ANSWERS: 28
  • Honey, the Internet is full of perverts, pedophiles and weirdos. Anyone that would offer you a plane ticket to visit could be setting you up so that they make you their personal sex slave. If this guy is on the level, he will not push you to come and see him. http://www.dangersofinternetdating.com/articles/playingitsafe.htm
  • take a parent with you.
  • uh, first I would suggest you look into all the horror stories of girls who have disappeared or who have been raped because of exactly what you are thinkin of doing. I would suggest that if he wants to see you that badly, have HIM come to YOU. And have him come to the house so your parents can meet him. I haven't seen the statistic for a long time, but if he says he's 18, he's probably actually like 32. If he says he's 180 pounds, he's probably actually 260. If he says he makes 50k a year, he probably actually works at McDonald's. Be careful.
  • You want unbiased, bad advice? here it is :) don't tell your parents about it. Tell them it's for a field trip (relate it to your choice of career) and print a fake letter with a watermark and everything, telling you where you have to be. Tell them the organizer is sending you a free ticket. But just in case this guy turns out to be a nutcase, tell one of your friends what's really up. And make sure she keeps her mouth zipped about it, unless of course you don't come back on the decided date. Also, make sure this ticket is a RETURN ticket. Where ever you are headed, your friend should know the destination and your parents should too know about a major city nearby (assuming it's a small town). If you can think of any other problems with this plan, let me know :P
  • You DON'T. That's just about the most dangerous thing you can do with the Internet. Even if you lived alone or with a friend, you wouldn't do something like that alone. ALWAYS bring backup. And verify their ID. There are rules for meeting people. Find a copy. Read it. And give this guy a wide berth.
  • I totally agree with the first answer, don't you dare consider it. He only wants you to be his sex slave as the first person wrote. Don't ever fall for someone who woul pay for all expense for you to come and see them. You would only be setting yourself up for danger and hell. Loose contact with this person immediatley!!! No joke, for real, and i hope for your sake that you didn't give out any personal info to track you down. Please be very cautious and use common sense. Please don't take him up on his offer. You will seriously regret you did. Please watch yourself, and don't ever talk to people like that. I hope and pray that you haven't given him your information. Take care and pleeeeease keep away from that danger, you don't want to get mixed up into that stuff.
  • A decent, honest guy would show up at your parents house with flowers or a cute gift for you and would have a nice "man to man" conversation with your father showing respect and admiration for all of you. What you are describing is someone who is "fishing" for his prey. Sounds bad enough, stay away from him.
  • Ask yourself just why a stranger is willing to buy a plane ticket for another stranger. And a minor at that. What he's proposing is illegal in the U.S.! He needs your parents' permission, not yours. He's supposed to arrange this sort of thing through your parents, not you. But he hasn't done that for the obvious reason. Look at the responses you've gotten already. This is the worst idea you can consider. Stay away from him!
  • Sorry the answer that i agreed with was sheriff-raff answerhag
  • I would be totally honest with them. Tell them you decided to go and that you aren't asking because you know the answer is “no”. Then leave and stay in a hotel for a couple days. That way you can find out what they will do to stop you so you can make sure the real run is successful.
  • Uhhhh no. First of all what is his name do you even know it? What does he do for a living? Does he have a criminal record? Why does he want you to come and meet him? Why doesn't he come to you? Don't give off personal information, really bad he could track you down and kidnap you. Mention it to the authorities, your parents, the police, etc. Maybe they can track this guy down and figure out if he be a rapist or a priest. What you are doing is walking into a trap. This guy maybe nice but there is a strong chance he may be some kind of pedophile. Have you ever watched Dateline? Google it there are tons of stories of sex predators who lure children to their house or have children allow the predator to their house. Not very wise. Don't make a mistake on this. From the lack of personal information from this guy he is trouble.
  • Honestly, it's not 100% thing that he is a pervert. Dateline, and the media in general has scared a lot of people. Being I met several people online, and had some pretty nice dates. The terms should depend however. How long have you known him? The only way you should actually risk going far enough where you have to take a plane to visit, you should have known him for atleast a few years, seen him on webcam, and chatted with him on life in general to know more about him then he knows about himself. I chatted with a girl for 5 years, before we finally met a few months back, and it was really great. But if you just met him online, then going to meet him would be a huge mistake. Having him come to you would be a lot safer, and easier to slip away from your parents. You'd just have to tell them you were hanging out with a friend, and techically be telling the truth. Then just take basic precautions. Meet in a public place, and take a friend along with you.
  • tell your folks your staying over at a friends for the weekend, and have that friend cover for you. then you have a free pass weekend. everyone here is the overly protecting, better safe than sorry, but they were all kids once too, and snuck out more than once. not everyone in this world is bad.
  • Naa. If the dude's for real tell him to make the trip yo...
  • Don't do it, don't even ask your parents. Don't talk to this person online again. If you have to ask your parents, then you are a child. Men just love to lure children this way. DO NOT GO. Have you never heard of terrible things hat have happened to girls that followed some jerk to his den, don't.
  • I wouldn't do it. I'm sorry - I know I probably sound like everyone else in here, but I've been assaulted too. So I don't trust this whole scenario one bit of a second. Especially if you are under 18. Not that it would be any safer if you were older, but I wouldn't do it. It's not safe, and I would imagine you don't really know the area well to which you'd be flying. If you insist upon doing it, I would insist on an itinerary from this person for your family. But please, I highly recommend you don't, and it has nothing to do with Dateline - it just has to do with meeting up with someone you think you know but you don't, and in an area he knows that you don't. It just doesn't sound like a good situation to be in...
  • If you have to ask your parents, don't even think about it. You're too young. If he really wants to meet you, he'll go to your house and meet you and your parents. Plus, it sounds like you met him semi-recently from the way you typed this up. It doesn't sound serious if your parents don't know this person from you talking about your life. Why waste 600$+ of someone's money who could potentially kidnap you and keep you there?
  • The question is how can I talk you out of it? This isn't like sneaking out to meet a boy from school. Stay home, where you have the opportunity to get input from your friends, regarding who's a good guy or not so cool. A thing like you're considering, is a total shot in the dark, and an unreasonable risk, as apposed to getting to know someone from within your community. Please .. stay home.
  • advice... if your parents still have say, you are not ready to meet someone who can afford a plane ticket. but that is just my opinion. . I do not know enough information to tell you how to convince your parrents to let you go. . make sure you know what the expectations are, what does he expect from this meeting? what do you expect from this meeting? I am good at seeing through charisma and would be willing to look at your communications if you want more specific help, my email is in my profile. . TAKE PRECAUTIONS: have 2 cellphones, one which is preferably yours because it is always good to have... and a second hidden where you will not be separated from it. a bad guy would stop looking after finding the first. fully charged turned off. it does not even need service because cell companies can not refuse a 911 call. . carry a locking pocket knife, spend a few hours learning to wield it in an attack manner blade extending from side opposite the thumb. good lash targets: eye ridge, throat, underarm near pit, inner thigh near groin. good stab targets: chest (front/back), inner thigh. stabs include immediate pull out, do not try leaving the blade in like in movies, pulling out may not be as dramatic, but it is more effective. . make sure someone knows all the details, even if you mail a letter to yourself the day you leave so they can open it if you do not return as expected. if your parrents didn't figure it out the police would . if when you first meet him he lied about the smallest detail (grey hair, moustache, etc.) ABORT. run. any deception will indicate danger.
  • Beware my FRIEND for this can be a trap. Don't fall for it. If he has the money for the ticket. Then tell him to fly there and meet you with your parents.
  • parents??? How old are you?? Probably not a good Idea hun!!! He could be alot older than you and trying to scam you or something...
  • Never a good idea to met anyone you talk to online. You have no clue who they really are.
  • If you have to talk your parents into it then you shouldn't do it. Not safe at all.
  • You dont.
  • Don't do it. One minute you're getting on the plane... the next, you're waking up in a bathtub full of ice with a kidney missing!!! - But really, lots of teens decide to meet people they have met over the internet, and a lot of them end up assaulted, or dead. Don't do it.
  • If you are still living at home, I believe you are probably not legal age. I would not take the chance of flying to someone you do not know. I see red flags all over the place on this one. Since this is an old question, you have either met or not met him by now. I do hope you were cautious and know that the others were doing their best to help you.
  • i wouldnt go, it might not be a safe thing to do
  • Have him meet you at your local police station. Your parents probably wouldn't have a problem with that. You could all meet there together.

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