Yes, my daughter-in-law. I still handle it .. day by day.

I imagine that everyone who ever has bad-mouthed me (which is like, 75% of the people I know) has done it for that reason. I'm just that full of myself.

Yep that's happened to me. How should I have dealt with it in retrospect? Tried to be extra specially nice to her and everyone else just to prove her wrong. How did I handle it? By bad-mouthing her back to anyone who'd listen.

I've worked with people who got off on bad-mouthing more than one person in the office...why, I don't know. One that I still work with we were told apparently just likes to be a shit-disturber. She tried to get me into trouble once....if she does it again, I won't bite my tongue for fear of making things worse.

Yes, I used to face them down and make them admit that they were lieing. Some situations that is impossible, like on line it is best making your point and then ignoring the perpetrator. MY temper used to be so bad that people would be warned off annoying me by others so I never really had a problem but on the Internet people can be really nasty and there is not a lot you can do about the fact. Funnily enough it has always been by people that i do not know , they seem to find my accent and my manner standoffish until they get to know me.

Not only out of jealousy. Our family has a generation problem of badmouthing one person behind the back to their siblings. I found out my aunt had been doing it to me, and it had quite upset my not very well brother, who felt caught in the middle. So I wrote her a long letter outlining the cruel things she had done, telling her I forgive her and saying she was quite free to contact me as long as it was positive, not negative. I also told her not to badmouth me to my siblings as they had a pact with me to inform me if she did. Haven't heard a word from her, but no doubt I will, one way or the other. But that is her problem, not mine.

Eh, usually it' women thinking I'm out to steal their boyfriends (which I have no interest in). One of them went off the deep end, DEMANDED her boyfriend quit my band and never speak to me again, then DEMANDED that he move to a different province with her and raise her (but not his) children properly. He left her shortly after, which she decided is my fault. She lies about me and uses me as a scapegoat every chance she gets, but it's been less of a problem since she moved. One of the other ones just kinda grew up by herself and realized I wasn't a threat. We're great friends now.

every school year something like this happened. I never know how to handle it. Some times it's the popular girls that start to hate me and at school everyone follows the popular people. I think that what I do is try to find better friends so that I can forget my lat friend. Everytime it happens it's my best friend. I alays feel very bad. Last year it happened two times. Tha first time I was sad but we became friends again. We hangout together at luch and recess. Her friend got jealuos and started to talk bad about me and she is popular so everybody started to hate me. My friend preffered to stay away from me because she didn't want to loose that friend. What bothered me the most was that my friend considered this girl her best friend but they didn't hangout toghether.

In real life I don't remember this every happening but it has happened here lately. I have picked up a few, and to be honest I have not handled it well to this point.

this is more a questions than an answer, i've had this girlfriend for about 8 eight years we were very close . i really like her despited her faults because i know no one is perfect! i have always known she was the kind of girl that if she came over to my house and she saw something new that i bought she would run out and buy it and act as if you as the 1st to buy ,but i pretended i didnt see those things becuase i liked ther so much. about 2 years ago we both moved to a different state and now live even closer than before wich we did it on purpose so we could be there for eachother. and our husbands become partners but that is not what changed the friendship ,it changed when she and her husband decided to have their religious cerimony help in a different country and neither myself nor my hasband could go because we had just moved ,so the minute she came back she changed completly and started to gossip about me to the people we know like mutual freinds , hairdresses and also giving me a cold shoulder i have asked her many times what i did? what is wrong and she always says nothing and that everything is normal but it isnt and now her sister is living with her and the 2 of them make every effort to pist me off , i have now started to avoid them and not react anymore because i am so hurt with the whole situation oh and on top of all i dont have any kids yet so i have a dog and i have alwyas told her to get a dog it would be good for her son ,she never wanted all of the a few months ago she got a dog and she named the dog the name that i have always said if i ever have a child i would name her that name,this is a common thing for the people that knnow me i have always said it and they all know but yet she named the dog the same name ans it's not like is a popullar name its a older name hardly ever used anymore.so my questions is how do i deal with this and keep in mind she is married to my husbands partner we have to see eachother often.

The Thorn She is everything you would want in a friend; supportive, complementing, understanding, caring, and fun. She is your pretty reflection when you are looking but once you give her your back, she turns into a thorn in your back. Using her insider information about you and your life, she will backstab you when and wherever possible. Bad-mouthing you is only the beginning of what she is capable of. The thorn is neither brave enough to face you nor does she hate you enough to kill you. Her cowardly attributes and lack of audacity and forwardness make her a perfect rat. Once you have depicted a thorn in your life … pluck it out before it kills you.