I would wonder, and most likely be a little ticked too. I would send a response saying I was too buzy with the party i was throwing the same day "By the way, I thought you were working". Maybe this person works later on when your party is and has the brunch hours free?

I would be a bit ticked. Or maybe just confused. Possibly theres something your friend isn't telling you and you should ask them about it, like if they knew that the dates were the same or whatnot. Also, if the people you invited first are true to plans, they'd hopefully stick with yours since you had given them out beforehand. Hope I helped! :)

I would be ticked that they lied about why they couldn't attend. I would RSVP your regrets and add a note saying: "I would love to attend, but as you know from the invitation I sent you, I am already hosting a party on that day. It's too bad you have to work an can not attend, your presence will be missed." That should let them know you onto them.

Righteously pissed is more like it. Your guest is a stone jerk. Nobody declares social war without a definite motive. This is where you find out who your true friends are, and how the rest handle stress. For your guests who show up at your party, treat them like royalty, and let those who will try to play both sides know that you are offended at them, as well. This could cost you, but it's not the end of your life as you know it. Enjoy the spirit of aggressive hosting and managing friends. Stay on top of the squabble and keep the ball in your court.

I've tried to reason this out and my first thought is that the party you're having is at night and the guest is free for brunch but working at night. But I still can't find a way to excuse the guest for declining your invitation, planning a party on the same day and having the audacity to invite you with no explanation. Yes. You should be ticked. I would ask the guest "What's up with that?!"

I would be. That was just plain rude and inconcererate not to mention decitfull.

YUP - I'd be more than ticked. I'd say that unless she is having brunch at my party (that she had to work through) she's SOL.

I know you have handled this by now and would love to know the outcome. Don't forget this person is NOT your friend! For some they feel in competition with you and they are jealous that they don't measure up. Actually this is a compliment to you. don't feed into her insecurties and continue to be a better person and friend than she is. Take the high road and never stoop to her level.

Sounds strange to me. Unless they are disappointed by not being able to be with you all and thought you could all be together earlier in the day. edit; Oops. Just read your comments. I am glad you enjoyed your party.

Yes...I would go to the party and pee in the punch...;)

Should you be ticked? I don't know if you should or not but it is completely understandable if you are. Your friend is not obligated to come to your party (or any others). Telling you they were busy as an excuse is perfectly acceptable. Planning another event the same day is her right as well. And even inviting the same people is her right. HOWEVER, ALL of that is tasteless and crass behavior. It is quite possible she decided to have a party after she declined and FORGET your party was the same day because she didn't put yours on her calendar so when looking for a date for hers she completely forgot about yours. Make sense? The odds are not in her favor though. It is more likely that she did remember but felt it was still the best choice for her to plan hers at the same time as you because it worked "best" for her calendar. My feelings would be hurt, yes. The correct way to handle it would be for you to RSVP with a decline because you are already committed to your own party but NO MENTION OF HER PREVIOUS RSVP is needed. She'll remember as soon as she sees your RSVP. Send out polite reminders to those who have RSVPed of your excitment at seeing them at your event, then do NOT discuss her or her party with anyone. You will be lowering yourself to her level if you do and you don't want to appear that way, do you?

I'd be mad! And I would remind them about your party! Tell them that you can't go with them because you are having a party already

Declining someone's party, then holding one on the same day is Absolutely THOR (The Height of Rudeness). I give you full permission to gather the closest of the mutual invitees, put together your best See Me In Hell outfits, and have a smashing party during which NONE of you will mention the offender. Then you may remove that person from your future party invite lists. By the way, all of my etiquette information comes from the Etiquette Grrls, whose books can be found on Amazon.com, or find them at etiquettegrrls.com or etiquettegrrlstyle.com

I would just ignore it, it is all much ado about nithing anyway. You both are invited to something you cannot attend, call it a push and move on. Your guest doesn't seem to be the sharpest tool in the shed if she already knew you were having a party on the same day and sent you an invitation. Maybe her brunch is before she goes to work? You might want to get the whole story if it is that important for you to know.

Absolutely. Send back the invitiation with your original party invitation stapled to it. And of course, the note telling that person what to do with the invitation!