Mad? No, I think the term would be livid. Statutory Rape is the term. Press charges. Get a restraining order. Start talking to your daughter. No fault talking. Lots of talking about what ever she wants to talk about. Do not put her down or make her feel bad for anything she has done or talks about.

i'd be upset if i were you.

"Don't get mad, get even!"

If you want to be mad, then be mad. You have every right to be in this case. Also, get his butt tossed in jail. It is completely wrong and inappropriate for him to have sex with a 13 year old and he knows it.

Um,yes. Because you're 13 years old has no buisness having sex in the first place,and since the guy would be consider an adult,it's statutory rape.

You have a right to be mad, but don't stay mad. Get your anger out and then get a clear head to deal with the situation.

You might be a little shocked/disappointed/mad at yourself for letting it happen. After all, as a parent you do have responsibilities to your "only daughter". Then shake it off and try and make the best of the situation. Good luck.

If you mean exclusively, I would say no. I would be upset with both of them, but not really mad. More disappointed than anything. Unless of course, it was rape. (Real rape, like, forced sex, not this age discrimination crap they try to pass off as rape.) Then I'd be cracking some skulls. I can't say what you should do or how you should react, because you're you and you'll react whatever way you want no matter what advice you get from me or anyone else, but I will say this, I would not be pleased with them both, but I wouldn't be pissed.

Mad? I wouldn't be mad. I would be blind with rage. Then I'd be at the district attorneys office seeing that he was charged with whatever an adult could be charged with that even remotely relates to sex crimes against a minor.

Are you mad?

I'd be angry. One of us would be in jail -- him for statutory rape or me for attempted murder (I'm assuming the 18 year old could outrun a 38 year old).

Yes you should be mad enough to FILE CHARGES!

Absolutely! An 18 year old has no business whatsoever having these kinds of relations with a 13 year old! But, I agree with Alicia ... you should start having open, meaningful dialogue with your daughter (if you don't already). It sounds like she was not communicating with you about some major things (feelings, problems, etc.), that she was experiencing, and she got in trouble. But, she is gonna need you even more, now! So, let her know you are there to listen and to help, and maybe y'all can work thru this experience, and not have to face another like it in the future. Sometimes, these things just happen, and they can draw families closer together. I wish y'all all the luck in the world, in getting thru this.

No. There's nothing wrong with pregnancy.

"MAD" no he would be a dead SOB

Oh yes you ARE entitled to be mad, first at your daughter - why she did not exercise a protective sex? Guys care less. She is the one who is pregnant.

yes ..at her, at him , at yourself....file charges....take control over ur kid and start thinkin about ur grandchild...deeds done....now u got 2 "kids"....do not let her think for one minute that because she has given birth she is grown or a woman....far from it ...takes a lot more and longer to be any of these...keep her in school....u WILL BE LEGALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THEM BOTH...the deadbeat pedophile would not LEGALLY be allowed around either..when the girl is GROWN she can do all she wants with him ,but as of now, he has done alot and plenty to 2 innocent children that will last the res tof their lives...Pray..:)

It does not matter if we think you should be mad. Why is your daughter allowed to be around an 18 year old unsupervised? Sounds like the parents arent being parents. I feel sorry for that kid.

I would be upset with the young man, but also upset with my daughter who had sex at that age.

Did this 18 yr old guy rape her or did she let him take her with her concent? Forget the law thing it is too late for that right now. Did you allow your 13 yr old daughter date him with your concent? What are the circumstances that he was with her anyway? What part did you play in this? How did you raise your daughter? How much time have you spent with her lately? There are so many varialbles to this situation and you only put an emotional sensational question. But above all it is not the end of the world for you or for her. Do you want to press charges and make the baby's father a sex offender for the rest of his life? The law may do so anyway. I am not saying it was right...this day and time it is not..I think everyone has had a hand in this including yourself. So forget being angry or mad...do what is necessary to help your daughter.

It's not all HIS fault...

No. You should invite him for a cup of tea and apologize for your daughter taking advantage of his youthful inexperience.

Why does the guy get all the blame in these situations? Teenage girls DO have minds of their own. Unless she was raped or otherwise unwilling, SHE is to blame for the pregnancy. She chose not to use contraceptives, despite the fact that there are dozens of forms available, and easy access to it. She is responsible for her own mistakes. Not the guy.

You have every right to be mad. You should file charges against him. shes a minor and hes an adult. Your going to have to be the mother to this child because the actual mother is 13 and is not mature enough to take care of a child. This is a big mess if you ask me. 13 year old girl shouldnt be having sex in the first place.

If you have to ask others if you should be mad it would not be genuine would it?

MAD ? No, I don't think I'd go mad .... ANGRY; He** Yes; I'd be so pizzed off that I'd be down at the State's Attorney's Office and locking that guy up behind bars where he'll learn what rape is all about .... I'd also be angry at my daughter for not listening to my lectures and talks on sexual activity and responsability .... I'd be very angry at myself for not supervising my daughter close enough that something like this could even happen .... I MIGHT be so angry as to take a seratted , rusty knife and go perform surgery on the 18 year old so that he'd not rape another young child ever again .... Then agin ; I'd most likely just lock his ass up behind bars ...

Well I'd be locked up cuz the 18 year old would be in traction, if he was lucky, and I'd be reevaluating my involvement in things pertaining to my 13 year old girl's life!

I would certainly be a lot more than mad I would have his butt in jail so fast. The guy is guilty of pedophilia even if he is only 18. she is no more than a baby.

Uh, where were you when this was happening? it's not like a 13 year old has a car, a job, and a vast number of reasons to be out of close touch with responsible adults...

I would have him arrested for rape. Your daughter is a minor. The father isn't.

Well if it were consensual, then you should get angry with your daughter

you should be mad to the point that the creep-o who thought it ok to touch a 13 yr old goes into hiding for the rest of his life outta fear that you would inflict the most painful of all torture upon his child-molesting sick ass.

The fact that you've asked some version of this question about five times over the last eight hours makes me wonder what's going on. But to answer your question, you should not get mad. You should get the police on the phone. And, answering your other question, no it is not OK for your 13 year old daughter to run away with her eighteen year old boyfriend. Although adding kidnapping and child abduction charges to the statutory rape charge would admittedly make it easier for the prosecution to hold him in custody, and would likely significantly extend the prison sentence he gets, you probably don't want to let that happen without trying to do anything to stop it. Because if you did know about it (as you've said you do) and didn't do anything to stop it, and especially if you didn't report her missing after she's gone, you'd be an accomplice. Assuming (and I don't normally question people's identification of who they are) that you actually are the mother of the 13 year old girl, rather than the 13 year old girl herself, or the 18 year old boyfriend, the answer is to be a parent, intervene, call the cops and stop wasting time.

Yes. At your daughter and yourself.

i would be pissed if that happened to my daughter!!!!! i would file charges!!!!

Maybe more angry with yourself than anyone. Had you not talked at all with your daughter or monitored who she went out with or saw? Did you tell her anything about sex? I am not knocking you, just asking. The guy was a predator, but they are everywhere, disguised as ordinary high school "jerks". These guys look for easy marks, like your daughter, who was probably snowed by the fact somebody his age was interested in her. These guys are usually big time losers who cannot even get a date with girls their own age. You weren't watching, mom. You should have been.

NO!!! absolutly not. dont listen to these morons,,, that girl has no reason to feel bad, especailly if shes pregnant, that 18 year old kid is dumb, you never know if she wanted to get pregnant, she could have been dating him. she was willing, dont file any charges if she was willing to have sex. its not worth all of the drama. your daughter will hate you for the rest of her life if you file rape on him. AGE DOES NOT MATTER IF THEY LIKE EACH OTHER! you will forever briuse her.

Okay so you are what? 12, asking this?

ok man first off thats considered satutory rape in all states. i'd put his ass in jail

I WOULDNT BE TO MAD I WOULD TALK TO HER AND ASK HER HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT HER SITUATION AND IF SHE THINKS HE WILL BE THERE AND SUPPORT HER AND DOES SHE THINK ITS OK TO BE PREGO AT 13 AND IF SHE WANTED TO BE AND IF THE FATHER OF THE BABY IS NOT GONNA BE THERE AND DOSENT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT THEN PRESS CHARGES AND STUFF BUT IF HE WANTS TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY YOU SHOULD LAT HIM AND THIS WILL TEACH HER TO WANNA NOT HAVE SEX TIL WAYY LATER

just a bit

Hell yes! An 18 year old has no business getting involved with a 13 year old. Your daughter is the victim here.

It is certainly a criminal offence. Should be disciplined, the man, that is. The daughter needs education, and now needs caring for. Also though, you need to consider how this was able to happen. There is an element here that makes me wonder how it was possible to happen. You don't seem to say that he raped her, so I wonder f you knew about it as a parent, and didn't do anything? I don't want to point the finger, but why are you asking if you should be mad. It is a criminal offence, and as a parent, you are to guide her young mind. Maybe now is the time to help guide her in a better way, and help her with her situation as her loving mother. Good luck.

Well... You could divide your choice in two. Hate him 50% cause he's so older than her. But not be mad 50% if they really love each other...

Hmm......The thing is, what kinda guy is this? Would locking him up and throwing away the key for awhile actually help the situation...or make it harder. I know its kinda a weird conversation, but you know your daughter...and you probably know him also. If you daughter is a very mature girl....then....its bad, but...is it as bad? Would he go out get a job, and support and love the baby?........or would he be a low life and just leave her all alone? Take everything into consideration. What does your daughter want? Cuz if she really loves him, and he really loves her...is gonna be there, help her, love her, and love the baby....why put him in jail?..........Just figure it all out, and go from there.

Only with yourself and ashamed for your poor parenting.

No 13 year old is mature enough to be having sex with an 18 year old man. No 18 year old man has any right having sex with a 13 year old girl. I would be beyond mad, and having this conversation with the police. A 13 year old cannot consent, and this is a crime. You should support her, and get her professional help. Something is definitely not right in her world for this to have happened.

I am sorry to say that is a very unintelligent question!!!!!!!!!! He should be in JAIL!!!!!!!!! Why did she ever date a grown man? Did you allow this? It is illegal for them to have sex! Did that ever give you a clue?

Yes but your daughter is going to have sex with who she wants so don't press charges.

Please don't breed anymore

Yes. That right there? A damn shame.

i wouldn't be mad. i'd be homicidal.

You want others to tell you if you should be mad? You have a switch that can just be turned on and off by popular vote? Be as, as you are - Grasshooper.

No, but grab a shotgun, get them married, and attach his wages for the next 20 years.

you have all the right to get mad but dont do anything youll regret

You shouldn't be mad, you should be knocking on his door with a bat in your hand.

If you knew about the relationship, you should be mad at yourself too.

well, getting mad would be the least i would do

u should be happy ur going to be a grand daddy .... (said w a whole lotta sarcasm)

I would be FURIOUS! But I would be that way with ANY guy who got my daughter pregnant if she were only 13 yrs. old.....no matter the age he was!!! I guess it would be worse if he's 18 since he is of age & she a minor.

um he just turned of legal age, and done something very wrong, usually they refer to people like that a pedofile or child molester, if an 18 year old got (MY) 14 year old daughter pregnant he would be no longer be sharing this earth with us.......

yes!very that is terrible!:(

Yes, but you should be equally mad at yourself, since your 13 year old daughter is having sex.

mad would not be good enough. you should get an axe and chop his shit off. call the cops on that bastard. that is not right for him getting your 13 yr old daughter pergnet. he needs to be put in jail. he just ruined her life. she is still a child and should not have to raise a child untill she is able to take the responceablity of rasing a child. that is stagitory rap and he should spend some time in jail.

Yup. And then make damn certain he's proven to be Dad and then make sure his income goes to support the kid. Don't prosecute him, sue him. Make sure he stays out of jail so he can get a job. Then, get over it and do everything in your power to get your girl educated so, at least some day, she can support it - with Dad's (willing or unwilling) contribution, of course. +5

Only mad? You should be on your way to the police department to sign warrants for rape on this person. I can't believe you asked this question.

I would file charges for statatory rape. Regardless if it was consented by your daughter it wouldnt matter.... shes 13 !! That is still a baby !

Most everyone has expressed great anger and I guess it is somewhat justified. Putting all that asside, did you as parents approve of her dating the young man? Did you force your daughter to sneek around to date this young man? Do you believe this young man talked your daughter into having sex with him? How do you know it wasn't your daughter who wanted and initiated the sex? Many young teens at 13 and some even younger want to have sex because their peers have had sex and want to not be teased by her various girlfriends about being a virgin! Rather than being angry, parents, not the schools, should teach their children about sex starting at a very young age and progress as age appropriate so by age 12 or 13 they know the possabilaties of pregnacy or STDs. Parents will not keep their children from haveing sex at young age anymore than our parents did when we were young teens. We may have waited a few more years but most of us has sex in the back seat of a car many times. Because of the information age kids learn earlier and do earlier. The only anger I have is towards parents whom do not teach their children HOW to have proper sex not how to hide it from them hoping they will wait. Did you?

F*ck yeah! that irresponsible jerk. not to mention he is loser for dating a 13 year old! (no offense to you or your daughter)

Would it have been ok that she was having sex with him and the result didn't end up in her being pregnant, she should be just as accountable as he is. it took two i know he is older then her he should have known better but she should have known too, I know she is 13 but sex is no longer a secret to kids, these little kids today are more experience then we like to think, little girls today dress very provocative then women are age do who would think they are as young as they are. Why was she with him in the first place your her mom don't you think she was too young to be hanging with him and dont you think he was too old to be hanging with her, if you allowed them to be with each other in the first place then when you call the cops on him make sure you call on yourself aswell because you didn't prevent it.

she could let a couple like me have it that cant have children......

I'd go for "blind with rage." But I also have to wonder where the girl got her sense of morality. Discussion and monitoring are well and good, but they do not instill moral sense. Precept, example, and discipline do that. N.B.: "Discipline" here means setting and enforcing limits, not meting out punishment. Nonetheless, if I were her father, I'd be already in jail for attempted murder. No, scratch that; I'm an expert sharpshooter. But seeing him get 20 years with a 6'9" cellmate named "Bubba" might mollify me.

I'D PUT HIM IN JAIL, SINCE ITS ILLEGAL.

YES THAT IS RAPE

hell yes that iz rape if your not mad rite now you should be ashamed of yourself and for even letting her have sex at a early age