something needs to tightened up in there skrewed up head of theirs.

Regain the relationship, Regain control, and/or Get revenge in some way Some people bolster their self-esteem by dominating, intimidating, possessing, or manipulating partners. Controlling or affecting a partner gives them some feelings of power or uniqueness in a world where they generally feel powerless or unimportant. This kind of person, after becoming an "ex", sometimes becomes a stalker to try to continue fulfilling these inappropriate psychological needs. In cases of revenge stalking, the stalker believes they were "wronged" in some way and they cannot "grow up" and move on with their lives.

Stalking can have a number of causes. Relationship-based: an unwillingness to grieve the loss. Personality disorders: the ex who cannot tolerate the pain (of rejection/sense of lost ownership) denies the autonomy of the victim. Poor reality testing: the stalker (insane fan, obsessed would-be lover) is under the delusion that they have some connection to the other person, and they are unable to accept information to the contrary. Sociopathic predation: the rarest form of stalker, despite TV, hunts others to gratify a need.

iteresting what caues people to stalk. Stalkers are predators. In the wild the predators hunt. What the differece between people who stalk and people that don't is that stalkers have the ability of utilizing their primordial insticts to use them to their atvantage, they wait they stalk they hunt and not take a half hearted chance until the right moment. these people are not rash and they are not stupid, thats what makes them dangerous.

I recently had to seek therapy(court mandated) for being drunk in public. This therapy is hard right now because it is making me reopen chapters from my life that I thought were closed. The purpose is to see why I was drinking so much in the first place. When I was growing in Detroit, things were a little rough because I was a skinny, pimply faced, effeminate gay boy. But I tried really hard to have friends. It never worked and I was always vulnerable because of my small size and basically the brunt of everybody's jokes. And, I have had some very cruel jokes played on me. Fast Forward 20 years later. I live in Los Angeles and I do not drink anymore but, I still have resentments. I have looked up some of my former classmates on people where I did find their current address and phone number. I promise, this is as far as I have gone. However, I fantasize about calling them up at 3:00A.M. from a payphone of course and saying all kinds of sick scary shit. I figure if I did it and then got caught I could simply tell the judge, "I was just having some fun." I would maybe suggest to the court that whomever I stalked needs to just grow up, be the bigger better person and move on and pay no attention to me. I know right from wrong and I am aware that this is anti social but it is by means any nastier than what they put me through. Let someone else pick up the pieces and move on for once. This way, I finally get to be in control. I finally get to be the bully instead of the victim. For once I could make someone(and the rest of their family too) scared. I know this is mean, alas they will just have to "Grow up and Move on." You do not need to have respect and consideration for some idiot that never respected you. It does not work that way