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  • no you are not crazy, i dream of my mum,nan and grandad quite a lot and some people say its because im missing them but i like to think its them checking on me to see if im ok and to let me know they are ok. i love these dreams because it feels like they are really here with me. dont worry about what people think just enjoy your dreams :0)
  • Of course you are not crazy. These are wonderful beautiful dreams to be having, he is still very much on your mind, and will be for a very long time - always. The people who are saying you are crazy, are the real crazy ones. This is completely normal. Don't think anything else.
  • You should go see a therapist.
  • You're not crazy, a crazy person would never think that perhaps he/she is crazy. Perhaps you are gloomy, or you just miss him. You could visit a psychologist
  • My husband died 2 weeks ago so i know how you are missing yours , i am still in shock but i hope i start to dream of him. How can these people know and say go to a therapist. This is your love and your life and the dreams are grieving and comforting. Be happy and enjoy the love he is still giving you. I think God is being kind and telling you your husband is still close and still loves and is caring for you. Take care and do not worry
  • you are not yet totally moved on of your husband's death and that makes you miss him so much to the point that you carry the thoughts in your dreams.. if you are crazy then all people who are missing someone are crazy..
  • No, Your not crazy. It is actually very normal to think of this. If people call you crazy say "At least I have a guardian angel protecting me." Im very sorry for your loss. But really, You do have him as your guardian angel now...Lucky!!! My sympathy, AnswerWoman532
  • You dont need a therapist. You are fine.If your missing him disrupts your life- say to the point you cant leave your house or all you do is talk or think or cry about him- then see a therapist.Your dreams are your subconscious mind "venting"... You miss him and you love him.
  • I think you are reliving some of your beautiful memories that you love and cherish the most. Unless it is upsetting to you, I wouldn't worry a bit about this. As you transition on with your life, you may have them less frequently, because your life will become more than it maybe right now. It's part of the process we go though. Bless you.
  • The dreams are gifts, enjoy them, but maybe they'e a private gift and it makes other people uncomfortable to be privy to something so emotionally intimate. I'm not suggesting you keep them "secret", but savor them privately. Likely they will diminish with time. I'm sorry for your loss.
  • You obviously have a very deep connection with him. I don't think it's a problem that you want to hang on to that; your heart is keeping itself company, basically. Your relationship with him continues on, in a certain sense. The only time I would be concerned is if you're otherwise having trouble "processing" his departure: do you still function in the rest of your life? Do you visit friends, work, and otherwise engage in normal activities? If so, I don't think there's much cause for concern. If not, you might want to take a look at that: it's normal for people to want to hang on to the love after death, but you also need to grieve and recognize that he is gone. That's painful, and if you're avoiding going through that process it's not healthy. Life goes on, and we most move with it. That doesn't mean he has to be banished from your heart or your dreams... but you don't want to stop living in here-and-now altogether.
  • You sound completely healthy. You miss him, and are reliving perfectly understandable memories. And the dream of him looking out a window? If you don't mind my amateur dream analysis: You consider him to some degree still with you (sharing the room with you), but he's considering embarking on a new realm (looking out the window).
  • You are not crazy at all. Those dreams can happen for years to come. Those are sort of "comfort" dreams in which our mind wants that precious moment to occur over and over again, because that is what you miss so much about him. Engage it and enjoy it. He may be watching over you, and that could be why he makes his presence. So sorry for your loss.
  • You are not crazy at all! What a wonderful blessing that you can still connect to him in such a real way. When we dream about people it's the closest we can come to them without being physically with them. I think it's amazing, you clearly love each other very much.
  • Not crazy. That's a normal part of the process of grieving a sudden loss of someone you were very close to. Enjoy those moments. Feel them and drink them in. His death will get further and further away and the memory of his physical presence will recede. For now, celebrate it and him. He continues to exist as a person in your mind as your memories of him and I am sure he would want that.
  • i think you'd be crazy NOT to dream about him. i think the dreams about him looking out the window symbolizes him watching over you and being so close to and being with you but not really being there at the same time...
  • You sound just fine. The anniversary of his death is approaching and perhaps this weighs upon you. Some gesture or memorial at this time would help you to commemorate the times you shared and relieve some of the longings you still feel. Many folks like to plant a tree, visit a special place or place flowers in their church. This is a personal matter to which you must give thought and meaning. Cherish your memories, but live in the present with those you still love and enjoy.
  • No, you are not crazy! Enjoy your dreams, and blow off what other people say. As long as you are not effecting your life in a negative way, (like locking yourself in your bedroom for days on end, crying, and forgetting about your daughter and your every day life), then don't worry about it. Every person grieves/mourns differently. Some get over a devastating loss in a few months, some in a few years. Cherish those dreams and your daughter. He will always be in your heart. I am so sorry for your loss.
  • No of course not, you still love him and you miss him, that's all.
  • What you are experiencing is normal for someone who has had something deep and meaningful with another human being. Take all the time you need and ignore the comments of others. Everyone mourns in their own way. There is no time limit.
  • I believe that your dreams are his way of telling you that he still loves you and is looking out for you.
  • NO your still in love,even though he dies your love still lives on...i cant believe i just said that load of crap
  • I have had several dreams since my husband's death March 2, 2006. I too have had regular dreams about him usually once a month. They began about three weeks after he died. I asked him if he remembered what happened to him and he replyed that he didn't. I asked him if he had been feeling ill at all and he stated that he was having trouble sleeping but had no pain. He died suddenly of cardiac arrest in our bedroom. He is not as lost in my current dreams as he was in the beginning dreams. I still feel a close connection to him however the relationship in the dreams is quite different than the one we had when we were together in life. I am very aware in the dream that he loves me and I love him. I am currently in another relationship that I feel quite content with but I cannot pass up these dreams which cause great grief to me the following day. The dreams are so real and I simply adore and miss my husband very much. I don't bother looking at analyzing it anymore. I feel if he wants to see me in my dreams then I will welcome him.
  • that is all part of the cycle of grief. I have a t-shirt of my son's. We keep it in a ziplock bag, in a box with all of his toys and papers. I open the bag and still can smell him. I can remember the day we brought him home, how he liked bananas, how he was fearless even in his death. God, I miss my little boy. Jake, your daddy loves you.
  • You are perfect normal. Everyone should have this kind of connection to the ones they love that even in death they still come to us. I would love to dream of my fiancee every night just so I could relive some of that closeness we had. If I was you I would count myself as one of the lucky ones.
  • Whoever told you you're crazy (even if it is yourself) you are not. You are in fact, quite sane. It is normal to think of a love one after they pass on. Don't let anyone tell you different, and try and reflect on the good times you and your husband shared. I am sorry to hear about your loss; my condolences.
  • you're a lunatic
  • You're still in love with him and miss him dearly.. thats what it is.
  • As long as this doesn't reflect negative on your day to day life with friends and family I don't see a problem with it!
  • I lost my wife on Thanksgiving Day 1999, and I still think of her every day, wanting to talk to her, hold her, tell her I love her. Time has made it easier, but you never forget them and you can still love them very much. You are not crazy, just lonely for him. That is ok. You are not alone. I am sorry for your loss, and I hope things get easier for you soon. Just know that he would want you to get on with your life and he still loves you.
  • It seems that your husband is very attached to you and his soul is not at peace. Please visit this site for more info http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/spiritualresearch/difficulties/ancestors/
  • Everybody has dreamt of lost love. It's just your brain making up for the absence.
  • I think that your husband is visiting you in your dreams and you should just be thankful.
  • I have lost a family member also and most of the dreams are a gift. I long for the next dreams of my girl. They are so real, a God send sometimes. Don't worry about what people think just take care of yourself for now.
  • I think the web site www.dreammood.com talks about that type of dream and what it means.
  • Your not crazy. If these dreams get in the way of you have a good life or hinder your ability to get on with your life you should seek some help. But there is nothing wrong with dreaming about your husband. Remeber he may not be here on earth but he still lives .. in your heart and mind .. and your dreams.
  • This is very normal. You are grieving. Give yourself time to grieve, but do give yourself a cut-off date for grieving. However, even after that date, you cannot just cut off your feelings. I still dream sometimes of my parents and my dad has been dead 14 years now.
  • I dont think you sound crazy at all, i think you and your husband were very much in love and obviously you are still missing him terribly. I cant say i know how you feel, but i cant imagine life without my hubby, i do know though that if anything happened to him i would like to feel and experience exactly what you are experiencing, the love and emotion.. dont worry what other people say, you continue to have your thoughts and dreams. Take Care and God Bless Tonimk xx
  • Gosh , i am so sorry to hear, I lost my husband almsot a year ago and I have not dreamed of him but one time...and it was the urn I dreamed of.....so just remmebr he is thinking of you...
  • Crazy?? Not at all! It's probably actually him coming 2 u, just letting u know he's still with u.
  • The only crazy thing about you is this question of being crazy. Thinking about him is normal. It honestly helps the healing process. If someone calls you crazy for dreaming of your deceased loved one, just turn to them and tell them "yes I am" and walk away....
  • o see the dead in your dream, forewarns that you are being influenced by negative people and are hanging around the wrong crowd. You may suffer material loss. This dream may also be a way for you to resolve your feelings with those who have passed on. If you dream of a person who has died a long time ago, then it suggests that a current situation or relationship in you life resembles the quality of that deceased person. The dream may depict how you need to let this situation or relationship die and end it. To see and talk with your dead parents in your dreams, represents your fears of losing them or your way of coping with the loss. You may want that last opportunity to say your final good-byes to them. To see your dead sibling, relative, or friend in your dream, indicates that you miss them and are trying to relive your old experiences you had with them. In trying to keep up with the pace of your daily waking life, you dreams may serve as your only outlet in coping and coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.
  • you just miss him. Your lucky to dream about it
  • Crazy? no way! this could either be one of two things depending on what you believe. One reason could be that these dreams you are having are to release your inner most desires hopes and wishes and yearnings. You miss your husband and you miss all these things that you do in your dreams with him sometimes you may just miss seeing him so your mind is helping you cope by bringing a part of him back letting you feel all these things for a certain amount of time to leave you feeling at peace for awhile. Another reason could be if you are at all spiritual or religious that you and your husband are meeting in another world or place that we go to when we dream and you two are visiting eachother because you miss eachother and long to see oneanother. Try communiating with him next time see if theres anything any information you could get in these dreams that could tell you he is still around you in life. In any case never think you are crazy for this. Everybody has dreams im sure they wouldnt find it craazy if you dreamt about your husband while he was still living so why would this make it any different now? you are not crazy and if anything you are human you are a loving person who feels for someone they greatly loved and sadly lost.
  • You miss him, he was your love. Many people think that spirits can connect to a person whom she/he had a strong bond with. That could be a sign that he loves you, wants to hold you close. You're not crazy, it's normal, even a blessing.
  • NO INDEED !!! I WISH I HAD A WIFE LIKE YOU !!!
  • You're fine. Clearly you were very attached to him. Don't worry about the dreams. I'd cherish them. It's awesome he is still with you in your heart and mind. :-)
  • no,you are not crazy as im in the same situation i have exactly the same dream as my husband has also died 5 years ago and i miss him very much and without these kind of dreams i belive we will have a very big proplem.God is helping us to countinue as my own belive is that the most difficult thing in life is loosing your husband.
  • sorry to hear that.. and your not crazy. the brain usually dreams of what you think of last before you fall asleep, and whatever is on your mind the most. if you are missing him alot and thinking of being with him alot this is why you are dreaming about being with him. it could also be him trying to tell you things as well. let your dreams comfort you and enjoy them. its all natural.
  • I am sorry for your loss. I think you are remembering teh good time that you miss and you are keeping his memory alive in your dreams. I say enjoy them while you are still dreaming of him.
  • Your not crazy at all, that just shows that you had an everlasting relationship with him and shows that you loved him so much. Thats a great thing.
  • You're not crazy. It's just your subconscious minds way of having him back for a little while.
  • NO YOU AREN'T CRAZY. My Jeff died in June. I feel him all the time, especially if I wake in the middle of the night I feel him hold me. When I cry I feel him wrap his arms around me. When I sit on a certain spot on the sofa and am sad I feel him hold me and kiss my forehead
  • not at all. when you think about it we spend more time with our spouses than with any other relative enen our parents, this is completly normal, enjoy you dreams
  • You're not crazy, my husband die three month ago, from a drive by shooting, he was 33 year old.I dream of him all the time,it nice to know that he still here and watching over me.It help with the pain. Petra
  • first of all... i'm confused as to why ANYONE would think you are CRAZY b/c you are having dreams about your dead husband. I would say that is totally normal.
  • Not at all. You are simply remembering all the good things about him and about your relationship. It's a perfectly normal coping mechanism. Tell whomever has a problem with it to go fly a kite. :)
  • Let him live on in these ways. Let these things comfort you. You will see him again. Reading your question made me tear up. (not an easy thing to do)
  • I'm sorry for your loss. No. You are not crazy at all. Your not alone in doing this. I do as well, and in the larger spectrum I don't think either of us are alone, I believe they are watching over us, want us to be happy, loved, and well. Your heart doesn't live by the same 24hr clock that man created, and you can't just turn off memories, or love, be kind with yourself and your not alone it's ok doesn't mean you are crazy it's just the opposite. Matt
  • Your love never dies, you are just crazy in love :) I'm sorry for your loss.
  • I am sorry to hear of your loss. I relate to what you are saying. I lost my husband 15 years ago. Through dreams I have felt like he has never left me, as if we continue our lives loving each other in another dimension. Sometimes, however my dreams have turned into nightmares - at times I have had to re-live the experience of discovering he is dead, or that he never really died he just chose to live a life without me. At a deeper level I have interpretted these dreams as my sub-conscious trying to awaken me to let him go. I still after all these years occaisionally have the most beautiful amazing dreams of him - I treasure these moments and always will. I do believe in our dreams we move beyond the physcial realms to dimensions beyond time and space and reunite with loved ones. My husband was my child hood sweetheart and we were never apart - he was the great love of my life and died at the age of 36yrs. Please, please disregard other people's negative reactions, you are certainly not crazy. Experiencing such beauty in your dreams is a wonderful gift - enjoy these treasured moments. There is a beautiful song by Roy Orbison 'In dreams',here are some of the lyrics: "I close my eyes, then I drift away,Into the magic night. I softly say a silent prayer like dreamers do. Then I fall asleep to dream my dreams of you. In dreams I walk with you, in dreams I talk with you. In dreams your mine, all of the time were together. In dreams, in dreams" I love this song and relate very deeply to the words. It is beautiful what you are experiencing - honour it for what it is for you are truly blessed to know love so deeply.
  • you miss him so much it makes your love stronger thus the dreams. i am deeply sorry.
  • Reading this brings about alot of emotion in me. You're not crazy at all. You loved him very much and miss him just the same. Now you're continuing your relationship in your dreams. I find it very sweet, don't ever let someone tell you that you shouldn't have these dreams. I'm a young soldier who doesn't fear death. However, I will make every effort to stay alive because I can't imagine the sadness my girlfriend or any widow would feel.
  • you are NOT crazy at all, you love him. people dont know what its like that is why they say that.
  • no your not crazy this is your way of dealing with it. when my sister died i pretended she was on a long trip so i didnt have to deal with it. but at some point i had to come to terms. i feel for you
  • First of all nothing to be feared off. This is always true the person who is very close to one another he/she always finds him/her everywhere when he/she leaves that perticular person. But don't care about everybody because this your lif and you have the right to do any thing you loved her so much and now he is not with you anymore. Still you have to only manage everything alone in this glittering World. (Shubham Agarwal)
  • sweetie you are not crazy...you were blessed to have a man you loved so much in your life...a year is not a long time..it goes so fast...
  • Oh my goddness.. NO! You are not crazy! I lost my husband two weeks ago now an I wish I dreamt of him. I pray that I will dream about him. What is so crazy about dreaming about a man that loved you so much and you loved him? Isn't that what marriage is? I think you are so lucky and I think it's beautiful! Keep on dreaming and I will be praying for you... God bless you...
  • When my dad died I dreamt of him alot saying and doing things he would normally do . The day he died I fell asleep and when I woke up I could have sworn he was in his room , I convinced myself he was alive and that he's death was all a dream . When I walked into he's room to be with him he wasn't there... horrible . I am so sorry for your loss.
  • Love is a very strong emotion and bonding Just relax and meditate morning periods take some longer, than others Use prayer and your family Doctor.Having explisit dreams are normal,your memory and all wonderful memories will always be with you.As long as you want them.
  • Why would that be crazy?! He is a part of your memory, your heart and your brain. Even if you are not aware of it you are thinking of him. He has been a great part of your life, death would not make that disapear. There is a part of you who longs for him holding you and kissing you, that combined with the memories of him will be a good explanation for having those dreams. Don't let anybody call you crazy because they cannot comprehend.
  • If you'd like dream help go to http://www.myspace.com/0godsgirl you can actually listen to a real dream interpretation radio show :o)
  • i am not a professional psychologist but i think i can help.i think that you dreamed that mabye because he wanted to do this before he die or something but i dont think that is making you crazy.good luck with your resurch
  • No, you're not crazy. It's just that you miss and love him. I don't blame you for feeling that way; I would too if I lost the love of my life. Why is that crazy?
  • hell no your not crazy these things happen all the time you miss him alot... you think of him alot.... he was your everything dont listen to noone if they say u crazy ..enjoy these dreams hes probably tryin to tell u he will always be there for you no matter what... He loved you ! never forget what ya had...LOVE
  • You not crazy, he with you. I lost one of my great grandmothers a short time ago. I dream about her alot as well. She was very special to me. I miss her alot.
  • You miss him; that's not crazy.
  • I don't think you are at all crazy for having these type of dreams. It is very normal because he is still on your mind. Dreams have a healing nature and can sometimes help you feel better about traumatic events in our waking life. Do you believe this dream helps you cope with his loss? I hope it does. I hope you feel better. God bless you. Best regards
  • You aren't crazy. Your mind is filled with thoughts of him so it's only natural that he would be in your dreams as well. You'll slowly let other things into your thoughts, but right now you are still filled with him.
  • it's VERY, VERY normal ... my father died almost 30 years ago, and my mom just over 20 years ago ... i still dream about them ... my mom just last week ... she was driving the mini-van that rescued me and my team from the floods caused by the aliens ... don't ask
  • You are not crazy. It COULD be his way to communicate to you from beyond. Probably sending his love to you and indicating that he is okay. He may have not moved on because perhaps you are hurting and missing him. He may be hoping you will accept his passing and be happy so he can, again, make his transition. No matter what it may be, you're not crazy...
  • No, you are not crazy. You need to find a way to verify for you that this is real. Ask for some sort of proof. I believe in Sai Baba as God. I asked Him one night if it was wrong for me to kiss pictures of Him on His lips or is that way too familiar? He answered me in proof. My mother had a dream of Him kissing her on the lips. She did not know my story and she has no interest or belief in Sai Baba. She said, I had the weirdest dream last night. That guy you pray to appeared in front of me and kissed me on the lips and disappeared. True Story.
  • i also lost my husband just over a year ago, at 33 years old he was killed in a car crash... i think of him every minute of the day.. sometimes it really hurts and sometimes its fond memories. but as u say, i imagine him here with me even walking through the door at tea time. its only natural..its my way of feeling close to him, if that makes sense? you are definatly not crazy, or i am too xx
  • How could that possibly be crazy? Death can't stop love. My youngest daughter died 8 years ago and I dream of her often and write her letters. It gives me a chance to say things I want to say to her. You're not crazy at all, just still in love.
  • This is just a fantasy and better move on. This is bullshit and you should stop this as soon as possible and find for another relationship. I dont find any reason why you should waste your life in dreaming like a teenager rather than moving on and having those enjoyment in actual.
  • No not crazy,they say people dream of things they wish for.

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