I would be concerned about the amount of calls generated to this new friend, and the times they were made. How do you know about these calls? Have you asked or secretly looked on his phone or he told you without you saying? If you are secretly looking, I would say there is a reason you are going that route, has he givin you a reason in the past not to trust him? All in all you need to ask him about this. what is the interest in this woman, and why late at night. after yiu get an answer, you will be better able to judge his andwer, because deep down, we really do know the answers, you know him better than us, 2 1/2 years is a long time. Sometimes we need to hear someone agree with our fears in order to act on them, and sometimes we can't see the answers right away because we are too close to the situation. this is when i ask for advice also.

Holy moly! I know it's stereotypical, but womens intuition is a very powerful tool. . .if you listen to it. If you checked up on him by scanning his cell phone bill, there was a reason for it. If he allowed it to be perused by you then he might just be flirting. Or he is trying reverse psychlogy thinking if he doesn't hide these calls then you will just think it's all innocent and not question him. Did he actually admit he gave her his #? He called her 26 times, that's at about once a day and it's a lot. Did you happen to notice how many times she called him? Either way it's doesn't look good. I'll give you two perspectives. First, I dated a guy who had all female friends and he called them frequently because he was very sociable. Did he cheat? Nope. Second, I was in a situation once where what honestly started as innocent phone calls turned into full fledged cheating. Perhaps your boyfriend is feeling bored or wants the attention and is trying to have his cake and eat it too (nice girlfriend who is known and reliable and girl to flirt with). It's not nice, but it is a possibility. Without bringing up the cell phone calls, this could make him defensive, try asking if he is happy with your relationship. If he's not, try to get him to open up and tell you what he feels needs to improve. Don't get angry (I stress that). Be calm when he answers and use the time to discuss what your expectations are of the relationship too. Neither of you should make accusations or cut each other down during this discussion. If that happens, pull back and take a time out and reapproach it when things calm down. I know it's hard, but if he is cheating it leads to nothing but heartache. Not to mention all the nasty things partners could potentially pass to each other. If your intuition tells you he's a cheat. . .walk away. You will be much happier later. Good luck.

The act of calling her is NOT cheating, but it is most likely leading up to cheating. You are right to be suspicious, though I'm not sure why you felt the need to look at his phone bill, unless you were already suspicious of him or if you share a joint cell phone account. You should look at the length of time they spend on the phone together...if its longer than the time the two of you spend talking together and stretches for several hours, and he seems like he's becoming less interested in you or is suddenly making alot of 'out of town trips', then I would definitely say this falls into the category of cheating. It is possible they are just friends, but I find it extremely unusual for a guy to call a girl he only just met so many times in the span of 3 weeks, unless he's planning on cheating or hooking up with her. If you feel like your relationship is looking bad, and this happened before, after, or during that period, I would suggest confronting him about it. It definitely seems unusual, and the situation definitely looks like it would spill over into cheating.

Yes. Cheating can be to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others. With regard to human relationships, couples may expect sexual fidelity of each other. If so then cheating commonly refers to forms of infidelity, particularly adultery. If these calls were made at your expense then for sure it is cheating. Ever wondered how he would feel if you did the same thing? Suddenly new rules would apply. This time phone calls. Next time maybe more.

26 times? he is not only trying to get with this girl, but damn hard at it. If he cares about you at all or even just has a typical busy life, he would have no interest in being on the phone with this chick that much, unless he is out to get it...note that she also picked up 26 times, thus she eagerly invites it or tells your stalker boyfriend to screw off and hangs up. I prefer that latter. unless you are a 15 year old girl, no one has the time or compulsion to call 26 times. Dump him..and your next two also.

Yes no matter what he says

First of all you betrayed his trust in you because you were snooping. Second since you were giving him his privacy that means there will be no trust in the relationship ever!!!! so even if you did ask him it would probably blow up in your face, and the relationship is over. Third if he cared at all for you he wouldn't have given the number out in the first place but how did she get the number is the question, maybe your reading to much into it on how she got it and he's totally innocent. Fouth it all depends on how your perception of cheating is what is he talking about to her, is it phone sex, or just does he need a good friend to talk to and if so he will introduce you to her, but since you already were snooping most likely you bring it up it will be over and he's probably end up dating her next

Any form of deception that takes place without your knowledge and approval is cheating. In other words, if your boyfriend is talking with another woman about relationship issues or issues that are only discussed between monogamous couples, then clearly this is cheating. However, if this person is simply a friend that your boyfriend talks to about everything topics that he would with any other friend, then clearly he's not cheating. Ultimately, the clear definition of cheating depends upon your own interpretation of it. If you view this as cheating, then yes, it's cheating; but if and only if, romantic talk or events are taking place.

Yes. the fact he calls after l am, should tell you something. cheating is cheating, whether over the phone or out of town. just think if you two married. if he does this now, he will continue into your marriage. look for someone else and dump mr. cellphone.

It it isn't, it will be.

YES ....what can one possibly be doing besides phone sex on the phone at 1 am?...with someone out of town...26 times....fact from experience..."the later it is the hornier you get"

only 26 calls? you got off easy. I found over 200 in 2 months...and that was just on the home bill, not the cell phone. I think its a form of cheating

hey my boyfriend bumped into an old friend frm wk she was so bubbly super happy to see him she practicly jumped him and hugged him a good 5 min go's on and she still doesn't aknowledge me even though we've seen eachother before and met then she askes for his number he finally go's u remember sara and she was like 'oh hey" so month go's by and we get a call at hm and it's her on speaker phone my boyfriend did not reconize the number so he answers and it's her she's like hey it vikki do u want to come out for a drink with me and my chick friend? and they talk and talk exchange emails and finally gets off the phone should I be a little worried I'm going away this weekend my father is ill I don't want to leave for fear of a possible meeting what do I do?

I say HELL YEAH.. he is cheating .. girl he is the one looking and calling her, so what does that tell you.. that he wants to get to know her more, and then after 1:00 am. he propably calling for a piece of booty!!! thats how i see it.. so u tell me.. is he cheating ??? how would he consider it, if you were calling this guy you juts met calling him at midnight more than 3 times...

*** Hey girl one advice. loose the L O O S E R ** you deserve better than that..

Give him a chance. You must have trusted him, to be with him. Dont jump to conclusions - You may regret it. ask him out straight. or let it go see if he stops calling her. Or take her number and get a male friend to call her and say hes one of your mans mates and wanted to meet her. see what she says any give aways then you know. I mean it could be completely inocent, all my friends are boys, so I guess maybe its weired for my boyfriend to see all these texts and calls on my phone. If it turns out hes cheating, then dont argue, just get rid of him.

Uh, yeah.

No, he could simply be talking to her. It's not that infrequent you know, this whole talking thing. You and I do it all the time, in fact most of the AB members on this thread are big talkers. You should look into it, but I would wonder why you even broke his privacy and looked at his cell bill, how would you feel if he did it to you?

Don't know if I'd call it "cheating", but it's definitely inappropriate if the two of you are in a committed relationship.

Yes, cheating is giving a part of yourself to someone else when your heart is supposed to be committed to someone else. Getting a relationship with someone of the opposite sex for any reason, even 'just friends' is being intimate with another person.