Way back in the day, alt.sex.bondage was full of people who would answer questions, make suggestions and generally formed an open community of kinky folk. Since the spammers took over, this is no longer the case. However, archives and articles from asb are available other places: www.wired.com/wired/archive/2.06/alt.sex.bondage.html (Wired article from 94 about asb) www.flashback.se/archive/asbfaq_i.html (asb FAQ, no longer maintained but still useful) soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm also has some information: www.unrealities.com/adult/ssbb/resource.htm Munches are organised lunches or other party opportunities to meet - but not necessarily play with - other kinky folk. www.soulshaven.f2s.com/gen_meetingapartner.php3 has a nice description of where to meet people and how.

Beleive it or not, you will also find many people interested in kinky forms of sex, be it bondage or any other type, on regular dating services. Here is a list of dating and friend-finder services that tend to have alot of people with diverse sexual interests: www.lavalife.com -- primarily a mainstream dating service, but they have an 'intimate encounters' are where people who are looking for sexual encounters or with diverse sexual interests post profiles. www.imatchup.com -- another dating service that is supposed to be mainstream, but it seems to be a haven for people who are obsessed with sex, or are into fetishes and kinky sexual encounters. www.AmericanSingles.com -- another mainstream dating site that has loose rules...many people on there will openly post their desires for kinky sexual encounters.

Just an addendum to the previously posted answers... There are other usenet newsgroups besides alt.bondage where such topics are freely discussed, such as: alt.torture alt.sadistic alt.lifestyle.master-slave soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm.femdom alt.sex.stories.d

Go to www.adultfriendfinder.com The sickest weirdos on the planet are there! response to toegazer: that doesn't make this answer wrong, and no one was asking for opinions on the quality of the site. Learn how to properly use answerbag or don't participate! Thanks!

I basically answered your first question in another answer on this page: If you have no connections with people into kink, good places to start are with kink-oriented Usenet newsgroups such as: - alt.lifestyle.master-slave - alt.sadistic - alt.torture - soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm And what will other kinky people do? There are so many different fetishes that it would fill up Answerbag to go into detail about every one. Nonetheless, go to the Toilet Slave questions in this Fetish secion to get an idea of how extreme fetishes can be. Be prepared to be squicked when you read the answers, tho...

Being “kinky” can encompass a wide range of things. What one accepts as kinky another accepts as commonplace. With that in mind, using the accepted standard of what is “kinky” usually refers to fetishes realted to BDSM and/or D/s (Dominant/submissive, or slave) type activities. There are a wide range of organizations and websites available to provide information and different views on these subjects. http://www.sexuality.org and http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/index.html are just two amongst many. Most experienced in these lifestyles or activities will tell you that a good way to introduce yourself to these lifestyles and the people within them is to attend a munch or other similar type gathering. This is an informal meet for coffee type of a meeting that allows a number of people (usually ranging from about 6 -20) to meet each other in a neutral environment such as a coffee shop or restaurant. They should provide a rather neutral, non-threatening environment to meet others and discuss lifestyle and non-lifestyle issues, allowing for you to meet others and begin to feel comfortable with these individuals (both of the websites listed above can provide you with additional information on what a munch is and how they are conducted as well as provide you with a listing of groups and organizations across the globe that host and sponsor these and other types of get togethers or play parties). A word of caution, while there are many opportunities to meet these types of people in online chat rooms and meeting places, be wary until you get to know someone. It is very easy to verbally profess your knowledge and experience in something that you actually have little or no knowledge of. Of all the individuals you’ll run across online claiming to have vast and varying levels of experience in either the BDSM or D/s lifestyle, in actuality will have far less experience in the lifestyle than you will, however, that is just one more type of kink, cyber-sex. Never ever commit yourself for any type of real life “kinky” games or relationship with someone that is not well known to you, and known by more than just a screen name.

go to church, you find the kinkiest people there trying to look normal.

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There are dating sites www.bondage.com www.collarme.com alt.com that are good. There are also "bdsm Munches" and clubs. www.soj.org has a good set of links to appropriate resources.

well you should go find a gothic community they like it rough

adultspace is a good place to check out! Its kinda like my space, but for "big kids".