ANSWERS: 31
  • DUMP HIS ASS....If he is not doing that he is not truly into you
  • If you can't accept him for who he is, what makes you think he's going to change? You cannot change people, and you do not seem to be happy with him. Therefore, it may be a wise idea to end your relationship with him.
  • No one deserves to be looked down upon and be abused verbally, emotionally, and/or physically, especially by someone who claims to love them. Please, take the advice of someone who was in a similar situation, and do whatever is necessary to get out of that relationship and leave. You owe it to yourself to do what needs to be done.
  • I'm sorry but are you expecting to hear people tell you to leave him? Because that's what you'll get, girls telling you that you can do better however staying in a relationship isn't really listening to your better knowledge. You know better don't you?
  • Exchange this lout for someone who fulfills your relationship needs.
  • Leave. Get out of that relationship. Three years with someone who dishes out emotional and verbal abuse is long enough. So he deserves a different girl? Good. You know, when all is said and done, I bet he will indeed, get the girl he deserves.
  • You already know the answer otherwise you wouldn't have put it in writing, in my view it's time to re-think your relationship and decide what YOU want.
  • WHAT makes you stay with him? WHY would you stay with someone like that?
  • Leave as soon as you can safely do so and apply to have a restraining order put on him, in order to protect yourself from any attempt by him to contact you. It's common for abusers to seek out their last victim when they're unable to locate a new one. ~ Please remember his abuse of you is not a result of anything you said or did or didn't do or be. It is because he has absolutely no respect or regard for your emotional or physical well being and he believes he has every right to treat you as he does, because you have previously accepted him doing so. Do not make the mistake of ever accepting it again (((hugs)))
  • im sorry but i think you are the one who deserves better.. he shouldnt be saying those things to you because he should feel that you 2 are equal, he should say that your beautifull, and he should care about who you are.. not what you have or dont have. you should try to find someone better for you.. and the next time he says "i deserve a better girl" say fine! go find another girl! im not going to be treated like this anymore after all ive done for you!!
  • You need therapy to work on your self-esteem, honestly, I mean, only people who don't love themselves would put up with a bastard like that! DUMP HIS ASS and get HELP! So you don't fall into the same patern again with someone else, since people with low self-esteems tend to date the same type of abuser over and over again.
  • Leave the dickhead
  • You mean you're still there?? By all means, give him his freedom to get exactly what he deserves. I suspect that, with his attitude, it won't be quite what he has in mind or is hoping for though.
  • What you are is a masochist. Fortunately, masochism can be cured by finding that you can get more pleasure, real pleasure, out of a normal relationship with a nice man--and not hanging around with the kind of idiot who would have an ugly psychopath for a girlfriend. (Tell him you're doing him a favor.)
  • Your boyfriend is abusing you. It is called "emotional" or "verbal" abuse. If you stay in this relationship, he will eventually graduate to sexual or physical abuse. Think about it. He's your boyfriend, right? A boyfriend is someone who is supposed to love you. Love looks like this: Your boyfriend wants what it best for you. He is encouraging. He admires your strengths. Although sometimes you disagree, he listens to your point of view, and apologizes when he upsets you. Your boyfriend would never want anyone to hurt you. Is your boyfriend treating you with love? No. He is doing the opposite. He's purposely hurting you. You must end this relationship immediately. I recommend you attend counseling. The domestic abuse shelters in your area also have group classes for women who have gone through what you are going through. They will teach you about the cycle of violence, they will help you to see what was really happening to you, and then you need to see a personal counselor. You need to find out why you would spend 3 years with someone who hurts you. There's nothing wrong with you--but sometime during your life, you were taught that you have no value. It's time to throw those old ideas out the window...and discover how wonderful you really are. Good luck...you can do it!
  • YOU SHOULD ONLY TAKE IT TO AN EXTEND AND WHEN IT GETS OUT OF HAND YOU SHOULD GIVE HIM THE SAME ABUSE HE GAVE TO YOU
  • Hit the road and NEVER look back...can not do any worse than that i would be thinking. No, great lost.
  • treat him the same way he treats you.
  • I m undergoing the same situation dunno wat to do?I could absolutely understand the situatio of lady love..its not so easy to come out of it
  • Leave him.
  • Get out of that relationship. Otherwise your gonna come to your senses years down the track and realize how many years you've lost.
  • YOU deserve a human as a boyfriend, not this.
  • dear get rid of him I posted a question almost like that and i have been taking it 19 years it is not going to stop and i am sure that you deserve better than that i know i quit taking it and left and feel like a new person and actually have more selfesteem in this little bit of time than i have had in 19 years hope i helped and hope it turns out well for you
  • Really? You've been letting him do this to you for 3 years? Get rid of him. YOU'RE the one who deserves someone better.
  • simple: get a new boyfriend.
  • i know you care about him, and it must be really hard to accept that and keep telling yourself "i know hes a good person, he does love me" but heres the more important thing.. you gotta love yourself enough to know you dont need that. Tell him he's lucky to even have someone care about him and he's screwin up everything
  • If I said WALK, could you? Would you want to? I am all to aware that partners who verbally and emotionally abuse are some of the cleverest people around. Subtle, they are all so very subtle. Obviously leaving him is the answer (in my head) but maybe you are not ready for that yet - How's your self esteem? If it's good then you are torturing yourself staying, but if you don't feel good about yourself I can understand why you stay BUT maybe getting stronger within yourself is the first step? I would seek some help, some self-centered councilling is a start to make you feel good about yourself - then you can concentrate on the 'factors' affecting your life.
  • Hey Ladylove, I have a question below, ((("_"))) Have you ever thought to tell him to take a good Hard look at himself in the mirror? That would be my suggestion. You need to seek counseling, more over, get treatment. Women or teen girl like you do not deserve abuse. This is a type of abuse that will trigger me whooping his ass all over the place where he could not look at me. You on the other hand ladylove, you do not deserve this. I will love a lady like she is my own. You are a sensitive female that needs nurturing, loving, and more of all attention. This is coming from a man like the cat.
  • Leave. Disrespect should be a deal-breaker, regardless of the gender.
  • Seems like a case of psychological projection. He's the psychopath that has got use out of you. Now is trying to ditch you without feeling bad himself. Let is friends know about this and of course his family and then ditch his ass by text.
  • Leave him. Anyone who doesn't appreciate you doesn't deserve you.

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