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  • Ask him if he's ready to be a granddaddy.
  • Maybe also give him some statistics on the growing number young mothers these days..along with tani's answer :)
  • Her health is more important than his comfort. Send her to Planned Parenthood. Getting her birth control will not make her more likely to have sex, but less likely to get pregnant. But I know my head would explode if I thought my 13yo was having sex. Ask her boyfriend if he knows the meaning of statutory rape.
  • I went on the pill when I was 13 and didn't have sex untill much later. While the main reason for the pill is to prevent pregnancy, it has MANY other desireable side affects, less severe cramping, regulating your cycle, (in some women) preventing hormonal acne break-outs, less severe PMS. The pill was the only way I could survive cramps without being in the fetal position on the floor crying for a day and a half. Maybe help open up your husbands eyes as to how much this could help her.. I wouldn't really expect you to go behind your husbands back, it was a joke. BUT I am serious about trying to get your husband to understand the full spectrum of the pill.
  • I hate to think of a girl becoming active at such a young age, but you must protect both her health and her future. Make sure that she knows that birth control is not the only way shee needs to protect herself. She needs to stay as safe as she can from STDs. Also, talk to her about what intimacy means, and that she doesn't have to make such a move. Make sure she understands that she shouldn't give into pressure to act and that she needs to respect herself and put her own needs and feelings above any guy. Let her know that the right guy will be able to wait.
  • Tell him his daughter is wanting to get 'involved' with a 16 year old boy & that he can expect to be a grandpa in the next year or so...
  • You all need to sit down as a family on this one and find out why a 13 year old needs to be on the pill. And hopefully nip it in the bud because girls this age are notourious for misusing the pill or any kind of contraceptive and ending up pregnant anyways. I would sit him down first and tell him what she wants you to do. This is something you must face as a couple with a fully united front. You then need to sit her down and discuss this from top to bottom. And I mean be graphic and gross if you have too. Go to the library and get books on STDs (pictures included), pregnancy, and the law and make her read them. Because anyone she sleeps with is breaking the law and so is she. And so are you too if you knowing let her have sex. You need to explain to her that even though she may want too she's not ready. You also need to make it clear that anyone she sleeps with is breaking the law and so is she. You are too if you knowing let her have sex. And that at no time will you go behind her father's back on something like this. Plus, because you are not her legal gaurdian you can't even take her to the doctor and get her the pill. Only her father can in a non-emergency situation. What ever you do do not go behind his back. If you do you're risking your marriage big time. To do so would be a breach of trust with your husband. Never, ever let her put you in this kind of situation. Sit her down and tell her you will be talking with her father on this. And anything else that he needs to aware of. End of story.
  • If she's old enough to bleed, she's old enough for me...get her on the pill.
  • First, I think you should think about what you are doing! Do you think she should be thinking about sex at 13? Don't you think you should sit her down and really discuss the consequences, even with birth control, it isn't always full proof. I know a many of girls and women who got pregnant on the pill and using condoms on top of that! Also the diseases out there! Aides kills! Even with protection she could still get the virus! She needs to know these facts! Also at age 13, she doesn't need to be thinking about sex! My God, she's a child! You need to be the adult here and explain the facts of life to this girl! She's a child for God's sake! I have an 11 year old, a 16 year old, and a 3 year old and I tell you this much, if My spouse knew my 11 year old was thinking of having sex and didn't tell me, I'd divorce his butt! You need to be talking to your husband about this too! Putting her on the pill just to give her full access to sex is wrong of you! I understand a many of girls need to be on the pill to regulate their mentrual periods and such, but to give her the pill to go ahead and have sex is WRONG of you! You should be a parent and stand up for what is right and a 13 year old having sex is VERY WRONG! If her Father finds out about you doing this behind his back you'll probably end up divorced if you go through with this! If my 11 year old came to me right now and said she was thinking of having sex, I'd have a serious talk with her! First, she'd not be put on the pill, she's way too young to experience an adult sexual experience. There's no way I'd give her the right by putting her on something that gave her a false sense of "safety" and that's exactly what it is! Being on the pill is not a full proof way to prevent anything! Many women still get pregnant and many women end up with life threatening diseases from having one sexual encounter, and that's with a rubber, rubbers can have microscopic holes from the factory and fluids can still get through! This is stupid and dangerous! She's only 13 years old! My God, what is this world coming to? Put a child on the pill so she'll feel safe enough to have sex, and geeze the father is blind to it all!!! You're going to end up in divorce court my dear and probably still with a grandchild and maybe even a youngster with a VD! I seriously hope you sit her down and have long talk with her about the dangers of sex! By the way, how old are you???? You seem like you could be a young one yourself?? maybe in your early twenties???
  • I apologize. I thought I read something different on your post. I really am sorry. I see your point now. Your husband needs to really think about what he is doing! This is very wrong! If he's giving her everything she always wants, then maybe he is a part of the problem. Children need some discipline in their lives, and giving her anything she wants is not doing the right thing for her! This is something she really needs help on. Do what you can, that's all you can do. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. God Bless you and I hope things work out for the best!
  • I'd tell him, Do you want to deal with sex and the pill, or sex and a screaming baby in your ear.
  • I would talk to him, and explain to him that giving her BC doesn't condone it, it just makes her protected if ANYTHING happens. She could (And I really hope not) get raped, and then pregnant. She could really like this boy and want to have sex, anything could happen and she needs to be protected. And then sit down you, and daddy and her, and make sure she is TOTALLY educated about what happens: diseases, pregnancy, complications, love, hormones, and talk about how sex would make you feel, if she had it right now. GL.
  • my 14 year old daughter had me take her for the pill. (after numerous talks about NOT getting pregnant or making the samy mistakes her mom and I had made) sure I was uncomfortable, nervious and I did it..but I was still proud that she could talk with me about this and be respondsible for her actions. **Its not giving permission to, you know its going to happen with or with out your guidence..(take that approach with your hubby)
  • It speaks highly of your daughter that she talked to you about it. In most states, a 13yo can get the pill on her own. If she wants it for birth control. She is GOING TO HAVE SEX. Do you think, for one minute, that she won't have sex without the pill? Dream on. It is likely she has had sex already is wants to take care of herself better in the future. Help her get it, but you need to focus on the REAL issue. You need to talk to her about the question, "Why do you, at 13, feel like you're ready to have sex?"
  • Hey, tell'em he can have a 16 year old daughter on the pill, or a 16 year old daughter with a baby on the way. She's going to have sex, it's human nature, he can't stop it, I know the ultimatum sux, but it's his choice.
  • I would have a serious talk about the sex. I would recommend you take her to get on the pill it doesnt only help with not getting pregnant but it also help with controlling acne and other stuff. Just tell him that its better to be safe on the pill then not be on it and get pregnant. You could also tell your husband that it helps with pms and mood swings. If you approach it that way it wont seem like you are incouraging it. I hope this advice helps : )
  • umm..hello she's thirteen. a little too young for sex in my opinion. and as her stepmother i would hope you would agree.
  • Did you ask her why she wants to go on the pill? Lots of ABers have provided alternate reasons why teenage girls might want to be on the pill. Does she indicate that this 16 yr old boy wants to have sex with her? Does she know that she can say "no". If so, what about talking to the 16 yr old and his parents?
  • just get her a vibrator. shell be happy.
  • Stop calling him honey and sweety or things of that nature...instead start calling him Gramps or grandpa everyday. When he asks you why you call him that, tell him that will be your new name if we dont bond together and get her on the pill....;)
  • say... when you were i sixteen year old boy what would you be doing with your girlfriend? and if all else fails take her without him knowing even though as a couple you might argue about your decision but chances are shes already had sex kinda thought she mighta been pregnant and doesnt wanna go through that scare again. You and your husband will argue a lot more with a screaming baby keeping you up all night!
  • I can tell you what happened when my Dad said no to my sister. She had a beautiful baby girl at age 16 and my Dad had to raise her.
  • Before you do anything, you should absolutely tell her what happens once she has sex. Sex is a beautiful thing between a man and a woman, and is nothing to be fooled around with. Would she rather have a beautiful experience with a man she loves at a proper age, or would she rather do something just because it is wanted without proper knowledge or relationship experience? As for the pill, if you can't convince your husband, you should take action anyway, unless he would rather be a grandfather and your daughter would be willing to support a child.
  • you should have a serious talk with her. she is way too young for sex, although i know it happens. taking her to get the pill has a positive and negative effect. on one hand, you are helping her to be cautious, but on the other hand at her young age she may feel like you are supporting her and giving her the "go-ahead" to have sex. I reccomend taking her to a clinic, or health department and getting her informational booklets on pregnancy, std's and what ever else they offer. Make it clear to her of all the consequences that may arise by having sex at such an immature time in her life..although it can happen at any age.
  • Argue that it is better not to freak out ad scare her away and help her through it, then to completely ignore the issue and pretend all is well. Being "cool" about it (atleast pretending to) means she won't go behind your backs and get into serious trouble. Remember that if she really wants to have sex, nothing will stop her so it is better to help her be protected. And don't forget to have a long talk to her about why sex at her age could ruin her reputation and make her a emotional mess.
  • just dont tell ur husband its for sex birth controll can be for ur peroid too thats what i did. To this vary day my parents still dont know it was for sex and im fine if she like a 16 year old theres NOTHING u can do about it, she will be with him when i was 13 i was going out with a boy who was 21 i told my parents that i was in homework club at skool and i was at his house he lived right behind my skool ur step daughter will come up with a way to be with him so just let it go, shes not ur kid be the cool step mom ...trust me on that one...
  • Most doctors will probably not encourage a 13 year old to be on the pill anyway. It is a hormone, and at 13, the chance that her hormones have settled enough isn't very good and no need to mess with them. I'm on it at 17 but it's because I can pass out from back pain of periods. If you haven't noticed terrible pain from this girl during that time, it probably is for sex. I'd advise talking to her about it. If she felt comfortable enough to go to you to ask for the pill, she should be comfortable talking to you as to what it is about. Either way, 13 is TOO young to be having sex unless you both feel that she can emotionally, financially, and work with a kid along school, she should not be even testing this idea of sex.
  • Ask him if he's ready to become a grandpa. Thirteen is way too young to be having sex, but if she is asking for birth control, the chances are that she is planning to or has already. Thirteen is way too young for motherhood, too.
  • Wake up to managing zero control? Unlawful to have sex at 13. If you can't control her there are places she can be taught discipline.
  • you need to stop jumping to conclusions. if your step daughter didn't come out and say i need the pill so i can have sex, than she could want it for other reasons. like if she has an irregualar period or has an acne problem. thats the problem with parents today. always jumping to the worst conclusions possible.
  • Not your daughter, let her father make the decision. Make sure she is supervised or chaperoned, when not with parents.
  • Thirteen and having sex? I honestly don't know how to answer, but why on earth would you let a thirteen year old have sex? Please correct me if I've misinterpreted your question.
  • I would have a talk with my daughter and tell her its better to wait a while to have sex. Its a big step and at 13 she may not be ready. But.. If she is going to I agree its best for her to be on the pill. Just tell your Husband that its a different world today than it used to be and kids are going to have sex.
  • I would have a long talk with her telling her to wait on sex, also I would immediately put her on the pill. Better safe than sorry.
  • I wouldn't put her on the pill, I'd put her on the shot so you don't have to worry about her being responsible enough to take the pill. Then, I'd sit her down and explain to her that she's not leaving my house outside of school hours until I can trust her to do the right thing. But get her on the shot anyway because you just cant control some kids.
  • Get her some condoms. The pill screws with your hormones, she doesn't need that. And fuck the age of consent (gee, that would be ironic if it were physically possible).
  • Well I personally think she should wait. I became a dad when I was 13 because I jumped into sex (I love my daugher and I now have full custody of her and her mom has limited visitation rights). But if she wants to do it you wont be able to stop her so the birth control pill should be gotten and soon. You cant stop her but you can keep serious penalties down.
  • Your step daughter did the right thing by coming to you and this shows maturity BUT she is not mature enough to have sex. Tell her that it is not acceptable at her age. I would try and get her to abstain from sex until she is 16 but if she persists get her the pill. You are a very good stepmother if she trusts you with this.
  • Is something wrong with you? It sounds as if you are willlingly letting you CHILD go and have sex. Letting her have a life is one thing, but she should know where to draw the line. Children today see sex as a status symbol, but at her age it is dangerous for her to even risk pregency. She should be kept at home untill you feel she is mature enough to take care of herself.
  • i would say hell no. people are having sex at a much too young age. and just because she "likes" a 16 year old doesn't mean she should have sex with him. you are the one that would end up taking care of that child. children can not raise children. if she's going to go having sex anyway, i suppose getting on the pill would be the smarter thing to do, but she probably isn't even fully developed yet. people shouldn't go having sex just because they like someone. anyway, if he truly "likes" her back, he can wait until she's legal.
  • I would tell him the next time she ask to do something like going to the mall or wanting to buy a outfit that he thinks is to adult. look him in the eyes and tell him she aint a baby and more. your little girl is growing up.
  • Tell him that it's either her being safe on the pill or her being a mommy at age 13. I will admit, 13 is a little young to be on the pill, but if it keeps her safe then go for it!
  • well i am 14, and if it were me and i couldn't get the pill i don't think that would stop me. tell him unless he wants her to end up with a kid he should get her the pill. not giving it to her isn't going to stop her from having sex.
  • Tell him that she's gonna get pregnant, there's a chance, even if they use protection. Does he want his 13 year old daughter to be a mom?
  • As a woman, talk to her about sex and consequences for someone her age. She is still a kid (teen) and she needs guidance, not to take matters into her own hands.=) I hope all goes well.
  • i was on the pill and guess what you miss it once and out pops a baby... the shot is a little more safer... the good thing is it helps with acne.... so she will have a little self confidence
  • tell him if he wants a gran child he can let her hav sex n get pregnant but warn him he is paying for everything
  • We have twin thirteen year olds, and went through this same thing this summer. I would try to explain to him that you are not condoning what she might be doing, and that you have made this perfectly clear to her, but you want to give her the resources to help her be responsible aboutit. Because where there's a will there's a way, and if she wantes to do it, nothing is going to stop her. I was a teenage mother, and I wish that I would've felt comfortable enough to talk to someone about birth control. Ask your husband who's going to quit there job to take care of your new grand child so your daughter can finish high school? This yworked for me anyways, so good luck. And I actually said all of this and after he totally objected, I dropped it. About two days later he came to me to let me know that he agreed, but he didn't want to know anymore about it.
  • Make it Simple and to the Point..Daughters will do whatever they want whether parents agree or dont Unfortunetly thats the truth. so to avoid an argument or anything past a conversation just say "Our daughter wants to be Safe and i would rather know what shes doing and who shes with than to be blank and then wake up taking her to the Maternity shop"
  • well you could say she wont get pregnut coz there are ways to stop that from happen and to sit him down and have a word just saying like what do you like about like and if he is not that sure just say well we were at that point at some stages
  • ask him wether he wants a baby runing around the house or if he wants his daughter to be protected
  • well im a sneaky person so id just get it without his permission. i mean whats more important your daughter not becoming pregnant at 13 or your husband crying because daddies lil girl is all grown up.
  • im only 13, and ive been having sex for a few years now. The more my parents said no, the more i did. I found ways, and so will your step daughter. Finally my parents just gave in, and got me the pill, cause they dont want to be grandparents yet. so, no matter what, she's going to have sex. you get to decide wether it will be safe or not.
  • My advice is say nothing to your husband. Your step daughter is confiding in you and that is very important. I would tell her that you dont want to betray her father , but that you will take her to planned parenthood so that she can talk to a licensed professional about her options. Good luck!
  • tell him she will be having the same amount of sex wether or not she is on the pill. all it does is prevent from pregnancy. tell him that you would rather pay for the pill than pay for a grandbaby for the next 25 years!!
  • I am amaze at many of the response to a 13 year old having sex. I do agree that we must educate our teens about sex, and the consequences thereof, however, to wave the white flag and say that this dad needs to call himself grandpa, because a 13 year old is in heat is absurd, and ludacris. Too many parents today are trying to be their children's friend and not teaching them the importance of substaining themselves physically, and inevitably emotionally. I often tell my 13 year old daughter, she needs to focus more on things that is going to benefit her future, and not give so much time and power to boys. The male specie will exist always, and the number is growing. I do agree that she was choose whom she wants to socialize with in school, however, I explain to her that she is percieved by others with whom she chose to associate with. Our communication is very good, and I've made it clear that girls and boys who behaves in a mannner that is opposite from what our belief is, she cannot have them over, or talk with them on the phone. Listen parents, you are in charge! Stop worrying about your child hating you. You have a responsibility to guide and teach them. I would meet with the 16 year old boy,plus his parent and explain that he needs to stay away from your daughter, she is too young. I know that ultimately kids will do what they want to do, however I refuse to sit on the side line and watch a train wreck happen. Mother or stepmother, get a backbone. Grace
  • Are you serious, 13? Not wanting to sound rude but I would do whatever I could to get her to not want to be on the pill and not want to have sex. To me, I don't want to think of two Kids doing that at that age. At that age, I was more concerned about learning how to play my guitar or if my softball team was gonna win state finals. What has happened to the kids these days?? Whats bad, is that I am only 22.
  • It's better that she's being open about it and trying to be preventative against teen pregnancy. It would be better for condoms to prevent STD's - just be sure she's aware of the risks. I would try to talk to him as well. If she's going to do it, she'll do it with or without your consent and b.c. pill. It's better she feels supported and educated in her choices than to do something rash and end up pregnant. At least she's being honest.
  • uhm well that would be illegal if you daughter is 13 having sex with a 16 yr. old.
  • You say: listen Husband, she is going to have sex whether you like it or not and whether you say so or not - get over it. At least she is being adult about it by asking for contraception. You cannot stop this happening but what you can stop happening is her coming home one day and telling us she is pregnant. That alone will be bad enough for her and us but what will add insult to injury is that we will have some accountability in it if we are the ones that have refused to get her adequate contraception. Part of the blame will lay at our feet because she has asked for it. You need to get over this and get over it fast because she has asked for help and we must be responsible. It is not all bad at all - she could have gone behind our backs but she did not - she has not and IN MY BOOK THAT MAKES HER PRETTY DAMN GROWN UP DON'T YOU THINK? Shout the last sentence to ram the point home. If that fails, throw a can of baked beans at him.
  • Kids want to rebel- if you don't let them they'll find a way. Most parents are in denial and think that if you don't give them the option, then they won't do it. Tell your hubby that if you don't put her on the pill, she's going to do it anyways. And for you two- grandparents!
  • well i remember being thirteen... i hate to say it but nowadays you cannot be sure. she likes a 16yo that doesnt help the case. Im a 16 yo guy so i know that most of us are well perverts and are thinking about one thing... You know what i mean... BC can be a good thing for her but seeing that there is a teen boy in the picture i dont thing it would be wise just yet. Im not saying that your daughter is going to do anything but back then almost all of my friends lost their virginity and started sleeping around... i mean girls too. so id be concerned about putting her on BC just sayin...
  • she is way too youg. if she wants to have sex at 13 something had to of gone wrong in her childhood and growing up. Talk to her about how she shouldnt do that and try telling her youll get her on the pill when shes 16 she is way too young. another thing you guys could do is make her go talk to some "young parents" 16 year olds her age and other teens whove had sex. it could help her a lot. tell your husband that if he doesnt care enough to take care of it and you do, that youll take care of it. I mean if he doesnt care about her having sex theres probably nothing you can do to make him care. but just keep trying and if she does have sex don't get upset and don't freak out about it.
  • Ask him if he's prepared for his 13 year old daughter to have a baby. Whether she's on the pill or not, if she's set on having sex with her 16 year old boyfriend, she's going to do it. He needs to get her on the pill so this baby doesn't have a baby. It might be wise to try to talk her out of it, afterall, this probably isn't the boy she'll spend the rest of her life with. After he gets what he wants is he still going to be her boyfriend or will he move on to see who else he can conquer? His hormones are raging at that age - and he probable tells her he loves her and that if she loved him, she'd do it. She NEEDS to love herself first. Remain a virgin until she is in LOVE!
  • im 17 i lost my virginity when i was 14 and my best friend was 13 and thats when she lost hers. put her on the pill because she's going to have sex regardless of what her father says. and theres not much you can say to a dad to let him know his "little girl" is growing up.
  • I think communcation is important here. You should be sure that you are clear on why your step-daughter thinks that she needs birth control pills. Some teenage girls take the pill for reasons other than preventing pregnancy. The pill can also be used to regulate hormones, this can reduce acne and make your period more regular, shorter, and reduce PMS symptoms. It may be that your step-daughter has heard commercials on tv explaining these effescts, or that she has heard about them from friends. If she IS planning on having sex and wants birth control to prevent pregnancy, then that is differenct situation. If she is planning on having sex, then getting her the pill will probably not make her MORE likely to do so. ***Dr. John Bancroft and Dr. Irwin Goldstein have completed studies that suggest that the pill actually decreases a woman's sex drive. http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/01/03/health/webmd/main1175547.shtml*** If it were my daughter, I'd rather have her using birth control pills than condoms alone. ***The failure rate for pills are about 0.1% while condoms have about a 12% failure rate!!*** It is also important to discuss the risks and side effects of birth control pills. They CAN cause heart attack or stroke and have been seen to cause or worsen depression. There are other options for birth control. Talk to a docor before deciding anything.
  • do you want our child to get pregnant at such a yung age and have her scared for life she would hate you for ever
  • Borrow someones baby for about 2 weeks and let him take care of it because if she gets pregnant thats what he will ultimately be doing.
  • its quite a sensitive thing to talk to a thirteen year old girl about sex and relationships but it might be eaiser not to bring her dad into it. just have a heart to heart with your step daughter and im sure she'll respect you for it. good luck x
  • Do you want to change dipers at 2:00 am?
  • Ask him if he is ready to be a granddaddy.
  • What could he say to make you wake up?
  • He's too busy painting the shot gun white. Read the riot act to the 16 year old, tell him if he knocks your daughter up you'll cut his nuts off.
  • I know it's been said a million times before, but if she really wants to have sex, she'll find a way, and it's better that she's protected when she does. But, I do very strongly recommend that the whole family sit down and discuss it first. Explain to her that the pill doesn't protect against everything, even the very thing it's meant to. Make sure she's clear on exactly what she's getting into when it comes to sex - the STDs, pregnancy, even what could potentially happen to her reputation at school. Bring as much proof and pictures as you can, because she probably won't just take your word for it.
  • I agree that you need to sit down with the 'child' (which is what she is, and explain that sexually transmitted diseases can cause more problems for her in the future than a possible pregnancy. She may feel mature but needs to be persuaded gently that you know what is best for her and more importantly , her reputation? News travels fast in the 'young-stud' groups,....do you, or she want them queing at your door? Encourage hobbies! Good luck!
  • wel first things first you dont want a baby running around so id get her ion the pill eather way the dad thinks he may not approve but trust me if she does have sex at least she will be safe and he will thank you for that earlier but to try to get him to say yes just tell him that she is gonna have sex eather way if we buy her the pill or not so we may as well be safe if he dont go for that then eres another one if she dont get this pill ur gonna be a grand daddy do you want to put her through the pain of being a mom at this age! good luck -SAM G.
  • you wake up!! listen to this very well.... SHE IS 13!! 13!! 13!! 13!! 13!! 13!! did u hear it well?? 13!! you, as her parent, should make her understand that it is a little too early for her to start having sex!! nevertheless ILEGAL!!! the world is going crazy!! because if she is gonna start having sex at this age, she is, most likely, gonna stop paying attention to the important things that she should be paying attention to!! and after all, i really don't think it's her fault!! it's the PARENTS fault, and then the society comes second!!
  • put it to him like this...youre daughter is gonna have sex whether shes on the pill or not. Do you want her to be safe or unarmed?its gonna happen either way. As a parent the best thing you can do is protect your child.
  • Call him Grandpa then tell him he may be hearing that a bit more in the near future if he doesnt allow his daughter to be put on the pill. Doing so isnt giving her your permission to have sex..its simply helping in the prevention of pregnancy if she does.
  • I would say get her on birth control. No matter how much you try to stop her if she wants to have sex, she will. Also have a talk with her about sex and teach her all about birth control.
  • no no no! thats just wrong. A 13 year old?? i think you need to set that 13 year old a little more rules and restrictions. At 13 kids should be awear of sex but seen as an "ewwy" thing. And altho 13 and 16 isnt alot of in years time, its alot of maturity diffrence if you get what i mean, your 13 year old definetly shouldnt be seeing that 16 year old. unless you want your daughter to be a mum by 14
  • tell them pills are not full proof
  • Well I think you should go ahead and let her do it but thats just my op.
  • I'm 12 and I like a 16 year old. I chose carefully and he is extremely respectful of me. You may just have to meet him. I definetly would not put her on any birth control. It gives some sort of, false reassurance that she won't get pregnant. I seriously think you should meet the kid and get to know him. Don't prosecute statuatory rape if it is consensual. I am sure she does want sex. It is only natural for us humans. Talk to her about her future and how a pregnancy or venereal disease could threaten all her hopes in life. My boyfriend makes his sexual comments but he's always asked me before trying anything. He is still sexually pure just as I and I know that he knows I'm waiting for marriage. It may be that you would like to sit him down to talk. My mom invited him to the beach. Don't embarass them though. Sorry, this is a little shaky. I just woke up and can't seem to write in correct grammatical form.
  • Condoms are the only form of contraception that prevents diseases as well as pregnancy... but only abstaining from sex will guarantee 100%. He needs to talk to her about the dangers of being sexually active. No 13 year old is ready for the consequences of sex.
  • OMG GOD no he to old for her keep her away from that freak boy but...if you just cant put her on the pill and if i was the father i be mad to i think he should break that boys neck and what is he doing with a 13 year girl he's up to no good catch him and her before you look up and see her wit a round belly cause if that was my dauther i would slap her out of it and then kill the boy ewww he's nasty im 16 and i would never mess with an 13 year kid
  • I'm sure you've heard it a thousand times already, but if your daughter wants to have sex, she -will- find a way. Let her get on the pill; that alone shows she's at least thinking about this a little. Make sure you inform her of -everything- that can happen from having sex, though. Go into detail of STDs and what they do to you, what pregnancy and birth is like, make sure she is well aware that the pill is not a guarantee against any of these things, nor is a condom or anything else.
  • Allowing her to take the pill is like giving her an invitation to have sex freely... sounds like the father isn't the only one who needs to 'wake up'. Poor girl obviously isn't getting raised by loving parents... either of them... I hate bad and ignorant parents...
  • Get her on BC. I would get her on the shot that way she can't stop taking them without your knowledge. Do you want to end up taking care of another child? If you don't get her on BC she WILL get pregnant and she you WILL end up supporting this child. I plan on getting my stepdaugher on BC. She is 14 and has been talking to an 18 yr old. I know she is having sex and I won't be the one supporting her child. I still haven't stopped having children myself.
  • I think it's great she at least confided in you. Convince your husband that although she is definitely too young to have sex, guess what? She's thinking about it and going about it the right way, and none of us parents are ready to face this issue especially with our little girls, but she's probably going to have sex whether you like it or not, so why not prevent pregnancy, and while you're at it prevent STD's by giving her some condoms too. Make it known to her that you are totally against her engaging in sex she is just too young, and taking her to get protection is not saying it's OK.
  • i would talk to her father and make him understand that she is getting older and is thinking about sex, however i would not suggest giving her the pill because if she is put in the situation where she is deciding if she wants to have sex or not she will be more motivated to do it because she thinks she would not get pregnant. you and her father should sit down and talk to her about sex and why she wants to be on the pill, if you can try to get her biological mother in the equation also
  • Sorry for the inconvience but did you know that some states says she can have them with out parents permission. Mine went and put herself on at the age of 14.
  • I'm a teenager and to be honest, if she wants to go on the pill, then she's probably already had sex. And if she's with a 16 year old, then those chances are increased. Sorry to put it so bluntly. Most start young these days, including many of my fellow teenagers. Maybe talk to her about peer pressure? This is a huge factor in our lives.
  • There are better ways to avoid pregnancy than filling a young body with drugs yo...
  • no pill. that will give her a easy answer n shell have sex w/out condoms n get n STD. talk to her about sex n that shes too young but encourage condoms. the pill will give her an easy way out n its not exactly healthy. get her in some therapy n stuff. let her talk to other girls who have had sex at a young age n regret it. OOOOO take her to the hospital n find out about teenage pregnancies n find out if u can take her to talk to these girls. make her watch a pregnancy on video or something. do ur best to show her that she is too young n sex can have consequences.
  • If it was my daughter I nwould because I'm not ready to be a grandma or even raise that child. So it better to be save then sorry.
  • well what do you prefer? her coming up to you and saying 'can i go on the pill?' or 'im pregnant!'
  • You need to talk to the step daughter about it some more. Have you discussed sexually transmitted diseases with her? The 3 of you should talk together as a family about this. Tell her she needs to use condoms too, not just the pill. If a girl gets pregnant there is always someone who wants her unwanted baby but no one will take away the diseases she gets and she will have them for the rest of her life.
  • sit down with your step daughter and maybe have a couple ciggirittes together and talk maybe you can head this off.
  • Put her on the pill anyways. Or talk to your daughters biological mother about it. Would you rather have a prego daughter? or an angry husband that will get over it. Think about it, even if you dont put her on the pill, shell have sex anyways. This 16 year old boy? He is probably just a dream crush anyways, 16 year old boys dont usually look at 13 year olds.Hope I helped

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