perhaps she could wait until her 18th....?

Have you had any thoughts about girls who are willing to go through the pain of having that done? I would urge you to say no. I'd be afraid for from the sanitation aspect of having it done also.

be a MOM-not a friend at this point...listen to your hesitancy and just wait until she's of age and it's out of your hands.

Let her get one. There are worse things she could be asking for. Make sure that the place she has it done has a good reputation and exercises appropriate hygiene standards.

They can cause serious damage to her teeth, there is a serious chance or getting a severe infection that can travel into her throat, and for most guys, when they see one all they think of is the myth that is is good for oral sex. Seriously, it is stupid, don't give in, she will be upset, but she won't look like a prostitute!

i wanted a tongue ring until i read this article about heart disease skyrocketing in patients who had tongue piercings because it's an open wound w so many veins that go straight to your heart - your tongue's a muscle. and a hole in a muscle as opposed to skin or cartiledge is a lot more dangerous. not to mention the dental problems that go with chipped teeth and metal. and it'll be harder to get a job at times. i'm not trying to sound biased at all, i had a huge fight w some friends about the lip ring and my mother over the tongue ring until she showed me the article. i still want them but i'd rather not chop 15 years off my life. i wish i had that article for you

I would think it would be very difficult to say yes to this request. She may be a great kid but its a huge risk medically to have the tongue pierced. She would have a permanent hole, it could become infected, she would have to learn to speak around it and it could possible hurt her teeth or dental work.

If she shows responsibility, I would suggest going to a few parlors (with or without her) and talking to the artist who will perform the peircing. Contrary to popular belief, they are professional and will answer any questions you have in regaurds to the sanitation, etc. If she decides at any time she doesn't want the peircing, she can just take the barbell out and noone will be the wiser. Unless there is some freak that just studies her tounge. I would urge research on her part and yours, so she does know what to expect and is prepared to take full responsibility for cleaning the peircing. Good luck. :)

She should be made to wait until she is old enough to get one without your signature, and can pay for the procedure, the jewelery, and any other paraphernalia involved without your assistance. Perhaps even pay for her own transportation to and from the facility. Who knows? When she gets to that point she just may realise there are MUCH better things to spend your money on than a shard of metal that's going to do little more than cause severe dental trauma.

Ouch. Tell her to pay for it herself, or you can pay for it if she decides to put it on without an analgesic. We both think a tongue pierce is gross so offering her the non-anesthetic option should deter her enough not to get one. If she can afford her own, I don't know what to say but you're on your own.

IMO, 16 is too young for a tongue piercing.

Hold up! She is only going to be 16. From the experience that I had with having a tongue ring I would say no. Some guys are very ignorant and will say anything. I was a full grown woman when I got mine and also had a husband.I can remember I guy approaching me and may I add I was with my mother. He said "Damn baby can you just stick it all the way out for me". I was so embarrassed. Besides that incident I got a lot of unwanted attention.

You are asking for an opinion but you already know the answer. (No I am not a kid, check the profile) You are a mom and you need to listen to your mom instincts. If you need ammunition tell your daughter I said to listen to your inner Mom. (IMO the answer is NO)

The best thing my Dad ever did for me was not make a big fuss about some of my choices when I was a kid....; because he was relaxed and offered me little resistance or criticism, I didn't make a big deal out of whatever I wanted either.... When my friends and I got caught drinking, my Father merely asked me if I had a good time...; because of my Father's attitudes, I was relaxed and never formed any addictions... In contrast, my friend's Father forced him to take classes on alcoholism; that same friend became an alcoholic.... Each parent might benefit from seriously considering just what it is they are really fearing...and projecting those fears onto their children... Just like others in our life, children see right through us...so, I would suggest being light and easy but being sincere about that...don't fake it... If you can't be light, then communicate openly with your child about your concerns but treat her like an equal, not a subordinate....trust her....don't worry about it....

I would let her, and have :)

I would really say no...I have seen all the trouble that can and does go wrong with these things and as most of the other ABers have pointed out from infections...nerve damage to face and tongue... teeth damage ...etc and the fact that she will end up talking like she has a mouthful of c**k...lol, look seriously it is dangerous and is second only to bellybutton piercings for damage done ...and a lot and I do mean a lot is permanent... good luck mum!!

I'd be worried about infection. If you let her have one, def use silver, it's atomically anti bacterial

i really don't know. I know I wanted a tatoo when I was 19 but never had one and I'm glad...

Well, broken and cracked teeth are always a possibility. And infections, which can infect your system. And of course you will have to coupe with what other people will think about your child, that she is easy, and possibly a candidate for great sex. I'm sorry. It's just such a bad idea for anyone but for a parent to allow and give consent seems wrong to me.

i have my tongue pierced-when i was 14 as long as you go to a decent salon and you watch the piercer remove a FRESH needle from its packaging and its cleaned 4 times a day there shouldnt be a problem yes its rubs the enamal off your teeth but this can also be avoided by wearing plastic balls rather then metal, ive never had a problem getting a job. in uk 16 is the legal age where she can go get it anyway with out your permission out of the UK i dunno but if its over 16 you should wait till that age (18 in lots of places) on the other hand, she will get it if she really wants it, and if she goes to a place that will pierce an under age girl its more likely they use dirty needles so its a safe option for you to agree and take her to a place thats your choice and recomended

I'd tell her about all the painful situations and dangerous diseases that can result from tongue piercings. Here's an article from http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/2931704.stm : "Dentists have urged people against having their tongues pierced. The latest warning follows the case of a 28-year-old woman who had to undergo emergency surgery to have a piercing removed. Doctors found her piercing, a small metal rod, had become completely embedded in her tongue. She was unable to remove it. They said piercings increase the risk of contracting a range of serious diseases and can also be potentially life threatening if the tongue becomes infected, swells up and blocks the airway. It can also lead to teeth being chipped, infection and pain. Writing in the British Dental Journal, specialist registrar Tamer Theodossy, who works at University College Hospital London, said the risks made it difficult to condone tongue piercing. 'Although it would appear that most tongue piercings proceed uneventfully, the severity of the complications suffered make the practice of tongue piercing one which is difficult to condone,' he said. 'Piercing of oral sites also carries a high risk of infection with the possibility of transmission of organisms such as HIV, hepatitis B and C, Herpes Simplex virus, Epstein-Barr virus and candida,' he added. Herpes Simplex is linked to cold sores and the Epstein-Barr virus causes glandular fever." I also read that the piercing has to be removed before almost every dental procedure. If you enter the search phrase, "Tongue piercing warnings" or "...dangers" you'll find a wealth of relevant horror stories.

Infection is a possibility, and you should really make that clear to her. But otherwise, eh, let her get one if she wants. Not allowing your kids to get trivial aesthetic accessories heightens the perceived influence of pointless resistance, which means more hard work for you.

I think tounge rings are asinine. They look stupid and cannot be good for your teeth. Personally, I cannot wait for that fad to pass.

To me, tongue piercings and hair color and stuff like that are just cosmetic things. A tongue piercing can heal closed within 24 hours of removing it. I'm 38 and have my tongue pierced (had to have it redone because I had to take it out for surgery and it closed up), my daughter is 14 and has hers done. Hers was because her grades were good. You do have to be careful with it and your teeth, but neither my daughter or I have had any problems. It's just fun and can be reversed. Now, things like tattoos I'd say to make them wait until they're 18 and can sign for themselves because it's so permanent, but in my opinion, a piercing or two is just a small thing. Especially if your daughter is a good kid. But it all comes down to the fact that you are her mother and it's up to you what you allow and what is most important to you. It's ok to compromise once in a while, too!

I don't understand why someone would get one, but I also don't care... Personally I kinda want a lip ring, since it is something visible and I like the look of it, but a tongue piercing just seems like a pointless inconvenience to me *shrugs* I would say let her have it, since she can always just take it out again... It doesn't affect you, let her experience it for herself so she can decide whether or not it is gross and disgusting ; )

I don't have one, and don't intend getting one. I know people who do. From what I hear, if you're not careful, they can get infected. And also, you can chip your teeth with them as well. My folks spent way too much money on my teeth when I was younger, I don't want to screw up the teeth I have left!

16?????????? If I had gotten mine at 16 and of course I would have showed everyone ... I would have gotten QUITE a reputation! If I were you I would let her wait untill she is 18 and then if she still wants one it is a different story.

Im 23 and Ive wanted one forever. My parents never let me get one. 16 is too young. When I turned 18 I went out and did it. Maybe you should have her wait it out. When she turns legal age she can get it done, if her mind hasnt changed. Plus, tongue piercings arent so bad, theyre hidden and you can always just take em out and they heal up fine.

They are a bit risque, but I don't think they look too bad.Sometimes they can be rather cute, but there are a good few risks with the tongue piercing.If you think she's responsible enough to handle it, go for it.

I believe in cartilage piercing only. If she wants them up the side of her ears or in her nose, I would agree to that but the mouth is a risky place. I hear that a guy lost a friend because his tongue became severely infected after a piercing and doctors wanted to amputate a good portion of this young man's tongue and the parents said no to this and he died from an infection. If she is 18 and does this of her own accord, there is nothing you can do. Just too many germs in the mouth is my viewpoint.

I'm sure her botfriend will thank you for it... nudge, nudge, wink, wink!

I had my tongue pierced when I was 26. I stopped wearing the barbell a couple of years later- I still have a hole in my tongue, though. Probably best to make her wait, she may change her mind.

A tongue piercing sends a pretty strong sexual message. Whether it is what she intends to do or not, boys will see it that way. I'd make her wait until she legally doesn't need your permission. At that point she can always take it out and you can barely see where the hole was. I used to have one, my mother made me wait, I ran out and got one on my 18th birthday, and ended up taking it out about 6 months later.

Chipped my tooth. Got tired of it, took it out. Sheepishly told my parents they were right. The main concern is chipped teeth and gum recession. Acrylic balls help prevent chipping, but some say that acrylic can release toxins if worn in the mouth for long periods. Best prevention is not to play with it, which was something I wasn't able to resist.

If you don't care if she gets one, go ahead and go with her! If she wants it that bad, and is willing to do anything to get one she could end up doing something not so smart. (having one of her friends piercing it, or going to a "piercing party") I honestly don't think it is a big deal getting piercings, and the tongue piercing is extrememly safe if you go to the right shop. Do some research on your body piercer, and the shop he/she works at!

i say make her wait until she is 18 at that age she can get it done if she still wants it. i got mine done at 18 and i had wanted it done since i was about 12 and i didnt want it for the sexual reasons that are linked to the tongue piercings. plus young boys who see a 16 yr old girl with her tongue pierced are going to try and get her in the sack. so if i were you i would make her wait.

She is kinda too young, and I had one before and it is NOT good for you.

I wouldn't because it looks stupid and hurts the body.

I guess you don't need me to tell you that I don't like the idea! First of all, after having your tongue pierced, eating may become a chore, secondly, intraoral piercing and tongue jewelry place people at greater risk for serious medical and dental consequences -- I know people who regretted having done it. http://www.cda-adc.ca/jcda/vol-64/issue-11/803.html

Tongue piercings are really only good for one thing -- and if she's only 16, it's probably illegal for her to be doing that in your state, anyway...

I think you should go ahead-- otherwise she may go ahead and try to do it herself. That's what I did with my ears... and attempted, with my nose.

i would wait it out untill she is old enough to sign for her own.

I'd say let her do it, but make sure that the place you're getting it pierced is certified, clean, professional, and knowledgable. Ask to see the equipment they use. Ask to to see their autoclave, and if they don't have one, or won't show you it, leave. If their jewelry isn't sterilized and individually packaged, along with their needles and everything else, leave. If the piercer doesn't wear gloves or seems like he doesn't know what he's talking about, leave. Just use common sense when choosing your piercer. Also, follow good aftercare instructions and make sure to keep it clean.

My mom only let me get my nose and navel pierced, she would never be down for anything untill i was 18 and able to sign for it. But, if thats what you want to allow her to do. i would say go for it, i guess its the new fashion now?

let her do as she wishes, and if she regrets it she will have learned from the mistake. what are you trying to protect her from?

I used to want my tongue peirced, but I am SO grateful that I opted for a belly-button ring instead because my b/f of 6+ yrs now said in his opinion girls w/ tongue rings are "low-class" to put it delicately. (I'm not saying that I necessarily agree or disagree). But at that point I was very happy I had decided against the tongue ring thing. And 16 is so young to do something like that. I'm 24 living in NYC - so I like to think my opinion is pretty up-to-date & I think she can make a rational decision (depending on her own personal maturity level at that age) at maybe 18-20. You should probably try to talk her out of it and then go with the "my word is final" thing if she refuses to see logic.

I would not let her get her tung pierced, it is a dangerous piercing, the risk of chipping a tooth are huge, do you want to pay to repair her teeth? Some states will not let anyone under 18 get anything other than ears pierced even with a parent. If you are thinking of letting her get a piercing tell her you will compromise and get a nose stud or a ear or ear part like inside or on top. Kids do not realize how easily piercing can become infected, or how hard they are to care for to keep them from becoming infected. Piercings cause more problems than tattoos, tatts rarely become infected. I got my nose pierced and it took almost a year before it was totally healed. And I was 37 when i had it done so you know I paid attention and followed the piercers directions.

DO NIT LET HER! I've heard of too many people having COMPLICATIONS w/it. Also, it's ok to say NO to her. You are her parent NOT her friend.

i think u should say yes my family member just got hers done she is 15, you have to consider what ur daughter is asking from you she wants your trust in letting her do this , its better then her doing drug or comitting crims i say be the better person and talk to her and keep in mind that this will make her even more happyer SAY YES and if any think does go wrong forbid it does u cant be the one to blaim !!!! let me know how things go

hmmmmm im the same age as your daughter, and i luv piercings! I have six on my ears, and I was thinking about my belly and tongue, but ive heard people tell me it gets infected easily. One my earrings is infected and thats on my ear! But i mean if she wants to go ahead with it, then let her go for it. but maybe wait till shes 18 and when she can look after it more properly.

As the saying goes, "Choose your battles" Piercings are fashionable in some circles, and a piercing is a way of feeling fashionable and accepted among one's peers. Furthermore, a tongue piercing is far less visible than facial piercings, and the tongue jewelry can easily be removed if necessary. If I were you I would allow your daughter to get the piercing and, as the previous answer points out, build trust with her. Save your disapproval for things that are truly a matter of health and safety. You have a lot of years to go before she is grown and mature; earn all the "points" you can with her. They may be very important on down the line.

i don't care for them. What is the worst that can happen (other than an infected tongue that rots off--only kidding:))..I don't know Lisa...I think it is still your call and if you don't like it you have every right to say 'no'.

Even if you forbid it, she might still eventually get it.It is something you should make her be well informed about the risks and procedures taken afterwards the pierceing has been done.Their is a likely chance of infection.I suggest you let her after she is well informed if she still wants to afterwards.She could still have time to reconsider after the procedure with little reprecussions regardsless.

i was 18 when i got my tongue pierced and it was cool at the time. three years have passed and i did decide to take it out. not for medical reasons, not because it affected my job or speech or even the way i was seen, it was just merely a phase that i grew out of. i think that she should wait until she is 18 and give her a little extra time to decide if its what she wants. it has een 4 days since i took mine out and you cant even tell if there was anything there

coming from a 17 year old who just got my tongue done yesterday this is what i think ... if she has been asking for a while & is sure she wants it let her do it , remember peircings arnt forever like tattoos and with a few loosed balls it can be removed , if your not totally for it do what my mom did made me pay for it myself . if you want try talking her into doing her belly button or nose even her chin but if shes totally into the whole tongue thing let her do it , although she is a good kid whose to say she wont go off and have some wacko do it an hide it from you it seems as tho alot of teens are doing it but if only parents let their child express them self if it was a tattoo it would depend on what she wants i recently got one in memory of my great grandfather who has been gone almost 10 years and have no regrets but let me tell you that took a while of getting my mom to allow but do what you want .. also have her do some research on what to expect with a tongue ring to make sure shes ready to deal with the swelling and things in that nature .. good luck

i am young and have my tonuge pierced but i went out when i was told no that my mom wouldnt sign for it so i went upstairs, went online ordered a piercing needle using my grandmas credit card came home and pierced my own tongue when everyone was sleeping that night. if she wants it bad she'll get it with or without u. i dont think she'll do what i did, but just watch her closely. this is coming from a girl as old as youre daughter who really wanted it. good luck

I can only tell you what I told my son and daughter, when you 18 and supporting yourself, then you may get all the piercings you like or tattoo's for that matter also, my daughter never did but my son well he has his tongue, nipples and has had his eyebrow also at one time. He also has tattoo's with his daughter's names on his chest. But I can tell from working with the public for more than 34 yrs older people have a hard time hiring those with facial piercings, they don't feel it is professional looking and where my hubby and I both work now at the local cemetery we have had to tell the other guy to wear a shirt that covers his tattoo's on his arms because they have a nude lady on them But in the end its all up to you and what you really want and feel is really in her best interest

i think you should let her get it. I just recently got mine done Wednesday. Tongue piercings are the easiest piercing. They heal quicker, hurt the least, and easy to take care of. As long as she takes care of it she will be fine. Also a piercing is nothing like a tattoo of course. A piercing, you can just take out and let the hole grow up whenever you decide you dont want it anymore as where a tattoo you are pretty much stuck with it forever unless you want to pay a fortune to have it removed. If you do let her, make sure she rinses with alcohol-free mouthwash and swish with sea salt in warm water. Especially after every meal. :)

Your daughter is 16 years old. If she's wanted one for such a long time, then you know it's not an impulse decision and it's something she really wants. It's time to allow her to be the grown up and let her feel she has more control over her own body, and this is the way she wants to express it. Besides, your mouth has amazing healing capabilities. A pierced tongue can close up within days if you take it out (if she wished to not have it anymore) even if you've had one for years. As for tooth damage, make sure she's aware of all of the risks and sort, and know she's willing to take care of it.

I understand as a mom, the last thing you want is to see your baby girl putting holes in her body, but the only way for your daugher to begin to discover her own sense of individuality as a person is to let the reins loose ( just a little ) i think at 16, you need to begin trusting them with more things like that. If shes a good kid and you trust her, I dont tink a peircing should make any difference in who she is as a person. Besides, you dont see too many grown, responible adults with tounge peircings. She will probably grow out of it anyways.. she just wants to spread her wings a bit. Hope it was of some help.

If i had everything i wanted when i was 16 i'd be covered in tattoos and piercings, which i would severly regret now. There's a reason for age limits on specific things.

In my opinion: NO! When she turn 18 she will be on her own and she will have the right to do all the legal stupid things she may want, but, until then, you are supposed to be parenting and allowing only conduct that is positive for her well being and development.

if your hesitant i woul dgo with her to the place she wants to get it done and speak to the piercer. and if she still wants it done see if you can sit in on someone else getting it done because it might scare her off doing it or it will atleast open her eyes so she knows whats going to happen

There is a reason ppl have to be 18 to do these things. All I wanted was my bellybutton pierced I still have it years later, but I wish I didn't. It looks gross if I leave it out because the hole will never go away. Let me also tell you what a nurse told me today not only will it really harm her teeth, but if she accidentely swallows it then it can pucture her intestines or other organs. I personally wouldn't want to be help responsible for something like this happening to my child if I could prevent it. There are some things that I think are ok to let your kids do, but given all the problems it can cause and given that I personally think it is trashy I would never let my child do it. BTW- I did get mine pierced out of rebellion and because it was cool. One it got infected and I couldn't even swallow and almost had to go to the ER to have it removed and I did everything right but my body rejected it. Two, it was hidious and it breaks your teeth and the enamel on them. So personally for me I wouldn't let her do it but you will make your own choice.;)

i think u should do it because the more she wants it even if shes a good kid shell have a way of getting it because im 15 and went crazii cause my mom said no and went out and got it done. i pierced it myself with a safty pin but thats cause i was told no if i was told yes i would of chickened out because sitting waiting to have a need ole put through ur tongue is scary.

It is a piercing. It will close up its not permanent. If she has good dental hygeine, it won't get infected. I had mine done for 6 years before taking it out. I even streched it to an 8 gauge(about the size of a pencil) my teeth are fine and the hole closed up(although mine took like 6 months but mine was big)

If the rebellion and and fear of society rejecting your daughter is what bothers you most about this, I would say let her get it done. It will be a good experience for her, because they are hard to take care of. However, my actual oppinion is to not let her get it done, for physical reasons. 1. The mouth carries the most microoganisms of the entire body!!! It is so hard to keep it clean, I would think it would lower her immune system or something until it heals. 2. Almost every friend who has one has swallowed the metal ball in their sleep. That just... isn't healthy. 3. It chips your teeth. Painful, and cosmetically annoying. If you are ok with those risks, let her get it done I guess. Personally, I would make them wait until they are 18 and pay for it themselves, plus she might not want it then.

i'm 16 and have my tongue pierced.. i only got it when my mum said i could and when my mum finally said yes i felt so happy and it made my mum respect me because i had waited for her approval! and in some ways i respected her for lettin me do it!! she's 16 and old enough 2 do it hrself so by you sayin yes and by her not sneakin off isn't it better that way? anyways.. good luck xx

If you feel she is mature enough to care for it, I say go for it. I'm a big fan of allowing teens to express themselves in safe and creative ways. Allowing something like a piercing (or other cosmetic alterations) removes something for your kids to rebel against. I believe that letting kids have a little freedom in certain areas strengthens the parent/teen relationship and paves the way for open dialogue and conflict avoidance in the future. Good luck, whatever you decide!

Every guy her age is gonna think she'll give them a blow job if they date her. As far as they're concerned there is no other reason she'd pierce her tongue other than "oral enhancement". Regardless of weather that's the case or not, do you *really* want a bunch of hormone crazed boys pressuring her during her rebellious years?

i'm 16 and i have my tongue pireced. it didn't hurt at all getting it done. you have to chew small bits of food on the side of your mouth or eat soup for the first few days because of the swelling, but after that it's fine. i've never had any problems with it since i got it done. if she's wanted it for so long just let her, it can always be taken out and the hole closes up within a day.

I think it is a bad idea. Most people have to have their tongue stud or whatever taken out after a few years due to the damage it causes to their teeth. If it gets infected, the person can get blood poisoning. If your daughter is so keen to have it, she should wait until she is 18 or until she is able to save up for it herself. A possible compromise is an eyebrow piercing. My younger daughter got one of those last year and it looks all right. But I would be very unhappy if she got any mouth piercings because of how dangerous they are.

I would make her wait until she is 18, personally. That's how long I waited, and it gave me the time to really consider whether or not I wanted my piercings all that badly. Tongue piercings aren't easy to keep clean. The mouth gets infected really easily. On top of that, they're horrible for your teeth enamel and (I can't remember the reason why, but my godmother who is a nutritionist told me this) they can actually inhibit the absorption of certain vitamins. On top of that, I think that tongue piercings are un-classy, and of all the piercings that you could possibly get (that show) probably the one I am most averse to. They make you sound like your mouth is always full (because it is) and the sexual implications of a tongue piercing are just - again - incredibly unrefined. Piercings like that leave someone open to all sorts of first impressions that may or may not be true, but imply a lot. By the way I am 20... So not too much older than your daughter.

It's not as though she wants it split.

HEY YOUR DAUGHTER MAY BE A SWEET KID BUT TRUST ME OUT FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE DO NOT LET HER GET IT. AND ESPECIALLY IF SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. WITH THE BARBELL EROTIC PERFORMANCES CAN BE DONE AND THIS WILL CAUSE INFECTION STD'S AND IT'S A LOT TO GO THROUGH PLUS YOUR INSTORE FOR HAVING CHIPPED TEETH AND ABUNCH OF DENTIL PROBLEMS. ALSO IF THE PRSEDURE IS DONE WRONG YOUR DAUGHTER MAY END UP BEING PARALYZID. SHE'S ONLY 16 DON'T LET HER SUFFER THRUGH THAT JUST SO THT SHE CAN HAVE IT FOR ABOUT A WEEK WITH OUT ANY HARM DONE. IF YOU INDEED LOVE HER GET ANOTHER PIERCING LIKE THE NOSE OR THE EARS IT MAY SEEM BORING BUT IT'S BETTER THEN HAVEING PAIN WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR TONGUE PIERCED AND EVEN WHEN YOU TAKE IT OUT TO THIS DAY AFTER TAKING MINE OUT ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF AGO IT IS SOOOO SOAR AND SOMETIMES LEEDS IT SUCKS!!!

i have loads of peircings im 12 i got my tummy done my dad dident no and i my nose and wrist and dat with out him knowing he found out with my nose like a teenager i threw a strop and go ohhhh dad who cares i can take it out now thinking back on it i wish i never got it done i asked my dad if i could get my hip done and he said if i can show im responcibol with simpel littl things like a tidy room doing house jobs ceeping cleen errm puting things away hovering you can use this to your advarntidge i think i was to young to get all mi peircing and now im wating for the scars to go but im rely happy with my hips she is at the age were she can get it done with out adult concent but she asked you so you can trust her i think she is responcibal anuf because she asked you let her get it done lossen up chill she will be letting lose i think you need to get aa grip u will obisouly hate all peircings she could of been like me got a m8 older then me took me to the place and got a wrist nose 4 bits on the belly and a number of peircing on the hip get a fuckin grip mom let her get it done

If you're looking for information I suggest www.bodyjewelleryshop.com/forums. They are great there, and the people on there know a lot about piercings and waht you're looking for. Hope all goes well Good luck

let her get itt =]

My opinion on tongue piercing especially in women is that they like to do naughty things with their tongues such as give oral sex and french kiss.

My opinion I wouldn't let my daughters get their tongues pierced until they were old enough to make the decision on their own. My friend got hers pierced back in 7th grade and a teacher told her it was for giving oral sex. Not all but some people judge the tongue piercing as that person just wanted to give good oral sex. My mom wouldn't sign for my tongue so I went and got it when i was 18. I almost regret it and will most likely be putting a clear barbel in so no one can tell i have it.

Tell her to have her eyeball tattooed and pierced because it's much more obvious and daring!

My sister had one when she was younger. She got it when she was 18 though. She says it was a pain to get used too. Meh, I think it's ok for a 16 year old to have one.

ive had one when i was 18 and loved it only for a while. it was a fad. i ended up taking it out 2 yrs later. its like tattoos only piercings you can remove. haha

tounge piercings are viewed as a sexual thing, to about everyone, i dont think you want people viewing your 16 yr old that way. let her get a different piercing for her birthday and she can wait till shes 18 to get her tounge done i REALLY wanted one too when i was younger ever since i was 5 my parents wouldnt let me but they let me get a belly button ring when i was 16 and now that im 19 theres no way i would get a tounge ring cause i see how they look now and how trashy it kinda looks ya know

people who say its a bigger chance to get a serious infection with a tongue piercing are completely wrong. 1.) just because veins are in your tongue it doesnt mean anything, if you go to a good place getting your tongue pierced is nothing and viens arent even a problem. 2.) because your tongue constantly produces saliva it is a very small chance that your tongue can get infected unless the equipment they used was not sterile and you are not cleaning it twice daily. 3.) the procedure is very fast and might i say very painless. It may seem like it would kill like biting your tongue but i honestly did not feel a thing. my ear cartilage hurt about 3 times more than my tongue. 4.)a tongue ring heals faster than anyother piercing it heals in about 4 weeks but you can change the bar in two it dont think there is a problem with gettin one. if you dont like it, take it out. The hole will probably be permanent though after a year of having it but i have alot of friends who had it for 2 years and took it out and they still have the hole but you would never be able to tell it was there if she stuck her tongue out and she doesnt notice it at all.

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Well it's good that your taking your daughters opinions and feelings on this into consideration. I think you should let her. It would be better if she gets it with you there to watch her afterword because you can make shure she dose everything she's suposed to to keep it clean and take care of it. Vs. if she just got it done when she's 18, because if she really wants it she'll go get it eventually. She would be better off having someone to remind her to take care of it. Just make sure she rinces her mouth THOROUGHLY after eating or drinking anything but water. She'll be fine. And your a good parent for considering what she wants!

My opinion of tongue piercings are they give the distinct impression of a sexual nature, oral sex to be more specific. As a parent, I would be horrified to allow my 16 year old daughter to display that aura. Trust me, people see that and know exactly what it means. I work at a major university and every student that has worked for me who had one told me that was the sole reason they got it. I personally would not allow it, due to the general public viewing the sexual nature of it.

I just recently got mine tongue pierced and it is really not that bad. I'm 18 and I asked my mom first even though I could've gotten it without her permission. Its a good thing she came to you first. My way of looking at it is that it's not something that everyone can see, it can be removed if needed, and as long as she keeps it clean it won't get infected. As for work and school you can purchase a kind of tongue ring called a tongue retainer. They are clear or flesh colored and flat on top so they are almost impossible to see. I have a bright pink one I wear and people don't even notice that unless I stick my tongue out and show them. But overall it is completely your decision.

Make her wait until she's old enough to do and pay for it herself. And make her research different places to do it to make sure that the piercers are qualified and not just anyone can work there. I've gotten piercings and have gotten scarred by people no knowing what they're doing. Maybe get her to look at piercings gone wrong and tell her that's one reason why she has to wait till she's old enough to do it without parental permission...

im 16 and i have had my tongue done for 4 years and i think if she wants to have it done let her. if she knows what the risks are because my mum told be about the risk.

i think it is a good idea, although there are those people that think that tongue tings looks slutty, and trashy and all that most girls obviously do not get it done to look like that, girls as young as 16 are most likely getting it don because they like the way that they look. i think that if she can pay for it herself and will take care of it and if any damage does occur, pay for that herself, then she is responsible enough to get that done.

ok first of all once she turns 16 she doesnt need ur signature to get it.. im 17.. and i was extemly cautious of getting mine done cause my mom was just like you.." i dont like them.. i dont think its a good idea.. what if it gets infected... and so on" i honestly feel that you should support her. casue what might happen is that ull say no and she'll do it anyways.. my mom eventually said yes. and now shes fine with it. a word to the wise. if your still not comfortable with it, go with her, ask questions.. its the peircers job to anwser them.. sit down and talk to your daughter and explain that it will swell bad for about 4 four days and that its something you have to clean all the tome for a while.. good luck and i hope everything works out. :D

if she really really wants one.. theres no stopping her. but try convincing her into a diffrent more appropriate piercing, make her think about getting a job and if she rlly wants to talk with a lisp. suggest ear piercings, conch,tragus,rook,anti tragus, industrial. they are so unique and adorable but not noticeable and people wont be mad at you for letting her get one.

If you haven't already caved to her, don't. You are right to be hesitant. Once she is out of your house, she can do whatever she wants. She could get so many infections and it could cause permanent injury to her mouth. All kinds of things could go wrong. And since she's clearly NOT concerned about her own safety, you need to be.

I think you stick by your guns and remember that while your child is still a child, you are the parent. Your kid can be your friend once they've moved out and started paying their own goddamned way in life. "If you're going to live under my roof, you're going to live under my rules. There's the door if you don't like it."

tounge piercings are gross lisa, i've never dated a girl with a tounge piercing... idk why people would find this kinda thing 'hot' but if the type of guys she likes find it hot, idk how long ur gonna be able to hold her off

i wanted one when i was younger. my mom wouldn't let me and i'm glad she didn't. i would never get my tongue pierced because i'm scared it would cause serious damage to my tongue and chip my teeth. so i would pass on a tongue ring.

I have my tongue pierced, it hurt ALOT, but I'm nearly 18 JUST got it done, if she really truly wants one then maybe you should make her read up on it, and if shes not responsible enough to clean it 3 times a day then it wont heal properly and can cause more pain. And the balls+barbell are very easy to swallow

I had my tounge pierced, and loved it,,,at first. I kept it in for probably a year then just stopped wearing it, the novelty wore off. Let her get it, at least when she stops wearing it, there will be no scar. Be glad she doesn't want a facial piercing that DOES leave marks!!