No, being a parent means being responsible.

Absolutely not. They should've thought long and hard before the adoption. I'm sure the child was troubled long before they took that final step. Not only for that reason, because it would only cause more psychological problems for the child. Troubled children are not a lost cause, and they deserve love and patience just like any other child.

NO Children are not returnable or disposable. Would you give away your child you gave birth to if they were troubled? That is a terrible thought.

No they made a commitment and should have asked for all of the history of the child

NO..........For if you are wise enough to be a parent, then you should be willing to handle all that comes along with it.

No, they should not be able to "return" the child. However, I do believe that there need to be programs available to help parents with severely troubled children, particularly adopted children. I have a friend that adopted a child from Easter Europe, and he has been a nightmare for her, up to and including endangering her as he has become a teenager. She is a very intelligent woman and she didn't adopt him on a whim, but he is really out of control sometimes. He has been in special schools and to psychiatrists and the whole gammut to no avail. I have heard of similar stories from others, so there really needs to be some sort of support program for the parents and the children.

No, because they they wouldn't work at doing what could be done. It's like when people have a pre-nuptial, or just live together. You don't have the motivation to see through the rough spots. You aren't as creative when you don't need to be. Necessity IS the mother on invention.

NO. Adoption is the same commitment as giving birth. Whether natural or adopted, you don't know who this little person is going to become or how they'll grow up. You don't know if they'll have special physical conditions or mental and behavioral disorders. You shouldn't be able to abandon adopted children any more than you would abandon a natural child. Parenthood is a choice made with the heart and allows for unforseen circumstances.

No! Can parents rutun their troubled biological children?

Nope.

I don't think so. Adoption is not like buying a toy and being able to return it if it doesn't suit your tastes. It's a commitment. You shouldn't be able to return an adopted child anymore than you should be able to shoot a biological one if it was "troubled"

What- Like an itchy sweater that doesnt fit or you dont like the pattern? Even sweaters have feelings. IN short- no. SUck it up and do the job you signed up for.

No. Children are NOT toys. If you were dealing with a toy that you decided you didn't like , then of course you should be able to return it. However, if you are dealing with a CHILD, a child has real emotions, real feelings, and etc. What did you expect to get? A present without problems? Anyway.... no. :]

That is a huge problem. I use to work with child abuse and neglect, which included adoptions disruptions. Some kids, biological and adoptive, can be very difficult to rise. Parents give up and some give up quickly others go miles with the kid then give up. When the parents come to the end of their ability to deal/live with the child they will "kick" the kid out or hurt him/her. It is wrong whether it happens in a biological family or an adoptive family. The harm seems to be deeper for adoptive kids; they were given up once already.

yes. I considered adoption for ten years before making this decision. I saw the child at church every week for months. I never knew what she was really like. Since adopting her, we have had nothing but trouble and pain both physically and mentally from this child. If the child is endangering the lives of younger children, then I think it should be a way for that child to be sent to a children's home or institution. I never thought I would say yes in a million years. I have "sucked it up" for seven years and it has torn my family apart. I now just pray for the day she is old enough to move out and give my family peace.

Nope. You made a choice to take that kid as your own. Can parents return thier kids if they are troubled. An adopted kid is no less then a biological kid. How do you think it may change a kids life to know you wanted him/her as your own and then just poof give the kid up again. Kids go through more then you think. And if you do adopt a kid and they are troubled I think you should pay more attention to the kid. Dont just give up on them. Why do you think we have so many troubled kids out there. Do you like to be given up on?

If it is something that they cannot deal with, they might be doing them a favor to let them go to a hopefully, more suitable family

Children are not something you go to Walmart and buy. there is no return policy. Adopting a child is like getting married it is for better or worse. So when you adopting that child you became their legal parent and as parent it is your duty to raise well functioning member of society. So if you feel like you had a phase and you wanted kids but your over it now and don't want them anymore. All I can say is too damn bad.

I think YES!!! If you haven't been in the situation yourself and don't know what problems it's caused the family, you can't judge! If you adopted from social services they DON'T always reveal what's the childs issues are or the parents background...that's why they are trying to adopt the children out when they are young..because in the beginning, when there little they seem "alright" but as they get older...the problems start to occur....just think...if social services revealed all the quirks about the parents and the child, would there still be people willing to adopt?

I'm surprised everyone is saying no. This discourages anyone from adopting in the first place. I would never adopt a possibly terrible kid if they wouldn't let me return him.

Wow, what a tough question. We have adopted child but thank God she turned out a wonderful girl. If you are talking about yourself regarding the adopted child pls make sure to talk to the child psychologist before you take any actions at all. Often time a child does not get enough love in the family and turns out not the way he was expected. Our girl was really timid and inobedient, and very stubborn. Thanks to much love, patience and encouragement she is an angel today, a few years later. Adopted children require a lot of love, affection, attention and patience. I would like to ask some adoptive parents: DO YOU GIVE ENOUGH OF THOSE???

They can, but it would be vicious. Personally, I would never do that. If the child was troubled, it would be better to help, would it not?

They should if they find themselves loosing patience, but then they should evaluate whether or not they need to be adopting if that's the case. Taketh and giveth back can only make the child more troubled than began with.

I say yes, but I think it should only be under extreme cases and would also depend on how long the family has had the child. And how old the child was when they got them. Since I was a foster parent and am an adoptive parent I know how some kids can be very troubled. And I know pretty much how the system works. You could end up adopting a child you have never even met. I think in those cases it would be ok for them to say wait a minute this kid is very messed up and more then we can handle. It is far better for a child to be returned to the system for DHS to try and find them a better family, then to try and force this family who is not prepared or able to meet the childs needs. This would only make things harder for the child. Our son that we adopted came into our hom when he was three, We had him for a couple of years then he left our house and went to live with his bio relatives (they wanted to adopt him). But he came back after a short while, becuase things went wrong so DHS had to remove him from their house. We ended up adopting him when he was 6. On his paper work it had a profile of him, Which included some things like he plays well with other kids, he does good at school, he is respectful to adults. DHS lied or mislead about that. Yes this child is respectful to my husband and I and a few other adults and he gets along ok with my two other kids who are 11 and 13, but I think that is only because my kids know how to get along with him, by knowing and understanding his needs. The truth to this boy is that he almost got expelled from the first grade because of his behavior toward the teacher and other students. He would pick fights and even hit his teacher. Because I have wroked very closely with the school here and becuase they know our family well and knew our sons situation, they did not kick him out of school instead we worked out a behavior/safety plan and when needed he would take a sick day or two (and not becuase he was sick). Even though he was three he remimbers alot of what took place while he was with his bio mom. I would never give him back, I got him at a young age and I fully know how he is and how he was before we adopted him. But my point is many people do not have this oppertunity to know a child before they adopt them and just because an agency says a child is this way doesnt make it so. It is very true that adopting an abused child is much harder then adopting a non abused child. Parents should be highly trained and prepared for such children. You never know what a child has been through and sometimes things wont come out until way later. I know of one case where the parents gave the adoptive child back. They adopted a 5 year old boy who had a meth mom. After they had the boy for just over a year he got an infected bug bite near his penis and had to go to the doctor and be treated for it, this brought out some issues with the child that no one knew about. He then started to molest the family dog and then went on to do things to kids at school. They already had him in therapy and they incresed his time and days. Nothing was working though. Eventually the bio mom confessed that one of her ex boyfriends might have molested him, but she didnt know for sure. The adoptive parents were doing everything they could to help with this child. And they loved him very much. But then they got pregnant with twins and had to start thinking about the safety of their unborn children. It was a hard choice for them. But it was the best choice. This boy needed to be an only child, so that his parents could fully devote to just him. For him to have younger siblings would only be harder for him to get better. So i say in most cases they should not be able to just return the child, but in some cases yes.