well to start, the guys married, get over it. There shouldnt have been anything between you two in the first place. You just like the thrill of being with a married man, ooo his wife might find out, gets the adrenaline pumping and everything else. ppl like you seriously make me sick. would you want someone else to be with your husband if you were married? you do know that this guy had it made sleeping with 2 different ppl. Keeping you on the side when he gets tired on his wife he can run to you and get the pleasure and whatever else he didnt get from her... wow really sounds like a guy every girl is dying to fall in love with... get over it, get over yourself move on theres plenty of other guys out there that will treat you right and not toy with your emotions.

Sorry, but I can't muster much sympathy for someone who would "carry on" with another woman's husband. After all, how would you feel in her place? Move on and leave the married men alone.

Work it out w/ you ex if possible. The married man is a dead end street that you should be glad it ended. Your feeling s are lying to you because you were more in love w/ a feeling not him per say. Love is being w/ the right person--sometimes we have to work on it. If your ex wants to talk give him a chance. At least he is not married and you know him better. You feelings will change as long as you move on. Dont dwell on worthless things.

Why would you be so attached to a creep who would cheat on his wife? And yeah sorry, not too much sympathy for a woman who would knowingly be with a married man to begin with. :-( You know the answer to this, do the right thing.

Getting over someone you fell deeply in love with is a very hard thing to do especially when it comes to a sudden stop. Whether it was right or wrong, that isn't your question, the question is how to get over the strong feelings. If the pain is very strong and you can't seem to shake it after a certain amount of time then you may need to go talk to a professional. The relationship and this man most likely fulfilled some needs that you may not be aware of, that you may have not realized you were lacking in, emotionally or other wise. A professional will help you see what is really behind the obsession.

Let me say this. I was in your shoes and it was for almost 5 years. I grew very tired of the lonely holidays, dissapearing acts and being told that I was the one he needed...I was a part of him, yet if something came up with the family, it was always me who suffered on the back burner. He'd always come back as loving as ever to make me forget what happened. He would completely ignore my texts about not feeling the relationship as if I never said it. I would continuously fall for it. He made me happy, but eventually began to make me more sad than happy. I lost years of my life and wasted a lot of time on this loser. I was painted a picture in the beginning that he wasn't happy at home, only married due to his then girlfriend getting pregnant, but he was thinking of leaving. I was attracted to him from the beginning, but never pursued him until he painted this picture. I was naive and fell for it like an idiot. I was never strong enough on my own to break it off as bas as I wanted to. I would cry every time I thought about how horrible I was for getting involved with him. I was ashamed, embarrased and knew that I was so much more than what I was bargaining for. He would always come up with something or make me feel guilty to make me stay. The sad part was he and I were best friends, so I always felt like treating him bad or leaving him would hurt him and I didn't want to hurt him. I thought of him more than myself and didn't want to see him cry or be hurt. All along I was the one being hurt. Why? I knew what I was in store for when I got involved, so I needed to be prepared to suffer some consequences meaning spending holidays alone, etc...and that was his excuse, yet he never wanted to let me go. He didn't care if I was hurt, because it was all about him and his benefit. Do I still love him? Stupid enough, yes, but this is because I considered him a friend. It was more than just a relationship to me. It was a friendship. What it was to him? I still don't know. How did I get rid of him? Cleverly enough, I figured I wasn't strong enoguh to do it on my own and I would never dream of telling his wife as I didn't want to again, hurt him or ruin his family. I made up a story that my mom and dad were splitting up adn that my mom was coming to live with me. I told him that my mom knew that he and I were secretly dating and she said that he did not love me and wanted me to stay away from him and never talk to him again. I also told him my mom said if she thought he was still bothering me, she was going to tell his wife. I told him that I did not want him to jeopardize his life and family, so please don't call me anymore. I never heard from him again. The plan was genius. I didn't look like the bad guy, say anything mean or feel guilty afterwards, except about lying. That's the difference between a good lie and a bad lie. I lied to him, to save myself which was well worth it and you see how easy it was for him to be gone? How come I couldn't do that a long time ago?

You may never get over your feelings. He's still the wrong guy. While you're not getting over it, get on with your life.

Hes a married man, YOU HAVTA GET OVER HIM. Just realize what a dick he was anyways... HE WAS CHEATING ON HIS WIFE. ...why would you want that man? - cuz you think he might love you better...DOUBT IT. He was a POC - find a new man, one with some integrity. Its possible. Theres plenty out there. But remember an X was an X for reasons.

Oh, well...it's not as if you can blame someone else for that one

You are a dirty homewrecker. WHORE!!

If You had an actual, physical relationship with a married man behind another womans back? You deserved everything you got. You deserve to feel bad you deserved to get hurt and you deserve to have someone else do it to you someday when you least expect it!

Many relationships are hard to let go of...but the real question is how to honor yourself. If you can learn to accept yourself, as you are, warts and all, without judgment, then you will find you can accept the universe and whatever it presents to you. And, if you can accept yourself, you will be honoring yourself and will accept as friends (and relationships) only those who also honor themselves.

you want us to make you feel better for your bad choices? you made the choice to get your heart involved with the married man, you can make the choice to cut the heart strings. as far as the ex goes...he's and ex for a reason...

You have no business getting involved with a married man in the first place! What goes around comes around, no good karma for you in love so just get used to this kind of stuff.

+5 for you're honesty and it must be hard for all the people who downrate you and judge you to be so perfect.

How could you even live with yourself- having been with a married man? What you did is not only wrong, but you also set yourself up for your heartbreak. It's called KARMA!!! Seriously, people like you sicken me.

Dating a married man is like eating somebody's leftovers. Food tastes the same, but leaves you with a bad feeling.

It is easy for people to judge. What happens when you were with someone you love and later find out they are engaged and about to marry someone else. This does not make the person horrible because they still love the man.

You picked the wrong guy and now you have to deal. The ex is not the answer, you don't love him. You need to be with you. Stay single and get your priorities right. The married man did you a favor. This whole thing is dysfunctional and wrong.

if you and the married man is over then you should move on. i know he has. plus want were you doing with a married man anyway? if you have someone that is willing to be with you then forget about the married man. im sure you will get over him just have fun. if your not ready for a relationship then tell your ex that he should understand but that doesnt mean ignore the guy you will soon lrean that you have forgotten adout married man

No doubt you are going to get a lot of judgmental lecturing from the holier-than-thous. Look, if it's over with the married guy it's over. If the old ex doesn't fit the bill, get a new guy. I've had women up and leave me so I know it's not easy but come on! You had an affair with a married guy! A LOT of women would love to be able to say that (even though they would deny it now) and so you MUST have something some other guy would like.

If the man is married and hes having an affair with u, then u both need to get your priorities straight. If u knew this man was married and u still had an affair with him then u seriously dont respect marriage one bit. He obviously doesnt but thats not the point. Move on. Dont get with ur ex, or the married man. Fix yourself and move on.