ANSWERS: 25
  • Re-read what you wtote. Then explain to me what you are trying to save? You are alone dear. He has flown the coop. If he didn't come back, and he obviously didn't, he does not want to be married to you. Let go. Make a life. You cannot KEEP this marriage together because IT ISN'T TOGETHER!!!
  • I am in this EXACT situation, except I am the one wanting the divorce and he does not. You can't do anything about it. Just give him the divorce. He does not want to be with you anymore. You should find someone else. It's going to hurt, but it WILL get better. Best to cut the strings before they pull your heart right out of your chest.
  • I'm sorry, but WHAT marriage? It's in name only. Move on, he has for some time now.
  • Show him your love in the best way possible.
  • what marriage? He's been gone for 2 years and is living with another woman. He wants a divorce. He's gone, move on.
  • To be totally honest i would let him have his divorce and then start living Your life,if after 2years you havnt sorted things out i dont think you will,he seems to have got on with his life without you and you must face the fact that its over.
  • I am sorry but this man has been gone for TWO years you cannot keep something that does not exist together. He has another woman and wants a divorce. I am sorry it may sound very much not what you want to hear but I truly think it is time to let go and get on with your life . You have to be worth more than sitting waiting for him to come back. Which to be honest it does not sound as if he will ever do.It just is not going to happen no matter what you do IMO.
  • I think that you should start thinking of having a life without him. He appears to have moved on. I'm sorry that it's painful to you, and believe me I know what a divorce is like; but, you can't keep something together just because you want to. It takes two. He doesn't appear to be willing. You will hurt for a while; but, it will get better. It just takes time.
  • Do you still keep in touch? Is he adamant about the divorce, or does he tell you he misses you one day, and then tell you he knows she's "the one" the next? If you truly belive in your heart that you and he(maybe deep down) still wants this marriage to work, you need to discuss the problems. Figure out what you want out of life and see if he feels the same. 6 years is a long time to get to know someone. If you really know him, then you'll know what to do! Follow your HEART
  • Nothing! you cannot keep someone who doesnt want you anymore,let him go, only then can you free yourself, I see the girls that come out of jail and they have it hard, dont corrupt your world, life does go on!believe me,with or without him!
  • why in the hell would you want somebody who clearly doesnt want you???
  • you love him for WHAT?? sit back and think whether you love "him" or love the feeling of being "married". after 2 years of knowing that he stays with another woman, it cannot be love. its the feeling of loss and the feeling of getting lonely, which you already are my dear. do not waste your time on a man who does not deserve you. Life is beautiful and short....push in positive feeling and go ahead in life. Giving him divorce or not is just a legal proceedings....fist get him out of your everyday and every moment thinking. Then you can decide yourself only. All the best.
  • You can't force feelings that aren't there. Best thing you can do is to find yourself a distraction.
  • So sorry you are going through this. Like the others have said, the marriage ended a long time ago. I know this must be one of the worst pains anyone should have to suffer but unfortunately, that is how it is. The absolute best thing you can do is to try to move on with your life. It ABSOLUTELY will get better. It doesn't seem like it but it will. I'm afraid that while you sit around waiting for him, you've put your life on hold. Focus on yourself and your happiness without him. The right man might be waiting in the wings and you are so stuck on your husband that you don't recognize it. Best of Luck.
  • What you feel for him might not be love but obsession. You might think you love him because you can't accept losing. Now it's time for you to be honest to yourself and realise he is gone and he doesn't deserve you anymore. But you deserve a new life, full of love. Get up and move on. Believe me it's easier than it seems!
  • You CAN'T do anything !! You just ned to realize that the marriage is OVER and that your husband is moving on ... For your own mental health and well being ; you need to get the divorce and move on with your life ...
  • He hasn't been with you for two years should tell you that you need to move forward with your life. I understand that it's hard, but you can do it. Good luck, I wish you all the best.
  • Unfortunately, you can't do anything. It's obvious he's moved on, (and broken his marital promise at the same time.) My best advice is to prepare for the future ahead. It's most likely inevitable that he will not go back to you, so the sooner you realize that, the faster you'll get over it, and be able to live for yourself, and enjoy life again. Best of luck to you.
  • Why keep someone who does not want to be kept. Your just hurting yourself. Do yourself a favor and move on. It’s been 2 years. If he is moving on you should too. Don’t be that pathetic women who you know your friends talk about. Cause next that women will be you.
  • I would hold it off as long as I could in ten years you are entitled to part of his pension and social security~ it may not seem important now but you deserve your part of the pie Also men who go throug mid life crises do stuff like this give him some time to cool his jets and come down to earth You can pray and go to a marriage counselor ~maybe in your church ~~ but get some good advice from a person you trust Don't throw away six years of marriage~~ men have been known to come to their senses~ good luck
  • That sounds like a lost cause... file the divorce paperwork yourself, don't wait for him and get yourself into counseling. Get on with your life and become someone that you are proud of for overcoming this. You deserve more than someone that doesn't want you.
  • sure you are not afraid of life as a divorced woman. +
  • i dont think its worth going back to. 2 year seperation is a long time and wudnt be easy to go back to. if hes happy with this other woman leave him too it. you can do way better than him :]
  • Cut 'em loose....you will find some who will appreciate you and wants to be with you....obviously he doesn't.
  • Read the writing on the wall and move on....he has.

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