You can never know the reason anybody does anything; you must choose to believe something is malicious or an honest mistake. So why choose to believe the reason that makes you angry and upset?
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merry1 in a Texican COAT
ANSWERS: 6
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Good question.I was always taught to expect the worse,and you won't be let down.While it's made me miserable,it's also helped me survive with as much as I have.*+++++*
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Experience and knowledge of that person and his/her values. If they are careless, they most likely don't give a damn much about anything. If they don't think about their action's consequences then they are idiots. The world hates idiots so we get angry and upset with them because we probably don't understand how they have made it this far in life. q:)
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I try not to unless there is a track record of "honest mistakes."
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Their past behavior would weigh heavily on what I thought. If they have a tendancy to be malicious or untrustworthy, I'll probably assume the worse.
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I think the "you can never really know" argument is sophomoric. You can never REALLY KNOW whether the sun is shining and what you see is really there or you are hallucinating. That doesn't prevent you from walking out the door in the morning. It's well to remember that you can't get inside another person's head, but at the same time it's vital to evaluate what they do and guess based on it how they are likely to treat you in the future. Would you feel sorry for someone who invested three separate fortunes with a swindler because they could never really know if the con artist meant to cheat them or just made an honest mistake over and over again?
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I believe everybody does anything only because they believe that in some way they will personally benefit form the doing. The giving of alms can be said to make the giver feel good. The act of a criminal is based not so much on the desire to cause harm as to bring benefit to the criminal. But the response is the responsibility of the victim. One can choose the response to anything. But note, my rule still applies. He who chooses to become angry does so because he believes, in some way, the anger serves him. But you're right in your question...why would one choose anger over acceptance? The answer is because the anger seems to be more beneficial...but that is the choice of the victim.
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