by Little big mouth on February 25th, 2008

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ALL opinions wanted. I think tongue piercings are gross & disgusting but my daughters wanted 1 for so long. I'm thinking about letting her get 1 for her 16th birthday, What's your opinions & expierences? She's a great kid but I'm a bit hesitant

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by Tony on June 3rd, 2009
It's her tongue.
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by We miss our girl! on February 26th, 2008
To me, tongue piercings and hair color and stuff like that are just cosmetic things. A tongue piercing can heal closed within 24 hours of removing it. I'm 38 and have my tongue pierced (had to have it redone because I had to take it out for surgery and it closed up), my daughter is 14 and has hers done. Hers was because her grades were good. You do have to be careful with it and your teeth, but neither my daughter or I have had any problems. It's just fun and can be reversed. Now, things like tattoos I'd say to make them wait until they're 18 and can sign for themselves because it's so permanent, but in my opinion, a piercing or two is just a small thing. Especially if your daughter is a good kid. But it all comes down to the fact that you are her mother and it's up to you what you allow and what is most important to you. It's ok to compromise once in a while, too!
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- My mother and I strongly agree with u.had my navel peirced at 15 my nose at 14 and the top of me ear at 13 maybe 14.they are all cosmetics and fashion because now the only peircing that i kept was my nave.BUT IT IS THE MOTHER'S CHOICE, i just dnt think that its such a big deal
  
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by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on February 25th, 2008
She should be made to wait until she is old enough to get one without your signature, and can pay for the procedure, the jewelery, and any other paraphernalia involved without your assistance. Perhaps even pay for her own transportation to and from the facility.

Who knows? When she gets to that point she just may realise there are MUCH better things to spend your money on than a shard of metal that's going to do little more than cause severe dental trauma.
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- Yes, I completly agree
  
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  by Anon on February 26th, 2008
- i disagree such things can upset a child and force them to go to an unclean facility and get one anways....i know many kids who have doen this and become infected and got sick...this may have worked 10 years ago but it doesnt in this day and age
  
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  by anonymous on August 24th, 2008
- Call me old-fashioned, but I don't give a damn if my kid gets "upset" at my rules. I'm the parent, they are the offspring. I make the rules, they follow them. Period. If my child DID go behind my back and "get one anyways", they would be made to immediately remove it, and then be marched off to the nearest emergency room for a Tetanus shot.
  
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  by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on August 24th, 2008
- first off who cares your kid deffinalty wont, and they will hide it, im sure they dont walk around the houise naked all day. some things about your kids you cannot control, that may be hard but its very real
  
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  by anonymous on August 24th, 2008
- What does walking around naked have to do with a tongue piercing?
  
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  by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on August 24th, 2008
- it proves my point that they can hide it from u
  
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  by anonymous on August 24th, 2008
- also i am not only talking about a tounge piercing i am tlking about any on any part of the body, if your kid really wanted to hide it they can and will
  
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  by anonymous on August 24th, 2008
- Okay... well being clothed will not hide a tongue piercing. Facial piercings cannot be hidden. The kid can't simply not talk in my presence for the rest of their natural lives.
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  And if any kid manages to actually hide a piercing, I say shame on their parents for not being more perceptive.
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  Alycenwonder, I'm 22 years old. I was a teenager not too long ago. I know the tricks. Frankly, kids aren't that darned smart. They all try the same thing, and yes, their parents tried the same tricks when THEY were teenagers, too. You're not fooling anyone.
  
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  by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on August 24th, 2008
- no effense you may be 22 but that still has nothing to do with what your kids can do, i know very catholic familys who watched thier kids like hawks and still the kids got away with it. im just warning you and not trying to be effense. i have many piercings and tattoos and my parents made me wait to, but where i live it is legal to get pierced at 16 and legal to be tattooed at 18, and i agree you should wait, but some kids like to defy their parents, and im saying if they do they should do it the safe way.
  
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  by anonymous on August 24th, 2008
- Apparently they didn't watch well enough.
  
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  by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on August 24th, 2008
- but you see unless someone knows what to look for people will never know she has her tongue pierced. and lady alathia you may say that you were a teen not that long ago. trust me they get smarter every year. and you know what by forbidding a child to do something will just make them want to do it more and then they will go out behind the parents back and do it and my not be in the most safest way out there. its better then letting her get a tattoo! be/c unlike a piercing that you can take out at any time, a tattoo will be there forever. I would rather get my child pierced then letting the get a tattoo.
  and since you have no children you should not be saying that the parents should watch there kids better. for the simple fact is you are unable to watch the 24/7 no matter how hard you try.
  
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  by JulieK on February 7th, 2009
- I do have a child. Pay attention before you make judgments. There are pictures of him all over my profile, and I talk about him constantly.
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  Also, I am not that unperceptive - tongue piercings are NOT easy to hide (at least not from me) and especially not the first few days afterward, with the swelling and the pain and whatnot. Considering my child LIVES WITH ME, there should be no reason I would not notice.
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  Parents make rules. One of mine will be all facial piercing, tattoos, etc. will wait until the above criteria are met (legally sign for themselves, pay for it themselves, own transportation, etc). And again, if they DO go off and have it done without my permission, they will be made to immediately remove it, and then will be subjected to a doctors' examination and a tetanus shot. Possibly an HIV test, just to drive the point home.
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  Many parents DO need to watch their kids better. And some just need to learn that they ARE the parents of their children, not just their good buddies that happen to own the house and pay the bills.
  
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  by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on February 7th, 2009
- I just noticed from your profile that you are a tattooist/piercer.
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  If you are one of the many that allow children to alter their bodies without assuring that THEIR parent has allowed them to do so, shame on you. I hope you lose your license.
  
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  by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on February 7th, 2009
- to get a piercing and a tattoo you have to have an id. and with out it we can't do it. and if you are under 18 in my state you cannot get it with out a parent.
  to have your tongue pierced it all depends on the person and how far back you it is done. when i got mine done for the 1st time i didn't swell and all no pain or anything. but i had to take it out. then when i got it done again, there was very little swelling and no one noticed that i got it done again.
  each state is different for piercings some states are 16 others are 18. tattoos are 18. it is very hard to get tetanus from a piercing and tattoos. HIV would not be what i would worry about, very rarely you will get hepatitis c. but that is only if you do not go to reputability shop and you really only get sick from D.I.Y ones.
  i didn't look at your profile before i posted the comment. for that i am sorry, your little one is a cutie.
  
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  by JulieK on February 7th, 2009
- you say about me making judgments. i do apologize for what i said about not having a child.
  Not every parent get to be a stay at home mother. although many do wish they could and that you are able to do that i have respect for that. even parents that are stay at home can not watch there children 24/7.
  
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  by JulieK on February 7th, 2009
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by miRi hates social norms and regulations on February 25th, 2008
i wanted a tongue ring until i read this article about heart disease skyrocketing in patients who had tongue piercings because it's an open wound w so many veins that go straight to your heart - your tongue's a muscle. and a hole in a muscle as opposed to skin or cartiledge is a lot more dangerous. not to mention the dental problems that go with chipped teeth and metal. and it'll be harder to get a job at times.

i'm not trying to sound biased at all, i had a huge fight w some friends about the lip ring and my mother over the tongue ring until she showed me the article. i still want them but i'd rather not chop 15 years off my life. i wish i had that article for you
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- :):)+
  
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  by buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind on February 26th, 2008
- thanks a bunch =)
  
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  by miRi hates social norms and regulations on February 26th, 2008
- I read the same article and its scary how one little hole can do such a thing ... I know what eyebrow piercings can do to the nerves in the face and the damage belly button ones can do ... so thanks for pointing it out to Lisa ...:):)
  
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  by buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind on February 26th, 2008
- i kno i kno i'm devestated about the eyebrow one the most. that's one that i was dying to get once i decided not to work at the daycare anymore. until i read that. darn my search for knowledge! =p
  
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  by miRi hates social norms and regulations on February 26th, 2008
- lol...lol well at least you found out before you had it done ...better to be safe than sorry ...:)
  
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  by buxtonite ..slowly losing my mind on February 26th, 2008
- I don't know if this is the article you're referring to, miri but it probably has the same basic warning: http://www.aafp.org/afp/20051115/2029.html
  
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  by Brian on February 26th, 2008
- not quite the same thing but it gives a similar idea. thanks brian!
  
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  by miRi hates social norms and regulations on February 26th, 2008
- about the job thing...you can just take it out...its not that hard...lol
  
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by Ventiger on February 25th, 2008
They can cause serious damage to her teeth, there is a serious chance or getting a severe infection that can travel into her throat, and for most guys, when they see one all they think of is the myth that is is good for oral sex. Seriously, it is stupid, don't give in, she will be upset, but she won't look like a prostitute!
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- are you saying people with tongue piercings are prostitutes?
  
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  by Tigger on February 26th, 2008
- I don't think Ventiger is saying she will definitely look like a prostitute but that a lot of guys will see it and automatically assume why she got her tongue pierced.
  
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  by Aquatic Eagle on July 27th, 2008
- Science is right - most guys only think about what the girl can do with the piercing on their privates
  
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  by rigby on August 27th, 2008
- ive never come across this in the 6 years ive had my tongue done, but i guess thats down to location some areas just has more morals
  
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by miteb on February 25th, 2008
be a MOM-not a friend at this point...listen to your hesitancy and just wait until she's of age and it's out of your hands.
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- I like that- be a MOM not her friend.
  
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  by Ventiger on February 25th, 2008
- thx Ventiger-need to redefine roles once in awhile
  
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by Zebulon on February 25th, 2008
IMO, 16 is too young for a tongue piercing.
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- im 16 in i have my tongue pierced. my mom went w/ me to get it too
  
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  by essence0805 on July 25th, 2008
- Congratulations.
  
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  by Zebulon on July 25th, 2008
- Agreed with Zebulon. 16 is too young to be piercing holes in your tongue. My daughter won't have one before she's 18, hopefully not after that either. No offense intended essence0805 but of all common piercings, the tongue piercing is my least favorite.
  
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  by Aquatic Eagle on July 27th, 2008
- i dont see anything wrong with getting a tongue piercing at that age, i had mine done when i was 15, it was purly cosmetic and it has done me no damage
  
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  by HFB93 on March 15th, 2009
- Ah, but it could have. Tongue piercings are very easily infected and extremely dangerous to get.
  
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by loveschimps on February 25th, 2008
I would think it would be very difficult to say yes to this request. She may be a great kid but its a huge risk medically to have the tongue pierced. She would have a permanent hole, it could become infected, she would have to learn to speak around it and it could possible hurt her teeth or dental work.
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- Actually the hole in tounge rings close up very quickly after the ring is removed. I wore mine for years and after about a day or two the whole was gone.
  
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  by Wickels on May 10th, 2008
- I have seen some kids struggle with the speech bit...But its nice to hear that the hole closes up. :)
  
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by RockRchick on February 26th, 2008
Im 23 and Ive wanted one forever. My parents never let me get one. 16 is too young. When I turned 18 I went out and did it. Maybe you should have her wait it out. When she turns legal age she can get it done, if her mind hasnt changed. Plus, tongue piercings arent so bad, theyre hidden and you can always just take em out and they heal up fine.
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- i think you'll find 16 is the legal age, not 18. you don't need parental consent at 16.
  
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by Brian on February 26th, 2008
I'd tell her about all the painful situations and dangerous diseases that can result from tongue piercings.

Here's an article from http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/2931704.stm :

"Dentists have urged people against having their tongues pierced.

The latest warning follows the case of a 28-year-old woman who had to undergo emergency surgery to have a piercing removed.

Doctors found her piercing, a small metal rod, had become completely embedded in her tongue. She was unable to remove it.

They said piercings increase the risk of contracting a range of serious diseases and can also be potentially life threatening if the tongue becomes infected, swells up and blocks the airway.

It can also lead to teeth being chipped, infection and pain.

Writing in the British Dental Journal, specialist registrar Tamer Theodossy, who works at University College Hospital London, said the risks made it difficult to condone tongue piercing.

'Although it would appear that most tongue piercings proceed uneventfully, the severity of the complications suffered make the practice of tongue piercing one which is difficult to condone,' he said.

'Piercing of oral sites also carries a high risk of infection with the possibility of transmission of organisms such as HIV, hepatitis B and C, Herpes Simplex virus, Epstein-Barr virus and candida,' he added.

Herpes Simplex is linked to cold sores and the Epstein-Barr virus causes glandular fever."

I also read that the piercing has to be removed before almost every dental procedure.

If you enter the search phrase, "Tongue piercing warnings" or "...dangers" you'll find a wealth of relevant horror stories.
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- Do any of those articles ever mention whether or not the person took care of their piercing properly or had it done safely to begin with? Maybe the bigger issue is not the safety of the piercing itself but the government's lack of body art regulations, the health department's inability or refusal to enforce the regulations that are present, and the consumers belief that price is more important than quality. If people would do more research about the studio they choose to facillitate their body art, places that are skimping on professionalism, experience, and safety would be unable to continue the spread of bad opinions of body modification.
  
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by shammers still slogging along on February 25th, 2008
Have you had any thoughts about girls who are willing to go through the pain of having that done? I would urge you to say no. I'd be afraid for from the sanitation aspect of having it done also.
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- Thats why i said until 18 lol. But you said it better lol
  
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  by LashTyphoon on February 25th, 2008
- You know what it is, she's just so good to me & keeps my house spotless & takes care of me when I get sick & I wanted to surprise her for her Sweet 16th birthday as a way of showing my appreciation for all that she does.
  
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  by Little big mouth on February 25th, 2008
- Lisa, take her bowling or something don't put a hole in her tongue as a reward.
  
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  by Ventiger on February 25th, 2008
- I think you've had some really good input here. I think it's so wonderful that you appreciate her so much, but my hope is that there's something else that would also make her very happy. :)
  
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  by shammers still slogging along on February 25th, 2008
- perhap there is something else she wants beside pain. My sister told me that the tongue is the worst peircing.
  
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  by LashTyphoon on February 25th, 2008
- I'm becoming much more hesitant, I think I'll try & buy her a car instead
  
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  by Little big mouth on February 25th, 2008
- THERE WE GO! A CAR! YEAH! Thats waaay better!
  
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  by LashTyphoon on February 25th, 2008
- That will definately make your wallet a little lighter, but that is a more appropriate gift. Althogh some would argue that is a worse choice...I will save that for another question.
  
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  by Ventiger on February 25th, 2008
- She's been saving for 2 year for a car out of her allowance since I REFUSE to let her get a job
  
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  by Little big mouth on February 25th, 2008
- That'll make it even more of a suprise. and what she saved up she can use for gas xD
  
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  by LashTyphoon on February 25th, 2008
- when i got my tongue pierced it did not hurt and it was NOT numbed. a car shes more likely to crash and get injured there is no stories of death from a tongue piercings lots involves cars tho
  
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by bubblecheeks on June 2nd, 2008
HEY YOUR DAUGHTER MAY BE A SWEET KID BUT TRUST ME OUT FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE DO NOT LET HER GET IT. AND ESPECIALLY IF SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. WITH THE BARBELL EROTIC PERFORMANCES CAN BE DONE AND THIS WILL CAUSE INFECTION STD'S AND IT'S A LOT TO GO THROUGH PLUS YOUR INSTORE FOR HAVING CHIPPED TEETH AND ABUNCH OF DENTIL PROBLEMS. ALSO IF THE PRSEDURE IS DONE WRONG YOUR DAUGHTER MAY END UP BEING PARALYZID. SHE'S ONLY 16 DON'T LET HER SUFFER THRUGH THAT JUST SO THT SHE CAN HAVE IT FOR ABOUT A WEEK WITH OUT ANY HARM DONE. IF YOU INDEED LOVE HER GET ANOTHER PIERCING LIKE THE NOSE OR THE EARS IT MAY SEEM BORING BUT IT'S BETTER THEN HAVEING PAIN WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR TONGUE PIERCED AND EVEN WHEN YOU TAKE IT OUT TO THIS DAY AFTER TAKING MINE OUT ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF AGO IT IS SOOOO SOAR AND SOMETIMES LEEDS IT SUCKS!!!
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- Thank you. She never got it & the faze is over
  
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by ChandaDiane - est. 1975 on February 26th, 2008
I think tounge rings are asinine. They look stupid and cannot be good for your teeth. Personally, I cannot wait for that fad to pass.
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by Halskiisaklink on February 26th, 2008
Infection is a possibility, and you should really make that clear to her. But otherwise, eh, let her get one if she wants. Not allowing your kids to get trivial aesthetic accessories heightens the perceived influence of pointless resistance, which means more hard work for you.
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by Galeanda on February 26th, 2008
Well, broken and cracked teeth are always a possibility. And infections, which can infect your system. And of course you will have to coupe with what other people will think about your child, that she is easy, and possibly a candidate for great sex. I'm sorry. It's just such a bad idea for anyone but for a parent to allow and give consent seems wrong to me.
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- excuse me just because she gets her tounge pierced does not mean shes easy. i know lots of VIRGINS that have there tounges pierced.
  but either way who the hell cares what others think, its your life do what you want with it.
  
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  by GingyBaby on July 24th, 2008
- I didn't say "I" felt that way, but many people do, sorry about that. It may not be accurate but I've heard many people, mostly young which I am not being 53, describe someone with a tongue piercing in certain sexually promiscuous terms. They presume that about them. I can't be held accountable for other's viewpoints not my own, but I only thought it fair to warn a concerned mother about what people 'out there' think and say out loud. No one, not even a well meaning piercer, can control the thoughts of others and that is what many people think.
  
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by DiSTurBiA on February 26th, 2008
I'd be worried about infection. If you let her have one, def use silver, it's atomically anti bacterial
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- I tried something with Jenny today & I knew I'd be right. I said she could get a tongue piercing & she said she didn't want one anymore. I know she just wanted to see if I'd give her permission but the more freedom I give her, the less freedom she wants
  
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  by Little big mouth on February 26th, 2008
- hmmm lol all for the better :D
  
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by friend2umon on February 25th, 2008
The best thing my Dad ever did for me was not make a big fuss about some of my choices when I was a kid....; because he was relaxed and offered me little resistance or criticism, I didn't make a big deal out of whatever I wanted either....

When my friends and I got caught drinking, my Father merely asked me if I had a good time...; because of my Father's attitudes, I was relaxed and never formed any addictions...

In contrast, my friend's Father forced him to take classes on alcoholism; that same friend became an alcoholic....

Each parent might benefit from seriously considering just what it is they are really fearing...and projecting those fears onto their children...

Just like others in our life, children see right through us...so, I would suggest being light and easy but being sincere about that...don't fake it...

If you can't be light, then communicate openly with your child about your concerns but treat her like an equal, not a subordinate....trust her....don't worry about it....
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- i agree with you 100%. my parents used to be cool and relaxed about what i do but lately they have become very strict and question everything i do and it is making me want to rebel more.
  
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by csimme01 and Ninja Cooper UNMASKED on February 25th, 2008
You are asking for an opinion but you already know the answer. (No I am not a kid, check the profile) You are a mom and you need to listen to your mom instincts. If you need ammunition tell your daughter I said to listen to your inner Mom. (IMO the answer is NO)
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by LashTyphoon on February 25th, 2008
perhaps she could wait until her 18th....?
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by EvangelineOFire on May 31st, 2009
Well kudos to you for giving it consideration mom! I personally think 16 is too young; she should wait until she's at least 18. All the better if she can pay for it with her own money.
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- I let her get a belly button one. But none will ever be on her face except her ears
  
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by AmberAnn on December 17th, 2008
I have my tongue peirced and ive wanted it since i was 15 buttt my mom wouldnt take mee so i had to wait til i was 18. Now im 20 and i still have it. Its not permanant. it can be taken out. its no big deal and tongue peircings heal faster and hurt less than any other peircing (ive hadd my eyebrow, nose 2x, monroe, cartlidge, ears, lip, and tongue). I love it and its the easiest to hide. At all my job interviews, nobody has ever noticed. and it doesnt ruin your teeth if you dont keep the metal ball in. Get a plastic ball and your teeth will be fine. People should get their facts straight be4 they form an opinion. IMO, peircings are better than tattoo's bcuz tattoos are permanent and peircings can be removed as easily as 1,2,3.
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by metal mouth on December 8th, 2008
tongue piercings are potentially fatal why would you agree to let your child have one? My daughter had one without my permission, legally no permission is needed for facial piercings in any case. It caused her to have oral surgery when the tongue stud caught up in braces, they can cause the tongue to swell and stop a person breathing as well.
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- She decide to wait but I would have sued the balls off the person who gave anything to my daughter w/o my permission
  
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  by Little big mouth on December 8th, 2008
- As well you should and definately could. It's against the law for a profesional, but if an amiture decided to do it...Well there wouldn't be anything you could do.
  
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  by Krypt kitty on January 5th, 2009
- That is not true. If you are under the age of 18, you HAVE to have parental consent to get a peircing or a tattoo.
  
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by edgeofthestars on December 3rd, 2008
You can wear plastic balls instead of metal balls if you're worried about your teeth chipping.. I've had my tongue pierced for a little over a year and I've had no problems with it. I avoid wearing metal balls but plastic ones also break easily and they get really gross really quick.

I've had my tongue pierced since I was 15 and I haven;t regretted it, I love it. But it's completely the mother's decision.

I'd say let her get it done, there's much worse she could get done, like a tattoo.
Atleast she can take the tongue ring out whenever she wants.
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- She decided against it. But I'm trying SO HARD to be a fair mom & think like a teen but damn I'm 42
  
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by Malikitts on June 11th, 2008
If you're looking for information I suggest www.bodyjewelleryshop.com/forums. They are great there, and the people on there know a lot about piercings and waht you're looking for.

Hope all goes well
Good luck
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- Thank you. She got over the faze
  
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by Tenaciouscj on May 30th, 2008
I think it is a bad idea. Most people have to have their tongue stud or whatever taken out after a few years due to the damage it causes to their teeth. If it gets infected, the person can get blood poisoning.

If your daughter is so keen to have it, she should wait until she is 18 or until she is able to save up for it herself.

A possible compromise is an eyebrow piercing. My younger daughter got one of those last year and it looks all right. But I would be very unhappy if she got any mouth piercings because of how dangerous they are.
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by Christina on May 23rd, 2008
If the rebellion and and fear of society rejecting your daughter is what bothers you most about this, I would say let her get it done. It will be a good experience for her, because they are hard to take care of.

However, my actual oppinion is to not let her get it done, for physical reasons.
1. The mouth carries the most microoganisms of the entire body!!! It is so hard to keep it clean, I would think it would lower her immune system or something until it heals.
2. Almost every friend who has one has swallowed the metal ball in their sleep. That just... isn't healthy.
3. It chips your teeth. Painful, and cosmetically annoying.

If you are ok with those risks, let her get it done I guess. Personally, I would make them wait until they are 18 and pay for it themselves, plus she might not want it then.
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by SAGE2 on March 20th, 2008
DO NIT LET HER! I've heard of too many people having COMPLICATIONS w/it. Also, it's ok to say NO to her. You are her parent NOT her friend.
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by kedar on March 17th, 2008
I guess you don't need me to tell you that I don't like the idea!

First of all, after having your tongue pierced, eating may become a chore, secondly, intraoral piercing and tongue jewelry place people at greater risk for serious medical and dental consequences -- I know people who regretted having done it.

http://www.cda-adc.ca/jcda/vol-64/issue-11/803.html
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by NJDevsfan05 on March 4th, 2008
If you don't care if she gets one, go ahead and go with her! If she wants it that bad, and is willing to do anything to get one she could end up doing something not so smart. (having one of her friends piercing it, or going to a "piercing party") I honestly don't think it is a big deal getting piercings, and the tongue piercing is extrememly safe if you go to the right shop. Do some research on your body piercer, and the shop he/she works at!
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by Melissa on March 2nd, 2008
A tongue piercing sends a pretty strong sexual message. Whether it is what she intends to do or not, boys will see it that way. I'd make her wait until she legally doesn't need your permission. At that point she can always take it out and you can barely see where the hole was. I used to have one, my mother made me wait, I ran out and got one on my 18th birthday, and ended up taking it out about 6 months later.
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by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on March 2nd, 2008
I believe in cartilage piercing only. If she wants them up the side of her ears or in her nose, I would agree to that but the mouth is a risky place.

I hear that a guy lost a friend because his tongue became severely infected after a piercing and doctors wanted to amputate a good portion of this young man's tongue and the parents said no to this and he died from an infection.

If she is 18 and does this of her own accord, there is nothing you can do. Just too many germs in the mouth is my viewpoint.
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by EyExCanDii119 on February 26th, 2008
16?????????? If I had gotten mine at 16 and of course I would have showed everyone ... I would have gotten QUITE a reputation! If I were you I would let her wait untill she is 18 and then if she still wants one it is a different story.
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by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on February 26th, 2008
I don't have one, and don't intend getting one. I know people who do. From what I hear, if you're not careful, they can get infected. And also, you can chip your teeth with them as well. My folks spent way too much money on my teeth when I was younger, I don't want to screw up the teeth I have left!
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- I tried something with Jenny today & I knew I'd be right. I said she could get a tongue piercing & she said she didn't want one anymore. I know she just wanted to see if I'd give her permission but the more freedom I give her, the less freedom she wants
  
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by Twhupfold on February 26th, 2008
I don't understand why someone would get one, but I also don't care...

Personally I kinda want a lip ring, since it is something visible and I like the look of it, but a tongue piercing just seems like a pointless inconvenience to me *shrugs*

I would say let her have it, since she can always just take it out again... It doesn't affect you, let her experience it for herself so she can decide whether or not it is gross and disgusting ; )
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by Tigger on February 26th, 2008
i have my tongue pierced-when i was 14 as long as you go to a decent salon and you watch the piercer remove a FRESH needle from its packaging and its cleaned 4 times a day there shouldnt be a problem yes its rubs the enamal off your teeth but this can also be avoided by wearing plastic balls rather then metal, ive never had a problem getting a job. in uk 16 is the legal age where she can go get it anyway with out your permission out of the UK i dunno but if its over 16 you should wait till that age (18 in lots of places)
on the other hand, she will get it if she really wants it, and if she goes to a place that will pierce an under age girl its more likely they use dirty needles so its a safe option for you to agree and take her to a place thats your choice and recomended
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by paranoia is just fine on February 26th, 2008
i really don't know. I know I wanted a tatoo when I was 19 but never had one and I'm glad...
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by Anonymous on February 25th, 2008
Hold up! She is only going to be 16. From the experience that I had with having a tongue ring I would say no. Some guys are very ignorant and will say anything. I was a full grown woman when I got mine and also had a husband.I can remember I guy approaching me and may I add I was with my mother. He said "Damn baby can you just stick it all the way out for me". I was so embarrassed. Besides that incident I got a lot of unwanted attention.
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- ive never had this happen yes ive had men wink or chat me up and mentioning it but never anything rude!?
  
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  by Tigger on February 26th, 2008
- I've never had anyone say anything to me, either. But I'm sure teenaged boys might, but they will about something else anyway. That is something that a girl needs to learn some good comebacks to and to be secure with herself regardless if she has a piercing or not.
  
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  by We miss our girl! on February 26th, 2008
- thats true if its not a piercing its hair or eyes or make up or hair
  
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  by Tigger on February 26th, 2008
- I also had flirtations comments as well.But due to the fact that she is a teen I just feel it isn't appropriate and if her mom is around with whatever attention she is getting, would mom be able to handle that.
  
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  by Anonymous on February 26th, 2008
- I don't understand the implications or meaning of a toungue ring, I'm old. Do girls with tongue rings get a reputation or something?
  
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  by Little big mouth on February 26th, 2008
- well ive never had a reputation not sexually anyway. and being a teen she will always get comments off of men and boys weather dhe has a tongue pierced or not.
  
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by Tondoteottotote on February 25th, 2008
Ouch. Tell her to pay for it herself, or you can pay for it if she decides to put it on without an analgesic. We both think a tongue pierce is gross so offering her the non-anesthetic option should deter her enough not to get one.

If she can afford her own, I don't know what to say but you're on your own.
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- just so you know i had my tongue dont with out anything to numb it and i didnt feel a thing then or after
  my m8 had her tongue numbed and hurt for 3 weeks after so this is actualy the better option!
  
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  by Tigger on February 26th, 2008
- I didn't know you could get your tongue numbed to have it done. I didn't and neither did my daughter. It only hurts for a second, the same amount of time you'd feel the needle before the numbness started, so why bother getting it numbed? But I've never been to any place that does piercings that numbs anything first.
  
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  by We miss our girl! on February 26th, 2008
- really where do you live? im in the uk and i traveled to london and never numbed it nor did they offer, but cpl of my m8shad it numbed and they said it hurt like hell... :S
  
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  by Tigger on February 26th, 2008
- I live in the US in Michigan. I've never heard of anyone getting numbed for any piercing.
  
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  by We miss our girl! on February 26th, 2008
- really? wow i have had lots of piercings and apart from tongue they was all numbed just a cold spray that numbs a small area,what do you do there then?
  
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  by Tigger on February 26th, 2008
- They just shove the needle through! I had my belly button, tongue, nose, nipples, and one other unmentionable area and there was never any offer of any sort of numbing. It can hurt like hell, but generally only for a second. They just tell you basically to take a huge breath, and then to breathe! lol
  
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  by We miss our girl! on February 26th, 2008
- Yup, the tongue dosen't really hurt much though, but the mouth rince they make you use befor they pierce it numbs it a lil. You mostly just feal the presher and tare of the tissue.
  
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by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on February 25th, 2008
Let her get one. There are worse things she could be asking for. Make sure that the place she has it done has a good reputation and exercises appropriate hygiene standards.
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- She gave up asking a year ago, this will be a surprise for her Sweet 16 but my familys telling me she'll talk with a slur if she gets it done. Is that true
  
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  by Little big mouth on February 25th, 2008
- It's more like a lisp.
  
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  by shammers still slogging along on February 25th, 2008
- Even worse if her tongue swells up, or she breaks a tooth.
  
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  by Ventiger on February 25th, 2008
- I suppose my parents were more liberal in what they allowed me to do, but the negs are not justified as this is an opinion question.
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  @Lisa: If you think she will need dental work (i.e., braces) soon it is not such a hot idea.
  
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  by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on February 25th, 2008
- you only have a lisp for like a week
  
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by Anonymous on September 18th, 2009
sadly i associate tongue piercings with druggies and ho's but of course not everybody who has one is like that.
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- I always say you CAN'T help how you feel, you can help what you do. She never got it, thank God
  
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  by Little big mouth on September 18th, 2009
- oops. sorry i didn't notice how old this question was. glad to hear that though!
  
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- Thank you for your opinion anyway
  
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by door key on June 4th, 2009
For a tongue piercing, I would make her wait. Consider allowing the navel. First of all, tongue piercings are notoriously sexual in nature, and you don't want to promote that image or behavior. Second, it's a big piercing with lots of pain and days of discomfort. Third, and like the first, it is more of a status symbol and an attention getter than an accent of beauty.
16 is close enough to 18, she can wait. Pierce something that is not above her neck!
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by Ashlovessam on May 23rd, 2009
Well, im not sure where you live, but here in australia, you can legally get piercings without your parents signature at the age of 16, not including sexual piercings. Anyway, i think that the case is, if you say yes, and you are worried about the risks, YOU do the research on what places are good for piercings and are safe environments, then dont go for the cheapest option, you know the saying 'cheap and nasty'? well that usually is the case. Also, if she gets it done and she doesnt like it, she oculd always take it out, and it will close up in no time.
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by teresa on May 22nd, 2009
the tongue piercing thing is not only gross but the ring can cause vital tooth enamel to chip off and make the teeth weak and can cause lisps if it is not done correctly. I would not ever let my daughters get theirs done, my 19 year old did her nose piercing and I told her first sign of infection its gone and so far it has not gotten infected and she takes good care of it and she has had it for over 2 years now. But if I were you I would very much reconsider the tongue piercing and try to tell her how it can ruin her mouth and teeth and try and get her to do something else like the nose or even the belly button
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by gilly on May 22nd, 2009
i had mine done when i was 16 i didnt ask but my parents were ok peircings are things that can be removed it would be worse io she wanted a tattoo that she would regret later in life
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by maryxooh on March 7th, 2009
I got my tongue pierced when I was 16. My dad was reluctant at first. It was a good investment, though. It's pretty, they're fun when you're bored. You can get all kind of different balls on it.

I love mine.

I say let her get it. It's not like a tattoo. If she gets tired of it later in life, she can take it out.

If her job requires her not to have one, she can get the retainer.

Mine healed quickly because I took care of it the right way. After she eats, have her gargle with oral b alcohol free mouth wash. If she does it too much, her tongue will start to turn green because all the good bacteria is gone, and that's a no go.

It won't effect your speech after the swelling goes down, but I would advise her put acrylic balls on after it heals because my friend chomped on hers once, and it chipped her tooth.

I THINK YOU SHOULD DO IT FOR HER!
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by Vintage... on March 6th, 2009
Discomfort, possible infection, will she keep it hygenic? As a mother, I think 16 is too young myself.
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by jezy91 on March 6th, 2009
It depends on the person, i guess.
One of my sisters has it, and it looks wonderful on her.
But then, theres this girl at my school who looks really trashy, and it looks terrible on her.
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by lolwtf on February 13th, 2009
I think that you should let her. Im 17 and I just got mine done 2 weeks ago, and alot of people had negative things to say about it. Alot of people said it was slutty to have, but if your daughter just wants it for herself I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. If it's being used for other purposes than I think that's crossing the line, and that's when it gets discusting. A tongue piercing is better than alot of other piercings your daughter could be asking for. Its your choice, but at 16 she can do it without your consent.. and it's a very hard piercing to hide, so don't be afraid of her having it without you knowing! My mom knew right away when I called her because I couldn't talk. It's very painful too. So she should consider the after fact of it! Make sure she knows what she's doing before she does it, because i regretted getting mine afterwards!
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by JulieK on February 7th, 2009
a real shop will have the health dept. records of vists to the shop there. and its really not that bad of a piercing. people make it would to be more then what it is. unless you know what you are looking for people will never know she has it. if she wants it let her get it but you know it is better then a tattoo because after she gets annoyed with it and it will heal over in a short period of time. i will post 2 videos of what its like to get your tounge periced watch them with your daughter. notice what is in the back ground of both videos. the real shop will always show you what they are going to do and have it all in the little bags waiting for you to show up the second video shows you everything.
the 1st video will be a bad "shop" (and i use the term shop generously. its be/c the fans on in the back ground.)
the second clip will be of a real shop with out fans and everything.
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by kaylabadayla on January 16th, 2009
I UNDERSTAND HOW SHE FEELS TO WANT ONE SOOOO BAD AND I THINK YOU SHOULD LET HER GET ONE IT IS ONE OF THE PIERCINGS THAT HEAL THE FASTEST AND ARE LEAST TO GET INFECTIONS HAVE HER DO SOME RESEARCH AND SEE HOW MUCH SHE KNOWS PLZ LET ME KNOW IF YUOU LET HER GET ONE SHE WILL BE SO HAPPY WITH YOU IT WILL NOT MAKE YOU ANY LESS OF A MOTHER OR HER A BAD KID
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