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  • You categorized this in "pornography. Is he viewing porn? That may contribute to the problem. If he's not - then it could very well be stress - and temporary. You say you're close - so I assume you've discussed it. Give him time to de-stress - and continue to lovingly let him know you would like to share some intimacy with him. If its porn - its another issue.
  • sorry ...here is the rest of the question.... I trust him with everything. A few weeks ago I was on his comp. and looked at his history b/c I couldn't find a site I had previously been on and...there are many! porn sites there from every single day M-F that he works from home. I don't think he does it all day but I'd say an hour a day anyway. I have cried to him about feeling like he doesn't want me and even asked if he thought the porn was an issue but he gets angry and denies it. I asked him again last night and he was furious that I 'accused' him of watching it all day. How can a person be so angry at being 'accused' of something they are actually doing? Anyway - he said he HAD changed since our last conversation and was not watching it every day. I was oging to tell him I knew but...he got so angry and lied right off the bat. I just didn't. I have never had low self esteem befor ebut it sure seems like he prefers thes other women over me. It hurts. Especially since we are basically newlyweds. I am adventurous in the bedroom and have never turned him down so?? I've only been married a year and my husband does not seem as interested in sex as I am (at least not with me). I have never had this issue before. I am in good shape and attractive (I think :-) but he says it is stress, etc. etc. We are very close - pretty much best friends and I trust him with everything. A few weeks ago I was on his comp. and looked at his history b/c I couldn't find a site I had previously been on and...there are many! porn sites there from every single day M-F that he works from home. I don't think he does it all day but I'd say an hour a day anyway. I have cried to him about feeling like he doesn't want me and even asked if he thought the porn was an issue but he gets angry and denies it. I asked him again last night and he was furious that I 'accused' him of watching it all day. How can a person be so angry at being 'accused' of something they are actually doing? Anyway - he said he HAD changed since our last conversation and was not watching it every day. I was oging to tell him I knew but...he got so angry and lied right off the bat. I just didn't. I have never had low self esteem befor ebut it sure seems like he prefers thes other women over me. It hurts. Especially since we are basically newlyweds. I am adventurous in the bedroom and have never turned him down so??
  • If you want to get his attention, get your freak on. Show him that you are as interesting as those boobs who star in porn.
  • This sounds like addictive behavior.He is choosing it over all else including your feelings.He's not going to stop unless he wants to.Tell him how you feel about it & ask that he not look at it anymore.If he can't or won't you'll have to decide if you're ok w/ this.It is nothing to do w/you or your level of attraction.I wish you well & pray it works out to your favor.
  • It sounds like he is definetely addicted. my husband is addicted too and so i totally know about feeling like you've failed as a wife. your real problem is his inability to talk to you about it and admit there IS a problem. just let him know how much it hurts and why, some men just don't understand why women take it so personally, but it's hard not to when it gets as bad as this. hopefully he'll realize how destructive his behavoir is to the relationship to the woman he loves and want to fix it.

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