisingly helpful, although I got it at a local drugstore. 2) I read "The Art of Happiness" by the current Dalai Lama. It helps put you into a mindset which makes you more empathetic, which makes you more tolerant and understanding. 3) Read up/find out on WHY your Mom is abusive. That way you can repeat to yourself when she's being abusive and have convincing proof that it is NOT you, it's her. 4) Get out of the house as much as possible. Stay at Starbucks for 4 hrs, spend time at the library, hang out with your friends, volunteer. 5) Go to counseling. There's tons of low-income therapy out there, ask your local hospital. It's perfectly acceptable to seek help, it's a sign of strength, not weakness. I would be happy to talk with you more about the specifics of your situation, but I'm not sure if they have PM on this site.
  • tell her that you will treat her the way that she treats you. she yells at you, you yell back at her. then maby she will get the hint that you dont like the way she talks to you
  • Try talking to her. If that doesn't work move out and get your own place. You mother has some issues.
  • you have to leave... she has to much power over you
  • What exactly is your definition of verbally abusive? Does she tell you to clean the house? pick up your room? There's always a price of living with your parents. Why dont you move out.
  • Well without more info this is kind of hard to be able to tell you what you should do. I would like to know if she was abusive to you before you went to college. Also have you tried to talk with her? Has something other than you moving back in changed in her life? There could be alot more to this story. So without knowing it is hard to tell you.
  • No one has the right to treat u this way. Especially the woman who is supposed to want the best for you. Shame on them for making u feel this way. Most people do not want to see that their loved ons can be abusive in any way. Talk to a local pastor and see what advice they have to offer. Good luck, Janet
  • I know exactly how you feel. I was in the same situation. I finally had to sever communications for 5 years, and now have reciently tried to begin to talk to her again. I would make a plan to get out of the house asap. Do the roommate thing or w/e. Control is demanded by her in the house, and if you case is anything like mine, demanded even when you move out. Its hard, but you have to be strong and stand up to her. Good luck with everything
  • Its a shame you have to feel like that in your family home but your not alone. Unfortunatly the only option you have is to move out on your own and find your own path without your family directly involved in your daily life. Verbal abuse is a tuff thing to prove to anyone who is not there all the time to see it. Get a hold of a trusted friend that maybe you can share living expenses with and move out on your own.Good luck.
  • Move out.
  • You need to try to earn some money and get out on your own. I know its easier said then done but I held two jobs at one time to get on my feet. Even if its below your qualifacations take the job and find a cheap place to live like a room or maybe share an apartment.
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  • whenever she starts up again just say "HASTA LA MADRE, STOY CANSADO DE ESOS PINCHES COSAS, PUTO POR FAVOR, CALLATE!". of course she'll be to confused to say anything, so you should take that advantage to slip out the door. i use it on white people whenever they give me trouble about not pronouncing my words in anglish... but w/e
  • You are in a bad situation having to move back to a abuser.You are a good person please get it together and move out.I am sorry to hear your mom is like that,learn from her never to be like her.I don't know the whole situation but grow stronger when she treats you bad.Actually,pray for her,it will help you both

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