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When I was a single mother I would tell them on the first date because if they wern't into having a kid around then they wern't worth my time. I had alot of men turn and run. I dated a guy for a week before he told me he hated kids. That was the last conversation I ever had with him. Oh and in case your wondering I did find Mr. Right and we have a wonderful family. Things will work out and you won't be alone forever. Good luck.
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Your children are a part of who you are, which makes you a package deal. The fact that you have children should always be disclosed right from the get-go if it is a long term relationship that you are seeking. If he cannot accept your kids(the package deal), he is not the one for you. Don't worry, there are men out there who will love you AND your kids...I found one!!!
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I think that the children should be mentioned. Like someone said, it's a "package deal" I can understand the hesitation, however. Especially when the concern for introducing the child to all of these "new" partners. What you do reflects on the child. For men who have kids, I've found that often times they do not mention the child initially because they want to be sure that the person they are seeing is someone special (if they are keeping in mind the child's best interests)... Young boys see how their dad treats women, and that may influence how they view women in return. (Same goes for women seeing men).
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I think that a single parent should make that fact known, first thing.That way,you don't start a new potential relationship off on the wrong foot.
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Stamp it on your forhead when you go meet people at bars.
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I'd say, as soon as you can. If you don't want to mention that you have children, then you are building a new relationship on the basis of a lie. A lie of omission, if you will, but a lie. The same would be if you did't mention you're married...
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As soon as possible.
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You should mention it before the first date. When I started again dating after my divorce, my daughter was the first thing mentioned. If the guy didn't want to go out with me after hearing that, then he wasn't worthy of my time to begin with.
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Let them know as soon as possiable. Because then you know where you stand and if there fine with the children. Befour going to deep into the relationship. Also good luck it should all work out.
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In the beginning. You'll learn a whole lot about your potential mate faster than if you delay.
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i would tell them on the first date then you are being open and honest and if they are not interested in it then they know. as they are a part of your life and you cannot hide them
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you should always mention you have a child as soon as possible because that is who you are, and if you're gonna be in a new relationship, your new spouse has to accept you with the full package. being a mother is something you are proud of, you should yell it out so everyone knows...and if anyone dont like it, well move on cuz there is someone out there who will.
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Right at the beginning as soon as you realise that it is not just a casual chat just add it to the conversation . That way he/she can withdraw if they wish. If they continue with the friendship it is obviously not an important issue to them
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The first date. The guy may go away but your kids aren't going anywhere. If he cannot accept your children he is not worth your time because your kids are a part of you.
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Immediately. The first date or before in the communication.
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Upfront, first date. hiding this little bit of information may be a major turnoff of a new partner.
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The day u start talking!
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Unless you are into playing games with people's emotions, I say be up front. Then if he is not too keen in becoming involved with someone with kids at that time then you haven't wasted much time on him. Move on. If you keep quiet until you have got to know and like each other, he might go alone with it... But I don't think he'll be in it for the long haul. Where as if you are honest and the person still wants to have a relationship then your time is being well invested.
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I tell the guy on the first date or when we first meet. Many guys run.
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Be honest right from the start. Tell this gentlemen before you even go out on a date or anything.
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i am a singel mother and i always make a point to tell the guy that i am dating or going to date well in advance before the first date . so to give them time to think it though , if they still want to be with me after thinking it though then so much the better,
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Before you bump into them in the pub.
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right at the begining.
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Right away.
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Immediately.
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Right after "Hi, how are you my name is..." and if they run too bad, so sad no skin off your nose. And if you wait till later he's gonna bolt even fatster then if he knows at the start.
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On the first date! My 2 children (under 10) are not baggage but rather MY ACCESSORIES! We are a unit that makes us all stronger and better people. If a guy gets scared away from this in the beginning...good...you have found out sooner rather than later. Then move on and don't waste your time.
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Before you go out on the first date. That is something you should discuss before anything else.
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Bring it up casually before you start the first date.
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The sooner the better. Just bring it up casually in a conversation.
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Immediately. It would be deceptive to not get that out into the open right away.
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Before you start calling it a relationship.
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As soon as you realize this may turn into something more than friendship.
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As soon as you realize this may turn into something more than friendship.
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The most important relationship is the one with your child. You must tell the person you may be dating about your child.
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I believe that the very first time you meet you should tell the other person that you have children. Don't wait until you have been dating for a well to tell the other person that you have children (which is what Dr.Laura tell people to do and I feel is wrong).
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First date on the dot b/c if they don't like kids then they're not right for you and if that's the case you should get rid of them ASAP!!!!!!
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straight away, if they run because of the news, ur better off without them anyway! any man in ur life has to accept u come as a package. its not easy dating when ur a single parents, but someday u'll find someone who will accept u and ur children and they will make u very happy :-)
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I think there are three circumstances when you should tell the other person you have children. First: when they ask. Second: when you realize that you may consider a serious relationship with him/her. Third: when you are considering a friendship with that person. Otherwise...they are strangers. They have no business knowing your business.
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I never even went on a date with someone who didn't know I had kids. I didn't want to waist anyone's time, if they weren't interested in dating a single mom.
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on the first date. you're a package deal, any guy/girl should know that up front. **kisses**
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I think it should be on the very first date, or even in phone calls that precede said first date. You ARE a Mom, and it's only fair for him to know, so he can decide if he wants to (potentially) deal with that situation. I think not telling him until you decide it might "go somewhere" is a lie by omission - an act of deceit. Being a Mom is a huge part of who you are.
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You should tell them from the get go, no secrets. I was a single mother and I didnt keep it from anyone. First of all I was proud of my daughter and if the person I was on a date with didn't like that fact then they were not good enough in the first place.
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I believe that should come when you meet them some people just aint ok with that and they have the right to know. Also if you keep it from him then the relationship starts off bad because if you kept something that serious from him in the back of his mind he'll always wonder how you could do that to him if yall were to progress to the next level.
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Well... That would be a good start. You can't hide them forever and if he isn't interested in a girl with kids it's better to know it right off.
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I would tell them in the first few sentences of conversation, way before, I would get into relationship, it is a package deal, all of us, or nothing. I cant think of a logical reason on why you wouldnt tell them???
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aah like right away. I would like to know if a person has a child. I wouldn't date them if they did personally so it would save a lot of time.
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i tell them right away. they need to know.
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right off the bat. i dated a guy who had a 7 year old once and i got into it because i liked him, and his child was sweet to me. however the relationship did not work. but if that happened to me, there's no way i would date a guy who didn't like my kids. it would be a waste of time to be dating someone for a couple weeks and then find out that they can't take the "whole package" so say it as soon as possible.
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I'm a single Dad. Tell them when you think it may get serious. I don't think telling a person on the first date is at all necessary.
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Yes and be proud of it!!! Your showing that you can do anything on your own!
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Immediately. The last thing you want to do is become interested in a person who doesn't like kids, doesn't want kids. That will only hurt you. Just tell them up front!
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Right away. Like me like my kid or kids. If they have a problem with it you won't be emotionally attached.
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It depends, though I would think it should be mentioned if it comes up or anything similar to questions about family. Then again, you could wait it out and risk losing him down the line!
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Right from the very beginning - you must be up front about this. But! do not go into details about your children - you need to let your intuition guide you with any stranger that may come into your children's lives. This is very important not only for the safety of your children but the security they need from you knowing that if you bring someone into your lives it will be done gradually and they will not feel excluded.
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I was a single mom and my son was always mentioned before the guy even had a chance to ask me out. It always turned out fine that way so I'd say immediately. You usually talk to people well before that first date anyways, might as well bring it up then.
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I am a single mother. My son is 6. Anyone that I date knows about my son right from the get go. I also keep those to parts of my life very seperate until I feel that it's right to introduce my child to my boyfriend.
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Immediately. "Here's what I'd like you to know about me." Then ask him to return the favor.
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straight away, otherwise your starting a relationship under false pretences.:)
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right at the beginning.
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When the question 'tell me something about yourself' is asked.. usually on the first date.
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i ALWAYS tell him BEFORE the first date. this is usually a tremendous turn off for men, so I put it up front so I dont waste my time or his. if I had to give a number, i would say 4 out of every 5 men i meet, doesnt talk to me again after I tell him i have kids, but thats ok. Your kids come first.
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thats almost the first thing out of my mouth. "i have 2 boys that i love more than life itself, hi my name is -----, nice to meet you"
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