"I brought you into this world, I can take you out." Do you agree with a parent saying this to their child?
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As a child, no. As an adult... absolutely! LOL, Now, do I agree that a parent can act on it? nope.
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while in and of itself that statement is true.. it's highly disrespectful to the child and really shouldn't be used. i find parents who use that line make alot of empty threats and their kids don't pay much attention to it.
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No. It's wrong, rude and disrespectful to the child.
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Nope, the parent shouldn't really say the last bit about 'taking you out'. The first part is OK though. Sounds like whichever parent said it has lost the plot.
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I hate that statement. It isn't right and I just hate it. It seems, I don't know, borderline emotionally abusive.
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If they are joking around sure. If they are not then no. If a kid takes a parent seriously then they can feel really scared at home (where they should feel safe). If a parent is serious then that's a death threat. If a kid wanted to they could report it and be emancipated from the family or have the parent removed fro mt the home with the right representation and steps taken.
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I believe that it is CRUEL because it is basically saying that if they want to take you out of the world, they would have to KILL you!
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I believe it would take a very cold hearted parent to say it!
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No, but we have all thought it along with some other pretty bad stuff. But as parents we control ourselves for the sake of our children.
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No. This comes from the mistaken notion that parents own their children like free market goods.
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I really don't like that phrase. The last time I heard it was as an adolescent from my Father. Bad situation, physical violence. I don't think it should be used, even in jest.
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Absolutely not. Parenting is an obligation, not something that gives you privileges even less for making horrible threats like that.
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in anger, no. but my boys and i could always say things like that jokingly.
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I understand where they are coming from, usually responding to an unappreciative child that doesn't maybe realize all the parent has gone through raising it, but it's for one thing a lie. The are not going to kill you or send you back. And I think that it is a very poor joke. Personally I believe that children are a gift from God so it is the height of their own lack of appreciation to say this to a child. But this is just me.
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I disagree. Yes, the parent brought the child into the world. And yes, a parent should be a parent - teacher, disiplinarian, etc, but the statement of 'I can take you out' implies that the parent is the 'controller' of the child. I don't agree with parents controlling their children. I certainly don't agree either with parents letting their kids rule the house and run rampant without rules, letting them do what they want. But a child is not an object that you should control. You are responsible for 'helping' to mould them, guide, etc. The child is a person in itself, yes they are 'from' you but they are not 'you'. As an example of applying it to other situations, say if the child saved money to buy a hamster. Doesn't that statement also imply that because they bought the hamster and it's theirs, they can do anything they want to it? Torture it? Starve it? Kill it even? No, it shouldn't have them believe they have that rightful power.
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No,dont agree,but do agree with, I brought you into this world,all I demand is respect!
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My dad always said it to me. However, it was in a joking way, never serious or as a form of punishment. He liked to kid around and I never took it seriously. So it doesn't particularily bother me. Depending on the context...
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Possible not probable.. if over 15 my money is on the child taking the parent out. While the parent be bullshitting ;)
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My mother was Thai, and her love for me was endless and healthy. However, when she said this phrase, she actually MEANT it. In Thai culture, once a child is born, the child incurs a karmic debt of gratitude to her parents. This debt requires a lifelong showing of gratitude, in the form of love, devotion, respect and obedience. It may seem emotionally abusive to Westerners, but in the context of my childhood, it reminded me of hierarchy and respect which was required in my family. It wasn't that my mother wanted to kill me. She just wanted to remind me in that rebellious instant that I had an invoice due and owing to her, in the amount of my very life and existence. In this cultural context, I agree with a parent saying this to a child. A disobedient child needs to be briefly and gently reminded of her place in the family, and if you say this phrase can do the trick if you say it with a smile. But if the parent has lost control of themselves when saying this phrase, it does smack of emotional abuse. This is not the fault of the phrase; only the parent.
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Any parent who says this is a degenerate scumbag.
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no i strongly disagree with parents saying that to their child it can scar some children for life and it is also a form of emotinal abuse. ive been told this all my life and im 16 now and ive been in councling since for 10 yrs because of being told things like that cause low self asteem , poor relation , poor confidence , and can lead to self harm or worse
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I don't think any parent should say this and mean it. I don think they should say it to small children at all, not even in jest. But, I admit sometimes I would say it to my son when he was 19 and he would just laugh his head off at me. See, I am 5'2" and he is 6'2" and a big boy, so really, I would not have stood a chance, it was just joking and we both knew it.
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i think most just say this in a playing manner
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No
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No I don't. My response to that would be, "I did'nt ask to be born".
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i think i answered this before but it really makes me mad everytime i read that... :/ That parent doesn't deserve the right to be alive :S
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