You might thank your lucky stars she isn't one of those disrespectful, profane teenagers that disrupt the household. Sometimes it's best to leave well enough alone.

wait till she gets a bit more mature, it can be impossible otherwise, itll work out

maybe something is bothering her and she doesn't want to open up to anyone. Maybe you could invite her to lunch and strike up a conversation. You know the old saying goes it easier to nail jello to a tree then understand a teen. good luck!

Has her behavior changed with everyone, including those her own age? I, personally, don't believe in the 'teenage angst.' I'm the youngest of 9 and have several nieces and nephews, and none of them have ever done this. If there is a behavior change, there is a reason. Unfortunately, there is not a lot you can do. I'd make sure she knows how hurt you are, but keep the lines of communication open in case she wants to talk. I'd also try and make sure she knows you are an adult that will not judge her, nor go running to her parents if she tells you things. That may help. Good luck.

If you have taken all the nasty things out like drugs causing bad behaviour, boys or school problems . Then I would let her know she is hurting your feeling and then leave her alone. Let her know you are around if she needs to talk about anything and then just try to keep a distant eye on the situation. Sadly it happens when they reach the teens and usually lasts until they are into or through college, I hope it works out alright.

You should talk to her and confront her about her behavior. Try to spend some family time with her , and no need to feel sad!! its just a stage shes going through.

I've been turning this over in my mind since you posted it. My thoughts are these: do you remember being a teenager? The hormones hit and suddenly you have all these conflicting emotions and fears. You have sexual feelings and you don't know if they are normal, just look at all the posts on here to that effect. You are suddenly attracted to boys (or girls) and you want them to be attracted back. You get very self centered and not because you want to be. You wonder if you stink, if you are ugly, if your butt is wiggling wrong, if your feet are too big. You want to talk to the adults you've loved and trusted all your life, but you aren't sure that what you are thinking and feeling isn't wrong or bad, so you are afraid to. It doesn't help that you are getting all sorts of messages from pop culture that tell you that adults are out of touch and that you really are bad, ugly and stinky. My thought would be to take her out somewhere she wants to go, but where she isn't likely to be spotted by friends. Ask her how things are going and then just shut up and let her talk. The first time you do it, she probably won't talk. But if you keep doing it, eventually you'll become a safe person and a favorite aunt again.

Try harder to do what exactly? Make her want you around? That won't work. I'd back off, leave her alone and let her figure her stuff out. Kids change. Whatever relationship that used to be is no longer. That doesn't mean it won't be better in the future..but it won't be the same. She is growing up. She is not that little girl whom you adored who adored you. We all go through that same shock gt..if it's not a niece it's a nephew or the child of a best friend or a grandchild. Things will get better..they just will be different! :) ((hugs))

It's so hard to see this happen. She is obviously going through some tough times (growing pains) and just needs some space and time to sort through things. I'm sure it's nothing personal to you. I would simply give her a big hug and tell her you'll always be there for her. That way, she knows you are there if she needs you. I would do nothing more at this point. She'll come around, I know it.

I think you should partly chalk it up to her being a teenager, but that doesn't mean IGNORING it. It means trying your best to find things she's interested in. If you show you're open to being with her on her level, maybe she'll open up to you more. I'd let her know how you feel though.

Know she is a teenager... and to some degree, it's just an awkward age and it's hard to communicate. Considering you two have been close, the best course is to stay strong and let her know that you are hard enough to demand respect but soft enough to still want the closeness and trust of your relationship. I'm sure she secretly adores you and will highly appreciate your effort!

I don't think it's just teenage angst if she's able to be civil to her friends or other people. Maybe she is troubled in some way, maybe there is resentment towards you about some perceived problem by her alone. Or you could be presuming that it's just towards you when it's bigger than that, something really wrong and she feels uncomfortable around you becuase you had been close, maybe she feels you wouldn't understand for some reason so instead she is building a wall to protect herself. I'd take her aside without making her feel put upon and ask her what's changed and that you feel terribly hurt about, that you miss your closeness and good times. Leave an opening but don't push or corner her. Just make it known that you are sorry for the change and feeling hurt. Did you used to do things together at all? You might ask, if it seems like she's open to it, to do something together, or have her help you with something you would like assistance with.

She is old enough to understand this is unexceptable behavior. I don't care if she is a teen with raging harmones or what her deal is, this is rude, thoughtless, self centered crap!!! I would invite her to lunch, then I would fill her in on human kindness 101. I would tell her you care enough about her to let her know that she has hurt you with her actions and that even though you do understand her friends are important in her life that you are too. She is not 10 anymore and she needs to think of the things she is doing to the people that love her. YES, teens need some space, they also need guidence!

Just chalk it up to a typical teenage thing, leave her alone but still love her until she comes out of thise phase. My daughter is a teenager & fits the description you gave of your niece. She's sullen too, is rude sometimes and dont talk much now. I did feel hurt at first but I understand now that its part of growing up & she will come out of it.

as per my thinking, it usually happens. But once she would understand her responsibilities and her relations wid u, i hope every thing would go perfect!

she is probably strung out on smoking pot and getting brainwashed by her friends who dont have what she has. take her out to lunch and let her buy some music afterwards. kids need more soft money these days.