I am not a wife, but I can still offer some signs. They are generally the same no matter what type of relationship you're in: 1. "A thief believes everyone steals"--This means he'll closely monitor your behavior because he thinks that if he's cheating, you must be, too. He will call you incessantly and ask, "Who are you with? What are you doing?" He will worry about you going out with your girlfriends because he'll suspect that you're meeting another man. 2. He is overly protective of his phone and computer, fearing that you might see messages from his secret lover. When he answers the phone, he will either leave the room or be very abrupt with the caller, because it's the other woman. 3. He loses interest in sex, because he's having it with someone else. Or he might become sex-obsessed, as being around another woman can amp up his sex drive. But when he makes love to you, he will avoid connecting emotionally. He won't look in your eyes, and when it's over, he'll quickly disengage from you. He may be very critical of your body and your sexual performance. 4. He buys you expensive gifts out of the blue. This means he feels guilty for what he's done and he's trying to assauage his guilty conscience. If you only observe one of these signs, then maybe he isn't cheating, and there is another reason for his actions. But if you notice several of these signs together, then he is probably being unfaithful to you.

There were definite signs and unlike alot of women I KNEW what the signs meant but I chose to be oblivious to it (as opposed to being oblivious to the actual signs ...Im not that dumb :-) ) But the biggest sign (beside the obvious coming home late, etc) was his secrecy with his cell phone. He would often times have it on vibrate (which I could STILL hear lol) or it would ring and he wouldnt answer it. This was often, sometimes late at night. Alot of times he would get a text, look at it, put his phone back in his pants pocket, then a few minutes later need to use the restroom and his phone NEVER left his side...until that ONE time when he left it on the table and I got the proof I knew was there and I needed to see even though I really didnt want to. :-/

It was totally out of his character. And my husband was out of town working, however I still noticed the signs.

there were signs, but I was trying to not be one of those girls who was up in his business. What I would say to someone who sees the signs is FOLLOW THEM. Dont be shy, dont be afraid of being called names for it. Go with your gut and catch him before you marry him.

As the cheating husband, I can say that I put my feelings out there for my wife to hear. When she didnt react or do anything, I started a platonic relationship with another women, which in hindsight was a mistake, because it went too far. Even to this day, my wife has never addressed the WHY? She just tells me that she doesnt want to hear any excuses. This may be rude to through out a question while answering yours, but shouldn't the spouse or significant other have some responsibility to make you happy? Maybe not, maybe that is just me. So yes I put out signs that I was going to cheat, her best friend even told her, make him happy or he is going to stick around. Now that doesnt justify anything or make it better, but I think when confronted with the before he cheats signs you need to react. Be proactive, men have feelings too.

yes there was a sign that her moral code was lacking.... when discussing her past relationship she said she knew it wasn't leading to marriage so she was constantly looking around (she would not leave him until she had another). I told her that if he had no dumped her I would not have dated her... she said that she would not have told me until later. I was foolish enough to believe she would see marriage to me as different from dating him.

First of all, I thought it was very out of character for him. So I tried to ignore the signs I thought I was seeing. To be completely honest, I thought it would be more in character for me to cheat on him (which I would not!), but that was how sure I was that my husband would not do anything like that. I still think about those times that I may have had a chance to confront him, but did not. It tears me up inside for being so trusting. Then again, without trust it wouldn't be a loving relationship- but it takes two trusting and honest people to make that loving relationship.